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Willing to relocate

Ive been in the lifestyle for four years. Ive been unattached for the two years now. i will update my profile a lot more soon. I have many kinks and looking to explore new ones. Dont hesitate to message me if my profile interests you.



If you decide to reach out to me here are my requirements



age range 30-55

weight within a healthy BMI

race open

experience is necessary if youve just read about all of this in a book or online you need not apply. I will ask for references and will do my due diligence to make sure you are legit.

introduction needs to be proper and vanilla if you want to be taken seriously

picture will be required for any ongoing dialogue


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11/23/2016 9:01:13 PM
So I've read several journals from some of the men on this site and they post a disclaimer about not asking for money. And I would like to say to all of those men equal rights have finally caught up with us girls! So I think its only fitting to place the same disclaimer on my page. 

DO NOT ASK ME FOR MONEY OR ANY OTHER TYPE OF ASSISTANCE! I AM A SINGLE MOTHER WHO WORKS HARD TO PAY FOR HER OWN WAY I DO NOT USE A MANS MONEY FOR ANY PART OF MY LIFE. NO I WILL NOT LOAN YOU MONEY, OR GIVE YOU A PLACE TO STAY. 

And yes I had a man today ask if he could come live with me site unseen!!!!! Dude thats creepy and not cool! Who does that? Seriously I don't even know the guys last name and he wants to live together???? And that was his first message to me. Yes Mr. Strange man please come live with me and my young daughter and have full access to all of my belongings. Sure I will be happy to verify you through Facebook as you suggested. Call your ex girlfriends to verify your legit and won't hack me into pieces? Right on that. 

11/23/2016 5:52:30 PM
If your looking for a play partner than your a Kinkster 

if your looking for a relationship (M/s or D/s) than you are a Dom and worthy of being addressed as Sir. 

I wish more more men on here realized this. 

Im NOT a Kinkster, I'm not looking for a play partner or to do this whenever it suits your fancy. I am a sub, and I desire and seek to serve. 

Kinksters need not apply.

11/18/2016 11:23:50 AM

When I first started dabbling in the lifestyle four years ago I had a lot going on in my personal life. I was separated, living in my moms garage apartment and starting to figure out who I was. Not the image I projected to the world. With my divorce was a time to discover who I was and the life I wanted to live.

The first two guys I dated were total opposite from each other. One was a straight laced cop who embodied the vanilla lifestyle. We had fun, the sex was good although there wasn't any kink, but the best part is we'd have these deep philosophical conversations and I found that to be very satisfying. The other guy was my wild card. Together we were Bonnie and Clyde. He introduced me to kink. He gave me the freedom to just be myself. He allowed me to explore my bisexual side, experience new things sexually, and allowed my imagination to run wild with role play. He's a person that I owe a debt of gratitude to opening the door to this new world. He also had friends that are in the lifestyle so that's where I jumped down the rabbit hole. This was the first time in my life that is felt alive. It was also a time where I faced harsh judgment from my mother. Some of the judgements were your fat, your a whore because you sleep with two different men. The list was extensive and the judgments were constant. The judgments were so harsh that she threatened to take my than four year old daughter away from me. My guy friend who was the cop (a corporal with a law degree) would always assure that her threats had no merit. Yet they led me into a life where I had to try to be someone else in order to keep the peace. It was like trying to keep a fully inflated beach ball under the water. Than the movie Frozen came out. The song, Let it go became a hit. And than I realized that I couldn't deny who I was anymore. For me being true to myself was far important. And if that meant being labeled a slut so be it. I moved into my own place where I found peace and the space to grow as a person.
My happily ever after didn't happen there. Shortly after my Dom at the time stayed with me. It was suppose to be 24/7. I had the opportunity to serve him which I enjoyed. But something wasn't right. There was always a nagging sensation that this wasn't what the 24/7 dynamic was suppose to be. Three months later I found out what my intuition was trying to tell me. We had an agreement that we were monogamous and we'd have other playmates to satisfy our kinks. Well as the world turns he had about seven other women. Most of them were in different cities. And it wasn't the fact the he wanted to be poly it was the fact that he lied and there was so much deception. I ended things. Lesson I leaned was being in this lifestyle requires honestly. Any relationship requires trust.
So the next "dom" I dated was for about five weeks. He would never spend the night and could only spare an hour after work. He said it was because he was a single father and didn't have anyone to take care of his kids. We were playing one day and he bite my nipple, hard! And this is coming from a girl who loves nipple torture. He bite my nipple so hard that I literally pushed him away and was on the other side of the room before I knew it. My flight response was definitely working well that night. He was confused at my response and I couldn't figure out what was wrong with this scernio. Well time revealed the answers he was living with his baby momma and he's never been a Dom before. He was just well read and had plenty of philosophies of the lifestyle. Lesson learned: trust but verify. Verify that your potential Dom has actually had a sub outside of the fictional one he made up in his head. As a sub you can get seriously hurt if a guy doesn't know what he's doing. I'm lucky I just had a sore nipple for a couple of days.
So I took some time away from the lifestyle after that. I tried to make some vanilla into doms and let me just say for the record that it doesn't work.
So the next guy seemed to have some promise. We had drinks at a restaurant close to house. He came by my place to check out where I lived. Things were cool up to the point he wanted me to walk him to his car NAKED! Really????? The answer was a big fat no. A D will never ask you to do something illegal, that could jeopardize your house or to expose other people to your lifestyle choice. We s have values and our D needs to have them too. Next D appeared to be great. He had a beautiful house, successful company, and very charming. We laughed and enjoyed our time together. The only flaw was he was bitter about his divorce and how he's ex wife got half. I gently told him that he needed to move past her and look forward to a great picture. Shortly after that he broke things off with me. Lesson learned you can't move forward with your future if your still lingering in the past. Last story, another D showed interest in me. He wanted to hear more about my past adventures with full details. He asked me very few questions about me. I'm going to say this a man wanting to know about your past sexual adventures is just weird. That's not a D! Actually I don't know what that is! Ladies on this website you will find guys that feel that they can tell you all of their sexual desires before they know any basic details about you. That's a top not a D. A D wants to know about you. The authentic you. Sessions will only last for a finite amount of time. Then there's the rest of life happening. And that's where a good D comes in. Find a Man who has your same values, that you can trust, and that you won't have a problem doing what's asked of you because you know that His heart is in the right place and that His decisions are for the best interest of the household. The last thing I want to add is I was asked by my mentor if I were the bravest version of myself who would I be? The answer was I'd be honest with myself and admit that I'm an s, meant to serve without my ego and just my heart. Than I committed to Him with ease.

And my last bit of parting advice is failure is feedback. Your going to come across some duds! Honor the struggle because when you find Him there's a world of possibilities


11/16/2016 8:23:24 AM
I always find the journey interesting. I find it interesting for those of you looking for a ltr but you want to know if I would worship your cock before you even know about me. About who I am? What I am truly about? I think some of you guys are just looking for someone to talk dirty with? And if that's what you want hey thats great. Just be honest with yourself on what your looking for on her and than be honest to the person your talking to. 

11/9/2016 7:24:14 AM
There it was 
A moment of raw honesty 
The ego was disengage and birth to a new being came fourth 
The light that had been dim for long was starting to burn brightly 
I felt like a rose bush that's flower was losing its petals and feeling the sadness of watching what once a beautiful blossom losing its grandeur 
Than behind that rose was a bud opening up. 
This rose was more beautiful and vibrant than the last one 
This one seemed to rise to meet the sun. This bud was produced under fertile soil 
Than I realized that I was this rose bush 
And that I needed to be nurtured that for so long I neglected the vital nutrients that I needed 
I needed someone to care and nature me I needed a time to totally let go
I needed to stop being the everything and just to be the one thing that I was meant to be 
Some of us aren't meant to be flowers 
I was meant to be one of the most beautiful, most exotic, and the most rare flowers that was cultivated by a Master gardener. The Master who can see the potential beauty, that has the knowledge to cultivate her, allows the world to see her, yet he is the only one who gets to enjoy everything about her 
Her sweet perfume, her delicate touch, and the experience of just being in her 
And when her flower blooms they will enjoy the blossom until one day that too falls away and it's time to create another beautiful roses through the process. 

11/3/2016 10:38:21 PM
Free with purchase 

if it were that easy we'd all get our dream Dom or sub with the purchase of the book 59 shades 

5/24/2016 1:17:31 PM

The Gate Keeper

 

BDSM means so many different things to different people. And perhaps there is a unique version for every person out there. As I have made my evolution through all of this I have come closer  to understand what it means to me. It’s such an intimate thing that I can’t describe it via a journal entry or list all of my fetishes that would embody the meaning of BDSM for me. For years I tried to put myself in a box of what I thought a sub should be act, how she should act. I read book, I looked at websites, and I talked with others in the lifestyle. I tried to take everything that made since and translate it into what the lifestyle is and incorporate myself into the lifestyle. Finally I let everything go and just labeled myself as an evolving kinkster. 

 

When I had the concept of being a sub I had thought that I had to completely submit to a Dom in every aspect of my life. Well that never made sense to me. When I would met Doms theres a part of me that would fight them and I now realize that I wasn’t being myself. What I’ve learned that the lifestyle is like any other healthy relationship and it;s like a stool. It has three legs trust, respect, and security. Without one of the legs of the stool the relationship cannot stand nor can it be functional or serve anyone. 

 

So than that does make me an old fashioned girl. I want to know about a man. I want to know about his family, career, past relationships, etc. All of the things that has bought him to where he is now in life. I want to know his political views, what he’s passionate about, what he won’t tolerate and all of the other things I didn’t even think to ask. And with the process of learning about him my ego aka the gate keeper lets bows gracefully to allow the Dom to the submissive side of me that my ego will only allow few to access. It’s the greatest part of me and I only want to give the best part of me to someone who deserves it and will treat the best of me as she deserves. 

 

But once the submissive has been accessed it feels like pandora’s box has been opened. All of the suppressed desires are now being unleashed into the world. she is a different being with all of her wicked desires that at times feel unsatisable, and that demand to be meet and satisfied. My pussy literally aches at this point. A prolonged aching, with the occasionally stinging. It’s wet, longing, and laser focused on the only thing that can quench the deep cieted desire.  

 

The delicious desire to lay across his lap, paints around her ankle and surrendering to a bare handed spanking. The echoing of the sounds of sucking his cock, thinking about the sensation of all of the spit dripping down everywhere, and looking up pleading at him with the plead in my eyes to be used. The need to be tied up and used repeatedly by his cock. The sweet reward of his semen and trying to work out all of the places that I want to feel his load. 


3/21/2016 12:35:15 PM
When I was new to this lifestyle a kind Master took me under His wings to offer me some guidance on being a submissive in the lifestyle. He was a Dom back in the days where things were primarily underground and the Internet didn't exist. He always advised me to ask a ton of questions of any potential Dom. At the time I was a bit naive to what He was talking about, but with the passage of time I come to understand the lesson He was trying to impart on His young pupil. I will always be greatful for the time He invested in me and the guidance He gave me. So what the journey has taught me so far is yes to ask lots of questions to a potential Dom and it's also given me a corresponding lesson in observation. I would tell any sub to look at a potential Dom by His words and His actions. How we do anything is how we do everything! As a sub I commit to give things all of my heart and soul. That speaks a volume on how I approach life, and who I am as a person. What He's doing today is probably going to be the same thing He's going to do tomorrow. Look at your potential Doms life and truly ask if you can give one hundred percent and serve Him without question. And when the answer is a resounding yes without any hesitation than you my friend have found the beginning of a new chapter of your life serving your beloved Master.

5/29/2014 11:15:53 AM
The best thing in life is when you meet that Master who you connect with, the one that you have the pleasure of talking with everyday, your delighted at every conversation. He guides you lovingly through the journey to become the best slave that you can be. He makes you excited to completely submit. Sunrises are so much sweeter. Every breathe becomes easier and suddenly there's a strong desire for your next session. The next opportunity to be stretched.

4/30/2014 9:51:42 AM
Someone please define fit? Apparently its a term used very loosely in today's age? Thanks for all of the responses to this question. Lots of food for thought.

4/21/2014 7:26:49 AM
Okay so one of my tasks today will be to research the proper protocol in the lifestyle in terms of introducing yourself to a potential sub/slave. The true Doms have the wisdom and respect to approach me like a lady while the wanna bes use terms such as slut, whore, bitch, and etc when attempting to make an introduction. How dare any man refer to me in terms that are strictly for my Dom to use with me. I'm not a door mat or knob.

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Allana69
 
 Age: 35
 Hampton, Virginia