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5/4/2015 2:25:08 AM
A friend of mine posted this. I wanted to share it with you.
The limits the sub set for them before submitting to a dom are key factors to measure the training progress of a beginner to a later stage. No matter what a sub set the limits but purely depends on a dom to work out different ways to bring them up to the next level and presenting themselves for the next time with a new sets of limits. But before that the most important factor a dom should always take care of is that her interests and urges to do so. Being aggressive and pulling up some slave training books and following those guidelines will not prove anything but damage. Before starting the training process a dom should make sure he study her thoroughly and then set his own ways to start up and gradually push her to the next level.
Before a dom takes over a sub, he should always listen to her very carefully about her likes/dislikes which actually help them to figure out her soft and hard limits. Many a times it is found a that new partner not really knowing much about their limits gets confused and say yes to some very hard stuffs but say no for some simple acts. At any cost a dom should not let her feel that she is unworthy/wimp as she is a newbie which will f***e her to take wrong decisions in urge to prove she is the best. Here comes the crucial role of the dom, and a deep study on her every movement, actions, body language, communications etc will help him to a conclusion and will create a right environment and the right act.
Once session starts with soft limits, a dom should reFor example….a sub loves palm spanking but afraid of canes….the reason behind this….cane strokes are more intense as it covers a less area of her skin while in contact…..a dom should definitely not try a cane first but an wooden paddle which covers more area on her skin than a cane but less of a palm….should start with slow spanking and gradually make it harder……and once she cope up with the intensity of pain by the paddle the next item he should use is the cane…..
To find out the edge between soft to hard limits a dom should always keep a close watch on her every reaction, of her body parts, her expression and her feelings while the session is going on. It’s very important to see whether the sub undergoing the session is enjoying the act with pleasure if not she will never be able to come up on the edge and try the other next level. A regular switching of mind, dragging her concentration away from a definite part of her body and forcing her to concentrate on the other parts will give her time to cope up with the existing impact of pain and will allow her to carry on a bit further. A verbal humiliation basically helps a lot in this case, where a dom should challenge the sub and this challenge will bring more impact on to her mind so that she don’t surrender so easily and will give her 100 % to carry out the scene and finally the limit is pushed a little ahead slowly raising the tolerance threshold and raising the limits.
A right environment, a right scene, a right communication helps a lot in shaping out the soft limits to a hard limits. Too much harsh and rash behavior of a dom even spoils up the show. At any point of time the sub should not be left to feel that she has landed up in a wrong hand and that will create panic which will prove negative. I feel in between any sessions, a soft, and loving and caring words or actions helps a lot to portrait the right picture of her dom and leads to Trust, Faith and Respect. But again a lenient and too much of permissive behavior also prove dangerous as it will never bring the right gestures to submit. More clement words will never attract her dom’s presence and will not give her the feel to respect her dom.
To conclude limits are very important for both the sub and dom. It always keeps the sub away from danger and also helps the dom to justify over a sub and push her limits but not necessary every limits can be pushed up as there are certain things which cannot be crossed at all. Even I do believe I have got my own limits and whenever I find my partner wanted me to play with those stuffs which I am not confident and didn’t find any interest in them I will deny it very straight and will never take a second call on them.
Hope You Enjoy Reading It.
5/4/2015 2:20:38 AM
Degrees of submission
1.The outright non-submissive masochists or kinky sensualist.
Not in to servitude, humiliation or giving up of control. It is just pain or spiced up sensuality on the masochists own term and for own pleasure. It is solely to satisfy one’s own pleasure and not to gratify the other partner.
2.. Non Slave
Not in ti even playing as a “slave” but in to other “submissive roleplaying”, for example school teacher scene, infantilism, f***ed transvestism. Its usually in to humiliation but in to servitude even in a play.
3. Play slave
Likes to play at being slave.. Likes to “feel’ subservient. Likes to feel in getting “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism but only on the slaves’s own terms. Dictate the scene to a large degree, often fetishistic.
4. true submissive, non-slave
Really gives up control(but temporarily and only within limits) and gets his/her main satisfaction from aspects of submission “other than” serving or being used by dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, or by giving up of responsibility. Doesn’t dictate the scene except in very general terms but still seeks his/her direct pleasure (rather than getting one’s pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant)
5. True submissive play slave
Really gives up control (though only temporarily only during brief scenes and within limits) and gets his/her main satisfaction from serving or getting used by the dominant but again only for fun purpose, usually erotic, (may or may not be in to pain, but if so, is turned on by pain indirectly, that means they enjoy being the objects of one’s partner’s sadism, on which the submissive places few requirements or restrictions.
6. Uncommitted short term but more than play semi-slave
Really gives up control(though usually only limits), want to serve and used by the dominant, wants to provide practical , non-erotic as well as fun-erotic services, but only when the slave is in a mood. May even act as full time slave for many days at a time but is free to quit at any time or may continue till the end of the agreed time. May or may not have a long term relationship with one’s master/mistress. Anyway the slave has the final say over when he/she will serve without any pressure.
7. Part-time consensual but REAL slave
Has ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship. And regards oneself as the mistress’ or master’s property at all time. Wants to obey and please him/her at all aspects of life either fun related or practical scene related. Devotes most of one’s time to other”s commitment.
8. Full time live-in consensual slave
Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements. The slaves regards himself/herself as existing solely for the mistress/master’s use, pleasure and well-being. The slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. It is not much different from the situation of a traditional housewife, except that, within the S/M world the slave’s position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially when the slave is male( since males certainly aren’t socially pressured in to this kind of lifestyle). Within the S/M world, a full time “slave” arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements.
9. Consensual total slave with no limits.
A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn’t exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the consent is induced by brainwashing, social or economic pressures and hence isn’t fully consensual. A few S/M purists will insist that you aren’t really a slave unless you are willing to do absolutely anything for your master or mistress, with no limits at all. There are few who claims to be no limits slaves, but in all cases it would be reasonable to doubt the claim.