TL:DR: I'm such a humiliation slut that I now have an email just for humiliating messages. Have a humiliation kink? email me at VTEFHumiliation@gmail.com
In search of sadists on the east coast (locally in New England preferred but I am flexible) who are looking to form relationships with a masochist. I have been in the lifestyle for over a decade now and is both well-versed inpolyamoryand kink. Brownie Points to those who actually read the rest of my profile.
Please Note that I check my mail 3-4 times a week on the site. It may seem that I am on more often but normally only get a chance to check every other day. Emails demanding my attention before we get into a relationship will be ignored. No one is perfect. No one needs to be within a 10-minute radius of me.
I have to admit I have a huge objectification kink. I try to maintain my profile because I often post things that others may have an interest in, spoken or unspoken, and I get off on being “in use” of providing that information. If you view my profile please feel free to message me. If you are genuinely interested in beginning a conversation please introduce yourself and state your interest. If you are interested in online (only) humiliation/degradation emails please state that in the first line. I am happy to engage in both and can give you a separate email address where that can happen.
Primarily I am hoping to find S/m relationships that can be an on-going partnership in the area. However, I will admit that there is some room for flexibility depending on our chemistry. I not onlylovean intense moment but looks for someone to share all of the interesting and whacky adventures we can think of together.
I am in a D/s relationship presently, very happy,however, I am looking for experienced and well-versed Sadists who need a masochistic partner.Any play needs to be approved by the Dominant before I partake.
What Am I Interested In?
I am a huge psychological and emotional masochist for the right play partner. I am very careful about who I play with especially when doing edge play. The right individual will be someone who wants to get to know me, who views me as a vanilla platonic friend, and who wants to share their deep sadistic streak with me.
Inplay, I am what some refer to as an "iron ass" once I am warmed up. The dynamics, the chemistry, the ability for someone to out think me needs to be there almost immediately or I lose interest. I have a lot going on in in my life; a lot of things that need my attention. If you are able to grab my attention and keep me focused on the moment then I do want to get to know you.
I am in search for someone who can look me straight in the eye and know, without a doubt, that I am both scared shit about what will happen next and willing to step over that edge when the moment is right.
For quicker response please name yourfavoritekink-based book in your initial message to me. Those who do not "up" their chances of not receiving a response from me.
6/18/2017 6:56:56 AM
Humiliation Play Email- One of my kinks of mine, that has been a kink for a while, is online humiliation play in an anonymous way but I am never quite sure how to go around it. I am too busy to really be available via skype whenever anyone wants to talk (and that cuts down on my productivity in other areas of my life) but I really actually do want to be humiliated regularly in a way that I have no control what shows up in my email box.
If you are into humiliation play email VTEFHumiliation@gmail.com
6/18/2017 5:37:01 AM
You might have seen me taken a looksie at yourprofile...
If you are in the Baltimore area (or close to the Baltimore area), and noticing that I am looking at your profile, you may in fact be wondering WHY!
I am going to be traveling down to Baltimore next week for a conference. I am trying to knock playing at a church conference off my all-time bucket list. Yes, you read that right.
What do you need to know about me? I am a 30-year-old college educated cis-gender woman who has been in the lifestyle for over a decade. I am a masochist, a humiliation slut, a submissive, and someone who is into darkly humored dominants with ouchy toys. I am a published writer online focusing on poly, kink, disability, and relationships. I can keep up a conversation for longer than a few minutes. I voted for Sanders in the primaries, Clinton in the November election (would have voted for Sanders if he was on the ticket), and one of my kinks is researching what my partners find interesting and being “mind candy”. I am not looking for a long term relationship, I am not looking for a short term relationship (unless you really are into a five day relationship) I am looking for interesting play.
I am not a scammer, I’m not looking for a sugar daddy, I am not looking for someone who is very needy or needs a lot of reassurance. I do have a list of pretty “out there” kinks and if you have ever thought about trying certain kinks that you are not comfortable trying with people who know you well I may be the person to do that with. I am happy to provide information on some of the “darker” kinks I’ve tried.
I’ll be in the area between the 29th-4th and WOULD love to meet up.
10/13/2016 6:14:31 AM
On Bumps, Snags, and Red Flags: I have more than one person who has asked how I can still be single after being on this site for so many months, with my profile, and my appeal to others...
So I start having a conversation with an individual or a couple. They seem really great. They seem like people that I comfortable with. So why am I still single? Even though things look great on a screen or paper I can tell, I can sense, when something is not going to work out well because I've been through the gauntlet a few times.
We may have a show stopper early on. I may find you attractive, you may find me attractive, but I am not aware you are attached. It may be hidden on your profile a bit (there but not really there) and at that point I need a dead stop. I am starting to get into an area of Celibacy and Chastity that I cannot avoid. I have taken a "vow" on those two things and I need to recognize and respect that vow.
We may be chatting for a while. We have lengthy conversations, we have daily correspondence, we are having good chemistry. Something happens in your life. Your reactions tell me a lot about what it may be like to be with you during those times. Things happen, things come up that are unavoidable, what we do during those times speaks lengths about a person. If it is something that we can progress through together, have healthy communication on together, be present together then that really is going to attract me. If it's something that makes a person disappear for weeks on end I am going to lose interest. What happens if we are in a relationship and something happens? Does that mean the relationship will be stopped?
10/13/2016 6:08:39 AM
On Celibacy & Chastity: I have more than one person who has asked how I can still be single after being on this site for so many months, with my profile, and my appeal to others...
I have expectations. I don't use this site just for sex, in fact, sex is the farthest from my mind right now, I look for something other than sex when I start talking to someone.
If you take a look under my "live for" Christianity is on the list. I am extremely liberal as a Christian, if not I would not be on this site, but one of the things I do practice is celibacy and chastity right now. If the two terms together is a show stopper for you immediately, without wanting to know the definition, then we may not actually be meant for each other no matter how awesome of a submissive I may be.
Chastity (for me) is the definition of forming authentic relationships with my fellow human beings. If you contact me while you are attached that does not put you "out of the running". However, if you contact me, while attached, while your partner doesn't know you are contacting others, it does "put you out of the running." In that instance, we are not going to be able to maintain a healthy honest relationship. We probably won't be able to plan things for the future, if you leave your partner then a committed relationship is being destroyed, and I don't want to be involved in that either.
Does this mean sex is not in the picture at all? Absolutely Not.
Does this mean I am open to talking about a sexual relationship? Absolutely Yes.
Does this mean I am open to talking to everyone about a sexual relationship? Absolutely Not.
Does this mean that sex is a possibility? 100% with confidence I can say Yes; Yes, it is.
I do not require my partner to be Christian. I do not require my partners to be part of an organized religion. I do want to have partners who have some sense of spirituality. However, I do look for partners for support in my way of understanding my own sexuality.
How do I know I am going to be compatible with someone if we aren't sexual or talk about sex? I have been active sexually in my early twenties. I know what I like, I am extremely kinky when I find someone that I want to be with, and I have a good sense if compatibility will be there. I would hope that any long-term partner values compatibility outside of the bedroom more than inside of the bedroom.
10/11/2016 11:00:18 AM
Housekeeping Information Tips on getting a response from me, or if you are more daring an actual conversation: Good thing to note ---> If you are a couple or a Dominant, you send me a fairly well-written email, your profile interests me, etc. I most likely will be interested in at least becoming friends with you and chatting. The distance may be a bit too much to handle but I am always interested in finding like-minded couples who have the same type of personalities and kinks I have just as friends!
Important: No married men who are looking for an affair
Important: I realize that I have a rare view of what I want in a relationship. I also realize that there are a good amount of people who disagree with me. I am able to explain why I seek what I seek but no long-winded debates, please.
I practice ethical polyamory. Meaning no matter what type of dynamic that will be formed I do expect open communication esp. when there are other partners involved. D/s is a dynamic, not a relationship, a relationship is a stand alone process.
I am not interested in Polyfidelity. I am most comfortable in a closed poly relationship of 3-4 people, in an open poly structure with individual relationships, and for the rare person who makes me head over heels, I may consider monogamy.
Relocation, although perhaps for the very right person in a very specific case, is not my ultimate goal. I am looking for partners who also want long distance relationships, who love to travel and would like a nice "winter apartment" near some fantastic skiing in the winter time.
I often enjoy deep, penetrating, questions and those who are able to challenge me are the ones that often I find the most enticing. I search for individuals who want to "rape my mind" and bring me to a place of uncertainty. There are certain phrases that let me know when I am at the point of questioning my own sanity speaking to someone and those are the times where I am figuratively able to be brought to my knees.
I often respond during the evenings- I may open mail during the day- but I am often more "free" to respond during the evening hours.
"Testing me" to see a reaction or get a "read" will only lead you getting an email to read with a mouthful- I'd suggest not trying your luck.
While I appreciate all of the cuckolds who are looking for "like-minded" friendships. I don't have a lot of time to "cultivate" friendships on here. If you are submissive and you are contacting me I would ask you to think about WHY you are contacting me before you do so.
No individuals who live in another continent. Let's be realistic here. I am not planning on moving halfway around the world and in this election season why would ANYONE want to move to the US?
No One Liners!
Remember: You are reading a very brief deion that I have written here of a very complex, complicated, and deep person. I probably have a personality, a life, stability, a job even (who knew?) The best way to correspond with me is to actually start a conversation and introduce yourself.