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I am here to find my slave, someone whose nature is  or needs the reality of being a slav
Male Dominant, 64,  Danville, Virginia US

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I am here to find my slave, someone whose nature is  or needs the reality of being a slave, owned property, even a prisoner.   {Or a couple, f\m or f\f}


Strict structured life of captivity, work and service.     This is about my nature, needing to control my slave's life.  It begins with Power Exchange, you entrusting me with direction of your life so we can both live our true selves. 

I value intelligence and good character, among other things.  This is not about a vanilla romance with kinky bedroom fun.   I can teach, I am flexible, but this requires commitment and a more intense intention than many here seek.


We will communicate via CS private mail, then IM and then on to Cam and Phone.   Intelligent, meaningful communication is required; it should be desired by all genuine and sincere people who seek any kind of positive relationship.

I have been forewarned that Most here are liars and useless.  Bullshit and brevity will cause an end to contact.


[NO----- my messages to you are not copy/paste, but written to you individually; As I am the same person with the same perspective, intentions, nature and needs, I may use similar phrases and thoughts, but I write each one new.]




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7/25/2017 4:10:59 PM

 I genuinely feel bad for those who are here with shallow, hateful and/or deceitful intentions. They obviously have severe insecurities and problems that they need to derive pleasure from trying to upset someone.   It is truly sad.    

Good luck to you. I hope your life gets better.

6/22/2017 9:49:09 AM
I wrote this to someone today, it may give you a better sense of me as a serious man who is also sane, responsible and realistic.

I live for control.  you are aware that you need to be controlled and respond best when a responsible, reasonable person assumes that control of your life.  Control is not about the physical aspects; it is emotional and psychological; the more you feel safe and cared about, the more you feel you can trust your master, the easier living your slave nature becomes, the deeper you can go for Him.  

The long-term unequal power dynamic I intend has a superior/inferior aspect to it.  Slaves are essential to masters, they enable us to live our natures as we enable them to live theirs.  There is a very pronounced difference in us, not referring to gender, but our true natures and what we each need to feel whole.

I hope you are genuine and prepared for meaningful conversation.

12/28/2016 4:38:33 AM
I am looking for someone who intuitively understands the value and need of excellent communication.   A woman who is Honest and Honorable; rare among the  "female slaves" here.

Not a difficult concept. 

I intend a relationship, not play sessions or part-time, a shared life in which we can live our natures.  Sex is not the central focus of my life. 

4/22/2016 5:46:52 AM
Someone commented in her profile that she is always wanting to understand, asking questions.   Such a habit stops the flow of communication and may actually hinder understanding.

The need to "understand" is generally more than curiosity or a thirst for knowledge; it is about control- if I know enough, understand enough, I will be better protected from whatever (often nameless) terror or threat might approach me or invade my life.

Letting go, just following and entrusting another with your life, learning to stop challenging and resisting, if harder than receiving lashes.

That inner peace comes not from rigid understanding nor rational explanations but letting go and accepting, surrendering to another, to life, to the energies and reality instead of attempting to control with your rational mind.

The mind is awesome.  It can also be limiting, focused on material world aspects and ignoring the non-tangible facets of life it can be an anchor that prevents one from a fluid voyage. 

Listen with what lives within you.  You do not Need to know how electricity works or what diameter wires are run from light fixture to switch or the manufacturer of the switch in order to turn the light on.

If you require that a master describes everything in exact detail, including why he choose that interaction or technique of another one, or what he intends to do, in precise detail, you will lose some of the essence you could learn from and be nourished by.

Of course, one must be wise and discern who can be trusted; knowledge is useful and important, I am not advocating that anyone should close her eyes and mind- being observant and open to receive all kinds of wisdom and energy is good.


3/17/2016 10:11:12 AM
                                ~~~copied, with permission,  from SapiosexualGirl

For all those people who seem to think that a sub and a slave are one and the same, they are NOT.

A submissive renews the choice to submit, every time a demand is levied upon her.

 A slave makes a one time choice to submit, up front, and thereafter it is incumbent upon her to obey. To elaborate, then....

At the heart of submission is both the choice to submit, and the option to say "No". The submissive decides how much authority she will cede to another, how much control she will bow to, and what aspects of her life she will surrender to His command. The submissive power exchange is about choice. She has the option to decide how she feels about a demand, and what she is going to do about it. At any point that the sub is not comfortable with this arrangement, it is within her rights to say "No, I'm not going to do that". This becomes a signal to the couple that they need to renegotiate something. It does not completely derail the power dynamic between them, though she does have the option, at any point, to leave the relationship and not return. A submissive who is controlled in large tracts of her life (her sexuality, work, dress, social habits, etc), may fall into a space of obedience where orders in those arenas are never mulled over or reassessed (in the sense of "renewing the choice to submit every time a demand is levied upon her"). This is not counter to the definition I offer above, but a special subset thereof. Even for such a closely-controlled submissive, there remains some areas of her life, or aspect of her person, where she retains autonomy, or where it is her option to decide if she wishes to submit in the moment. In short: a submissive chooses to submit, and has the option to say "no" to a Dominant's command. How, then, does consensual slavery differ from submission?

*First and foremost, M/s slavery hinges upon a commitment to obedience. The slave does not revisit issues such as "should I submit?" or "How do I feel about that? Will I say yes or no?" When an order is issued, whether or not the slave agrees with it, she is obedient in the same manner that a soldier is who has enlisted in the military. 
*Secondly, in consensual slavery, a slave gives herself over to the control of her Owner as completely as is humanly possible. This means not only a high degree of obedience, but that there is actually a chattel property context to the relationship. It is a mutual understanding of Ownership and property status that arises between the parties. While both slaves and submissives are often fondly referred to as "property", in the sense of consensual slavery the slave becomes literally (by mutual agreement) the property of the Owner. Unlike a submissive, a slave does not have the right to remove her collar, end her service to her Master, or leave the dynamic. Period. It is not unheard of for slaves to be sold or given away by their Owner, should He become terminally ill, and for the slave to go willingly to a new Owner of His choosing, for the remainder of her life.
*Thirdly, a slave cannot say "No" without completely abrogating the very basis of the Master/slave agreement. A "No" from a slave is a terminal deal-breaker in a way that it is not such for a submissive.

IT IS NOT A SPECTRUM: D/s Submissives are commonly viewed as falling upon a spectrum. At one end is one who submits very little, or only in a scene-delimited context. At the other, is one who submits as a constant in a lifestyle context and is very controlled, and everyone else falls somewhere in between. The big error occurs when people assume that a slave is simply another point on that spectrum. That she is a more extreme form of submissive than is found in the ordinary range of submission. To think this is to fundamentally misunderstand the internal dynamics of slavery. A slave is not an uber-sub...someone "more" submissive than the "ordinary" submissive.


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