i am submissive by nature, however in my day to day vanilla life, im a professional in my career. some days i just want to be able to let go and say take over and let me just melt away. take the reigns, take control and let me just let go of all the stress in my life..
i have been in the lifestyle several years, this is not just about sex for me.. get into my mind and the rest will follow. looking for a Friend, Lover, Dominant in and out of the bedroom. the One who will push my limits and cuddle with me as i come out of sub space. Looking for a long lasting D/s or M/s relationship.
a little bit about me, besides the bdsm part. I love the outdoors and anything to do with the outdoors. I love the Broncos even though im from Chicago originally. for the rest of the sports. White Sox, BlackHawks, and Bulls, but Lakers are ok too...
I am DD free, dont smoke and an occasional drink now and then but make sure it's a fufu drink... Yes I know this is a bdsm site. but how else do you find somebody your compatible with besides getting the same ol same ol type of messages. before i will submit, i want to find out if we have any sort of connection. its about LTR!!!!
what i am looking for. i am not only looking for my Dominant, my Daddy, My Master, i am also looking for my Best Friend, My Lover, My Husband. somebody to grow in the lifestyle with. Now I know some of You out there are saying that, a slave has no say in what she gets. and my response with all due respect is, i dont start off as a slave, i dont submit, just because You command me to. it comes with faith and trust and as the relationship grows. If i am offending anyone or they dont agree with my views. im fine with that. i may not be right for You. i may not be the right person for many and im ok with that. we can agree to disagree.
a person should be able to Master Himself, before He tries to Master another. Get into her mind and the rest will follow, not between her legs...be secure in life. You dont have to be rich, but live on Your own and be able to pay Your own bills. be single with little baggage, as everyone has some sort of baggage. be respectful at least until You know the submissive or slave. have interests outside the lifestyle as you can still live the lifestyle 24/7. and be able to hold an intelligent conversation of more then 5 or 6 words.
9/2/2017 4:14:05 PM
Written 9/6/17. MESSAGE
Just 1 name across the screen
My heart leaps. The pounding of drums start to beat a slow steady pace
My blood begins to boil sending an inferno fire within me
Butterflies flap 1000 of flutters through uncharted territories within
Goosebumps raise the little tiny theads of hair across my skin
Toffee iris's shimmer in the lights of the room
I hold my breath as I read his message, imagining His voice as I read his writing.
Trembling waiting for His next reply.
8/11/2017 4:16:27 PM
Fake Dom's and sub frenzy
I read on face book today all the red flags for a fake Dom..but yet there are no rules for a fake sub from what I could find.
Everyone told me a fake Dom wants to collar you right away.
But nobody says a fake sub wants to be collared.right away
He Will ask you for a meeting to prove sex
But could be same for a submissive as the girls are just as bad as the guys in making fake profiles, not wanting to talk via skype, kik text, either or could be married...
He Is more concerned with his wants and needs then hers
Everyone has wants and needs or we would not be here. We subs have posted what we were looking for in a Dom what we want what we need.
He Doesn't respect your boundaries and pushes you to do things that are hard limits
How do limits change then if not pushed or tried. Is that what safe words are for, trust and communication. Hard limits will remain hard limits and soft will remain soft unless they are pushed. You have to trust that the person has your best interest at heart.
Want to be called Sir or Master upon first meeting
Yet there are girls out there who want and need that and want to be called kitten or slave or slut upon first meeting
He Doesn't want to be around you other then to have sex.
There are girls who don't want a relationship and is only looking for kinky fuckery
Will try to Dom you before the relationship even starts
Girls want to submit before the relationship starts.
So think long and hard. Why is it sub frenzy for girls and fake Dom's for guys.
Why the double standards
Yes there are guys out there who are just horny but why label them as fake. Some may be new to the life style and going through "Dom Frenzy"
Why the double standards. We were all new at one point and time.
I now hate the term fake Dom's
Maybe uneducated is a better term.
Or maybe there are fake Dom's as much as there are fake subs.
6/28/2017 5:15:13 AM
im not a maid, but i can clean. im not a chef, but i can cook. im not a musician, but i like music im not a princess, but likes to be cared for. im not a dare devil, but love adventure. im not emotional, but i have feelings. im not a goddess, but love my curves. im not a pain slut, but love to shed tears. im not selfish, but i dont share what is mine. im not perfect, but i am perfect for ONE!
im strong, im happy, im me, im free.
5/19/2017 5:43:54 AM
Is there anybody real on these sites. I hear the same thing from men as I do from the ladies... bdsm is not all about sex, and it seems like most men are here either looking for a quick hook up or cyber. That's not me, that's not who I am...
I am the girl I want my Mam to be prout of when we are out in public, holding hands, I know what I am to him at home in the bedroom.
I want to be the one he takes home to meet his family.
What I see though is a lot of boys and children on these sites, not just here but alt.com, POF, meetme, match .com. and the list goes on and on. How is a woman to look up to a Man and give Him respect when it's not earned.
If He can't control is actions, and be respectable at first how can He Dominate or take control of another person's life.
For those of you who are on here looking for a romp in the hay why list yourself as Dominant? You should list yourself as Primal as that is not what D/s is about.
That's my rant.
Looking for somebody real, real feelings and emotions, caring, considerate, but has His life together, knows what He wants and what Ds, really is. And not be afraid to take a chance on something that just might be great
1/5/2017 2:07:45 PM
About Your Personality Type
You believe life is abundant, love is plentiful, and creativity is always within your grasp. If God combined the bouncing energy of a cocker spaniel with the enthusiasm of a couple on their honeymoon, God would still be only halfway to duplicating your insatiable zest for life.
ENFP when in love
“Puppy love” is a good term for describing your take on romance: fun, frisky, playful, cuddly, and young at heart. No matter what your age or how many times your heart has been broken, you are an eternal optimist when it comes to love. You are not someone who proceeds cautiously when you meet someone you find attractive. You are likely to fall passionately in love - or at least lust - quickly, spontaneously, and with total abandon. Holding something back for later is a concept you can’t quite grasp, especially when it comes to the joy of creating a new and exciting relationship. Yes, COMMITMENT can scare you. That one word may explain why you are still single at thirty, forty, fifty, or beyond. But you love, absolutely love, the concept of intimacy, sharing, and relationships. If only you could find that special one, you would be set for life.
ENFP where to meet
Where can you meet a Social Philosopher? Social Philosophers enjoy stimulating conversation and interesting people, and, like the Idealistic Philosopher and Mystic Writer, favor activities that revolve around psychology, philosophy, the arts, and helping others. Unlike Idealistic Philosophers and Mystic Writers, Social Philosophers seize every opportunity for social contact. They love the spotlight and are known to be excellent teachers and public speakers. Social Philosophers also routinely attend art gallery openings, wine tastings, fund-raisers, concerts, lectures, and plays. They may also be members of The Single Gourmet - a dining club for singles with sophisticated tastes.