I try to go through life being positive, respectful, thoughtful, and thankful for each day; trying to make the most of every situation. This does not mean I hold back on my Midwest sarcasm or act like a smart-ass at times to amuse myself and others.
I truly believe the cliche that we all need to be a little uncomfortable to grow. This is in your professional life and personal life as well. The professional life seems to come easy for me where I take risks and put myself out there to learn and improve on my creativity and performance creating success in my career. However, in my personal life I have struggled by gravitating to the routine and mundane for too long. This behavior dulls your sensitivities and robs you of living the way you should.
This dullness of the sensitivities from being in a non desirable marriage for many years helped me seek out this lifestyle. At first I identified as a sub as I was looking for an escape of all the responsibilities and decision-making my regular life demanded of me. However, after exploring some of those relationships, I continue to evolve. I do not think I have a specific role now, but more just into kinks and fetishes I Like doing. The main thing when considering a play partner for me has to be a solid connection and some level of intellect to be able have meaningful conversations. This takes priority over all else.
This lifestyle has allowed me to meet some amazing people that are some of the best friends I have ever known. In addition they have been very inspirational in helping me grow and develop into the person I want to be.