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Happily collared - no longer looking. Good luck on your search. :) I've been in the kink community so very, very long... Ive tried almost everything, but I seek something special.

Id love to find a dominant woman (or a kinky couple) who would like to take total control. Not weekend games, not an occasional weekly playdate, but full surrender. I yearn to give up this public persona Ive assembled over the years - to take off the mask and fully surrender to my new owner.

Im an ace, so I wont be much good as a human sex toy, but Id love to be your pet, your animal, your loyal cage dweller. So overprivileged my whole life... I yearn to be dehumanized and have my rights and freedom taken away.

I know youre out there. ) Find me. Message me. Collar me.

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4/12/2018 7:26:19 PM
I'll never understand why this site is called "Collar's Pace." ;)

2/18/2018 4:27:37 AM
A few months ago, I bought a Great Dane-sized cage (60" long!) and it's fun to curl up in, but it's a shame I don't have anybody who'd lock me in it. ;) Any puppy play enthusiasts?

12/31/2017 8:49:17 PM
Happy New Year! May we all find the special someone(s) we're looking for. Be kind to each other. (Unless, of course, specifically and mutually consentually requested not to. ;) )

11/13/2017 11:50:33 PM
I've been to hundreds of munches over the years, but the one last night was probably the most fun of them all. Strong winds knocked out power for several blocks, and the inaugural meeting of the Pets & Owners munch turned into a bar crawl, as the seven of us tried to find a place that wasn't entirely filled with starving and huddled vanilla masses.

Once we finally secured a table at a dining establishment, lovely conversation ensued. :) It was great to finally talk to other puppy play enthusiasts - it's a shame that it's so obscure in the kink community... And if you're reading this and would like to see what it's like to have a grown man turn into a puppy who will obey your every command with smile-inducing enthusiasm, drop me a line. ;)

10/30/2017 12:00:53 AM
I'm always surprised by how few kinksters outside the LGBT community are into puppy play. It's just so much fun... I miss being a pup, eating out of a bowl, playing fetch, sleeping in a cage, and thinking of nothing other than making my owner happy. :)

If you're in or near Seattle and always wondered about puppy play, drop me a line - and we'll see what happens. Woof! :)

10/15/2017 5:19:18 PM

After thirteen years of research, I have determined that the single kinkiest thing you can do to please a woman is to let her finish her sentences, and always listen to her attentively without interrupting. :)


6/19/2017 11:23:42 PM
Sometimes, I like to enter a random search word (puppy, accent, travel, commitment, etc) and browse through all the different profiles that mention it. It's like kinky people-watching: reading all the different profiles who are united by their interest in whatever it was that I searched for.

So many people, from all over the world... Who knows, maybe someday someone will discover my own profile that way. :) Now that the big local dungeon has shut down, it's even harder to meet new kinksters. Then again, the world is full of long odds and improbable success stories, so who knows...

2/14/2017 12:18:28 AM
New year. New "about me." New hope. :)

2/5/2017 2:33:52 PM

Someone should write a kinky book to end all books. A comprehensive, full and timeless guide for subs and bottoms. One that would cover all the genders, kinks and quirks. A book that would describe the way of subs.


And call it... "Subway." ;)


1/15/2017 12:19:59 AM
Huzzay! I've just submitted my 3 pieces for the Seattle Erotic Art Festival: a statuette, a photograph and a collage. Toes and fingers crossed! :)

11/24/2016 5:47:40 AM
Happy day of giving thanks. :)

10/31/2016 11:40:27 PM
Yay - I'm now a proud resident of Shoreline, all the way in the northern territories. :) I wonder how many kinksters on this site live nearby...

6/11/2016 12:03:46 AM
The sort of kink party when one's solitude is redeemed by the chance to observe a marvelous scene. <3

5/15/2016 11:01:48 PM
So busy at work, with so little free time, I find myself going over all the beautiful scenes I've participated in over the years... Without a doubt, the happiest of those involved puppy play. It's so indescribably pleasant and joyful to throw away the cares and shed the human persona, and concentrate on just one thing - making my owner happy. :) Playing with a ball, eating and drinking from bowls, occasionally sleeping in a cage... Mmmmhmm...


I want to have that in my life again, but the local scene doesn't seem to have all that many dominant women (or even couples) who enjoy puppy play. Oh well. The search continues.

3/13/2016 10:31:48 AM
Last night, I finally got a chance to play with a latex vacuum cube. It was among the greatest sensations I've ever had the pleasure to experience. :)

3/8/2016 10:21:27 PM
Huzzay! I've just found out that my artwork has been accepted for this year's Seattle Erotic Art Festival! :) April 22nd can't come soon enough. (Too bad I can't share the news with my vanilla coworkers heh heh heh)

3/7/2016 6:49:46 PM

The Emerald City awakens from its hibernation. Plants cautiously bloom, decorating the hitherto gray streets with explosions of green and pink and purple. The sun shows itself for as long as thirty whole minutes on a good day. Outlanders hesitantly cut their daily intake of Vitamin D pills in half. Locals experiment with adding a dash of color to their urban camouflage of black, grey, and variations on black and grey. Angry mobs, dedicated to sending Californians back where they came from, increase in size as well as enthusiasm. Spring is in the air.

And somewhere deep within the city's core, a certain kinky nomadic Siberian considers, silently and sanguinely, exploring the local dating scene...


3/1/2016 9:24:09 PM
The saddest ad I've seen all year: "Selling collar. Lightly used."

:'(

1/27/2016 9:06:39 PM

It's okay to refuse to date people of certain height.

It's okay to refuse to date people of certain weight.


It's okay to refuse to date people of certain ancestry.


It's okay to refuse to date people of certain proclivities.


But understand also that it is okay for others to refuse to date you. As President Underwood once said, "You're entitled to nothing. You. Are. Entitled. To. Nothing." Either everyone has the right to own their body, control their destiny, and steer their own sail toward whatever it is they define as happiness - or no one does.


Unless you're a complete pansexual who would have a romantic relationship with everyone (from the Elephant Man to a donkey to a barely-legal teenager), you too have some inhibitions, some standards, some rules on whom you'd date. If you can have standards, why can't others? Relate and emphasize, y'all...


(Inspired by the recent overabundance of torch-wielding mobs yelling "how dare you not like them?!" at relatively innocent bystanders.)


1/15/2016 11:17:59 PM
The dreams in which we revel are but shades of what we are, could be and would have been if only we had faith in our own selves.

1/13/2016 7:50:11 PM
From far enough away, gym equipment and dungeon equipment are indistinguishable.

11/4/2015 12:07:29 AM
Somewhere, someone is painting a butterfly.
Somewhere distant, two galaxies twirl.
Somewhere, someone is drawing a bubble bath.
Somewhere, someone is saving the world.
Someday, someone amazing may cross your path,
When they do, will you double or fold?..

10/15/2015 10:52:27 PM

Subs are a dime a dozen, and anyone can post a pretty picture and write a funny profile. But what of substance? Who are you, really, and how can you be useful to your Domme? It seems that any profile would benefit greatly if one were to list the things they're good at. It's a good way to set oneself apart from the crowd and let prospective partners know who they're dealing with.

If nothing else, it's a reminder to oneself to keep improving, to keep growing, to keep adding more skills and talents and to grow, both as a person and a sub.


I may be forgetting a few things, but here are some of the things I am good at:
Professional: writing, copy-editing, investing, deep research, highly skilled in analysis and data gathering; secretary, interpreter (Russian-English and vice versa)

At home
: cleaning, laundry, ironing, dishes, moving furniture, packing and moving, chauffeur, yardwork, shopping, making breakfast.

Miscellaneous
: acting, teaching, card-counting, photography, karaoke, protest organizing, shooting, bowling, entrepreneur, linguist (Russian and basic German, Spanish and Japanese), procurer of ARCs, fast learner.

To be continued...


10/11/2015 10:08:50 PM

Months turn into years,
And through it all, one constant:
Work is my mistress.


9/14/2015 12:39:40 AM

A month ago I drove four thousand miles, from Tampa's paradise and to Seattle, the Emerald City of the north. The week-long journey took me back in time, and as I drove through the old haunts of mine and met my many friends, I thought "what if," "why not," "what might have been," "what else?" The phantoms of the futures left behind, discarded as I'd chosen to move on and wander, refuse to disappear and make me wonder, did my impatience steer me the wrong way?

And as I drove toward my final goal, there in Seattle, through this country whole, with its breathtaking sights, its splendor, blights, its deserts and its fields, its many cities, I met yet more what-ifs. With every town I passed, I left behind a possibility, a branching timeline that could bloom and last forevermore. I could have stopped my trip and set up camp wherever I desired, because my skills could get me hired anywhere I wished.

Who know how many matches I drove by, potential dreamy partners left behind, the worthy ones of whom I dream and write, whose paths I shall not cross again and never find? Potential timelines going, going, gone with every mile as I kept driving on, toward Rain City, with its visions of success and life and bigger scene, filled with the young and witty.

Four thousand miles and hundreds of potential worlds passed in a week, to get me here and now, to join new cliques, and hope that it was worth it...


9/7/2015 12:39:41 AM
I've been in Seattle for 3 weeks, and I've only now realized that I never changed the zip code on my profile. Ho hum. Here's hoping the profile views will start to roll in!

8/31/2015 6:43:39 PM
Last weekend, I went to the CSPC, and it was beautiful. :)

7/31/2015 9:39:46 PM
In about 2 weeks, I'll move to Seattle for work. Give it up for cross-continental roadtrips, folks. ;)

Incidentally, is anybody looking for a really awesome, chillaxed and kink-friendly roommate? :)

7/17/2015 8:38:00 PM
I am...

a wanderlust king
a blast when I sing
in need of a fling
afraid of The Ring


too square to wear bling
confused by I Ching
too proud to cling
a big fan of spring
not looking to swing
sometimes a man of a wing
not sure about the band Sting
amused by the Thing


impressed by Beijing
all done with this string
...so unbelievably bored.

10/6/2014 6:28:40 PM
Ye gods, where is everyone?.. It's almost as if there was a massive exodus of everyone under 35, as well as 90% of other kinky people. The local scene might as well have tumbleweeds rolling through it...

I cannot think of a single logical reason why Florida (and Tampa in particular) doesn't have more open-minded and kinky people. What on earth happened here, and when, and how?

10/5/2014 5:48:59 PM
Anyone alive with a kink drive?..

9/18/2014 6:30:38 PM
I find it odd that there are so few submissive men in Tampa... I'm not complaining, mind you - this is the first time in my life that I haven't had competition. I'm just mighty curious as to the reasons behind this phenomenon...

9/7/2014 8:51:45 PM
Tampa, I am in you! ;) Let the adventures begin...

9/5/2014 10:32:09 PM
Just finished packing! I'll set off for Tampa in the morning. Looking forward to all the new adventures... :)

8/29/2014 11:29:06 PM
How is this for irony? On my final visit to the Sanctuary I won a year pass to the dungeon! (1 free visit per month.) Ended up trading it for some swag instead. :)

8/17/2014 7:32:21 PM
Farewell, Fort Worth


I have failed to find my unicorn... I shall move to Tampa the first week of September. If you'd like to say goodbye, I'll be at the Fourth Friday on 8/22 and the "Back to school party" on 8/29.

It has been interesting.


8/17/2014 10:24:14 AM
Who watches the watchers? I do.

I see so much when watching people watch... The other night, there was a beautiful rope suspension scene at a local dungeon. It was long and elaborate and well executed - a true work of art.

And yet, it was only part of the performance. The other part was in the eyes, faces and body language of the audience as they observed the scene. Standing as I was off to the side, leaning against a column, I had the rare, perfect view of the rope scene as well as the people watching it, and their reactions were every bit as interesting and entertaining...

Many were enthralled in admiration of the rigger's skill and his sub's beauty.

A few people seemed bored, waiting for it all to be over and for the dungeon to open up.

Some of the newer kinksters had slightly puzzled expressions as they tried to analyze the allure of the scene in front of them.

And then there were those whose minds were miles away, for whom the pretty scene evoked the memories of evenings past, who were in their own little worlds even as they sat in the midst of the crowd.

The rope loosened and tightened and flew. The rigger and the sub enjoyed their craft. The people oohed and aaahed. But it was the sum total of their reactions, dozens of them, unique and individual and unpredictable, that made it a truly memorable experience...


7/21/2014 9:15:10 PM
Quotes for a gloomy friend :)

"Barn's burnt down… Now I can see the moon."
Masahide, Japanese poet, 1657–1723


"Life is like a game of cards. The hand that is dealt you is determinism; the way you play it is free will."
Jawaharlal Nehru


"If you're falling off a cliff, you might as well try to fly."
Anonymous


"We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance."
Japanese proverb


“Worry a little bit every day and in a lifetime you will lose a couple of years. If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry: Worry never fixes anything. ”
Ernest Hemingway


"If nothing we do matters, then all that matters is what we do."
Joss Whedon


"Hope... Do not look down, my friend. Even in the darkest of times, there is always hope. Hope for a better day, hope for a new dawn. Or just hope for a good breakfast. You start small, then see what you can get."
Covetous Shen (Diablo-3)


7/20/2014 3:01:03 PM

10 things I wish I'd known about BDSM

1. Apparently, "water sports" doesn't mean Marco Polo or hanging out at the pool.
2. A smoking-hot person with a brand new profile messaged you confessing their undying love? There's an itty bitty chance they might not be real.
3. Alcohol and fire play don't mix well.
4. Alcohol and most types of play don't mix well.
5. Hotel maids will clean up anything and take a vow of silence if you leave a $20 tip.
6. People at Starbucks love eavesdropping when 2 kinksters meet for coffee.
7. You can never have too much duct tape.
8. Being a brat just before a scene with a sadist might not be a good idea.
9. There's nothing scary about attending munches.
10. Don't forget to bring a towel!

7/17/2014 4:16:06 AM
The final taboo: coming out as an asexual kinkster

Even within our fairly open-minded kink community, there are certain things that are shunned, or openly criticized, or kept secret to avoid alienating those who may not understand.


Keeping a secret from a secret community is pretty meta, if you ask me... I've got a few of them myself.


I'm an asexual.


Most of you are probably unfamiliar with the term, and that's okay. Asexuality isn't the same as celibacy, abstinence or impotence: to put it in the most basic terms, celibacy and abstinence involve deliberate choice to not have sex when one is able to; impotence means being physically unable to have sex. Asexuality, in all its different variations, simply means that there's either very little sex drive or none whatsoever.

There are many different types

 of asexuality, ranging from lack of libido (plain asexual) to some libido (gray asexual) to having sexual urges without the romantic component (aromantic), etc.


Personally, I identify as a garden-variety asexual. I have no libido, I've never experienced lust and never had an overwhelming urge to tap one's posterior, as the colloquialism goes. I do find some people's appearance to be aesthetically pleasing, but that's about it.


That said, I'm not a robot: I too enjoy human contact and try to get it through kissing and cuddling, just to experience that warmth and closeness and the dopamine that comes with it.


I use BDSM and, in particular, the power exchange dynamic as a substitute for more traditional sexual relationships: one doesn't need lust to submit and the "S" in BDSM doesn't stand for sex. In my experience, the sensation of subspace and the knowledge that my submission makes my partner happy, are a decent enough substitute. I do not view people as kink dispensers - just like everyone else, I desire company, and companionship, and somebody who understands me. Kink just happens to be the only available venue through which I can relate on an intimate level.


So what does this all mean?.. It means I won't have sex with you. It means your flirtations and sexual advances will go unanswered: while I am physically capable of coitus, there is no motivation, no pleasure, no intimacy in the act itself. And even though I can go through the motions and perform any physical act required to please a partner, it'll be entirely one-sided.


This is... difficult for me to write. In the past, I've had relationships end because I seemed too cold or disinterested or not aggressive enough. People who were close to me would casually mention that they'd want nothing to do with asexuals, not realizing I was one. I understand that my lack of libido cuts me off from a huge, fundamental part of human experience that I shall never know for myself. (Before some well-meaning commenter suggests therapy, let me ask you about the efficiency of "pray the gay away" programs.)


I have never known lust, but I have known love and friendship and bliss. I will never have kids, but I'll also avoid STDs and unplanned pregnancies. On the bright side, I'm immune to chastity belts by definition and I've already saved a fortune on buying overpriced drinks for random strangers. ;)


What does the future hold? Who knows. As an asexual kinkster, I'm a minority within a minority, but there are others like me. I might be able to find another "ace" or someone who doesn't seek sex from their sub, or some other, more complicated arrangement that will unfold when the time comes.


I choose to be an optimist about this. The very first line of my profile says "I'm the kinky version of Sheldon Cooper." That's more true than most people would guess, and hopefully this post will shed more light on that line's hidden meaning. I'm different from the rest of you, but that doesn't make me unhappy. (Okay, so I also don't drink or smoke or do any of that other cool kid stuff...) I'm different, but I'm quite happy where I am, and I hope my position is understandable.


I welcome your questions. :)


7/11/2014 11:49:35 PM
Loneliness is: spending the Friday night shopping for a new air mattress at Walmart.

6/27/2014 10:01:18 PM
Back to the good ol' collarme... Just broke things off with a unicorn that turned out to be a rhino in disguise. Bah, humbug! :/

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 Age: 22
 Zamboanga city, Philippines