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Im direct yet understanding. A bit sadistic yet caring. These DO all work together.



I have always been my daughters Dad. She always came FIRST in my life. If thats a problem, you may... no scratch that... you WILL want to move on now. Now that shes an adult, we have a different relationship, but family always comes first.



If you dont understand that the relationship I have with her is important, then go to the next profile.



And since Ive been asked before, Ill get this out of the way. You will not meet her anytime soon.



If youve gotten this far, then you and I might have something in common.



Im interested in chatting, talking, laughing, movies, dinners, and the occasional and more often than occasional get-together.



Ill add more later.



(Later - 2013)



About the Vanilla me... While I enjoy hiking, camping, drives in the mountains, movies, photography, bowling, Astronomy (NOT astrology), swimming, walks, etc., I tend, at times, to be somewhat of a homebody. As such, I also enjoy spending time reading, watching a good movie, cooking, warm fires, and playing on my computer. Im something of a Sci-Fi nut, though Im pretty good at tempering those interests a bit. I have fairly simple tastes but I know where Im going in my life.



I have been asked by several after a first meeting, Are you really Dominant? I dont see it. Thats because, to me, in getting to know someone I dont necessarily talk all about how you are going to be used and abused, tied, flogged, shared, etc. I prefer to get to know someone as a friend before proceeding to play time and ownership. The getting-to-know-you phase CAN be very short... say... over pie at Village Inn... but I tend to prefer a longer time frame before we codify our relationship. Do I like to talk about desires, needs, wants, etc? Yuppers... Will I talk about them in our first meeting? Maybe.



Update, 2014 (done in 2015)





Results from bdsmtest.org 100 Sadist - hmmmm... not sure about that96 Dominant 89 MasterMistress 88 Bondage Giver 88 Degradation Giver 88 Experimentalist 83 Exhibitionist 77 Primal (Predator) 75 DaddyMommy 75 Voyeur 59 Non-monogamist 44 Brat Tamer 44 Pervert 44 Primal (Prey) 16 Vanilla 5 Brat 4 GirlBoy 4 Masochist 4 Submissive 0 All-Rounder 0 Bondage Receiver 0 Degradation Receiver 0 Slave 0 Switch

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10/14/2013 8:02:15 AM

(DISCLAIMER – I’M NOT TALKING AS IF I KNOW EVERYTHING, NOR AM I SAYING WHAT I SAY BELOW AS IF EVERY D-TYPE THINKS LIKE I DO.  THIS IS **MY** POST, SO IT’S WHAT **I’M** THINKING… I COULD BE WRONG THAT OTHERS THINK THIS WAY.  I JUST HOPE I’M NOT.)

Ya know…

Many of the s’s I know tend to think that it is their job to take care of their D and to do everything that She/He/It wants. 

I get that.  I respect that.  I mean, that’s part of the perks of being a D-type person.  But what’s really hard to fathom for me... and maybe I'm just stupid...  is that many of the s’s I know… don’t realize that part of what us D’s want to do is… oddly enough… everything that our respective s’s want.

Look... just because we may like some activity, or have enjoyed said activity in the past, etc., that does NOT mean that we HAVE to have that activity in the future to be happy.  Sometimes, even we D’s are happy simply because of the person we have chosen to be with and it will not hurt us, diminish us, destroy us, or even cause us unbearable pain to take a few activities off our list of things we may like, simply because (strange as this may sound), we want YOU more than the activities... Weird huh? To me, activities matter far less than the person we are with.  I wish some would get that.

One too many times, I’ve heard “You are into this and I’m not, therefore, even though everything else seems perfect, I can’t provide what you need. It’s over.”  What?!? Uhm… wait… What happened? Who the heck are you and what did you do with the ‘communicative’ person I’ve talked to for months on end?  You know… the one who claims that communication is key… Yeah… you know… THAT person?  Where the heck did they go??? Bring ‘em back!! Please?  Purty please?  With a cherry on top?

I’ve thought of saying… “What you think about me and your perception of my needs and wants, is wrong.”  But that won’t matter.  There’s nothing I can say, once someone’s mind is made up.  It’s what they think that matters.  And if they are going to think something that’s not accurate, without asking me, or talking to me and explaining to me their perception, then there’s nothing I can do and quite honestly, the fact they are doing that is very telling as far as the rest of a prospective relationship is concerned.  If they are willing to assume something this early in the relationship, what will they do later on in the relationship.  And honestly, now, anything I say will just sound like I’m begging or saying ANYTHING to get them back which is not a position ANYONE (Dom OR sub) wants to be put in. 

Please… just because you think that there is something I want, or need and you don’t feel like you fulfill it… just remember, there’s another side of the story.  Activities and interests are NOT the end all, be all.  I, for one, feel that if almost all of our needs, wants and desires mesh, the piddling few that may not are NOT worth losing the person you feel like you’ve found that you could spend … well… Just sayin’… before you think the one you are with can’t be happy with you, ask them, ok?  Find out if your perception really *is* reality?  Just a hint.  It MAY actually save you some heartache… and it WILL save a hell of a lot of heartache for us D’s too.  (We DO have hearts, you know.  They break just as easily and just as often.)


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sugarnsweet
 
 Age: 23
 Boston, Massachusetts