it is about time you read this! what were you waiting on? now that I have your attention lets get down to business I have been in this lifestyle for over 20 years I am expereinced and know what I am doing. if you are new have no fear I can teach you what you need to know. I can be both kind and firm I also can be a sadist at times if I think you need that. some of you will need a mix of things. I also do hypnosis as well and believe some of you can be helped with some online sissy training videos. I am very service oriented as well nothing more feminine than watching you cook and clean for me and are used in many ways by me. you must be open to being trained up to my standards, I expect much but you will get much in return great training and more.
4/25/2017 10:21:38 AM
I see in London where the Islamists are branding there slaves, some journalists seem to be rather upset over it. While I am not a fan of Islam, they do know how to mark property!
If you are talented Dom and bring a consenting but nervous sub into your dungeon for the first time to play and give your first couple orders in your own tailored Dom persona for them to pleasure you in some way, you shouldn’t be surprised to see that slight hidden smile and a glimmer of “oooh kinky” in her eyes. It may sound very fun and naughty to your sub and hopefully your sub is going to have fun doing it, but this isn’t really the reaction you are looking for several scenes from now. You want no smile and the glimmer should be that of uncontrolable excitment to please you. What you want is to give an order to pleasure you and have your sub feel the overwhelming pleasure of being rewarded so much so that they nearly have an orgasim. This is accomplished by training your sub correctly and the effect is extraordinary bursts of pleasurable relieving Dopamine in their brains.
Dopamine is released in any response that you have learned as a reward and it tells your brain that whatever you are doing is great… do it more! Things that are naturally pleasurable such as intercourse or drugs are going to automatically train your brain to like it, however, you can “train” in other aspects through classical conditioning and a host of other psychological processes. The most famous example would be Pavolov’s dogs who were trained to salivate at the sound of a bell by always ringing the bell just before the dogs would receive food. Even if the food was removed from the process, the dogs would still salivate to the sound of a bell.
Always associate a sub pleasuring you with positive reinforcement. Respond with praise, or body language. Associate “good sub” with pleasuring you correctly. Anytime you do something unpleasurable to a sub in response to something your sub has done correctly you will hinder the dopamine process. There are two very interesting and counterintuitive ideas that are relevant to your sub training.
First, in a situation where you learn that you will be receiving a reward in the very near future, your dopamine levels will rise drastically at the time you learn that you will be receiving the reward. They will rise and then they will fall. In many cases, dopamine will have tapered off or even be gone by the time you receive your reward! We do not get a dopamine response from the moment of reward, but from the moment we learn the reward is near. This is interesting because it really shows why the psychology of your Dominant/submissive relationship is more important than the physical acts you do in terms of controlling dopamine.
Second is super interesting. Let us say you have trained a sub well and they respond with dopamine when you tell them a reward is near. Their dopamine goes up and then will begin to drop. If you tell a sub a reward “may be” near, it turns out to generate an even higher level of dopamine! The exact perfect amount of the percentage of times to reward your submissive is 50%. In a study done where monkeys would hear a buzzer they were trained to associate with a reward, dopamine levels were by far the highest, when they only presented the reward 50% of the time. If on the other hand, you gave the reward 25% of the time or 75% of the time, the monkey’s dopamine levels would rise higher than that of a 100% reward scenario, but less than that of a 50% reward scenario. This love of “maybe” is why we can also become easily addicted to gambling.
2/15/2015 5:46:17 PM
I am so Dominant I put chains on my TIRES! LOL who says you cant have a sense of humor