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I'm not what passes for the typical Dominant online. I don't believe that just because I am a dominant in terms of BDSM play and the lifestyle (yes, I believe both types can and should exist) that someone who identifies as a sub or slave should just bow down to me. To truly dominate someone, you need their respect and trust. Those are two things that must be earned. You don't get them from a self-proclaimed title.
My biggest 'kink' would probably be control. I like controlling someone through either training or bondage. I'm very good at playing mental games with someone... finding little things they say and playfully turning what they said against them. While I am pretty good at manipulation, I don't like to use that skill unless its for the enjoyment of all parties involved.
I also enjoy humiliation. As a Top, I like to show my submissives/slaves/bottoms that I am their superior and they should respect that position. I'm very aware that humiliation can quickly turn from 'fun for everyone' to 'hurtful', so when I do this form of play its after a long term discussion to make sure someone doesn't have any trigger words or subjects. Some people get off on being called a slut and a cunt; others find those words very demeaning and not enjoyable. Its my responsibility as a top to make sure that everyone involved in the play is enjoying it; even if outwardly it appears the other person is not.
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