Wow, cut and paste mail.. so sexy! NOT! 

Home from Ohio, but still processing the death of my best friend. I met her when I was 15 and expected to be gray haired ole pervs together. This is truly screwed up and it may be some time before I'm up for even lunch. 

My best friend has passed away unexpectedly. I know I've been talking about meeting a few folks, but that will have to wait for my return from Ohio. I'm going for her wake and staying to visit family till the second week of May. 

We're planning on attending the South Bay munch in Feb. Anyone else going? 

Seeking a new home for a home made spanking bench. LOCAL PICKUP ONLY, downtown Long Beach. First able to pick it up gets it. If it's not gone by this Saturday it'll end up abandoned outside the spanking bench pound. Made by the late Master Bill of Master Bill and bambi. 

For Dominants around LA - if you get a Black or Black/Indian sub around 35 to 40 years old, standing near six foot and weighing near 200 lbs with an 818 or 323 area code asking to meet you, you may want to check with me first. When I told this guy no, after he failed my approval process, he had a fit, turned nasty and is harassing me via several profiles here (He has three at least on CollarMe) and on another popular site that they'll not let me name here. Of course I'll not post the user names or the full phone number, but if the number he gave you matches the ones given me I will provide you with full transcripts from both sites as well as the letters from site representatives confirming the harassment and removal of several of his IDs. 

Just walked in the door after an incredibly long day! Drs and several meetings later all positions are filled. Thank you to all for the interest. 

HAPPY!! I just got a whole passel of new Kindle books. What can I say? Books or BDSM toys = the way to my heart. LoL

I'm pretty sure I've got my domestic picked out. There are some final hoops, but I know who I'm hoping to use. 

Dad got me this 20 DVD set of Hypnosis training. Should be interesting to see how it will work for BDSM :-D

 Miss is NOT short for mistress. It is NOT a polite way to refer to any woman. It's an archaic way of male labling of a female as prey or taken. I find it very insulting to be addressed as such. If I wanted to be dominated by men and their way of thinking, I'd be a sub. 

I'm a bit more down over my father's departure than I expected. I'm pushing things back another week. Get used to it. I believe this runs on my timetable. 

I may consider a pain sub domestic.. 

Mid month July is my father's departure time! I'll start meeting folks for interviews about a week after that. The first folks I'll meet are the ones who have kept in contact over this long period of time. 

If you are married, even though no sex is involved. she needs to be aware of what you are doing. It came to mind because I just saw a guy from Tx's journal. He's looking to cheat on his wife with a dominant woman, and thinks it's just fine. Personally, that sickens me. When you take an oath, live up to it. Honesty is vital in marriage and BDSM. 

My Dad will be here through at least June and perhaps into July. While I'm pleased he is getting much better medical care than he would at home, it puts a total crimp in my finding a domestic sub! Sigh Six weeks has stretched into six months. I'm starting to think the first chore my domestic is going to do is put up the Christmas lights! 

Some weeks are just fucked!

OK, I gave in. I'm on facebook. Same user ID as here, except there is a space between Beach and Mystress.
See ya there.

After being asked again, I'm MsBeach on Flickr, Yahoo's free photo sharing site. (You log in with your yahoo ID.) If you have trouble seeing my photos, it may be that you've not turned off Safe search.  Make sure your account is set to view "restricted" photos or you'll just see our "safe" ones. To get to that setting, go to the arrow next to You (top menu on Flickr) and click it; select the "Your Account" entry down near the bottom. Once at your account page, click the "Privacy & Permissions" header. Scroll all the way down to "Content filters" and edit "Search settings" YOU MUST SELECT "SafeSearch off" OR YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO SEE ANY OF THE PLAY PHOTOS. The default is to have safe search on, which stops any photos rated R, X or XXX from showing.

Thank you to all who have asked how to send me a Get Well Soon gift! Go to the Amazon website in their gift and wish-list area. Search for my name, Beach Mystress. You'll know me because the photo is the same as here. I added some very inexpensive items, knowing it is the thought, not the price, that counts.

The surgery went well. I can't spend a lot of time typing, as I'm not supposed to sit up for long. I'm walking short distances and my pain is manageable. I'm still feeling pretty weak, tired and "sorry for myself." Each of you who sent well wishes helped take away a bit of the sorry for myself. Thank you. That's true submission. Serving when and where needed.

I will write back to each of you individually when the Dr gives me the ok to be at my desk. Until then... *hugs*

Back surgery on Oct 25th. I will be "out of action" for four to six months. That sucks, but at least I'll be able to swing a flogger again!

We'll be at the South Bay Munch in Torrance tonight. Hope to see everyone there!

Please keep in mind that I have a primary sub and the position of domestic is fairly unimportant to me. I'll be checking mail every other week or so. If you're seeking to be an important part of someone's life rather than an afterthought, seek elsewhere.

I have to laugh at the so-called dom on here who claim to be "real" yet troll Dominant women from the other coast. I guess they just don't understand the definitions and who plays with whom yet. Sad.

Anyone else play Sims 3?

Wow, I just found out that if you mention particular web locations they block your mail! We're not talking about sex sites or pay sites. The two I'd mentioned were common sites, one starting with a Y and ending with an O (and no, I wasn't giving out email or msging info) and the other starting with an F and ending in an r. How screwed up can they get?? Weird!

I'm sorry I'm not writing back to anyone at this time, but I'm still dealing with my medical issues. If and when things are "normal" again, I'll be replying to anyone who wrote more than just HI or one sentence.  Until then you can be patient or move on. (If you're looking for more than being a distant second to my husband, move on. As my primary sub and life mate he comes first in any and all situations.) Good luck in finding what you seek.

READ BEFORE WRITING TO ME!
This is a recent reply to someone from the other side of the country asking to serve me. I think it is germane to any sub who writes asking to serve in any way other than no strings houswork. --

IF YOU HAD READ MY PROFILE, YOU WOULD KNOW I HAVE EVERYTHING I DESIRE IN A SLAVE ALREADY! I am married to my submissive husband in a 24/7 TPE relationship in which he does all the housework, cooking, laundry and chores as well as filling my BDSM play, sexual and personal needs. The only thing I'd want is someone to come in and do rudimentary cleaning once a week to free my husband's time up a bit. A maid service would work fine. But I prefer to not spend  money where not needed, so instead I offer males who wish to perform no strings housework for a woman the chance to clean for an hour and a half once a week. Now how exactly are you going to fill that need from the other side of the country? If you were for real, you'd have read my entire profile several times, realized that you were in no way what I needed and would have left me alone. Instead you wrote me a two sentence request to give you a try. You put your needs and wants above my own. You wanted someone.. anyone.. to let you live your desire for BDSM. AKA, you were trying to use me to fill your own fantasy. If you were looking to fill the woman's, you'd have realized you had nothing to offer me, just by reading my profile. You are NOT as real as you think and should spend some time deciding if you truly wish to serve or are just looking to get off. In either case I do not wish to hear from you again. I'm tired of "subs" who don't bother to actually learn the difference between service and using a woman to fill their fantasy.

Wow.. It's the later part of March already. Didn't I just have a birthday? Oh well, here goes another one!

To those of you who don't bother to send a letter, but rather cut and paste their profile into their email:

You are a corner-cutting, lazy, self-serving s.o.b. with delusions of subhood. Don't bother sending me your profile as mail as I actually expect a sub to expend effort. There are hundreds of subs out there dying for a chance with an actual Dominant. I had 212 email in my inbox within six hours of announcing a vacancy for a non-sexual position. You think your cut and paste would make it past a first cut? Only in your own fantasies. In the real world, you wank alone while I am served by a sub who deserves my time and effort. With how rare actual Dominant Women are, it is a buyers market. And either you step up and offer something of value (and no, that isn't your penis or body.. those are the least valuable part of submission) or you're going to rot in the bargain bin where you belong.

I just logged in for the first time in three weeks to a pissy letter from some guy because he changed his ID and never bothered to tell me- after his being gone for three months. I didn't respond quick enough and he sent several more attacks because I didn't respond to the first immediatly. Not only am I supposed to be a mind reader and deduce his new ID, but I'm supposed to be online by the sub's timetable after he's been gone for so long? That's a quick way to having me not read any more of your mail, but rather delete unread and block. The sad part is I had been waiting for this person to come back from overseas and one of the reasons I logged in today was to check. We're going to a BDSM New Years party at a friends and I wanted to break in the new subs before we go. With all the drama and lies I've met in the past two months, I'm burned out on this site. This guy was the last straw. You want to meet me? Write and ask what munches I attend and you can come see me there. And once there, YOU are the one who has to keep my attention. It is not my job to keep track of you. You present yourself and make me wish to spend time with you.. not the other way around.

Oh yeah, and if you're a drama queen, prone to emotional instability or passive agressive don't waste either of our time. I do not cater to subs.

It really amazes me what passes for "dominant" on this site. I know it is a self taken title these days, but.. it does boggle the mind. This is a recent exchange sent to my husband. I tell ya guys. I do feel bad for you when trying to decide if someone on the site is as they represent or just talks a great line on the profile. Of course I've removed the person's ID, as CM frowns on the use of such.

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 Mailed to my husbaand's beachstoyboy ID:

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If anyone is curious as to the identity of this person, feel free to ask me when you see me.

Dominants are not public utilities! Those of you who do not bother to respect a Dominant's stated wishes do not deserve the title of submissive, but that of user! Learn and understand the dynamics of BDSM before you claim to be a part of it!

• -Tuesday, 02-12-08, 7 PM, National Sports Bar & Grill -3210 Sepulveda Blvd Torrance
• -Thursday 02-28-08, 7 PM, Bob's Big Boy, 24021 S. Hawthorne Blvd.,Torrance

• -Tuesday, 03-11-08, 7 PM, National Sports Bar & Grill -3210 Sepulveda Blvd Torrance
• -Thursday 03-27-08, 7 PM, Bob's Big Boy, 24021 S. Hawthorne Blvd.,Torrance

• -Tuesday, 04-08-08, 7 PM, National Sports Bar & Grill -3210 Sepulveda Blvd Torrance
• -WEDNESDAY 04-30-08, 7 PM, Mimi's Cafe at 5343 Crenshaw Blvd., Torrance (new date, new venue)
  

• -Tuesday, 05-13-08, 7 PM, National Sports Bar & Grill -3210 Sepulveda Blvd Torrance
• -Wednesday 05-28-08, 7 PM, Mimi's Cafe at 5343 Crenshaw Blvd., Torrance

South Bay Munch -  Tuesday, 10/11/05, 7:00 PM,  National Sports Bar 3210 Sepulveda Blvd, Torrance. Feel free to ask me for details.

 Seeking a Domestic sub
 
 We are seeking a domestic sub. Such a position would be non sexual, with possible chastity. This sub would be responsible for cleaning, some cooking, occasional chauffeuring and running minor errands. The position is once a week to start, with more hours available as the sub proves his worth. If you would like to apply for this position, send a note including your experience, why you feel you'd make a good domestic sub and who you have served in the past. And a heads up.. I don't care how gorgeous or fit you are. I only care how well you obey and clean. Do not bother asking for more than is offered. I consider that offensive.

And yes, I know my husband has a big beautiful cock. Yes, I know you'd love to be forced bi with him. Monogamous goes both ways. My husband will NOT be with other men sexually any more than I will.

OC Munch -August 20th, Santa Ana. For more information, google "OCMunch"

 Club FEm at Venus Night (Lair) - Feb 18th!
READ the profile before contacting me! It clearly says I have a sub, am very happy with him, am in love and will be collaring him. Collaring is a deep commitment to me. This means I do NOT want you. Period. If you are local and want to discuss Club FEm or the local scene, I'd love to hear from you. Making friends is always great.

I do NOT play online. I am a real time Domme ONLY. No cyber, no hot chat, no letting you wank off to my voice.. NOTHING

You're welcome to write and introduce yourself, but I'm currently seeing someone, and until I see how things work with him, I won't be meeting anyone else.