I love discussing BDSM, and good conversation in general, so I invite anyone who reads this to send me a message.

I'd describe myself as your average, all-around good guy.... just a very kinky one. I'm single, no children, in good health, I live alone, and am employed full-time. I've always lived in Dublin. I'm intelligent, polite, friendly, dependable, usually quiet unless a topic comes up that really grabs my interest, and basically a gentleman. In terms of relationships, I'm very affectionate, faithful, protective, and a great listener. I do my best to make my partner feel happy, sexy, and appreciated. I don't let her "top from the bottom" or anything like that, but I do pay attention to her desires/limits/likes/dislikes and make sure that she is getting what she needs out of the relationship. So, I'm here looking for a submissive partner. Must be female, single, no older than 45ish, slender/average in size, healthy, have no children, and be willing to relocate at some point if she doesn't already live nearby. I'd also prefer someone who doesn't have a ton of sexual/BDSM experience, isn't a big smoker/drinker/drug user, and who has little or no body art. I want someone who is very submissive and loves to please her partner. She also needs to have a personality, the ability to hold a decent conversation, and interests unrelated to this lifestyle. I don't want a robot, I want a partner who I love being around, talking to, and enjoying a variety of things with. Finally, I need someone who is seriously interested in a long-term, monogamous Dom/sub relationship.

Now, I'll go into my BDSM/sexual interests a bit, along with some of the things that I would expect from a partner. Please keep in mind that there are many things I enjoy which won't be mentioned here. I'm only going to cover my favorites for now.

First, I have a tremendous oral fixation, at least when it comes to receiving. I rarely have an urge to give oral, but receiving a good blowjob is right up there among my favorite things in the world. So my partner can expect to perform fellatio often. I will also want her to swallow every time, eventually. She doesn't have to enjoy it, or even pretend to. The sadistic part of me actually finds it more exciting if she dislikes swallowing cum or just isn't crazy about it. Gagging, watery eyes, making faces as she swallows.... these are turn-ons for me. I also have many ideas I want to try regarding different ways, places, times, etc. for her to suck cock and swallow semen.

Next up, lingerie. I absolutely love to view a young lady in pretty underwear. I usually prefer that over a naked lady. Thong panties and thigh-high stockings, in particular, are very sexy to me. So my partner's outfit, at least when privacy allows, will usually be lingerie and high heels. We'll also go lingerie shopping regularly, which is fun in itself.

Another thing I enjoy very much is spanking. I will sometimes do this as punishment, but there will also be many times when I simply have an urge to do some spanking. My favorite positions for this are for her to be bent slightly with her hands against a wall, bent over a chair, or across my lap.

Bondage is also a favorite activity. I'm a big fan of handcuffs and other restraints. I enjoy using blindfolds and gags as well, especially open-mouth gags and penis gags.

Next on my list is cock worship. A lot of people seem to lump this in with oral sex, but to me it is when my partner uses her hands, mouth, etc. to give the cock attention without necessarily trying to give an orgasm. She simply takes her time and worships however she feels like doing it.

A few other activities I enjoy or am curious about would be orgasm control/denial, humiliation (especially when it involves fellatio and/or cum play), breast play/torture, roleplay, and erotic photography/video.

As for vanilla activities, I love movies, TV shows, music, sports, comics/magazines, video games (yes, I've got some nerd in me), surfing the internet, and being around close family/friends. My favorite types of movies/shows are horror, sci-fi, thrillers, comedy, and action. I also like anything with great scenes of nudity, lingerie, sex (especially oral), or of course, BDSM. I like various types of music, but mostly hard rock. My top sports are rugby, running, and football. For magazines, I enjoy anything related to the above hobbies/interests. Lately I've mostly been into mags about women in horror movies, such as Femme Fatales, Scream Queens Illustrated, and Draculina.

There you have it, a pretty good idea of who I'm looking for and the kind of things I enjoy. I'm sure I'll add more as I think of things I've left out. If you have any questions, just ask. And for those who do contact me, I hope you don't mind questions either. I'm a very curious person who likes to learn as much as possible about others. If we talk much at all, I'll probably ask all about your personality, interests, experiences, opinions, and so on.... quite possibly some things you've never been asked before! I don't mean any offense by whatever I might ask, I just truly enjoy picking people's brains and getting to know all about them.