UPDATE!!!!!!!!!!

A short while ago, I got the BEST email from a gentleman who was from this site. He read my journal. and emailed me. He began asking me honest and thoughtful questions about my stance as a financial Domme. I told him my reasons, and I added that if the RIGHT male comes along and he finds my inner core wonderfully. I might consider making him my long-time or a possible lifetime partner. We talked for a long time. In the end, he said, "You do what you have to do. If it wasn't for the society, I would have done the same but I'm a male.  Go and do it!" In the end, we made plans to meet and I have this feeling it may work out. I told him that I have a bit of fear because I jumped in a frying pan feet first before and came out feeling different. So.. we'll wait and see!!

In the meantime, read this!!!!

 I'm considered a financial Domme, I kept getting assholes, and cheap wanna be's. I ventured out and found other sites that offered better people. I prospered and became friends with many of my male subs who were respectful and.. *gasp* honest!!!

I don't know why you men and women have to be such prudes, seriously, when it comes to working with financial dommes. Have you ever heard of asking questions to learn what a financial domme would do for you? Nooooooo...you'd rather skim the profile and ask stupid questions then you get mad when you find out that I DO FUCKING ask for tribute. I made that clear on my profile. *sighing*

I made nice friends from here but like the old adage says.. "friends come and go" and that's exactly what happened. I don't hear from them nor do I speak to them. Why bother? It was nice in the beginning  to get all these people liking my profile, but the light burns out faster.

Oh yea, there is body discrimination, sex discrimination, and scams rampant in here. The intelligent ones are harder to find in here. All I want and asked for is ONE INTELLIGENT male sub who can think outside the box and make me happy but...that hasn't happened.

Ok, I'm a big woman. I have a big belly. I know my pussy is tight just because my OB-GYN says so. I know I can now push a slightly bigger than average dildo up my ass without wincing. I know I can dominate the shit out of a male sub. I've had my fun with other male subs from other sites. OH yea.. let's just say that I'm having fun. What about you? OH right.. I'm a financial Domme. I must be one of the bitches you loathe. I must be one of the bitches you want to lynch and call me names. *sighing again*

Do me a favor? Get serious about BDSM. It's not for everyone. It's certainly not for you if you just come in here, pose an offer and then giggle like a little boy watching a Domme tell you the things she will do to you.. and get upset when you tell her.. "Oh, I was just looking. Not interested in all that!" Guess what? You're screwed if you ever met a Domme that is an expert internet hacker. Hee hee hee...

Now, bend over and let me fuck you in the ass until you can't take it anymore! What? I can't hear you. Oh, right, did I tell you I'm deaf? Oops.. Want me to take the gag ball out of your mouth so you can curse at me? Nah.. I like my pretty boys to be gagged.

I'm outta here. I'm gonna go lay in my bed all naked, and giggle at the thought of running several men up and down in high heels, daisy dukes, and no shirt on a muddy hill while it's raining. I'm standing there with my 10ft. bullwhip. Wheeeeee....

Till then..

A Mistress's Call for Naughty Elves

I was walking down a lonely street, in the wee morning before dawn when I spied an elf crying on the curb. I walked up to him, and asked him why he was crying. This he said to me,
"I'm crying because I lost my Mistress. I miss her whips, I miss her commands! I miss kissing her feet!"
I smiled and said, "Sweet elf, I'm a Mistress. I have whips. I can command you to do things I want. You may kiss my feet!"
The elf broke into the most naughtiest grin, and said, "Oh, Mistress, won't you put on the leash and guide me home?" That, was the beginning of Dominatrix/sub relationship.
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Now I'm looking for more elves who are naughty, loves to explore kinky side, and is happy just following Mistress's commands and her desires. He must be as white as snow. He must be able to pay me in cookies (chocolate chip cookies) and more!.
Are YOU that elf? Are YOU looking for some true, real, amazing fun!?
Oh yea, send a funny picture and sexy picture of you!
Want to be naughty with me? Come tell me your deepest, darkest fantasies! I'm the Mistress of your dreams!

Better Subs Out There...

Ya know something? I've been on Collarme.com for a long time. I remember my FIRST male switch from this site. He was awesome except for the fact he couldn't make up his mind if he wanted to be loyal to me as a sub or to his wife. He was more worried about the ramifications if his wife found out. It wasn't my problem. He came to me. He found me. Anyways, I digress. He's on his own life and mine.

I have chatted with quite few men and women from this site for quite a while. Some I made great friends with, and some I wonder what hole did they crawl out of! I became a pro-domme at the encouragement of my three most loyal and closest submissive males because I was being overwhelmed a bit by men who sought me out as a Mistress that didn't ask for tribute. They all said, "why give your body for free when they have the money to pay for gas to drive at great distances to see you!?"  They were right. Some went book lavish hotel rooms for him and I, and I never got paid. I didn't ask back then. I did it because I loved being a Domme, and oh yea, the sex too. Some men came and brought me dozens of roses which had to be expensive! I didn't ask for that. Respect is earned, not forcibly earned! Hence, I became a pro-domme.

Now I know that there is no love for pro-dommes from here. I can't blame you for that. I can't blame you for being suckered by other Dommes. I can't blame you for being angry with them. I can't blame you for calling it a"glorified prostitue". I can't blame you for wanting to tell me "fuck off" but I do reserve the right to tell you to fuck off if you cannot be polite, considerate, and be a gentleman to tell me that you are not interested. It's one thing to be rude to me, but to be rude just because you group me to  be one of the pro-dommes is fucking wrong! Do you fucking know me? Is there a memo about me somewhere in the internet? Is there something that I don't fucking know?! Hmmm.. yea, that's right. You blame me for something that happened to you from another Domme, not me.

With that being said, I decided to take a break from here, and used another site to see if I can get better luck in finding male subs from my location. By golly, I did! Many of the men were respectful, considerate, humble, and very very understanding of my tribute! It's a stark difference! It's amazing how a site can really differ in how a person respond to your ad! I soon found myself receiving tributes AND respect unlike here. Hell, I even paid one sub male to come and please me because I was extremely horny. He was surprised. I said.. its time that male subs ask to be paid. I paid him really good. (Before you ask me - the male sub was local! I only pay local subs!!!)

You see.. there is hope out there. There are better and smarter people out there than it is in here. I'm sorry. Collarme is great, and will always have scammers, frauds, assholes, jerks but I still have my heart into this site. It led me to open up new worlds, and more.

My point? Learn to shut the fuck up, and be patience. I did. I saw. I came.

My words. My thoughts. Me.

Brain @work:

From time to time, I will pose questions that bothers me, annoys me, and irks me to no end.

I hope that I will be able to get answers from all of you on this site!

I am often told that fin-dommes or pro-dommes are the most hated  bunches of people. I  know.. I am one and I don't get respect. That's okay. My question is: Why group all of them together in one category when you haven't spoken to each one of them?

I can tell you, I'm NOT going to ask you to sign up for a website. I'm NOT going to charge you incredulous fees for short amount of time! I'm NOT going to make you turn your bank account over to me. Sheeshus!!!! You know.. it's not just the dommes that take the bad rap, its the subs too that are stupid, lazy, incoherent, and don't have anything to offer.

A very good example here: Today, I had gotten an email from a sub who lives in Florida. Good looking guy. He wanted to be humiliated and be spanked, ass play and more. Ok. I asked him if he read my profile 100% before contacting me? He goes, "Why?" (seriously?!) I replied, "Well, sir; if you read my profile, it does state that a tribute is necessary to have a session with me!" The guy explodes and starts writing nasty emails to me and shit. I'm laughing.. really. Do you know why?
In his profile, he states that he's ventured into this site, and it was his first time. (Ha. ha.) He has never experienced being a sub, and "thinks" he's a submissive by nature. (You're either a sub, or not.) Here's the most funniest part.. are you ready?! You ready? He says.. "I am willing to pay tribute to any Dommes!" (rolling on floor laughing)

Ok, you get the gist. You understand why I have no respect for subs or slaves to try to turn the tables on fin-dommes or pro-dommes by telling them to fuck off or to leave them alone. You don't know shit. You don't group them together. You don't do that. That's like grouping all Muslims together just because of what they did to us during 9/11! NOT ALL Muslims are bad!!!

If you come across my profile, you better READ! I will ask if you have read my profile 100% out of courtesy. If you haven't, do so please. Don't be lazy, or stupid.

Thanks!

My Most Loyal Dog

Ooohhh, after a hard day of labor, whipping and spanking my little boys of many…

I want to lay my weary body down, and gaze out the window, just to look at the stars and the silver moon up on high…

I gaze upon my many whips and floggers of sizes, and ponder who the greatest slave of them all…is

I have sat on the backs of my men, forcing them to carry my weight for miles and miles…

I have showered them with my cum juice, making them drink my sweet sweet nectar…

I have driven my cock into their tight asses, and hear them cry out my name…

Hark! Hark! My boys have come from afar, seeking the Mistress of their dreams…

I have sat on many faces of the young and the old... feeling their tongue deep inside of me…

I have pondered what next game I shall play with my men…

Tonight, as I laid my weary body down after a long hard day of dominating my men…

My window opened and in flew in the greatest slave of them all...

His skin was white as snow on top of Mt. Everest…

His hair was the color of gold like the wheat fields of Montana…

His eyes was as blue as the skies over Mt. Kilimanjaro

His voice! My god- the sound of thousand harmonies in Heaven...

He said to me, “My Mistress, I bow to you and let me do everything you want in pleasure!”

Oh, how I crooned! How I smiled my most wicked smile! How my heart stopped beating!

He knelt before me and began to use his majestic beautiful tongue between my legs...

How I came! How I squirted! How I gushed! How I cried, my god, you’re the most loyal dog!”

NO matter how many times I pulled his hair, he still smiled and kept on going…

NO mater how many times I flogged his white ass, he still smiled and kept on going….

NO matter how many times I called him every name in the book, he still smiled and kept on going…

NO matter how many times I became sadistic, he still smiled and kept on going…

My most loyal dog!

I have laid my weary body down after a long hard day of labor, and in flew my most loyal dog! The greatest slave of them all!

Together... together….we will fly toward to Heaven for all to see!

Are you... my most loyal dog??

~Written by Mistress Coldfire (2013)

Hunting Slaves

I had a nice thought...gather all the Mistress' together for a hunting party.

Gather all the slaves , and line them up for inspection by Mistresses. Make sure they are primed, and ready for a good run in the woods. Make sure their daisy dukes are on nice and tight. Make sure the too-small panties are small enough to ride up their asses when they run. Make sure they wear 1/2 spaghetti tank tops. Oh yea, can't forget to make sure they are wearing high heels.

Oh, how much fun it would be for them to run at the sound of a gun, through  mire and muck, through wet grasses, and thistles!

We, the Mistress, the hunters have given them 5 minutes head start, laughing at their falling down, their cries, and watching them stop every 10 seconds to pull their dukes and underwear down.

We, the Mistresses as hunters go after them with our paintball guns. We know that it does not matter who's slave gets hit, we take them back to our starting point. The slave is mine if he is hit by my paintball.

Oh, the cries, the yelps, the long sighs as the slaves are hit one by one. The cheers, the whoops as we begin to gather our fallen, dirty, and smelly slaves. We bring them to a trail where a long harness lies on the road. We begin to shackle, don the harnesses on the slaves as if they are preparing to go to prison in the old days. We haul them, laughing as they trip over each other, in their high heels, and some are missing shoes, or one of them. We laugh as they hobble toward a barn where they will be in for a shock.

Yes, onward to the barn! The slaves are chained to posts, with their arms raised high, their legs spread apart. They are forcefully hosed down in cold, frigid water. We laugh as they shiver and moan in exhaustion, and in pain from the running, the paintball splats, and the tight underwear chaffing their asses raw.

We bring them inside the barn, and we smile big as they see HUGE black men with HUGE cocks. The Men are horny, eager, and have been ready for a long time.

We smile knowing that we will enjoy our wines, cheese, and great food as we release the slaves into the pen full of The Men. We hear their cries, begging, and yelps as they are being ravaged by The Men. We laugh, share stories, and go  over to the pen to watch big  black cocks ravage each slave's asses, ripping them apart, fucking them hard, and cumming all over them, and inside of them. We smile as we watch slaves being fucked in the face with a big cock ramming down their throats. We snicker as we watch a big black cock spew all over a slave's face.

The slaves have become cum dump for The Men. It is over. We bring the slaves back to the posts to be washed down again by cold water. We chain them in to their stalls, give them fresh bowl of water, and food. We tell them that they did a good job, and tomorrow will be a new day for them.

We leave them in the barn, allowing them a brief respite until the next game...

It is still a nice thought... I want to do this! Yea!

Subs and Slaves CAN BE FAKERS too!!!

Recently, a male slave contacted me wanting me to be his Mistress. As usual, I did the pre-screening to make sure he's not someone else pretending to be a stupid, ignorant, and swarmy asshole. I've had my share of liars, scammers and fakers.  I've had people call me a fake, a liar, and a scammer all because I'm a fin domme.

Here's what the slave did to make me want to beat the crap out of him:

Slave: I'm willing to relocate to where you live if you'll have me.

Me: Nah, I just got to know you. It's been what, 5 minutes and already you want to relocate to where I live?? Ha.

Slave: I'm serious. I need to relocate. I am in construction field. I'm in command of few workers, and I work with clients.

Me: Ahh, an alpha in an alpha work world but a slave. Interesting so, what about it?

Slave: If you let me relocate, I need you to set up a bank account, so that I can tell Finance House to deposit funds in your account.

Me: pray tell, what is Finance House? do you have a direct link to that?

Slave: I only work in construction so I don't have access to their website?

(beep beep red flags started going up allll over my head!)

Me: What - you work in construction, and don't know their link or email address? I find that odd. No, I will not set up bank account for you nor for anyone.

Slave: I thought we discussed this. I am relocating to Rochester, NY and need your help. I need storage, housing, and maybe hotel so I can move all my stuff to my new place.

(At this point, he was trying to put words in my mouth by claiming that we had discussed things. Hoping I won't remember anything.)

Me: ARe you fucking kidding me? It's funny. You seem to think I will forget what we discussed. By the way, I researched "Finance House".  It is not American-based. It is owned by some company in Arab Emirate.

slave: You're making me feel like you're doubting me!

Me: Well, duh! Anyone who asks that I set up a bank account for them is more likely a scammer. What - did you think that because I'm deaf I was going to fall for that trick? Did you think that all deaf people are stupid, dumb?  Ha, people like you send nasty and cruel emails calling them fakers when YOU are the one that's being  fake! FUCK YOU! You're a fake. Asshole!

(At this point, I blocked him, and did more research on the "Finance House" thingy for my own benefit to warn others.)

So, you want to call me a fake. Go ahead. You want to call me a liar? Go ahead. Be very careful. I may be deaf but not DUMB! You can be a male slave or a submissive and still be a faker, liar, and stupid. Don't kid yourself. If you feel the need to be calling others fakers when you can be one yourself, get out of collarme.com and go find a tiny asshole to crawl inside!

Hello!!

Today I had an very interesting experience that transcended into something beautiful and different! I was contacted by a sweet gentleman here on this site who wanted to be my sub. You know that there are some subs who are whiny, stupid, and boring. This one was not! He asked to view me on webcam which was understandably reasonable because of so many scammers and fakes. I happily agreed which was ironically funny because prior to that, I was struggling to post a video on this site. I still haven't and couldn't yet! (growling)

After he viewed me, and was met with content that I wasn't a fake ass male trying to scam him for his cock! I know I have tits and pussy! (laughing) He asked if I would own him. I have had experience of owning subs but what made the whole experience different was he was essentially handing me most of his personal part of himself, for example - passwords to sites that he frequently visits, and then he guided me to a website that I had not heard before. The Slave Register (TSR). If you have not heard of that before, I encourage you to check it out at www.theslaveregister.com

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Once I entered there, I began to register for him, and was given a slave number. My sub is now my property with slave number! It was amazing because as a black Domme - the roles have reversed! I AM a owner of a white male sub! I also began using teamviewer in which I was able to see what he was doing on his computer. Understand this: I do not plan on using this to snoop in his personal life 100%. What he has is his own!

My reason for adding this is because it wasn't all that bad in itself. Second, I am proud of owning a white male slave that has a number. I plan on having him tattooed with the bar code. Hell, he even has a certificate that tells everyone he is owned by me. I plan on framing it with pride.

If you are registered with TSR - my slave's # is 452-775-522 or you can check him out in my blog - www.mistressx44.blogspot.com

 and click on "My Pets".

Now, I'm going to write up a "laundry list" of what I shall do to him! Yesssss, the fun begins. Now.

Jealousy? Malicious? Stupidity? Ignorance??

Hello Everyone,

I recently recieved an email from collarme.com that they had to remove a primary picture of my infamous strap-on dildo which every one here loved!

I am very angry because it was one of the best pictures I have had in  my picture gallery. I'm proud of wearing it because I LOVE using it with my subs  and other poor males.

I am guessing that a jealous female dominant, or a switch did not like the picture and decided that I had to go.

I am guessing that maybe a person who I blocked for his stupidity and ignorance decided to report me out of anger.

I am guessing that maybe there are some bitter, angry, and depressed male out there that feels the need to report my picture out of anger.

I am guessing that perhaps someone out there just likes to ruin everybody's fun here on collarme.com.

It shows stupidity, jealousy, and yea, how shallow that person is. Whoever you are, did you get a sexual high from doing that?
I will never understand the mentality of some certain people here, especially the fakers, scammers, and the regressives who seek to destroy others. I've had the honor of meeting WONDERFUL, FUNNY, SEXUAL, BRAVE, and WILLING people on this site.
Do me a favor, if you feel the need to be mean, stupid, and jealous - leave me alone. Go vent it out somewhere else, not here. Sheeshus!!!

Acts of Honesty and Acceptance

From time to time, I will be updating this exceptional journal by giving respect and a shout out to those who actually followed through with the rules, and are the ones that I would be happy to work with in delight.

Your name can be on the list.. and usually that means more attention from other Dommes or Masters. If you are on the list that means you did something that made me proud, and you are a worthy person to be used, to be degraded, to be abused in the most sexual way possible.

Shout outs to:

1. Jake2424
   

Comedy on Collarme.com

Not too long ago while browsing through the photos here on this site, I got couple of strange but funny emails from people. From time to time, I like to just browse through pictures, and see beautiful people, normal people, strange pictures, or even funny pictures. I'm not looking for anyone at that time. Below are some of the strangest emails I've gotten: 

This one was from a female lesbian slave:

"Wow you are some piece of work! and so tall!"

I replied back: "Thanks for your compliments, and yes, so tall!"

"Ummm..I was trying to insult you but guess it didn't work. Bye!"

Moral: If you are going to insult me, do it with class. Yes, I'm some piece of work, and I'm fookin' proud of it.

This one from a guy named SocialDee:

"You fucking cunt. Your profile reads like the ghetto. Go back to the ghetto! You probably smoke crack have children on welfare and fuck cause we are cheaper You get profile from craigslist and now you're sucking mans cock you fucking cunt. stupid whore needs to go back to Africa and get aids and die. fucking whore!"

I replied back: "Dang, all that anger is not doing you any good. I'm concerned if you know what a ghetto is? If not, please look that word up and get back to me. Thanks!"

He replied back with torrents of swearing and more insults.

Moral of the story: Before you swear, make sure you understand what certain words means like ghetto. Make sure your sentences ends with a period. Make sure you spell some words right.

This one is from a male slave:

Hi, Im a bad boi. I can't fuck good. My penis is small. I need to be spanked. I need you to tell me I'm a bad boi. Please. Let my ass be whipped by the Goddess. You are an Amazon. I think you are descendants of the great Amazon warriors! I'm a very bad boi. I'm a bad boi that needs to be punished. I'm a bad boi that don't know how to shut up. Please."

I replied back: "Awwww, yea, you need to be spanked badly. How many times do you have to tell me you're a bad boi, really? Is there a strong aversion to using the letter "y"??"

Moral of the story: If you have to repeatedly tell me that you're a bad boi - chances are you are haven't been picked up by other Dommes, and using the letter "i" does not make you look smart, it only makes you look dumb.

Well, that's all, folks! If I get strange, funny, or cruel emails, I shall share them with you! In the meantime, keep having sex - it's good for the soul!

Reading My Profile

    Lately, I've been getting emails from subs, slaves, switches and more and very often they ask me if I'm interested in being their Mistress. Of course, I'm honored to be yours because you are asking me, and from there I assume that you read my profile. Apparently, some of you don't! I'm going to explain a couple of things so that you will understand my profile a bit better.

1. Yes, I do ask for tributes. I don't really need to justify myself in why I ask for tributes. I do NOT ask you to sign up to a website where you hae to pay to be a member of. I do NOT ask that you pay silly high fees just to be my sub or slave or a switch. I do NOT seek to exort money from you in a cruel and malicious way. If anything, my tributes are reasonably fair and low. Here's a concept that will help you understand tributes a bit better. When you make the most beautiful, stunning and elaborately designed dildo that's there's none like it in the world. Someone comes in your shop, and gazes upon your dildo with awe. You turn your back for one moment, and suddenly the dildo is gone. The person stole it and has vanished into thin air! All your hard work, all your education in learning how to craft something like this, your money, your valuable time gone down the drain. You won't ever be able to make something so perfect like that again.
   Therefore, the concept is like my time as a Mistress with you. My time is valuable, and I want to make sure that YOU get the best sessions with me. I want to make sure that YOU are being paid attention to, and every detail that I do with you is of perfection. I have offered myself Tributes are for my time, and YOUR time together. I don't like having to ask you if you have read my profile 100%. Please READ before considering me.
   
2. I love it when you view my profile! I love it when you comment on my pictures, or anything. It means that you are actually taking the time to read it. However, I do take offense when someone emails me and then a while later,  emails me with this "Well? Are you there?" or "How come you are not responding?" GRRRRR!!! I am NOT always on my laptop 24/7. I do have a life other than being a Mistress. I may be busy with other things and I will respond within a reasonable time frame of 1 - 2 hours. Be patience. Grow some balls, some of you!
3. Lately, I have been getting emails from men who make plans with me to do a session or more - and you are no-show. This pisses me off because it wastes my time, and I could be doing other things than to wait for you. From this point on, I will NOW REQUIRE AN APPOINTMENT FEE OF $50 MADE PAYABLE TO MY PAYPAL ACCOUNT!! You must have a paypal account. If you don't have one, create one. It's not that hard!! The appointment fee tells me you are serious and really want to meet me and you are not interested in wasting time like I am not interested in doing the same. Also, all appointment fees are non-refundable and non-negotitable!!!!! Think about this before making plans with me!!!!
   

I hope this helps a bit. I will add more eventually once I get odd or strange requests from others. If you have any questions about the tributing thing, please feel free to contact me. It doesn't hurt to ask. I don't bite. let me help you but you have to help me too.

thank you kindly as always!

Sugar Daddies???!!!

Not too long ago, while browsing this site for just fun. From time to time, I do enjoy looking at pictures. I got an email. It turned out to be one interesting email volleys I've had in my entire time I've been on collarme. The email started out like this:
Guy: You need a sugar daddy? Be my Mistress ltr!

Me: Huh? I think no where in my profile did I state that I needed a sugar daddy. Tribute yes. Big difference!

Guy: I know. I'm asking if you are interested in a sugar daddy?

Me: Aren't you supposed to be on SugarDaddy.com site, not in here?

Guy: No. All women there don't know how to be kinky or do shit like you would.

Me: Thanks for the compliment but, I'm pretty sure if you look hard enough, you'd find someone kinky.
Guy: hell no. stupid women are on that site. You're smart. I see that in your profile. Come on be my mistress.

Me: Again, thank you but what does that entail? Details, please? Don't waste my time.

Guy: Simple. Be my mistress in long term relationship, I pay you high tribute each time we get together.

Me: Every guy says that. I'm pretty sure that's a new slick line.
Guy: No. See picture?
Me: *I see a pic of him standing on a boat, holding a wine glass* How do I know that's real, not fake. Too  many fakes on here.
Guy: see other pic.

Me: *Sees pic of him in nude, model like with paper with his name, date, and collarme*
Guy: Like it?
Me: Umm.. errr.. ok you're real! So, a mistress of yours for as long as you want me, and I get high tributes. What's the catch?

Guy: Only catch is, you don't ever lose weight. You maintain the same weight as you are now. You maintain contact with me every Saturday. You  must wear bikink, and don't care if you're big.
Me: Can I get back to you on the bikini thing? I am TRYING to lose weight. I don't want to be the same weight!

The whole convo went on and on before we finally decided on a date to meet in public and to see if we mesh. One of his final request was.. can I be all ghetto like and talk as if I'm from ghetto? HUH??? Hell no. I'm college educated, have worldly experience, and I don't even like hanging out with women who are very ghetto-like. Yea, seriously - I'm going to have to think long and hard over this.
Your thoughts?

Mannerisms DO Count!!!

For about a week and half, I had been talking with this guy. We agreed on a time and place to meet and we'd go from there. I showed up about 15 minutes early at the place. I wanted to give myself some time to relax a bit before meeting this guy. We were to meet at 5pm.
It's 5pm. He doesn't show. I'm thinking maybe he's running a bit late. 10 minutes, he doesn't show. I waited nearly 20 minutes before declaring he was a no show. I am fuming. I went back home disappointed and angry. I'm at the place with my red backpack that has everything in it. I turned on my computer, and checked my email. Lo and behold, he sent me an email at 4:45pm, saying he couldn't make it!!!!  Seriously??? I showed up on time, and the worst part was I actually made good on  my promise to show up, and he didn't. I don't fool around when it comes to people paying tributes to me!!!!
So, this made me realize that there needs to be set of rules explained here if you want to meet me, or do things with me.

RULES:

1. You must confirm with me via email or yahoo messenger THE NIGHT/DAY before the meet. You are  not to confirm hours before the meet. I will send a confirmation email to you.
2. If I do not hear from you within 24 hours, I will assume that you will be a no-show for sure the next day. I will not show up at the place of meet. 
3. All tributes are non-refundable IF you paid by PayPal if you do not show up and meet me at the destinated place. There will be $10 fee for any cancellations that were made after 24 hours confirmation email. This means, if you postpone our meet to another date, and was planning on give me a tribute of $100, then expect to pay $10 more. 
4. ALL TRIBUTES MUST BE PAID UPFRONT PRIOR TO ANY ACTIONS OR PLAY!!!
   
5. I am willing to accept  cancellations under consideration such as
   

• Mother Nature's bi-polarism (flooding, snowstorm, tornado, or any other environmental diasters)
  
• Family emergencies (don't abuse this because I take family emergenices seriously, and you can bet your sweet ass I will inquire about it.)
  
• Blackouts - this will definitely impact the wifi/internet abilities, in which means communication will be out so I'm quite mindful of this.
  
• Accidents - car accidents - cancel. Accidents that land you in the hospital - cancel. Accidents that require major and serious attention - cancel. Minor accidents like having a hand cramp from jerking off too much is not considered an accident!!!

 5. If you are coming from another state to meet me, I will require some proof of validity that you ARE indeed coming to Rochester, NY. There are 3 things you need to do for me:

• You need to verify yourself via webcam.
  
• You need to at least send me small amount like $5.00 via Paypal or certified mail (money order or a legal bank check)  to show that you are serious about coming to see me.
  
• If you make a reservation at a hotel, I need the reservation number, the hotel, and the room number so I can verify that you made the reservation.
  

I know this sounds like a lot but I've had men make plans and then never show up, or pay tribute to me. All of this is hard lessons that I've learned over time. Trust me, I pay huge attention to details, and YOU. You don't want a cheap time with me. I want to make sure that you're having a good time with me. Hence, the rules are important for you and safer for me.

Thanks!

Is a Relationship between a Pro-Domme and a Sub/slave real?

    Recently, I was chatting with a sub male here about the concept of a sub paying a financial sub. He said something that made me think long and hard. He said, "A finanical or pro domme do not care  about their subs or slaves. All they care about is getting money out of poor saps!"

     He was right about that. There are financial or pro-dommes who charge subs/slaves/switches fees for their services. I could not argue with him on that. However I explained that there are well-known financial Dommes who have developed a long, and meaningful relationships with their clients. I explained that when I was living in Donacaster, England many years ago, in which was where I first learned the concept of being a Dominatrix/Mistress. I met this beautiful, graceful and intelligent Domme named Mistress Hallie. She was in her late 50's at that time. She has seen everything, taught everything, and was my long-time mentor. She took me under her wing, not minding that I was deaf. I would watch her interact with her clients. I would watch her comfort men and women of all ages. They came to pay respects to her. Some men would come in, have a nice cup of hot tea, just to talk about politics, an other things. After a while, without knowing, they would leave tributes on the table. Its little things that mattered to her. It was never about money. It was about being there for men and women - to provide release for sexual needs.

     There were other financial or pro-dommes that I've met, and the big difference between  American Dommes and UK Dommes is that American Dommes are frowned upon, looked at as "glorified prostitues seeking monetary gains". In UK Dommes are looked at as a women who work every day to make a living. It's a profession that is as old as time! Sadly, the profession is a dying art. More and more women are being forced to work for less, and that often brings danger, diseases, or unwanted pregnancies.

     If American Dommes are accepted easily without disdain, contempt, or with hatred, then it would become a noble profession! There is a reason why in some countries such as Swedem, Amsterdam, Italy, and even Spain's "red light district" have become so popular and is gaining fast because sexuality and sensuality matters.

    When I say sensuality - I'm talking about being able to talk about your life, your problems, the need to be on a shoulder, to be comforted by a Mistress or a Domme rather than engaging in sex. THAT's professionalism! Sex is a major part of the whole thing, yes, but is it necessary? NO! I've had several subs who come to my home, plop down on my couch while I do my homework. (Yes, I'm a college student at age 39! I'm studying Psychology!) I've had subs who come to my home to talk about thier problems, discuss solutions and they leave happily. Yes, they do leave tributes but without me knowing, and sometimes it is NOT monetary!!! I will admit that a little money does goes a long way.

    I chose this profession because I do enjoy playing. I do enjoy what I do to my subs, slaves. I love the idea of power exchange. I love the idea that a man will worship my body out of his heart. I don't believe in taking the heart, and trampling all over it just to make money. I believe that being a Mistress or a Domme is a gift, a skill.

   I may be a financial Domme/Mistress but I don't go around and laughing like a bitch, yelling "Get on your fucking knees, and start kissing my feet, you stupid cow!" while whipping your ass just to make an easy $50 a session! First, I offer cup of tea, coffee, and maybe some snacks. I make sure you are comfortable, and rested. I ask if you are ready for your session. I will ask if you can leave a tribute before we do a session (only if you are new). After that, we cool down together and if we have a bit of time, talk about what we can do for the next time, and discuss what needs improving (I believe that in order to be a good Mistress/Domme - educating is the key!). Repeated clients often leave tributes on a table without me knowing. Its respect, and dignity on both sides. THAT, my friends, is a noble profession, and the RIGHT way as should be, as it is in UK.
     If you still don't believe me, try me. You'd be surprised! :-)

Thank you!

• Recently, I've had some people contacting me, and then making plans until they hear the word "tribute". He or she backs out. It pisses me off. Why? I stated VERY VERY clearly in my profile that tributes are a MUST! It means yea, I do expect some type of tributes. If you don't like it, GET OUT OF MY PROFILE!

• I do not give out sex freely. My body is my temple. I like my body to be clean, safe, and not have to worry about diseases that YOU may have or carry. I routinely have my body checked every month.  I don't want to end up having a "baby drama" with YOU! I want to keep my body disease-free, drug-free, and baby-free. If you don't like it, GET OUT OF MY PROFILE!
  

• Yes, I listed blackmail. You have to be financially secure, and have the ability to pay me if you want blackmail to work. I recently had a jerk who strung me along. Hard lesson to be learned, but this time, I know what to do. You will now be required to make payment as a show of loyalty if you are interested in being blackmailed by me. If you don't like it, GET OUT OF MY PROFILE!

• I'm honest that I'm a Financial Domme. I know there's NO love for these type of dominatrixes. I'm well aware of it. It sucks to be one in United States of America. When I lived in England, financial dommes WERE popular! They commanded such respect. Legal brothels everywhere. Men came from afar to respect them. Here, in US - you men and women suck! You'd rather pay for a dirty, uneducated and psycho whore than an educated, sane, and clean financial Dome?? Something's wrong with this picture. If you don't like it, GET OUT OF MY PROFILE!
  

• I have a website that explains everything of what I do. You can check it out at www.mistressx44.blogspot.com! It has everything in it. You can check it out. If you don't like it, GET OUT OF MY BLOG AND  MY PROFILE!
  

• Finally, if I check you out and viewed your profile, it just simply means you are interesting. It doesn't mean anything at all. You must be interesting enough to attract my attention, to know that you ARE WILLING to pay for me to be your Mistress, and to know that you will GET THE BEST OF EVERYTHING because I do pay attention to details, your sexual needs, and your emotional needs. If you don't like it, GET OUT OF MY PROFILE!
  

Website: www.mistressx44.blogspot.com

Arrggghhhh...

Yes, in  my profile, I stated that I do blackmailing as a part of my dominatrix character. It does  NOT mean that I'm taking it lightly. I take it seriously. If you want me to blackmail you, I will do it within reasonable boundaries.

It seems that most people here assume that I'm joking around. I don't like wasting my time with idiots who assume that! I have had experience in blackmailing several subs before, and never had any problems with them. They do it with respect because I respect them and command respect from them as well.

Blackmailing is an art. It also can be an interesting sexual high for most. Blackmailing is NOT something to play around with because there are some things that could get either you or I in trouble. I make sure that YOU understand the rules. I make sure that YOU follow the rules. I make sure that YOU do what I say to prevent any complications. Most of my rules are very easy to follow and very simple.

If you cannot follow the rules, or give me the respect, then it's your problem, not mine.

Ask me any questions about being blackmailed, and I will be more than happy to answer your questions. I will be more than happy to be your blackmailer. I do it because I enjoy doing it, and to watch you squirm like a caterpillar on a willow tree.
Your move, my darling! Go on, what are you waiting for!?
Always watching...waiting...for you to mess up!