One thing I'll say about this Lifestyle we love and crave...

Whatever doesn't turn us on will more than likely make us laugh.

....and to West Palm Beach within a week...

Time for this snow bird to thaw out...=)

...UGH!....I'm heading to Mooresville tomorrow and snow is in the forcast...=/

She is a slave in every sense of the word...she is owned. She has value to her Master.

...and, most importantly, she is happy...

With the many mis-matched and fruitless searches one see's here on CM, it is quite gradifying to find someone from here in a happy relationship...

 That is the motivation and the goal the rest of us use in our searches....happiness...=)

...just a note to all the subs and slaves out there who are a bit frustrated with some of the profiles they see on here...

...I'm just letting you know it isn't much better on our end of the spectrum either...LOL

You have to admit, it's never boring here..

Recently, I attended a charity function held by a local motorcycle club that was held at a local biker bar.

After buying a beer, I turned and surveyed the other bikers who had showed up for the same reason I did and I noted how much the motorcycle culture had evolved since I first straddled my first bike.

The individuals in the bar all wore black leather vest, adorn with all manner of patches from previously attended events, as well as, the colors of the club in which they belonged.

I was reminded of the red felt vest my mother made for me when I was in the Boy Scouts to hold the various patches I received from attending camperee's.

I see this uniform at every biker event I attend these days. New shinny bikes, crisp well maintained leathers, and motorcycle showroom floors that dedicate more space for biker apparel than to display the motorcycles they sell.

The same seems to be true for the events sponsored by our local Lifestyles group.

I remember the first time I attended a munch. After years of keeping my 'kink' a deeply guarded secret, the internet brought out into the mainstream, that which was always done behind closed doors.

Back then, we all had an acceptance of each other even when we didn't necessarily agree with each other.

Now there are rules for our munch and for the people with whom attend it. Outside activities planned or suggested for our group now have to be sanctioned by the leadership.

The needs of the many truly outweigh the needs of the few...

I do support groups and discussions about our Lifestyle, but I also maintain that it's what each of us brings to the table that makes us unique and standardization of a group is little more than a form of communism....

...as for sewing patches all over my vest and jacket so I look more like the present day bad-assed biker....no thanks...

My tenure in Florida will soon come to a close. I know I will be relocating here in the future but, for now, my responsibilities reside elsewhere. I was happy to vist the various coasts where most people live as well as the northern central part of the state.

I attended munches and met many interesting people. I also met a few crazy one's which were unique unto themselves.

Bike Week at Daytona was really fun. I am not so sure that I will ever mentally process everything that I experienced there...;)

Soon, I will do the various jumps up the East Coast and get to work in New England...but I know I will have this state in my heart and will again feel the warm moist breezes that I have come to love.

...funny how a woman can tell all she wants to know from a man from a single first kiss....I am so glad I have talent in that area...

I cut through the center part of Florida on a commute to Panama City Beach...the area around Lakeland sure needs rain...=/

Panama City Beach is in full swing with spring breaker's.....was I ever that young?...?

This place still has retained it's southern Alabama feel and i'st always a welcome place to relax.

I suspect daytona will rest in my deviant mind for a long time to come, however.

Bike Week continues...=)

Ya'll subs sure are quiet...<crickets chirping>

Gosh-gee Mrs. Cleaver, is the Beav in trouble again?

Daytona Bike Week begins...=)

I found this and copied it to share with people here...the original author was female talking about men who set up thier profile with a picture and she was writing about what NOT to do when using a picture to attract potential mates:

1. Pictures of yourself with a dolphin: I don't really get it. Is it to show a "sense of adventure?" A love of fish?

2. Listing your job as "professional": Professional WHAT?

3. Post only one picture -- of a group: I get it! You want us to know 'I'm a cool guy,' I have friends! And that's okay, it gives us an indication of what you like to do, but come on -- you need to indicate which one you are. Guess which one is trying to land a date? I DON'T KNOW!

4. One very distant picture: "Hellllooooooo out there there the th...." I can't SEE you. Not helpful when I am superficially sussing out people that I could potentially be attracted to!

5. Blurry: Come on. You can do better, can't you?

6. Pictures of yourself with several bimbos: So that's what you like? Pass.

7. Shirt off, no face: While it's good to let a girl imagine, we'd rather not have to imagine your face -- put your shirt back on and stop hiding behind your (real or imagined) abdominals.

8. Only posting self-portraits of the bathroom mirror variety: Get someone to take your freaking picture! Come on, man! If I wanted to date a serial killer, I would get a prison pen pal.

9. Posting arty imagery: I get it. You're cool. I don't want to look at what you like to look at. I want to see you. Spare me your awesome sense of aesthetics.

10. No photo: This is of course the worst photo offense one can commit in their online dating profile. Even the least shallow among us, when looking for "the one" online and sifting through thousands of profiles, have at best a four-second window in which we decide whether or not we want to learn more about this person. And the picture is largely what we base it on. No pic/no dice. *see number 4.

Oh well, I just thought it was interesting is all...maybe it's time for me to update my pics..*nods*

I do enjoy reading the various profiles on CM.

Mine isn't all that good, I admit it, but it isn't as negative or demanding as some I have found here.

Ok, you're looking for a Dom...but not so fast; You want a certain Dom...so you first list who you don't want, then list your demands, then a few sentences about how wonderful you are....well....I reck'in that is human nature..

Here are a few things I chuckle at;

He has to be unattached (as in homely, or recently cleared of murdering his wife, or of such a jerk-ish nature, that he couldn't get any woman, and in that way he is totally available to cater to you and your desires).

He has to be into what you are into (He can't give you too much pain, or wish to use rope all the time, or do anything "weird", rather, he needs to train you to be your interpetation of what a sub is suppose to be and only in the interest you have).

He must live locally (so he can be there when you want him there and if you have no further need of him, you can make him leave late at night and you won't have to feel guilt in the commute he has to make).

You want a LTR (you want a husband....)

He should be finacially independent (rich) educated (must have a minimum of a Masters) and mature (old enough to drive).

No cyber, no phone sex, no pics (where the mind is the largest sex organ, I either don't have one or don't use mine so don't insult me by being aroused by me. I also only have sex with the lights off and fully clothed so get use to it, so he should never ask me).

I only want women (Men only want me for sex while a woman will go shopping for shoes with me)

Yup....some profiles here are funny to me and I wish to thank many of you for the grin your profiles has given me.

This morning, in Palm County, it seemed hot and muggy...

Then the sun came out...

Now it is sunny, hot, and muggy...

Is there a law in Florida against turning on the A/C in February?

~thoughts from a snow bird~

I am curious...

I live the fifties lifestyle.....is there another way out there?....what is it?

"Gosh Beav....."

"Hi sweet thing, who's little girl are you?"

I got lost today....I didn't mind, not knowing what was ahead was sort of exciting..

I ventured through a not so good area followed by a too good of an area before I accidently found my bearings and turned around and headed back to the barn...

It was a fun day...=)

People who live here, love the fact they live here...

I can't say I blame them, it is nice once you get over the fire ants, bugs bigger than cars, sand worked into the carpet on the floorboards, and mosquitoes being the state bird...

...all kidding aside, this really is America's playground...and they are truly lucky to of made the choice to move here.

I have looked over a lot of profiles from down here in The Sunshine State.. So many nice and interesting people reside here.

I have only sent one message out (which didn't warrent a responce) because I am only a visitor here, only staying for a few months. To do otherwise would not be honorable..

I would like to re-think my profile...it seems to paint me as a boring biker-type...how can a man be a biker when he rides a Goldwing?....oh well, that is a thought for another day...

...maybe I can do a profile making me out to be a cowboy or an astronaut...=)

I'm in Florida for awhile...I need to thaw and West Palm Beach is great for that...;)

...yes Virginia, there is a Santa Clause...and he's a Dom...

When a girl kisses a girl, and likes it...who am I to interfer...=/

It's quiet.......too quiet....<chuckle>

I might be nuts, but it sure seems like people are out spending money at our local retail stores much more than, say, a year ago...

...I would of stopped and marvelled at this but I have been too busy to dally around...

Having left the Boston area, I can say I didn't visit there with an open mind. I thought it would be a culture where people hid behind closed doors and were suspicious, somewhat, of strangers.

I thought this because of the history of that area. Pilgrams judging each other and removing those who don't conform, burning preceived witches, and decades of Kennedy's providing pride and shame...

...I found I wasn't far from my preconcieved notions.

I did meet a delightful sub there with whom I still communicate with and is a sincerely nice person. I also messaged with a few others which I hope to meet on my next excursion there.

...but it's good to be back with normal people....good 'ole New Yorkers...LOL

I had a visit from my sub. We hadn't seen each other for awhile and I was really glad to see her again.

When we came around to sex, I asked her if we could try just having vanilla sex, something we have never had.

Wow....she was....most satisfactory.....whew....

Copied from someone who has a definite point of view....one which I whole heartedly agree with...

 

    “Many inexperienced Doms believe that all that is required is simply ordering your sub around as you choose.  It’s not.  There’s much more to be said about what being a good Dom requires”

    Domination is not just giving random orders. A good Dom will find a way to cause the sub to desire pleasing the Dom.  A Dom, or Dominant, is the protector, teacher,and lover to the sub. 

    As the protector, the Dom must be (a) stronger than the sub, and (b) stronger than other males in the life of the sub.  This does not mean that he has to be physically bigger or stronger.  We are talking about character and personality. 

    As the teacher, the Dom must be wise and, above all, right.  The Dom should not arbitrarily punish the sub on a whim.  There must be a reason.  To do otherwise will
break down the trust and security of the sub.  The Dom has to be respected by the sub. Respect is a quality that is earned by the Dom being right, and issuing swift, correct justice and reward to the sub.  The Dom is not there to inflict pain and degradation on the sub, but to give the sub a goal and a direction on how to love and please him. 

    As the lover, the Dom is loving and, when appropriate, stern.  He must recognize that he is the only source of pleasure for the sub.  He must see to it that this area is not neglected.  The Dom should, when appropriate, be gentle, supportive, and tender to the sub.  A Dom/sub relationship is not just about overpowering.  It is about the Dom caring for the well-being of the sub.  If punishment is required to stop a destructive action by the submissive, then it comes from the Dom.  On the other hand, when correct action has been noted by the Dom, love and caring should come from him to the sub.

...sorry, sweetie....I'm skipping the ropes tonight.....where's my cuff's?

Spent the day preparing for the hurricane....I would of thought being this far up North, all the hurricanes I survived would of stayed in my distant memory...oh well, such is life...=/

After reading several profiles from sub's who were dictating in their profiles, to what I perceived were advances from very rude Dom's, as to how they would like to be addressed, I asked my sub to relay to me any rude requests, or any messages from the little male tyrants who wish to make demands of potential sub's on their first correspondences.

Though I wasn't surprised by what they showed me, I was amazed at how many males think this is what it means to be dominant in the Lifestyle.

I think I will start posting some of the more silly messages here...

Life is but a dream....sha-boom, sha-boom....=)

Had a hard day at work?

...maybe a nice, open palmed spanking will relax and de-stress you...

...or wrist tied over your head followed by thirty minutes of a leather flogger snapped across your back will take away the troubles of the day...

...perhaps both done followed by various points of penetration, roughly taken, will set your mind at ease...

...but don't underestimate the soothing value of having your feet rubbed while sipping a glass of wine...

Now that you're relaxed, lay your head on my stomach and suck me while I watch TV....=)

I've had a hard day too...

It's a beautiful day...

The sounds of nature are only briefly overshadowed by the roar of motorcycles, sleekly cruising down the street...

...and today, I am one of them......=)

...I need to learn to be dishonest...then the first impression of me with other CM members would be justified.

I have a suggestion to those who feel they have been preyed upon, try trusting first, I'd wager you'll rarely be disappointed. When you distrust first, you never what would of developed from the one you just dismissed.... 

Most people are good people, but few people can communicate, or project the image, that they are good...

~just say'in~

I am not being critical or condescending, I am merely curious...

When someone says they are bi-sexual and they are seeking someone who is monogamous because they are monogamous, how, exactly, does that work?...

...that's just something that makes me go "Hmmmm"....

Let's not leave out the married subs who are looking for only monogamous Dom's for when their husbands are at work...yeah, that makes sense...."Hmmmmm"

I was walking along the beach once when I found a red brick right at the waters edge. There wasn't a brick house within sight and by the worn edges of the brick, I'd say it was in the water for a very long time.

I was curious about how it came to be there....yup....another thing that makes one go "Hmmmm"....

To anyone that's driving down the interstate when they happen upon a state patrol cruiser in the right lane that's doing the speed limit, do you pass him or fall behind him?...?

To the six bikers that I tailed on the thruway the other day, I thank you for passing that trooper....it's good to know that ya'll knew as I did that the posted speed limit was only a suggestion...

To Certain Doms...

There is one Dom, whom I don't know, that I'd like to thank because he is secure enough to not take offense from the correspondence I have with his sub.

I know he as access to her membership here and I appreciate that he knows me not as a threat, but as someone with whom his sub occasionally chat's with.

There is another Dom here, that I do know and know very well, whose true nature isn't dominant or honorable. I am sure it doesn't take very long for interested subs to learn this about him. I'd encourage him to redefine the label he assigns himself except my experience with him has been through his proven deceit.

To Certain sub's...

I requested you do something....you chose not to do it...as a result, does your world seem different now?....You can always change your world should you wish it to change.

I like using all the different aspects of what is you...I just wish you didn't love it so much...that necklace looks very nice on you...soon you will be loving the pain that necklace will bring...and I know you will love every minute of that exchange...you are a good sub.

I am trying to lose weight. I am looking to shed ten pounds. I am starting with eating healthier, eating smaller amounts, and taking a brisk twenty minute walk every day.

If that doesn't work, I'll cut off my arm as it surely must weigh about ten pounds.

"...if you will come here and put your hands behind your back, I'll show you why I wish you to remain topless while we are in the house..." ~quote of the day~

Sexual fantasy's are funny things to have...

Recently, I was having a conversation with one of my subs about sexual fantasy's. 

Some people have a hard time talking about the things they would like to experience with their life partners. Some fantasy's are just that and there isn't a desire to ever experience them.

For her, having been a wife and mother for most of her life, the pursuit of experiencing what she had buried deep in her mind, was never much of an option.

Just so she has an outlet for those things that are in her mental fantasy file that she would like to do, I came up with this idea.

In a large glass jar, she placed all the fantasy's she can think of on individual strips of paper.

When we have a few quiet moments with no plans, I would have her reach in and pull out a strip of paper to hand to me and I will to her what the paper suggest.

Thus far, this has proved to have been quite successful.

I think I will create a jar with my fantasy's which I am sure, will not only shock her, but will require finding others to help her to carry out...*evil grin*...

It's great fun and I recommend it to everyone in a partnered relationship....=)

Things I have learned here...

Birch wood, when carved by a professional artist, makes for a good walking stick..

Good restaurants still have chef's...and a diner typically doesn't..

One can learn about life from Greek Mythology..

Tomato can be pronounced two ways and depending how they are pronounced, may not be the same thing..

There are still fans of the old Indian motorcycle out there...

Route 15 in Connecticut is a better route to Hartford than I-684..

Gas is $4.55 a gallon in Armonk, NY..

...and the most important thing I've learned is....there are some women out there who have found happiness here on CM, they had to kiss a few frogs before they found their prince, but it was well worth it...

I want to show her my appreciation. I am thinking hard on assigning a new way she can please me, but I'd also like to buy her a nice present....

The need to please should never be underestimated, especially with the giving nature of a sub.

I haven't come up with anything earth shattering as of yet but maybe a quick shopping trip to "Pet Smart" will inspire me....a nice large dog bed to be placed at my feet for her maybe.

She deserves something special...hmmmm

I am behind on a project I'm heading up which means I have to increase my labor. This is not a good thing at this stage of construction.

I guess a tour up the Hudson Valley on the bike will have to wait.

One of my subs has expressed an interest in inducing lactation. This might prove interesting.

I have a bondage session tonight. I am hopeful the lashings are artsy enough to document via photos.

I made a new crop out of bamboo, it is really a good one...I look forward to getting reviews from it's use...=)

...I seem to get tripped up on terminology sometimes....

I hear the word "Master" and I am thinking "slave" and, not that there is anything wrong with a slave, but I have little use for one...

A sub, I can imagine as a person who votes, has a career, and maybe even drives a car...

...a slave, I don't imagine as someone who thinks harder than what it takes to work a kitchen mop...

If my terminology is incorrect, will someone please correct me......=/

I do encourage anyone who wishes to learn a little about the Lifestyle or wish to supplement their knowledge to Google Albany Power Exchange...

There is a lot of good information there and it can be applied to almost every avenue of whatever one is into.

Whew....hot day.....had to turn the AC on my GoldWing up to it's highest setting...

I'm back in the lower Hudson Valley...*smiles*...

I took the Wing down to Jersey this morning just to let the wind blow off the dust.

...I guess I'll be swinging East next...

Anyone who has ever researched their genealogy knows of the frustration and rewards of doing so. It seems I might be related to a western outlaw....I guess I won't be doing any Ancestry.com commercials anytime soon....=/

I delayed my departure from Charlotte a few days because the heat wave broke and I can enjoy being outside without melting. This sparked some moaning from those who desire my presence in CT and MA....patience ladies, I'll be there soon.

I remember scoffing at the Albany Power Exchange website for posting decorum for Dom's and Sub's. It wasn't that I disagreed, rather, that basic manners needed to be mentioned at all. From talking to a few of sub's here, I now see that maybe my ridicule was premature..

I am reminded of the time I attended a munch in Newburgh, NY with two of my sub's in tow. After a nice dinner, I overheard a self proclaimed Dom there tell my sub that because he was a Dom and she was a sub, she had to do what he told her to do...if you could imagine my reaction to this, you'd be close to what it actually was.

I believe that if you took any two people and put them on a deserted island for a year, a year later you'd find one was dominate, the other submissive...I wonder, if we put Hitler and Stalin on that imaginary island, who would reign and who would serve...hmmm

With each journal entry I make, I tell something about myself....this entry will continue that trend...

I do not seek out subs, I never have....they seek me out. Sometimes we are a good match and sometimes we aren't. No two Doms are alike just as no two subs are alike. I have the need to have a relationship with my subs. Our "sessions" bond us together just as going out to dinner does.....or staying in watching TV does.

One such woman contacted me one day to ask questions about my interpretation of the Lifestyle.

She had educated herself on every aspect of BDSM but had never experienced any part of it. Recently separated from decades of marriage, she was now ready to "take the plunge".

As a rule, I don't jump into a session the first time I meet a potential sub and I didn't with her so as we sipped wine during dinner or took leisurely walks on the beach, we discussed and shared information. I can honestly say her knowledge was much further advanced than mine on the subject and I have years of experience in the trade.  I couldn't help but be impressed with her.

Through our chats, I learned what she was interested in and she learned what I found pleasure in.

Our dialog forever continues, but now, we are partners in an exploration. Isn't that what it's all about?...?

I chatted with a friend last night. He has a slave and they have been married for twenty years. He maintains that I should take the leap and purchase a slave for myself.

I must be an old dog....LOL

I prefer a sub....regardless of what we do as a couple, I can always count on a sub to express her thoughts and opinions and, sometimes, I consider her opinions to help shape my own.

A slave would find her place at my feet where a sub's place is where she would fit comfortably next to me, under my arm of protection..

It is a certainty that I am not expressing myself adequately...maybe I'll ask a sub to explain it and reward her if she can do better...a woman's mind is a terrible thing to waste.

Today is my last day down here in the South, tomorrow I return to NY. I say NY...I have to shoot down to NJ as soon as I get back followed by a trip across CT a few days from now. I know I'll end up in Boston for a few weeks after that...I sometimes envy those who live in one place...

 ~Bondage~

While an Eagle Scout, I often taught a group of newer scouts how to lash wood together. I told them that if their knots and lashings were neat and orderly, they would stay tight and hold better and for longer periods of time.

I still believe that to be true.

Not every scenario of rope work applies with every person and having a few foundation bonding's is a good idea if one wants to have proficiency in bondage.

Last night, with the help of a willing volunteer, I worked on a series of bonding's that secured her arms, from her wrist to her elbows, behind her back.

My goal was to create a series of lashings that were quick, looked neat and orderly, held tight, but without cutting off blood flow to her hands and were overly uncomfortable.

I was successful...she was not under duress and the position of her arms forced her breast out and torso down, which opened the door to other possibilities which I took full advantage of.

Show me a Dom with superior rope skills, and I'll show you a Dom who needs a revolving door on the front of his house...<evil grin>...

There are few joys in life that rival that first sip of coffee in the morning...~just say'in~

I briefly chatted with a delightful sub (not mine) this morning over her journalized satire of some of the many questions asked of her by dominant men on this venue. She was polite, articulate, and I suspect has a higher than average education. She sure started my day with a smile.

I sometimes take for granted how lucky I am that I don't receive such silly request for information like she does...=)

I know the difference between a slave and a sub, well, today I met a slave who isn't in the Lifestyle and who doesn't know she is a slave...It may not be justified but can't help but feel pity for her...people tend to lead the lives they choose so I won't pity her too much...

On a lighter note, I am closer to posting a few pics...all I need now is to slam this laptop against the wall and stomp on it a few times to make it listen...LOL

I am trying out this journal. With my thoughts being public, I reck'in I'd better make an attempt at spelling words correctly, a chore I gave up when spell check became available.

Recently, a curious friend asked me to explain the Lifestyle to her. Knowing mere words would not satisfy her curious nature, I attempted to show her. Because trust is a major element of what we do, I promised by giving her my word that no harm will befall her and she will feel no pain in my demonstration.

The session was only thirty minutes long but I covered the bases of what I enjoy as a Dom and what I have noted my sub's enjoy and expect from me.

Afterwards, we discuss what we did and she said something rather profound.

"...a sub gets a great deal of attention from her Dom, much more than a girl gets from her boyfriend when they are having just sex..."

With a sly grin on my face, I thought to myself, this is a smart girl...she realized right away why so many people cheerfully transfer their power. The need to connect is strong with us humans...=)