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Back after a break. Have any questions feel free to ask. Please be polite and respectful! I am submissive not a doormat.I am not looking for online games and domination. I am looking to eventually be able to meet up. If you want only online don't bother..

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8/25/2016 3:53:47 PM
== Results from bdsmtest.org == 99% Submissive 98% Rope bunny 85% Exhibitionist 74% Brat 67% Experimentalist 63% Slave 58% Voyeur 56% Masochist 52% Primal (Prey) 20% Non-monogamist 16% Vanilla 12% Girl/Boy 11% Pet 7% Degradee 4% Ageplayer 2% Rigger 1% Owner 1% Sadist 1% Master/Mistress 1% Dominant 1% Switch 1% Primal (Hunter) 0% Degrader 0% Daddy/Mommy 0% Brat tamer

3/30/2012 2:45:03 PM

well I guess its time for me to figure out what I am doing.  I have an idea of what I want now how to go about it.


3/29/2012 9:40:18 AM

Feeling sad today. Gonna miss my girl lol. But I will be ok a lone for a few weeks.


3/27/2012 9:16:44 AM

Time to buckle down and get shit done. I am tired of putting it off. So wish me luck lmao


3/27/2012 9:16:14 AM

I have wondered many times why I stay on this site. I think I have figured it out. I am just to damn stubborn to let a site beat me lol.


3/26/2012 3:19:25 PM

What do you do when you know you have things to do but dont have the energy to get it done. I hate the lack of motivation and the difficulty getting somethings done. Gotta hate be sad and slightly depressed huh.


3/24/2012 2:06:28 PM

We all experience loss pain and frustration its how we deal with it that makes us who we are.


3/17/2012 6:13:40 PM

Happy st pattys day to all gonna enjoy some alcohol dance and chill . Birthday 2 days yesssss

 


2/5/2012 4:56:54 PM

If she bites her lip kiss her

If she fidgets with her hands hold them

If she stares at u in the eyes dont look away

if she tries to leave dont let her go


1/24/2012 9:36:36 AM

I want a person who comes into my life by accident & stays on purpose


1/22/2012 9:46:03 PM

the most painful tears are not the ones that

fall from your eyes and cover your face

The most painful tears are the ones

that fall from your heart and cover your soul


1/22/2012 3:19:10 PM

Dont let good sex confuse your heart and make you think your in love!!!!!!!!!!!


12/25/2011 5:47:41 PM

Never chase love affection or attention.

If its isn't freely given it isn't worth having


12/25/2011 4:39:48 AM

all I can say is some people lol. Now to sleep for a couple hours lol


12/25/2011 1:23:47 AM

Merry Christmas everyone!!!!

I hope everyone has a great day and enjoys the time with family or friends.

I will say I am thankful for what this year has brought I have met many new people and made new friends. Learned new things about myself and faced some fears. I know I will be learning alot more about myself in the upcoming yr and as much as that makes me nervous I cant wait!!!! So BRING IT ON!!!!!!!


12/11/2011 6:04:07 PM

This has been a rough month hopefully it gets better I apologize if it takes me a bit to answer just got out of hospital


11/6/2011 5:42:34 PM

GGGGRRRRRRRRR I want to cuddle


10/17/2011 12:47:59 PM

having an interesting kinda rough day. Its amazing the things I learn about myself. I really dont like what i am learning right now. It makes me feel sad I hate tears.  Still feeling lonely and that doesnt help.  Oh well time to deal and accept


10/16/2011 4:34:20 PM

bored lol. feeling kinda lonely. I had a great day yesterday. I dont understand why I feel so alone at the moment guess i am just nuts, I need a hug. But hey I will be fine lol


10/16/2011 10:55:12 AM

What a great weekend. I am all full of smiles and laughs.


10/10/2011 12:25:47 PM

I have internet back finally lol. Friends I will see in videochat


9/26/2011 3:22:12 PM

A Dominant Is…

Respect

A quality Dominant shows respect to submissives, and to everyone. He or she asks questions about your life, listens to the answers, and doesn’t put you down.

Balance

A quality Dominant keeps a balance between their vanilla and BDSM

 lives. They can talk about their family, pets, other things that have nothing to do with BDSM. They have a sense of humor about the  

Communication

A quality Dominant needs to be able to access their emotions, and articulate them. If they are the stereotypical guy who can’t express their emotional side, they will not be able to support your emotional side when the time comes. If they can’t control their temper, or they make a big drama out of life, they will be too self-directed to take care of you.

Consistency

A quality Dominant is as good as their word. If they say they’ll show up at 6 PM, they show up. If you are going to trust this person with your body and possibly your heart, you need to know that they will come through. A sometime Dominant is not an effective Dominant.

 

Depth

A quality Dominant recognizes that D/s relationships have several dynamics that are very different, and sometimes far more complex than vanilla ones. Because of this, he or she should have a better understanding of human nature than the average Joe or Jane. Messing with subspace

 is a heavy experience. To live a present life you have to understand human nature. But to be a successful Dominant, you have to really get it at a much deeper level. Doing it with a shallow or superficial person makes for a shallow and superficial experience.

Competency

A quality Dominant does not need to know how to use every toy in the toy box, but they do need to be motivated to learn. A novice should not be doing high-end play like whipping, fire play, or knife play without a mentor to guide them. They should be knowledgeable about how to avoid sexually transmitted diseases, and have an awareness of first aid. They know that reading and fantasizing about BDSM

 is not the same thing as doing it. A good Dom acknowledges that he’s not the be-all end-all of information and encourages you to find information about BDSM from many sources.

Pacing

A quality Dominant doesn’t hit on you during the first date, and doesn’t discourage you from dating other Dominants until you are ready to make a commitment. They know that a good relationship takes time and that there’s no need to rush in or glom onto you. They also don’t try to “make” you submit before you have given permission to go ahead.

 

References

A quality Dominant is known by someone. A novice may not have BDSM references, but everyone has friends and family. If they are totally in the closet and can’t even offer a vanilla reference then they might not be a good person to get involved with. Being “known” in the scene doesn’t guarantee that a person is a good Dominant, but they will probably be a safe Dominant. There are plenty of Dominants who have great reputations because of their technical knowledge, but have little to offer when it comes to the complexities of a real relationship.

A Quality Dominant Isn’t…

Lord This and Mistress That

In the days of the Old Guard, a Dominant had to “earn” their leather vest. Anyone who wore it could be considered a safe and experienced player. Today, anyone can call themselves Lady Bigcheese or Master Bigshot. Author Jay Wiseman writes in his article “Ten Tips for the Novice, Single, Heterosexual, Submissive Woman” of a submissive

 friend who “has concluded that there is also a strong inverse relationship between how many titles a man awards himself and how good a dominant he is.” Similarly if they make an “entrance” a la Scarlet O’Hara or claim relationships with many well-known scene personalities, they lose points on the respect-o-meter. Ignore the titles and look at the person.

Cheating on their Partner

A Dominant who will cheat on their partner, be it spouse or other relationship, will also cheat on you. A Dominant who lies is not a safe Dominant.

Toy Obsessions

Dominants who obsess about their toy collections send the message that BDSM is about the toys. It’s not. A quality Dominant does not need equipment to dominate, only a powerful and creative mind. Not to mention the Dominants who dangle multiple toys off their belt, especially when they aren’t playing.

Horndog on the Prowl

Many novice Dominants or vanilla horndogs view submissives as a quick way to get some free nookie. Wiseman also comments about another submissive friend who “has come to believe that there is a strong inverse relationship between how good a dominant a man is and how quickly he brings up the subject of fellatio.”

 

Bullies & Manipulators

Some people think that being a bully means they’re being dominant. Bullies tell you how things are done and get upset when you disagree. Adults discuss the options respectfully. A real Dominant doesn’t have to force you to do anything. Dominants who try to manipulate you into doing what they want are losers.

A Good Dominant May or May Not Be…

There are lots of things that people think makes someone a good Dominant, but in fact they really don’t indicate much of anything. They include:

You Are Turned On

Just because a Dominant makes you hot doesn’t mean they know a darn thing about dominating. It could be pheromones or maybe they remind you of an old flame. It doesn’t mean anything except that you are turned on.

Whether or Not They Initiate Contact

Some Dominants believe that initiating contact with submissives is their nature and so they always take the lead. Others believe in allowing submissives to be attracted to them. Neither is indicative of any innate ability to effectively dominate someone.

Their Ability To Write Well

Communication on the internet is predicated on being able to write and type well. Many intelligent people cannot do this, and many foolish people are unwilling to even run a spellcheck. We say “foolish” because writing riddled with wrongs makes a bad impression. This being said, being able to write well has nothing to do with being a good Dominant.

Privacy Issues

Dominants, and particularly men who do the same thing get less respect. There are just as many unbalanced women online as there are unbalanced men. Don’t give out your personal information, and also don’t worry if they won’t either.

What They Do For a Living

Yes, a stable person will have a stable job. But they don’t need to be CEO of some corporation to be able to dominate. There is a stereotype of the female executive submitting in the bedroom, and the male househusband dominating, but neither are relevant. If ambition is important to you, fine. But it doesn’t in itself indicate an ability to either dominate or submit.

Great Clothes

Anyone can buy fabulous leather outfits. Let them know how great they look, then move on to more substantial topics.

Assertive Mannerisms

There’s a huge difference between controlling situations, and controlling a person. Don’t be fooled by people who act assertive in public.

Charm & Flirtatiousness

It might be fun to flirt with a charming Dominant, but social skills have little to do with the ability to control.

Paying for the Date

I used to think that the Dominant should pay for the date because they were the Dominant. On the other hand, some Dominants expect the submissives to pay as an homage. A person may well be a fabulous Dominant, but is unemployed, low on cash, or may believe in equality outside the BDSM relationship.The person who asks for the date should pay for it. Don’t play games like waiting for them to pick up the check – talk about it up front and avoid games.

 

 

 

 


9/22/2011 6:34:50 PM

The date for my surgery is getting closer I hate it., But its gotta be done. Gonna be hurting for a while afterwards.


9/18/2011 1:55:53 PM

I dont know what I am doing anymore. Tired of being confused.


9/2/2011 9:29:56 PM

Had a great night. Cant wait to do it again my mom and myself with alcohol that was so much fun


8/30/2011 9:17:55 PM

I am going out this weekend. Maybe I will meet some new friends or just someone interesting. I am tired of shit right now

 


8/3/2011 6:51:06 PM

When things are hard we all need someone there to help us. For us to depend on. It doesnt matter if you are a Dom switch sub Domme or slave. When the going gets tough you should always have someone to count on to be there to help. I know its hard to ask for help and I know its hard to say whats on your mind. But always be honest with those you care about even if they dont want to hear it. It will make the bond stronger and the love whether platonic or otherwise stronger because you will always know who you can count on and who you cant. It will also help others know they can count on you for the truth and for support no matter what. It is very hard for me to get past my pride and ask for help. But I want to Thank everyone who sent me messages trying to help and be supportive during these hard times for me. It meant alot to have friends and even complete strangers off their condolances regarding my dads death. So THANK YOU VERY MUCH


7/28/2011 9:08:54 PM

I want to cry right now. Going through pictures of my dad and my family Rest In Peace Dad. I miss him and looking at these pics are hard but they were good times


7/23/2011 7:30:51 PM

While you scream at your woman, there's a man wishing he could whisper in her ear. While you humiliate, offend & insult her, there's a man flirting with her & reminding her how beautiful she is. While you hurt her, there's a man wishing he could take her pain away. While you make her cry, there's a man stealing smiles from her. Post this on your wall if you are against domestic violence & mental abuse


7/21/2011 5:27:50 PM

Forgive me if I read any messages sent to me but dont respond My dad died today and I am having a very hard time. Know that I will save all messages and respond as I start to feel better.


7/18/2011 1:33:43 PM

No where near ready for what is about to happen. Sorry to all but i most likely wont be answering any messages on here for a while. Feel free to leave a message I will still be reading them just not sure if I will be answering for a while. 


7/12/2011 2:40:56 PM

losing the weight yes so happy


6/30/2011 10:09:58 AM

Well hoping to be able to meet someone new got sometime to myself this weekend lol. Looking to meet and make new friends


6/29/2011 9:01:56 AM

Well lets see how today goes. Its been a rough few days and honestly I am so ready for it to get better. But it may get worse first who knows. Maybe weekend plans will bring a smile to my face.

 

Heres hoping


6/20/2011 12:20:51 PM

Its been an interesting day. People continue to amaze me more and more every day and not usually in a good way. Who knows right hopefully someone will surprise me in a good way today


6/19/2011 5:00:02 PM

Its been a while since I have been on. I am still looking for people to talk to and to gain more friends. Things have been going lately not great and some bad things but its how we deal with the bad things that shows the kind of people we are.


12/22/2010 3:49:51 PM
Still bored and lonely. Its so annoying. But hey I am actually getting used to it. Have a good night all

12/20/2010 8:20:11 PM
I am very bored tonight lol. Go figure. Alone like normal it sucks sometimes. Yet tonight I feel more lonely than ever. I can handle alone its the feeling of loneliness I hate.

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WhipyourMind
 
 Age: 35
 Lessville, Louisiana