Tomorrow night is Dungeon 201 at the Crucible in DC.  Come out and play with me and my friends.  You don't have to be extreme to attend, just a member or guest of one.  MisterCarpathian will be there doing rough body play (even with a regulation disaster body bag).  MistressAlegria will also be there.  If you do go, come up and say hello!

I'm pretty much done with the assholes out there.  Equitable exchange of goods or services for my skill set.  That's all I am willing to discuss anymore.  Thanks to one more asshole who thinks dominant women are only here to serve him.  To provide fodder for his little jackoff sessions.  I'm not even taking the time to get to know you anymore.

After working at it off and on all weekend, we have a fully functional playroom again.  It still needs a bit of tweaking, but I can do that during the week.

Getting ready for the next Dungeon201 at the Crucible in DC on the 24th .  If you're a member there, come up and say hello!!!  I'm doing staple demo play again, and some CBT if anyone is interested.  There are other great people doing other stations.  I just don't know where else you can have this much fun for only $20.  

Wow.  It's been a fantastic weekend.  Friday night was extreme play at the Crucible in DC with my partner, MisterCarpathian and lots of friends present.  I inserted staples for almost 4 hours.  Talk about flying!!  I've agreed to do it again on August 24th, which is the next Dungeon 201.  If you're a Crucible member, please come say hello!  I've also starting making plans to attend events for the next couple of months, including BRXXV.  I'm still trying to get my new residence in order.  Sometime the end of next week, I might be willing to trade some play for some assistance hauling off the last of the boxes and making a trip to the landfill.  Aren't you guys glad I don't need yardwork done anymore?

Anyhoo, come chat me up gentlemen.  Be friendly and I'll reply in kind.

~Rose

Its always funny to get an email, and then find out when I send a reply that I've been blocked.  Why block me BEFORE I reply?

If you're a Crucible member, there is a Dominant Ladies and their admirers mixer tonight.  I'll be there :-)

I have never been into financial domination.  I truthfully don't really get it.  Can some of you gentlemen who are into it email me just to explain what YOU get from giving things/spending money on women who you will likely never meet face to face?

I'm going to be at home all week.  Unfortunately I will not be able to drive, to play, to do much at all.  Even turning my head makes me dizzy. Vertigo sucks.

If you find yourself blocked, it's for one of two reasons.  Either you said something that offended me enough I don't want to hear anything else from you, or you repeatedly view me and never say anything, even after my own greeting.  I mean really....  once or twice, yeah.  But if you're constantly looking at my profile and not saying anything, that's just creepy.

I'll be at the Crucible tonight.  If anyone is there, feel free to come up and say hello.

If your initial profile pis is of your cock or your gaping asshole, you can pretty much bet I won't be replying to your email.

I'm going to be at the Crucible in DC tonight.  If you're there, step over and say hello!

ok, so I've been sitting on this all day.  It's going to be long and laced with profanity.  I'm tired.  I'm sick and tired of getting emails and answering them.  I'm tired of talking with men on yahoo and planning the next step.  I'm tired of men who cannot seem to keep their word.  I don't know if its fear, if lying is the norm in behavior or what, but I have been treated this way for just about the last time.  So from now on, I'm going to start with a few questions:

~am I just some strange woman for you to talk to briefly so you can fuel jacking off?  if so, tell me the fucking truth about that.

~are you full of good intentions but wake up and realize you are afraid to move into what you promised last night?  if so, tell me the fucking truth about that.

~are you a lying sack of shit with no intention of EVER following through?  if so, tell me the fucking truth about that.

All you good men out there, and I'm sure there are a few, you can blame your site-mates for every jaded woman you try to talk to.  I spent several hours over last night and this morning talking with someone who just wanted to play.  HE asked to talk to me by phone last night but I had phone issues.  We talked online.  We even tentatively planned a play date for Thursday.  I chatted with him again this morning online and OFFERED MY PHONE NUMBER.  For some reason that call never came. The way I figure it, he stroked off and his desire to take it further spurted out the end of his cock.  I hope he enjoyed it because that's the last fuck he'll ever get from me.

So today's asshole award goes to a 30 year old sub in NJ.  This man, who has a pic of a jellyfish on his profile, and nothing else, emailed me to give me 'advice'.  He told me to put some pics of me on my profile because no guy wants to see the ones I have up.  *snicker*  I guess that face pic at the end doesn't count, he isn't into CBT and he's afraid of asses.

edit:  5 hours later he emailed me again with 'fuck you bitch'.  At that rate, he deserves whatever kind of scamming woman he gets as a dominant

Apparently I have a longer memory than some of the subs that contact me. *snickering*  the last time this particular man wrote me, he said he was a doctor and would be moving to Maryland in 'a few months'.  That was sometime last year.  THIS time, he said that he is a pilot and will be moving to Maryland in 'a few months'.  Really?  REALLY??

OK, so the plan is back in place.  I'm going to be at the Crucible tonight.  Feel free to come up and say hello if you are there.

Crossdressing is not submission.  Wearing female clothes is your kink.   I don't have anything against crossdressers,  but asking me to 'force' you to wear feminine attire is not my thing.  Let me say this once more:  

CROSSDRESSING IS NOT SUBMISSION.  It is YOUR kink.  If your personality changes when you slip into silky panties, we will NOT get along.  

Just wanted to put a happy note in here, because reading back, it seems as if I have been pissed a lot lately.  I am generally a happy woman.  I laugh a lot.  I do silly things, and do not think D/s ought to be always serious.  I relish a smart man who can tease and carry on good conversation.  There are some men on here who I have been chatting with a long time, and who are not a good match for me for various reasons as a partner, but who make wonderful friends.  I would never work well with someone who only wants a kink-filled life.  Anyway, if you don't think I am the right dominant for you based on my kinks, but you want to talk movies, or books, or which restaurant has the best fries, or whatever, feel free to approach me.  Learn for yourself that there are many sides of me.

Yes.  I AM a sick fuck.

If you can't handle that, don't fucking contact me in the first place.

Thanks to that man who emailed me this morning and called me that.  I needed to say it loud and proud. 

Because I don't want anyone saying they didn't know later.

So I managed to get stood up not once, but twice this week.  I'm tired of weak assed fuckers who hide behind a computer screen and can't make things real.  If you ever wonder why the domme you're contacting has such a bad attitude, you can thank your 'brothers'.  If you aren't going to be as good as your word, don't even bother emailing me.  

I just blocked someone.  Why?  A reason that some might find silly.  This person never said a word to me.  His profile wasn't inflammatory or offensive.  But he viewed me.  A lot. Never sent an email.  Never replied to one I sent him about viewing my profile so often. Today the 'who's viewing me' button turned red, I went to look and it was him.  Again.  I blocked.  After a while, it gets creepy.  I don't mind someone viewing my profile, even more than once.  But usually around the third time, if they haven't contacted me, I send my own initial email.  I usually get some kind of reply, and either we chat a bit or the viewing stops.  This time neither happened.  I began to feel like I was an unwilling participant in something.  I don't play that way.  

The page in my book must have been ripped out, because I don't ever remember reading anywhere that it was considered appropriate behavior by a submissive or slave male to contact a dominant female and be intentionally rude just because he doesn't like something about her pics or profile.  I used to be under the impression that this was an adults-only site.  These days I wonder.  I realize that not everyone has the same needs/desires/kinks.  I got told tonight by a slave (??) male that my pics represented abuse, not fun.  This from a man with two blurry pics, no profile information, and no interests listed.  So I wrote him back to thank him for his unsolicited opinion and he deleted my reply unread.  So he's basically outed himself as a schoolyard bully.  Big spoon, little bowl.  I've been involved in real life kink for a long time.  It wasn't always like this.  The other thing that happened this week was that I set up a meeting with a local fellow who I chatted with regularly.  He did not contact me again after we set the lunch date.  I emailed him and said I had heard nothing and needed confirmation before I left my home, and he replied at 3-something in the morning that he was too busy to meet.  I replied with my concerns about the lack of contact and the fact that he knew he was too busy but did not contact me himself to say so, and mentioned his lack of contact.  He's read that email but not replied.  He blew his one chance.  But should it be mentioned, there will be some excuse, and some indicator that it was somehow MY fault.  Manners, gentleman.  A little goes a long way.  I deserve the same respect you would show a family member or business associate.  I don't make demands, give orders, or otherwise exert my dominance until we have met and decided it is a mutual endeavor.  I don't want to have control over just anyone, nor would I accept someone who would give control to just anyone.  Please, guys.  Think about the effects your actions have.  Because we real life dominants talk to each other.  We share information.  We compare notes.  Regularly.  

This is going to be a wonderful year.  

To everyone who spent time with me in 2011, thank you.  I hope some of you will continue to be a part of my life.

To those few who I've formed a closer relationship with, even bigger thank yous.  

To that one who will become mine (I KNOW you're out there...), come a little closer, dear.  I don't bite...no, that isn't true.  I won't hurt you....no, that isn't true either.  Just get your ass here, damnit.  

In case you wondered, why, yes, we DO talk about everything.  So sometimes I tell him 'some guy is emailing me and he said ....'  I tell the nice things too.  But we laugh over the idiots.

If you have posted that warning disclaimer about using your pics, writings, etc, you're deluded.

~there are strict rules concerning what makes up copyright violation.  

~most people here are not publicly open about their lifestyle choices and pursuing legal action will expose them.  really?  You can't tell your wife you like getting your ass beat or your dick sucked but you're willing to appear in court to fight someone who used a pic of you in panties?  you're subsidizing daddy's college fund by being a pro-domme?  so you want a court case on your personal information when you finally graduate and start looking for a real job?  Because a simple Google search reveals an incredible amount of information.

~most people cannot afford the financial costs associated with pursing legal action against someone who copied and pasted your crappy poem into their profile.

So, keep putting that disclaimer up there.  It really doesn't work.  At all.

I really wish I had someone to go get me chicken nuggets right about now...

I deleted all my pics and uploaded mostly different ones.  Thanks to certain people for contributing images of the mayhem I inflicted on them :)  If this type of activity does not appeal to you, I am not the dominant for you.

I'd like to hear from some of those male subs and slaves who use a cock pic as their primary pic.  Not a criticism, just curiosity on why this is the initial impression you choose to make.

If you are lucky enough to be given my yahoo messenger, or we continue email exchanges, and you contact me and mention what you want me to do to you before you even bother with a greeting, I will file you under the selfish bastard category and block you accordingly.  If you cannot take the time to even say hello then you are focused solely on yourself and are therefore now beneath my notice.  If you are now NOT receiving answers to messenger contacts, here's your sign.  

I'd rather be without a sub than settle for less than what I want.

If we're talking and getting nowhere, something is not right.

I've been known to meet a sub the day after he contacted me here.  

If you aren't sure of what you want, do NOT contact me.  I am no longer interested in men who want to explore but have never even boarded the ship.

You know how some dominant women want tribute?  Or they are looking for a man who will keep them in shoes?  Or pay for a weekly mani/pedi?

I want a sub that will keep me in books.  Is there someone out there who is willing to do that?  I think that would be cheaper than shoes LOL

Wow.  Apparently I am behind the times.  I just did a search for dominant females, aged 18-24 and got a full page of 'online now' women.  I scanned each profile and all of them but ONE were aggressive, demanded tribute and/or gifts, called men all kinds of derogatory names, and about half of them were into 'online domination only'.  They all claimed to be surrounded by men willing to do ANYTHING they asked, and that they were all experts at every form of humiliation, bondage, extreme play, and 'control'.

So here I sit, twice their ages, more experience than some of them have been alive, and I still don't know it all.  I won't see someone just because he has money (ask some of the men I have refused LOL), I care about the men I play with, and well.....I'd rather never have another man call me Mistress than become what these young women are.  

This isn't a way to make money, get gifts, or take advantage of someone for me.  Sure, I've been paid, and accepted gifts.  But I give something real in return.  This online crap is well, just that.  The thing that really concerns me is that this is looked at like being a stripper to support oneself through college.  Just a series of outfit changes and no respect for the men who make it all possible.  

I may humiliate you, objectify you, and debase you.  But I appreciate that you have given that to me willingly.  And it's precious.  

I just mopped my kitchen floor.  It smells lemon fresh in here now.  

There is something peaceful about doing some of the household chores late at night while everyone else is asleep.  I get to think my own thoughts and watch the house come into order.  There are times when I wish I had someone to do some things for me, or along side me, but then there are tasks which I will really have trouble surrendering if I have a service sub.  Oddly enough, I don't mind cleaning the toilet.  

I wish there were a way to make some people understand that chores are a vital part of service that involves more than getting the housework/yardwork or vehicle care done.  If I have to do it all, there is less time and less cheerfulness on my part to do those things subs like to have done to them.  If we work together, everyone has more time and feels more like play.  So...  there you have it.  My take on household chores.  

What exactly IS online submission?  How can I be served by someone online?  What return is there on my investment of time?

I frequently see people who claim they were locked out of their old profiles and had to create a new one, or the site wouldn't accept their password, or their old profile just disappeared.  I don't quite understand that.  I've had the same profile since 2004 and have never had a problem.  That just always makes me wonder ...did the wife find your profile?  Did you harass someone to the point you had to kill it and create a new one?  (I had that happen.  I blocked the young man and he emailed me minutes later with what looked like the same profile name and I had to look closely to see that he had just transposed two letters in the new one).  It makes me suspicious, anyway.  

Awwwww.  I just read the cutest journal from a 22 year old switch.  He has been on collarme for 4 months and has already been through 2 'mistresses', and was most upset that one of them deleted her profile and he didn't have any other way to contact her. Now he is thinking of giving up on 'the lifestyle' altogether.  

How sad is that?  

I need to make a clarification.

My situation has changed.  I am postponing or in some cases completely dropping some planned adventures.  I will not continue to explain myself, and pushing the issue will ensure that some things will NEVER happen.  I have a life beyond kink.  I also have a life that allows total openness with my partner.  If your life requires slipping and sliding and detailed planning to avoid detection, that is not MY problem, and I am not required to fit YOUR schedule.  If I say I am busy, your desperate plea that 'this is the only time I can get away' carries no weight with me.  The FEW people I work with on scheduling know who they are, because they have proven themselves worthy of that.  

Today's rant:

For all of you whining about not receiving a 'no thanks' email when you contact someone, please remember that YOU may be normal but a good deal of the people on here are not, and any reply at all just drives them forward.  I have sent 'no thanks' emails, even using the automated ones on site, and gotten yet another from the sender, begging for another chance, or explaining why my no thanks is not the right answer, or filled with invective. Also take into account the number of emails some people receive (not me, I only get a few a day).  So, Mr Whiner, it is NOT about you maybe but your friends and neighbors have created the situation.  

Thanks for reading...

~Rose

I love reading the line of bullshit some male 'doms' try to run on here.  And then they have the NERVE to point their fingers at other people.  If you want to fuck, be an adult and simply say 'I am just here to find someone to fuck'.  

If you repeatedly contact me, and I am not replying, that sends a message in itself. Maybe we DID chat at some point, maybe there is some small amount of compatibility, but not enough to form the kind of relationship YOU want.  So I am instituting a new mode of behavior.  If I am not interested in pursuing something with you, and do not want endless 'hey I'm here' emails filling my inbox, I am blocking you.  Don't take it personally.  I'd rather not even see them than delete unread or open and never reply to them.  

I am a night owl.  I do not keep an 'early to bed, early to rise' schedule.  If meeting before noon is the only way you can see me, do not even bother to contact me.  I do not alter my lifetime schedule for anything other than business.  I am not lazy because I am just getting up at noon.  

I am genuinely in need of someone to do some upholstery work.  I would be interested in hearing from someone who does this for a living or serious side work.  

I'm really blessed.  I have some good friends, an occasional play partner who isn't a wanker, a wonderful fabulous boyfriend, and I'm happy with my life overall.  It isn't perfect, but whose is?  

New update for that person monitoring my activity ..  I took a TEN HOUR break and I'm logged in now.  

Hey MistressMidora ... I took a 2 hour break so I can only manage 22 hours max today.  Since you're counting how much I'm on, and all ...

When someone says 'no limits', what exactly do they mean?  Can some of you who claim to have no limits, or want someone with no limits email me and give me your view?  

For all the stupid lesbian bitches screaming 'no men no men!!!'....  you can't stop someone from viewing your profile. BUT...there is a little thing in your email called a filter.  All blue mail can go to bulk.  Use it and stop bitching.  Unless you really want the attention anyway and in that case, false modesty is even more unbecoming.  

Wondering if I will find a date for Friday night.......  A real date....Because I have nothing to do and don't relish the idea of sitting at home.

I'm all domestic today.   I cleaned and made chicken salad.  Why am I doing these things?

And so, a few little changes in the profile, and my emails have stopped hehe.

But amazingly no one has asked what they can barter.  Chickens.  You think its all about money and pussy.

I am so done with flaky men.  

1.  I get an email from some man who claims to be submissive, wants this that and the other.  

2.  Sometimes I choose to answer said email.

3.  We talk here and then move to messenger.

4.  He asks to meet.  Sometimes I actually agree.  We make plans.

5.  Said 'gentleman' disappears.  

What the fuck?  I could understand it after a meeting if the chemistry is not right.  But before?  I haven't even had a chance to make a bad impression yet........

And the rest of you wonder why we are so suspicious.

I know some people follow this thing, so its time for an update.

I am finally done with physical therapy and doctor visits on the fractured wrist from 16 months ago.  I saw the orthopedist for the last time and he released me with work restrictions which will negatively affect my career.  It remains to be seen what I do next.

I have two hard and fast rules.

~Always tell me the truth

~ALWAYS ask if it is a good time to talk kink/sex/anything other than generalities when contacting me on messenger.  

Breaking the rules proves to me that you are only concerned with your own wants and desires.  Sometimes I give a second chance, usually not, and if it happens again there are NO more chances.  It's that simple.

Whoever sent the wishlist gift, thank you :)

Men:  if she asks for money, cannot write a proper entry with correct spelling and punctuation, and immediately wants to own and control you, and you fall for that...... do not later post about how all Dommes are greedy bitches and know nothing.  You got what you paid for.

Tuesday, Nov 9th, 2010 -- If you've been overly anxious because something seems out of whack recently, rest assured that a shift toward stability is now in the works. But your newly found center of gravity is not without its own intensity, so don't expect all your problems to just disappear. However, you should be able to enjoy yourself today, no matter what stress you face. There is a peaceful place within that can change your attitude for the better.

Its finally changing for the better.

I have made it my personal mission to report any profile that is racist, prejudicial, and inflammatory.  We all have preferences and are allowed to voice them, but when your poorly spelled profile information makes a comment like 'blacks are inferior humans' like the one I saw today from a 25 year old female 'dominant', it enrages me on a level beyond anger.  I sincerely hope that young lady never needs medical care because you can't pick and choose who gives it, and the field is populated by all races.  

Really wishing I had a valid reason to get out of the house today that didnt require getting dressed and being presentable.   Why can't the world come to me?? 

Came through surgery ok...hardware removed and a torn ligament repaired.  Now for rehab and recovery.  AGAIN.

Want a sub, not just a play partner.  Tired of bullshit and drama.  Where are you???  I had you once and want you again.......

*shaking my head*    Just because I'm female and on a kink site doesnt mean I am looking for a fuck. 

baby, dont feel that way, its just a phase i'm going through.  i'll see you soon, and all will be fine.  i miss you too.  very much.

teddyboydc, you are amazing.  your eager ass worship, your tongue buried deep in my hole....you are my ass pig....your piss drinking with enthusiasm, you are my piss whore, my toilet boy.  I am so looking forward to the next time you can worship me.  You are so nasty and I love it!!!  and you were right, that WAS an impressive cum shot!!!

its been a good week so far.  a little splurging on sexy underthings, and a few thrift store treasures!!  cant wait to see what comes next.....

Sometimes I forget to visit here.  I get busy and before I know it, a month has gone by...  At any rate, I'm still happy, things are going great, and between the D/man and the s/man, I'm being well taken care of.

It amazes me...  how half of someone's profile can be grammatically correct without a single spelling error, and the other half is barely intelligible English.... 

DO NOT embarrass the Domme!!!

I pissed in your fucking driveway because you wouldnt answer the door or the phone....  and I'm done.  You are blocked, your messenger is blocked, your phone number deleted. 

330 AM and its me and Robot Chicken....

It seems there is an abundance of men who initiate conversations, and then fail to follow through....  who stand one up on a first meeting, who wont return calls....  I am beginning to wonder are there any genuine men out there who arent liars and cheaters and gameplayers.

Every other night at this time I am wide awake and wishing I didnt have to go to bed.  Tonight I need to stay up so I can sleep tomorrow since I am heading back to the night shift.  And guess what?  Eyelids are heavy, my back hurts sitting here, and there is no one from my buddy list online to chat with and keep me awake.  I'm not even getting those pointless 'may i serve you' emails that come a dozen a day.  Help meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

I loved the weather today and actually got out and spent some time in it between homework and housework.  Where IS that one that can help me with chores??  Anyway, while I was out, I bought the most adorable dress, and hopefully will have somewhere to wear it soon.  Relax, boys, its not fetishwear. 
I have received emails from many, replied to a few, spoken in depth to even fewer and still have not made that 'match' I am looking for.  Good things come to those who wait, but waiting can be a tiring effort. 

To the most special man in my life... Happy Birthday Dominus.  You are one in a million and I am proud to have you in my life.