Every now and then you meet someone who you just seem to mesh with instantly, and that has happened to me, a sub t girl that I have known for some time but only recently met up with again.

I think it would be fair to say that had we tried to have a serious dom sub/relationship when we first met all those years ago it wouldn't have worked - as, to be quite honest, I didnt know what I was doing and had not much of an idea those days.

So timing is everything, and experience is really important too

(hmm wonder where the school for dom males is ? and what is the curriculum?)

So we met up first of all in a pub and had  a meal outdoors - very "out" - and then went of for a few days  - and had a really wonderful and special time together, her in a number of sub roles and me in a few Master roles.

And then, as you do on the last night we had what we are  now calling a "2 bottle" evening and got to know each other better as people rather than the roles we played.

And that was a bit of a revelation..

There are a few sub profiles on here which say something like " look I am a sub but I am not a doormat and dont insult my intelligence and dont think you can tell lies and fantasies to me and get away with it".

And having had that discussion I really understand what those subs are about.

It wasnt something I had fully appreciated before (largely because you have to experience it) but a real Master/sub relationship is very intense both emotionally and physically, and there isnt any room in that for any sort of self deception, otherwise the dynamic doesnt work.

And that means there has to be a level of trust and honesty that isnt there in most relationships.

And if you are the sort of master that really cares about the sub, then that makes it really important to create that sort of trust as the basis for the dom/sub relationship that overlays the whole thing.

After all a sub puts a great deal of trust in her master to manage her and her life.

(sort of reminds me of the ad " remember a puppy isnt just for Xmas"!!)

Now I freely admit that is my perception and closely geared to this particular sub, who it has to be said is smart about things to do with emotional intelligence and has some experience from previous relationships.

I expect that are masters and subs out there who think this is emotional fiddle faddle and a sub should just shut up and do as she is told and that is the only relationship that counts.... maybe so

But for those unsatisfied subs who want a 24/7 relationship - and cant find the right master - well this is for you, I get it.

And for the Masters in training - I trust this is useful

Life occasionally shows you something that really takes your breath away, and the other weekend was one of those weekends.First of all I went out to a club in a northern city with a friend and a T girl slave, and we proceeded to thrash the slaves bottom in the public dungeon, but  more than that.
I stood in front of the slave and kissed her and stroked her, while my co-conspirator proceeded to lay on the lash, enough to warm her up, not to really hurt.Slave had a peak experience and was quite overwhelmed.
So later I had the slave mounted on me and although/because she had been in chastity for 6 months came like an absolute train, she said she had an orgasm that blew the top of her head off.
Now for me orgasm control and chastity is not something i just do for the sake of it, it has a purpose, and that purpose is a) control and b) conditioning, so a slave that comes at my command basically is rewarded - not punished.

The second part of my weekend was even more instructive and educational, not to mention stimulating...
I went to a club in london that had a fetish evening and was there as the club photographer, anyway to cut a long story short a Master had a female slave there, and he proceeded to demonstrate how, with about 20 uses of a lash and 6 strokes of what he called a dragons tail, he could make his slave orgasm - publically...
The only part of her that was touched was her back.
And it was clear that they had one of those deep and very caring relationships that characterise the best Master slave interactions.
And the fact that they both loved the pics I took of them was an added bonus.

So that weekend was the sort of double whammy you get that makes you really think about who you are and where you are going and how you get there, and it sort of confirmed me in my beliefs about what makes a dom male a real master, and makes a slave a real slave - not just a pain junkie.

The latest pic on my profile is from that shoot - published with permission of her Master.

well last weekend the23/24 may was very interesting to say the least.
Have you heard of breast enlargement via saline drip - saline put into the breasts under gravity ?
well last weekend as part of a latex fetish video Mistress Tanya decided to see if it really worked.
So I hooked her up to 2 saline drips and slid the canulas into her A cup breasts
2 hours later she was a D cup ! yes really and I have the video and the photos to prove it !!.
She stayed that size for about 7 hours and then the saline was absorbed into her body.
No pain - no after effects, just the fun of walking around in a red satin half cup bra with nice bouncy D cup breasts !!

and the video will be posted on tanyas fetish world soonest !!

and now i know how to do it properly...