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1/1/2015 10:21:21 AM

SLAVE

I have seen so many submissive s come into the lifestyle expecting “everything” to be dream-like and perfect. I don't wish to ruin anyone's dreams, or turn them from the activity, but what I wish to do is to explain how things really can be for a slave. Being a slave can be a wonderful life or a nightmare. Some say it more than they ever expected, and had someone explained the realities to them prior to their decision, it would have made their transition so much easier. This does not mean that you will know everything there is to know but what the basics are that will be expected. For the purpose of this article, I am addressing issues related to being a 24/7 slave. These comments are of a female slave with a male Master. For Domme’s or male slaves I cannot comment from personal experience. First, there are a few things you need to discover for and about yourself. Do you wish to be in this type relationship 24/7? Perhaps you only wish to be in it during the scenes. Maybe you want to role-play at only during certain times. There are many ways this activity can be done, but you have to figure out what is right for you. Second, you need to learn to be honest with yourself. Figure out what you will and will not do, and what is a "maybe" but don’t exclude anything as your eyes will be opened to new worlds as you develop trust in your Master over time. Search inside yourself for what you really want, and when you find it, be honest to anyone you talk to. Don't agree to something long-term that you know you will not be able accomplish. Ask yourself some hard questions. The rest of this article will give you aspects to contemplate so you can base your decisions on reality, and not someone else's dreams of how it should be. Are you prepared to surrender 100% control of your life to someone else? 24/7 slaves do this. Role-playing would mean entering into this relationship only for the time agreed upon that the Master would have the total control. Once the scene is over, everything returns to normal. Do you enjoy music? Consider this. The Master who's collar you will eventually wear, may only like music while driving of talk radio only. Are you prepared to give up music and only listen to what he chooses? This type sacrifice can apply to many other things you currently enjoy. When you are a good girl, at times, a Master may permit you to listen to your choice of music, as long as you get your assigned tasks and chores done. Note, I said, "permitted to". Something as simple as listening to the radio is a reward of his choice for you. It is not a given that you will be permitted to enjoy even this little pleasure whenever you wish. These limitations can apply to many areas of your life such as TV, choices of food or friends, just about anywhere anything! Is there a certain style of clothes you love? Certain colors, scents or makeup you wouldn't be caught without? If your Master doesn't approve of them, you may be wearing a totally different style with colors you never would have dreamed of. He may lay your clothes out for you every morning or just require you to get his approval. Are you prepared to abide by His choices? If He asked you to wear something very skimpy or slut like to someplace simple like the grocery store, could you do this without hesitation? But at anytime, should He decide that He wants you to wear something else, you are to change immediately. He will exercise this right a lot. You will learn to always ask Him what He would like you to wear if you are going anywhere. Are you prepared to change your hairstyle, length, or color to please your Master? All of these will belong to Him once you accept your collar as will everything else that once belonged to you. You will no longer own anything. From the time you take His collar, everything will be His. It will no longer be "your" car or "your" clothes, but "His", on loan to you as He sees fit. If He should so choose, you will not be permitted to wear clothes at all. This will be His choice, not yours. Remember, you will have given up all rights to make these choices for yourself. You have a favorite chair, or a certain way you like to sit or walk? Your Master will decide whether you sit on furniture or on the floor. He will have the say if you are to cross your legs, or sit with them spread wide-open as so your labia open from them being stretched open that wide. You will have to ask permission to be in his bed, or sit on a chair. Most slaves are allowed a towel on the floor that they do not need permission to sit on, but very little else. You will even need permission to eat. It's been a long hard day at work (if you are allowed to work). You get home and want nothing more than to relax in a tub and go to bed early. Well, you won't be able to. Being tired, ill, or just in a bad mood does not excuse you from your required tasks. You are still required to do them! You will have to prepare His meal, and go to bed when He tells you to. Retiring for bed will be when he is ready or puts you to bed or in your cage or area where he beds you like in the kitchen, even if you are not ready to go. There will not be an "I am too tired" or "I don't feel well" nothing of the kind. Unless your Master has excused you from your tasks and chores, you will remain responsible for making sure His needs and wants are filled, no matter what. It is your job to inform your Master of your physical health status. One of your main jobs will be to take care of and protect, His possessions. You being are the most prized one He owns. As long as you let your Master know how you are feeling, He will make sure that your tasks will be to your abilities. Many come into this lifestyle thinking they are to be used sexually, to service their Master at His whim. They never consider other aspects. The main part of being a slave is to be of service to your Master, and not to be serviced for yourself. However, being readily available to Him at all times is also an unspoken expectation. The old excuse "not tonight dear, I have a headache" doesn't work in a Master/slave relationship. Never make your Master feel this is a chore to you, something you would rather not do, but will only because you have to. If your Master tells you to do something, it will not be up to you to question Him. You will be required to respond with no questions asked. At a later time (if this is permitted in your relationship), you may ask Him for permission to speak on an equal level or just openly. If He gives permission, this will be your opportunity to ask your questions. However, it is important to ask in a way so as not to question His authority, but at the same time to satisfy your curiosity. Do you feel being a slave is to be coerced, forced into servitude? Do you think you couldn't do this unless you were? Then think again. Slaves enter into this relationship of their own free will. This is not the day of forced slavery; it is a matter of choice. Yours! You are the one who will decide to give over your power to your Master. You will be doing this, not because you are forced to obey, but because you need to. Yes, during the course of your relationship there will be times you will be forced to do something, but it will never be something that goes against who you are. Your Master may feel obeying this command will help you to grow into the best person you can be, or will help you break out of an inhibition you have. How is your temper? Are you quick to fly off-of-the-handle when you are upset? Or are you laid back, accepting anything and everything, and then go off to sulk because your feelings were hurt? A Master does not wish to have a doormat for a slave nor does He desire to be told how things should be. Learning when and how to say things will become very important in your relationship (there will or should be times set up for open review of what you have gone through during your servitude to him). If you do not tell your Master when something is bothering you, then you have no right whatsoever to become upset. However wonderful and omnipotent He may seem, He is not a mind reader, unless you tell Him, He won't know. The key is in how you tell Him. Your self-discipline is very important in this relationship. Do you tend to put things off until the last possible moment? You won't be able to do this when you are owned. You will be given affirmations to enforce what you are and what you have been in the past and what got you to the point of being a slave. There will be chores and tasks your Master will assign that He expects to be done in a timely fashion set by Him, not by you. Your Master's wants and needs will be put before your own. Self-discipline is similar to self-control. Your ability to follow complete assignments made by your Master will be very important. As a slave, you will need to be able to control your own actions well enough to be able to remain within the boundaries set for you by Him. If He says you can't do something, simply, you can't. Doing it anyway, and not telling Him doesn't make it right and when found out will get you punished. In the case of a Master/slave relationship, what you don't know can hurt you, as well as the relationship you have worked so hard to build. Even a simple "white lie" can destroy the trust so necessary to really establish this type relationship. As to wants and needs of your own, do you know the difference between the two? If not, I strongly recommend you figure them out before entering into servitude. Sometimes the two are hard to distinguish, but it will become important that you do so. Your Master will ensure all your "needs" are taken care of, but the "wants" will be His to allow or not, as He sees fit (make sure that what you think are needs are what Master agrees are when starting as his idea of your needs may differ). Needs are the necessities of life that are required in order for you to remain mentally and physically functional. If you can survive without something, then it is a want. Wants are usually given as a reward for good behavior. In order to be a slave, there will be many things you have to learn to accept within yourself and adapt to. Your primary purpose in life will be to see to your Masters pleasure (both mentally and physically) in any manner He should desire. In order to do this, you will have to learn your Master well. Find out what pleases and displeases Him. By this, I do not mean just sexually. You will learn that sex is but a small part of your relationship. Learn to anticipate His every need and desire without being pushy. His needs and desires will encompass intellectual stimulation, physical pleasure, emotional support, and many other things unique to Him. Remember - physical does not equal sexual. Physical pleasure may include, but is not limited to, touch, favorite foods, textures, clothing, and colors as examples. It will be your job to make sure His physical pleasures are met in every way. Think of the five senses, and make His environment pleasing to all of them. Never forget - the most pleasing thing in His environment should be you. As His slave, it will be up to you to figure out what pleases your Master. He should not have to ask constantly for the basic things - you should have learned them. If His glass is empty, quietly and unobtrusively refill it. When he walks into the house his clothing is remover for him by you and put away neatly! Remember, you are doing this for His pleasure not your own. Just because He does not notice and praise you doesn't mean you are doing it wrong. Look at His smile. Is He comfortable? If He looks happy and content, then you have done your well, and should bask in His content. Always remember that you do this for Him and not for your own satisfaction. Your happiness should come from serving Him and His being happy. As I said my goal is to try and give you a clue about when you enter this lifestyle, you do so with your eyes wide open, knowing some of what to expect. The road will not be an easy one. You will have to re-learn much of what you once took for granted, things you just did without thinking, like simply sitting in a chair. These are habits you never even think about anymore. That is, until you find a Master. Everything else you read before is probably true in one form or another and within the structure of the relationship that the people writing it believe in. Being a slave can be a wonderful life, one where you are taken care of. Most decisions are out of your hands and in those of your Masters. But, many choices will still be left up to you. Most Masters want a slave who is smart, have a sense of humor, and some will of their own. There is no pleasure in owning a doormat who just sits or is only walked upon. He will become bored very fast. Being yourself is the best advice I can give. You will find being a slave everything you dreamed of and so much more if you enter this life knowing more of what to expect. If you are meant to be in the lifestyle, you will find that what you did before and the relationship you had where just plain wrong and unsatisfactory. Parts of you that never were complete will then become whole. In relinquishing control, you will find freedom, freedom to find and be the person you are inside. I hope that you will be able to make a more informed choice about entering this lifestyle after taking this information under wing and using it. Never forget that, one of the most important requirements for existing in this lifestyle is honesty. Be honest with yourself first. However, you will find that this is not as easy as it sounds. Once you learn to do this, you will find yourself at peace and able to enter your servitude with clearer mind, knowing where you are and where you want to be. When you accept your Masters collar, you give up all your rights. Your friends, your life - nothing will remain yours. Nothing will be the same! Being a slave means giving up so much more than you would if you were only being submissive. You give up all rights in your life. Slave isn't just a word; it's a way of life, a defined action. Becoming a slave also mean you are a lot more then you used to be and have a purpose in someone’s life. You will become the focal point in a Masters life!