For those who wondered, I used to be on back when it was CM. I just rejoined on 2/01/15.
I am starting to look for a long term, romantic relationship again. Here are some of the qualities that I generally find to be most appealing:
I generally prefer white guys, college educated, good manners, professionally motivated yet still know how to have fun, socially liberal, and with a naughty sense of humor.
--male (bc I like a flesh & blood cock)
--straight is great, but flexible on getting together with another guy (especially for a mfm 3-some) is also fine in case you wondered!
--someone who is interested in having a family. I'm in my late 30s and am looking to settle down and start a family with the right kinky man. (--want to spend time getting to know each other 1st!) I'm open to dating someone who already has children, but ideally I would like to have 1 or 2 of my own. Am also open to adoption or being a foster parent.
--muscular (some padding is ok, but I love a firm body)
--masculine (not interested in cross dressers or sissies)
--switch or a submissive who can take some intense sensations. (I think the term "pain" gets thrown around a lot but it doesn't really describe what I like to inflict on my partner. I much prefer to push with intensity that only sometimes crosses into actual pain.) I am not interested in switching, but I have done co-topping with other partners who were switches.
--sensualist with a high sex drive
--Not to be too blunt but I am a bit of a size queen: at least 7" long cock that is also somewhat thick
--age range of 30 - 47
--SINGLE, not in an open relationship. While I am open to having a relationship with some flexibility in playing with/fucking other people, I am not interested in poly or being someone's "extra" partner.
--at least somewhat experienced with BDSM and comfortable attending BDSM/kinky events. I've been active in the scene since 2000 and enjoy attending events once in a while.
--prefer at least 5'8 (I'm just over that)
--is available to actually get together at least few times a month. This also means you need to be relatively local. I've done a couple of long distance relationships and am very tired of never seeing my partner. I am not interested in moving, unless it is somewhere in the MD/DC/VA area.
--enjoys travel. I've been to around 40 states and almost a dozen countries.
--non-smoker, D&D free (as am I)
--prefer a clean-cut look but a few tats or piercings are ok...
--I am highly allergic to cats and fairly allergic to most dogs, so while I think they are cute and I like them there is no way I can live with them --I can live with some dogs, depending on the allergic response. (I do have a small parrot and will not get rid of him.)
FYI, do not wear skinny jeans, especially ones that sag in the crotch as that is a complete turn-off for me! "Safeword" on men in skinny jeans!!! lol Fitted slacks that cup the package are fine but not little bitch jeans ;-)
If you are a conservative Republican (Tea Party style, not a moderate), anti-choice, anti-gay, not environmentally concerned, and probably a few other things I will have to add later, then we are definitely *not* a good match.
The list goes on but this gives a starting point.
As for some of my qualities:
I am an experienced Dominant. I've been in the scene for about 16 years. My personality is fairly outgoing and usually laid back --except when I have you tied up and at my mercy, of course. I am artistic and creative, both in regular life and the bedroom/dungeon.
Variety is my main kink. I get bored doing the same things over & over.... but in general I tend to enjoy cbt, spanking, strap-on, foot/body worship --in no particular order. The best thing for me is the connection that I share with my partner, seeing them respond to what I'm doing, and building on our dynamic as we explore different activities. There are a ton of other things that I enjoy but I don't fee like listing them all. My hard limits are: scat, animals, minors, most blood play/needles/cutting, drugs.