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Read my page and Journal please and enjoy Little bit about me Please everyone! Sirwes I am dating and I am a very open-minded respectful person. So if you intend to p.m. me. Be very warned that I will always tell Sirwes our conversation. Also he can go in my account at anytime he pleases. He does have my password to my account. No he did not ask for my password I choose him to have my password. My choice I accept him a lot. I am a very happy person we have a lot in common and so many ways but we're very open and honest to each other and that means a lot to me. So please be respectful to me at all times. And I will give you the same in return. Sirwes has first say so on anything. And I will repeat Sirwes with all my heart My Sir and me are on FetLife:Me : Lilly_1983 Sir: SirWes Please be respectful on my page and I will give you the same... And also please read my journal entries. Enjoy them there about my life you can get a more understanding about who I am. Yes I know eventually my journey will find the right Dom for me . But I have many layers of my journey. My journal speaks loud and clearly. I take my time on my journal. Now some pieces of my journal have changed over the years. And I Blossom more and more. If you can take my mind but also earned my mind it can be a beautiful sight. Please read my Journal Heres a list of some bands/musicians I like since a lot of people are curious Jimi Hendrix (no shit), Zeppelin, Cream, Tool, Puscifer, A Perfect Circle, The Mars Volta, At the Drive In, I Mother Earth, Red Hot Chili Peppers, John Frusciante, Jeff Buckley, Muddy Waters, Deftones, Protest the Hero, Robert Johnson, Etta James, Ella Fitzgerald, Regina Spektor, Refused, System of a Down, Kendrick Lamar, Thrice, Primus, Billie Holiday, Tracey Chapman, Nina Simone, Soundgarden, Pearl Jam, Stone Temple Pilots, The Guess Who, The Doors, The Cat Empire, Streetlight Manifesto, Sublime, Dave Matthews, Jane's Addiction, Blind Melon, Eric Clapton, Janis Joplin, Buddy Guy, Tragically Hip, Alice in Chains, CCR, Rage Against the Machine, Wu Tang, Beyonce, many many many many many many more. Peace, love, rock and roll Xx WARNING!! Any institutions, individuals, and/or third parties using this site and/or any of its associated sites for studies or projects, and/or any duplication (for any reason) and/or posting to any site - You do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile and/or pictures in any form or forum both past, present, and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications under the Privacy Act, Copyright and/or other. It is recommended that other members post a similar notice to this.

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3/2/2018 12:50:39 AM
My parents raised me to be a respectfully adult. Chew with your mouth closed. Cover sneezes and coughs. Speak when you?re spoken too. Make eye contact. Say please and thank you. Respect your elders. Acknowledge with Sir and Ma?am as a sign of respect. From an early age I?ve been calling people Sir and Ma?am because I was taught to be respectful. Having worked in the public eye those words get used on a daily bases. The frequency at which I use those words has over time caused them to lose a lot of their meaning. I throw them around with no attachment. I still use them as a sign of respect but I have no attachment to the words as they flow out of my mouth. They flow as easy as saying hello. Sir is a term used a fair bit in the bdsm and d/s lifestyles and is used to refer to one?s dominant. The term is used to reference the power exchange, or imbalance as some would say, and it is there as well to denote a level of respect. Not to mention, it is often the term people entering the life style come into contact with first. Many dominants in the community, not even ones you may directly be playing with, enjoy being referred to as Sir. Sometimes they have earned that right, sometimes they have not. Over my years of bdsm and d/s styled porn watching Sir is the more common term used. When we negotiated our play early on we agreed, in contract, that the term Sir would be used when I referred to him both in and outside of play. As our scenes progressed it became evident that I struggled with the use of the term Sir when referring to my dominant. My apprehensions are this: I?ve grown up using the term Sir. It carries little meaning to me other than a word to denote a common day level of respect. I use it in my personal life and I use it in my career. It?s just a word. It is as common to me as saying hello, as saying thank-you. It carries but a figurative meaning of respect. I don?t feel or mean the respect it?s meant to denote at the inner core of my being. This lack of respect that the term Sir has for me meant that I wished to use a term of deeper meaning. A term that only I could bestow upon my dominant. A term that represented the respect, the need, the power exchange and the dedication I had for my dominant. I asked him for the right to call him Master. Together we discussed the use of either term and together we agreed that I would be granted the right to call him Master. Since that day I have used this term with upmost respect. It isn?t a term I use in vain, humor or sarcasm. This is a term I use because I mean everything it stands for. I mean it not just on the surface but it has become ingrained within my submissive self. It speaks from my mouth only for him. Master is not a term I would or could use for anyone but him. It is a term no one else will refer to him as. It is a term only for us. Others may call him Sir out of respect but I am not anyone. I am his. I am his submissive, I have chosen my place. I have chosen a Master not a Sir. Recently in play I have been requested by him to call him Sir and I have been unable to fulfill that desire of his appropriately. In displeasure of his request I have found myself either unable to speak or completely disobedient and in utter disregard. It is not that I wish to be disobedient and it is not that I wish to disobey him of his requests. It is that I find the disobedience of his request on the surface to be far less disrespectful than the disrespect of calling him Sir. Perhaps the defiance has grown because I have spoken my peace on the use of the term Sir before and thus being asked to use it feels? provoking. Maybe it is that I feel less yours. Maybe it is that I feel interchangeable or replaceable. But it feels provoking. Like it severs the respect. Master was a term you gave me. You gave me the right to call you My Master. My dominant and I met on a fetish site under pseudo names. For me his pseudo name has acted to some degree as a replacement for calling him Master especially when we are in public and aside from that I speak freely when in conversation with him. While not holding the same esteem, his pseudo name is, for me, denotes a higher level of respect. Therefore, the term Master is used most often when we play as that time is the strongest representation of our exchange. It is a time when we call upon our needs the most and it is the time when I feel at most in purpose of my submission. Taking back my right to call you Master makes me feel like you are taking back all the meanings I have placed on the term destroying is self-propelled reciprocity in turn making it all feel insignificant. Taking back that right you bestowed me feels like I am stripped of my place and my right. Perhaps it is that on the surface the terms Sir and Master appear interchangeable for a committed submissive of one dominant. But it burns something inside of me to say the word. I feel it to be an insurmountable level of disrespect because that word for me holds no meaning. No true respect, no true denotation of my level of commitment to being his submissive. I feel dirty and I feel like a trader for using it. I feel like I betray everything we have worked hard for. It makes me feel like a whore. Maybe this all sounds dramatic. Maybe it sounds inconceivable that a word, such a small word, could hold such meaning; but it does. I?ve spend months growing fond of the terms we choose for each other. I?ve spent months equating the growing trust, honesty, communication, devotion and love to the term Master such that every time I choose to speak it I breathe more life into the exchange that binds us. "Title preference" I felt that way when we began and as time has passed these feelings have only intensified as we have fallen deeper. Perhaps it is that we hold different meanings of the term Sir. But should its interest be the mere clich?ature that the community has placed on it (I speak of something other than those d/s couples who hold the term Sir to a similar standard I have placed on the term Master) then all I can say is that I am giving you much more than that. What I know is that right now the term breeds a great deal of disobedience which may breed unnecessary consequences. Perhaps in time my opinions on this may change. Perhaps I must swallow my pride and accept the decisions you would like. Perhaps I have placed too much meaning on such a word. Nonetheless its meaning is a honest representation of how I feel and perhaps putting voice to its meaning for you may assist in changing mine. Reason creates purpose and place. For me it?s just a word, nothing more.

3/2/2018 12:47:38 AM
Non sexual dominant and submissive Imagine yourself walking through a forest. It?s early evening, the sun is hanging low in the sky, and you know you have to make your way out of the forest before it gets dark but you?re not sure how to get out. You know you could find your way out eventually but the time limit causes stress and anxiety. What if you never get out? What if you go the wrong way? What if the sun sets on you and you?re left alone and scared in the dark? Now enter submission and domination. Submission is putting trust into another person, allowing them to guide you through the dark, taking your hand and bringing you through the forest. Domination is taking that person by the hand and leading them out of uncertainty and harm. You may both get sore feet, or bug bites, or scratches from sticks and stones, but the small pains are nothing compared to the harm of being misguided or getting lost. Although either person may experience pain and hurt throughout the journey, it is the harm you need to worry about. The kink and fetish community is almost always thought of as sexual and promiscuous. While for some kinksters and fetishists that?s true, it?s not an exclusive combination. Domination and submission are deep rooted psychological ects of a person?s being. It?s not impossible for a person to change from Dominant to submissive, or vice versa, or to become a switch, though it is somewhat uncommon. Changing between submissive and Dominant is not what I?m going to talk about today. I?m going to talk about the non-sexual ect of Domination and submission. In the forest scenario I described two people, one Dominant and one submissive. This was not a metaphor for sex, but for all relationships in times of stress and hardship. Something as small as trying to bring groceries in the house, or as big as escaping from a natural disaster, people will often find themselves either looking for guidance and assistance, or looking to guide and assist. In non-sexual domination and submission, the Dominant and submissive may be such in their regular lives or not, but in their scene with their partner they can be whichever they like. The naturally dominant person can be taken by the hand and guided; the naturally submissive person can assume control and take initiative. While this can of course be turned into a sexual situation, the point of it is not sexual, but rather a chance to release inhibitions and experience control or submission. Some people will find it relaxing to be tied up and flogged, or to act as furniture for a length of time, or any number of different acts. Placing control in the hands of someone you trust, knowing you will not be harmed, allows you to let go of the need to protect yourself and simply experience the sights, sounds, and sensations around. There is no stress to fight, everything is out of your control, you?re just there for the ride. On the other side, for the Dominant, there is the promise of complete control of another person. You may cause them pain, pleasure, both, or neither. You have the power to create bruises and welts in another person?s flesh, or treat them like a pet who truly understands your commands. The well-being of this person rests in your hands, they trust you, and provided you?ve laid out rules and limits, you don?t need to ask if you can do one thing or another, you just can. If you choose to stare at their naked form while they hold a glass of wine for you, that?s your choice. If you want to watch them clean a room while your periodically inflict pain upon them, you can. Control is yours and they are there to be yours to dominate. ?Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power. Throughout the course of the day we are surrounded by sex, sexual images, sexual suggestion, and the need to control or submit to others without any pleasure. Practices in non-sexual submission and Domination, because they are about sex, can be without the act of sex and allow you to feel the exchange of power instead. It allows you to experience something you typically won?t freely experience in day-to-day life. Everything else is about sex, so allowing yourself to be free of it every now and again can be liberating and allow you to feel how you feel without the thought of sex. Then, afterwards, you can always go home and achieve that orgasm with a partner or solo. That?s your choice! Happy Humping!

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KittyforU
 
 Age: 29
 Sydney, Australia