This is about the BDSM lifestyle, the lifestyle that I love and adore, how I got started in it and why I love it so much.
I have noticed that there is 2 areas of the lifestyle.
The lifestyle people are the ones who couldn’t have it any other way. They love the BDSM world, they are not in it just for their own personal fantasies, they are the ones who do what they love just because they love it not because they saw it in a movie and thought it might be “fun to try”. There is also some misinformation that is out there about the people who are in the BDSM lifestyle, saying that we are all just a bunch of tattoo and piercing addicted, gothic, weirdos who have mommy or daddy issues and get off on hurting others and/or ourselves. That could not be further from the truth. The people who I have met in the lifestyle and I am proud to call my friends are some of the nicest people I have ever met (Yes, some of the people in the lifestyle are complete and total assholes but that is true no matter where you are). It isn’t about pain (well not all about pain lol), it isn’t about getting off on others whether it be emotional or physical, and it is not about getting off or getting another fantasy checked off the old to-do list. It is different for everyone, how we all got started in this, who we are today and why we love it. But for me this is how I got started, who I am today, why I am in the lifestyle and why I love this lifestyle and the people in it.
I remember when I was very young (8-9 years old), I was watching a magician with my family on TV. He was being put in a strait jacket and chains placed all around him with master locks holding them all in place and the dipped down into a tank of water where he escaped it all and ended up on the other side of the room. I remember watching that and a switch came on in my head and I remember watching this magician and I wanted to try on the jacket and chains. Then when I was in high school (15 years old) I had a girlfriend who introduced me to the lifestyle (Well we didn’t really know of the lifestyle back then), I was her slave and she was my Goddess. I loved every single second of it. I couldn’t get enough of it or her. When I was not with her I was thinking about being with and serving her. Then later on after we broke up, maybe about a year later I had a new girlfriend and by then I found out about the lifestyle and found all of the different kinks, but the woman I was with was in no way like that and did not want to be. I was miserable in the vanilla relationship, I loved having a woman there but I missed being someone’s slave. I craved that feeling, I love that feeling of serving a Mistress or a Goddess. That feeling of serving, that sense of belonging, the need to make her life easier and happier no matter what she asks or orders, worshipping & pleasing her. I am in the lifestyle because of that. Because I can’t have it and I don’t want it any other way. When I am serving I have a sense of serenity, peace, right, love & adornment that washes over me and nothing else matters except serving that one woman! In that moment when I am serving… everything else disappears and all that is left is the knowledge that I am in the right place and I am making my Mistress or Goddess happy!
That is why I love this lifestyle, not because of some fantasy I want to live out but because I cannot and will not have it any other way and I know this is the right place for me… it is where I belong.
Then there is the fantasy area. I am not saying that wanting a fantasy is wrong, I am far from saying that at all… heck I have TONS of fantasies that I would love to live out. But the fantasy area I am speaking of is the area full of people who do not care about living the lifestyle in anyway except living out there fantasies and hitting the road back to vanilla or wherever else they were before. And that’s fine, I have no hate nor am I putting those people down. But they seem to be ruining the name for others when they claim to be in the lifestyle or want to be in it. It makes others wearier to trust others because of someone who was not too specific about why they are here.
Thank you all for reading,