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And time goes by...

Another couple of years later and Im back with even more miles behind. Theres a continued commitment to learn, a smidge more cynicism, a bucketful of mentoring, some deep understanding of the more psychological kinks and a deeper sense of wry irony.

I have been lucky enough to some deep friendships within the apparently ever-dwindling kink community (the part that still believes in some good old-fashioned SSC practices, open communication about limits and generally being polite to each other outside of dynamics). Yet I have still to find that forever sub.

Ive removed my interests because I find that conversation brings greater understanding and fewer assumptions. However, I have definitely enjoyed the dynamics of DDlg, head of household, petplay and some protocol training.

Some things I have realised that I do not enjoy are single-kink connections, broken promises and renegotiating limits on the fly. Im now a confirmed traffic light guy.

As for you, you lucky devil, youll be open-minded, naturally submissive and willing to take any new relationship as a new beginning. Communication is everything and having someone who is brave enough to do it brings me more pride than is probably rational.

My style is somewhat nurturing and affectionate as well as being strict. I believe in rules that are mutually agreed through thorough conversation. They dont have to be listed exhaustively at the beginning, but it helps to have a framework.

I want to make you blossom, you elusive submissive muse.

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6/29/2023 8:23:01 AM

It is so easy to complain about the fakers and fantasists on here... but there are so many great, intense chats and experiences to be shared. I guess I am just sharing the joy of current connection. Life happens, but new connections also find their way through the noise. Stay positive {#emotions_dlg.sealed}


10/1/2017 7:35:47 AM
Ridiculous the fun you can have with photoshop... probably my favourite new waste-of-time pastime.

UpdateL
(Just been asked if I photoshop without permission. The answer to that is NO. There are plenty of public images out there to mess about with without resorting to that. If you've asked, you'll know. If I've offered and you've agreed, you'll know. If it's been discussed and there is disagreement, it doesn't happen. Simple)

#livingtoeducate

9/29/2017 11:32:02 PM
Great night - best service so far. Well done to all concerned.

9/25/2017 9:25:29 AM
Messages suddenly busy. Who says it can't happen to a Dom? 
Be patient and wait for a considered reply to each.

9/16/2017 12:49:51 AM
First experience of the chat breaking. Notification, then gone. Need to stick to the inbox if you want to talk.

1/2/2017 10:00:02 PM
This journal isn't for me. It's mainly for the others out there who have an idea of what they want and how they are, but are assaulted by negativity when they reach out and go for it. (and maybe it can count as a life-lesson for those topping-from-the-bottom types out there)
There are many "sayings" out there that are being treated as truisms. Since a truism leads to an almost inevitable debate about true and false, making things binary in the anything-else-you-want-to-call-it-but-definitely-anything-but-binary world of BDSM/kink/exploration, let's expound on a couple of them:

"If a Dom(me) has to use force, then (s)he is not a Dom(me)"
There are 3 main ways to use force, and I apologise if I'm teaching the toothless to apply suction to un-spunked futureless chickens, but they are: physical, mental and emotional.
Now here comes the bit with a *sigh* before it...
It's also possible to use force without applying force: The threat of it; fostering the belief in it; engendering an environment in which the force is implicitly understood. (Yes, I have recently rewatched Star Wars...)

"Submission is a gift that must be treasured"
OK, more controversial this one, but allow me to expound. You (sub) are NOT a precious gift (or unique snowflake, for the Fight Club afficianados out there). You are a person. Your submission can be given in a variety of circumstances, some of which are as subtly nuanced as the back-and-forth of flirtatiously seasoned fan-dancers and others which are chemically-based and in which your body takes part before your mind is fully aware of what its vessel is up to.
That feels good to say in a lifestyle forum. (vape inhale)
And there has to be a balancing (vape exhale)
Dom(me)(s) out there... nor are you a special gift. No matter your chromosomes or chosen gender. No matter your hotness (outside of a play-time thing, but that applies to yonder subs, too). So... stop... fucking... whining!

(Oh, and girls who are looking for only girls... and dudes for dudes... there are some awesome ways to express and confirm your sexual preference out there. Take a look. Seriously. Least amongst which is "NO MEN / BITCHES - CAN'T YOU READ??? - ALL MEN / BITCHES TO BULK..." (yaddy yada yada). Some readers haven't seen your profile before you got those million semi-erect messages, and it's not our fault. It's just... negative. Spam filters are there for the ease of it all. The noiselessness. The general shoosh-ness of it all)

Happy 2017 :-)

12/29/2016 3:58:37 PM
It seems that not much here has changed... sad for some, especially those who have arrived here for the first time, unwarned, with high hopes of something resembling conversation.
Since there are those of you out there (and I don't address you, darling new-folks) who are confused by a clear list of likes and looking-fors, try to remember that one can be open to more than one idea before settling for an option.
Also, "friends only" on here means "also friends", since there is no alternative option.
If this place is the same as it was, 99% of you will be lying about gender and/or orientation.
I live in hope of connection - friends or otherwise - with the 1%. May the rest of you bitch (verb) in peace, and may your choice stick.

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nhicole09
 
 Age: 21
  Oregon