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MsLauraToYou
Female Dominant, 38,  Grayson, Kentucky US

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 MsLauraToYou

 Dominant Female

 Grayson 

 Kentucky

 5' 3"

 140 lbs

 38

 Bisexual

 Caucasian

 09/24/16

 4 minutes

Actively Seeking:

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READ JOURNAL ENTRY BEFORE CONTACTING...NO TIMEWASTERS!!!..If you do not know what a FinDom is, I suggest you Google it.  I am a FinDom/FemDomme Your wettest dream and worst nightmare rolled into one.  Tread with caution.  Follow Me on Twitter for a better idea of how My pets serve.  @mslaura54321 on Twitter




You can also contact Me on Niteflirt at  1-800-To-Flirt, ext: 11107814. 




I can honestly say that I have just as much fun being a hardcore Bitch with a whip as I do relaxing into My sensual side for a whimsical, playful humiliation scene (though that’s Mistress Bitch to you).  Why? Because My first and foremost turn on is Power. No matter how sensual or strict the scenario; and regardless of which phrases are spoken- the key to it all is learning what makes you tick, and using it to My full advantage. Having that control is what makes me tick. There’s nothing quite like having a man wrapped around My delicate little finger- even if your dick isn’t much bigger than said finger ;) 






 

St Patrick's Day is coming up. In honor of Ms Laura's heritage (and just for the simple fact that I exist lol) here is My wishlist. Laptop and camping items get you moved to the front of the line. **Updated Wish List**  Impress Me.  



Ms Laura







^^^Owner of servous78.  I expect all who wish  to play with My slave to respect protocol and message Me for permission. ^^^ 





Ms Laura will consider little female piggys is they like being abused.



You may also find Me on Fet at https://fetlife.com/groups/151486 and blogspot http://mslauratoyou.blogspot.com/



Ms Laura

Journal Entries:
9/15/2017 3:12:27 PM
The Role of the Ego

The concept of ego reduction is predicated on the use of Sigmund Freud's concept of the ego to describe the conscious adult self; and broadly describes the deflating of an over-inflated or egotistical sense of oneself- a curtailment of what Iris Murdoch called “the anxious avaricious tentacles of the self””. – wikipedia



The hallmark of the submissive ego is strategic subservience. When in this mode of thinking, people gain power not through the direct struggle for power but, instead, through subservience to those who have power. They submit to the will of others to get those (powerful) others to act in their selfish interest. This is NOT true submission. Many do not even realize they are doing this. If they had to consciously admit that they were submitting to others to have their own way, they would have trouble feeling justified. 



This not what many of us call “topping from bottom”. Just as a child is forced by pedagogic pressures to give up instinctual gratifications and make terms with the narcissistic hurt to his ego which such submission entails, so must a submissive relinquish neurotic satisfactions and overcome the narcissistic hurt to his ego that the exposure of his unconscious impulses and the breaking down of many of his mechanisms of defense involve. This is the end goal for the tasks and exercises I assign to you. 



Some submissives believe that by yielding or ‘rewarding’ access to their physical body that they are offering to the recipient of that ‘reward’ their submission. To reward access without yielding your inner (self) or ego to the voluntary acceptance of the will of another is not submission. It is to role play submission on the surface without real meaning or depth in the exchange. Such an offering is shallow and quite limited. Again this is often an action of defense based on fear of loss of control or exposure of emotional or mental vulnerability by the submissive.” – Mistress Steel



The ego believes that in your resistance lies your strength, whereas in truth resistance cuts you off from Being, the only place of true power. Resistance is weakness and fear masquerading as strength. Until there is surrender, unconscious role-playing constitutes a large part of human interaction. In surrender, you no longer need ego defenses and false masks. You become very simple, very real. “That’s dangerous,” says the ego. “You’ll get hurt. You’ll become vulnerable.” 



Submissive training, to Me, is about shaping behavior. It’s about what you can do to encourage the behaviors you want, and discourage those that you don’t. According to Cross at XCBDSM, there are three major reasons or goals for submissive training. 



  1. Submissive Skill/Behavior Development – These are things that you will teach them or train them to do that are valuable beyond the reach of your particular relationship. 
  2. Dominant’s Individual Preferences – The second purpose of training is to teach things that are specific to you as the dominant. 
  3. Personal Goals – is stuff that isn’t objectively valuable to a specific dominant or to a partner in general. These are the things that the submissive wants to learn or change and has asked for help with. It could be getting rid of a destructive bad habit or staying on track with a project that has been neglected. It could be enforcing a diet or helping them make space for a hobby that calms them. These things are often neglected but are quite possibly more important than the other two sections. These are the things that will help make the D/s dynamic valuable to the submissive as well as the dominant. To make sure that they still feel like they are getting something out of the relationship. 



For those who have received or viewed My initial 3 requirements to be considered for service, you will have seen that one of the things in the essay is to express what you desire to get out of this dynamic. 



Conditioning is a behavioral process whereby a response becomes more frequent or more predictable in a given environment as a result of reinforcement, with reinforcement typically being a stimulus or reward for a desired response. I utilize both classical and operant conditioning in the training of My submissives. 



This is not only behavior modification, it is also a journey to self-growth and awareness...for both parties involved. I have grown with each D/s relationship, as I hope My submissives feel the same.



Please feel free to message Me if you have any questions.



Ms Laura


9/15/2017 7:55:55 AM
Many men want to be humiliated, degraded, and tormented as much as possible by most any and every dominant woman they encounters.  You see them all over Twitter feeds, begging to be humiliated and abused. There is nothing wrong with that.  What I do see being a problem is Dommes forgetting that these are also human beings.  People who deserve just as much respect as anyone else.  This "need" that they have to be humiliated and degraded is not unlike any other fetish.  I have found that most are very "Alpha" in their day-to-day life, yet have this need to feed this shadow side of themselves.  

So, they come to us.  Just as with every other submissive type I deal with, when they come to Me to fill that need they have, i first get to know them.  Everybody has limits (I know we all see those ads "No limit slave! Do as you will!" but that's bullshit) everyone does, and a responsible Domme will get to know those before any play or work.  Once guidelines are established...game on!

I have been told on many occasions, that I am "sooo realistic" when humiliating and degrading.  Well, that tone in My voice you hear?  Those words coming out of My mouth?  The laughter at your acts?  It's all legit.  I truly despise weakness...in men or women.  So in that scene, or during our dynamic in that setting, I truly believe the words coming out of My mouth.  However, all of that said, underneath it all I still realize that you are a human being and deserving of respect as such.  

How can you say that, Ms Laura?  Isn't that contradictory?  No...in that dynamic or in that scene, you are being that little weak maggot that I truly can not stand.  Outside of that, you are a person who has embraced that side of themselves that many are too scared to, and that deserves My respect.  It takes strength to fully embrace one's self, and then submit their will to another.  Submission is strength, not weakness.  

Those are My thoughts while I sit here on the farm, listening to the breeze go through the trees.  

On a side note: Ms Laura has offered up several tasks for those who wish to participate.  You can find those here on My blog.  For some, no tribute is required to participate, however a tribute should be offered for the privilege of serving Ms Laura.  Ms Laura is also offering up writing tasks for those interested. https://writeforme.org Type in Ms Laura in search. Access code is MSLAURA54321

Have a wonderful day all!  Get out and enjoy some sunshine....I know I am!

Ms Laura
 

 


9/14/2017 2:55:02 PM
Ms Laura is offering up writing tasks for those interested. Type in Ms Laura in search. Access code is MSLAURA54321

9/14/2017 8:06:12 AM

The Task


I want you to think of submissive positions that you want to be fucked in, and I want you to pose and move your body accordingly like you are fucking a cock or dildo in your imagination. you will moan or say slutty words like "fuck me" "let this slave pleasure your cock" etc out loud while you are doing it.


Tips: you have to think how and in what position that can pleasure Me the most. *its not about your pleasure.


example: if you want to be fuck like a doggy, you will get on all fours, move your ass up and down or front n back like you are fucking the My strap-on.


or


imagine the guy with the cock (or gal with a dildo) is sitting on a chair, then you are to pose and move like you are fucking an "imaginary cock"


Do at least five positions and movements to get permission to cum once. each position you must do it continuously for five mins.


Now choose between two options


(option 1) to spice up the dare, you are to place a camera and video tape yourself the whole scene. if you choose this, you are to watch the replay while kneeling on the floor n playing with yourself. (no fast forward) after that, you may cum according to how many times you earn. *you may post the video somewhere for extra humiliation.


(Option 2) take pictures on each position you did, and post it somewhere on the web. write down a caption on why are you doing this (for Ms Laura) and what is this position called and what can this position do.


Wait for at least 5 comments left by other user, then you may cum. If less then 5 comments left after 24 hours. you may still cum. but you must cum kneeling down and eyes looking on your picture.


I want pics and a report of how this made you feel, what exactly you did, along with any links to mslaura54321@gmail.com


While this task does not require a tribute to do, you should show your appreciation to Me for allowing you to do so.


Ms Laura


9/14/2017 7:03:46 AM

This is the opening statement on ALL of My profiles:


"If you do not know what a FinDom is, I suggest you Google it. I am a FinDom/FemDomme Your wettest dream and worst nightmare rolled into one. Tread with caution."


What part of this is unclear? Do your research...Google if you do not understand the words...do NOT message Me with bullshit. If you are seeking a Domme to serve, then it is on YOU to research the Domme before wasting time..yours and Hers. READ profiles and journal entries CAREFULLY. Do not just skim through or look at pics. Look at any comments She has made on various threads. If a Domme states that tributes are part of a requirement for service to Her, that is exactly what it fucking means! Do not get butthurt when She states that in Her replies to you. If a Domme states that she works with submissives ONLINE, do not waste Her time with bullshit messages like "I would love to come and serve you in person". If She posts an ad stating She is seeking 2 RT service subs LOCALLY...make sure you live fucking local. if She wanted someone to move and live with Her, She would have stated that.


I am sick to fucking death of being bothered by idiots who can not take the time to actually READ. A HUGE part of service to Me is your obedience and ability to follow instructions. By not reading My profile, AND journal entries, AS INSTRUCTED IN THE OPENING STATEMENT OF MY PROFILE, you have just exhibited that your are neither obedient nor have the ability to follow instructions.


Ms Laura



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