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SweetVTSarah
Female Submissive, 29,  Winooski, Vermont US

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 SweetVTSarah

 Submissive Female

 Winooski 

 Vermont

 5' 7"

 280 lbs

 29

 Caucasian

 07/10/16

 now

Actively Seeking:

Dominant Male

A Poly Household

Looking to meet people and have fun. If you can not control yourself. If you can not separate sex from being a Daddy Dom, if you are unable to talk to me without being naughty, do not bother with talking to me, you will be deleted and blocked.


I am in an OPEN relationship. We have talked about becoming a Poly




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I am a Babygirl


 


 


What is a babygirl and whats important to her
To define " babygirl " I can only tell you from my point of views and experiences and that of friends what that truly means .....
There are similarities between a babygirl and that of a young child, but the similarities stop there (babygirl/DaddyDom is NOT an incestuous relationship). As a young child admires and respects her Father, so does a babygirl. A young child also requires lots of attention and affection, as does a babygirl. . A Daddy Dom will treat His babygirl as His most prized possession, one that He guards with His life. A young child also longs for guidance, a Daddy naturally teaches His girl all that He knows, all that He wishes her to be. A babygirl longs to learn and if allowed to question that which she doesn't know or understand, enabling a Daddy to guide her, fulfilling His need as well.
I am submissive by nature, I always have been. Some may see that as a weakness, when in reality it has enabled me to live a life pleasing to both myself and others. A submissive oftentimes takes on roles in her everyday life that may seem contrary to her submissive nature, be it in her professional life or personal life. A girl's ability to listen to other's wants and needs, her flexible nature and her need for 'peace' in her life, all promote success in her career and ability to raise a family. It is though, her relationship with her Daddy, when she is allowed and expected to be herself, that is most fulfilling to her submissive nature.


 


In order for a babygirl to truly be herself with her Daddy, its vital that she find the One that she trusts completely and without hesitation. This trust starts outside of the 'dungeon'. Her trust must be unwavering and is a necessity before the relationship can be fulfilling for B/both. A girl's submission and trust is her gift to her Master, a gift that must never be tarnished by her Daddy. A Daddy is unwavering and consistent, which allows you to trust without hesitation. you know you've found the One meant for you when you can say and honestly feel as though there is nothing that your Daddy would ask, that you'd not do.


 


Communication is a gift that a girl gives her Master


 


It is said, by many within the BDSM community and the ‘vanilla’ or traditional lifestyle as well, that communication is key to a successful relationship. Honesty and Trust is the foundation for the ability to communicate openly. Sometimes it seems that this trait is assumed by many to be the norm in a BDSM relationship. It oftentimes is skirted over as something easily offered and expected by a Master of His girl. He is of course correct in His assumption of the expectation for her to be honest and open with her feelings but it is at times difficult for her to do so.


 


i have found that in order to be completely open, i must first realize what feelings are deep within myself. Sometimes they have not been pleasant ones (i.e.: impatience, jealousy, frustration). Sadly, i have found that is much easier to act upon these feelings by being flippant, disobedient and sometimes even rude, than it is to have the self-control i long for.


 


It takes great insight and strength for a Master to deal successfully with these bottled up emotions. It is after all, His place to call her on it, to understand that her actions may be deeper seeded than simply of a psychical nature (temper tantrums and the like).


 


When you are allowed to talk, to cry, to tell Daddy your deepest, darkest secrets and fears, you are truly set free and express who you genuinely are. A Daddy guides you and molds you into what He knows you are capable of being. It is not that He is unsatisfied with who you are currently, it is that He gains much satisfaction in watching your growth. As you are allowed to express everything you feel, you begin to slowly blossom into the rare and beautiful creature He saw in you , something you've never seen in yourself . When you are able to communicate all that you are , all that you feel and all that you long for, your Master is the Benefactor. With great pride, He watches as you open each petal and accept each suggestion, blooming into the submissive He knows you've longed to be .
Safe Haven
Am i the only one who leads a hectic life? Trying to juggle one’s career, family, home and all the responsibilities that encompass such, can make you tired just thinking about it!
Yet there is one place, a babygirl can always find serenity. Within her Daddy’s arms, in His words, in the comfort of His presence, babygirl calls home.


 


Those outside the lifestyle might look at a submissive and consider her to be weak. Those of us within the community realize the sheer strength it takes to submit completely and without question. In order to be a part of that “exchange of power”, a girl has to feel completely safe with Whom she chooses to call Master.


 


I feel it necessary to explain this ‘safe haven’ concept, once again from my own perspective, be it right or wrong, it is simply the experience I’ve had when it comes to Daddy Dom's and babygirl subs and my relationships in the past . I entered the lifestyle may as well say at birth , I was raised to please " man " by an overbearing Mother whom thought it was best for me to serve than to be served . Her own power trip for having to have had given birth to me or something in her own twisted mind , but as time went by I found bdsm was my lifestyle , I lived it for many years without even knowing it was an organized ( for lack of a better word ) lifestyle and then i realized there was a community that accepted what I am and longed to be. I’ve spent years watching how others were and are treated , and been protected by some not so caring Daddy's and so called Masters . Unfortunately, I learned that not all are who they claim to be. ( Not every good Master is a safe one and not all safe Master's are good One's ) For those experiences, I am forever grateful, for I came to realize what I was not looking for, as well as what I was. My best piece of advice would be , be patient , watch and listen because the moment you meet your Daddy, you'll know He is the One. Slowly, develop a friendship, and when He deems it time, began a relationship.
And you'll find your safe haven




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 Looking for my Daddy Dom


 


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 What is a Daddy Dom?


 


People ask, What is a Daddy Dom. Well, to start with, a Daddy Dom is first and foremost a 


Dominant. His choice is to be a Daddy Dom, this does not mean incest (as has been said in the
 past by ignorant people) rather a Daddy Dom is One who cares for, nurtures, shapes, and molds
 his babygirl into the image He thinks she should become. He sees in her someone who can achieve
 a much higher, much greater status. He often times believes more in her, than she believes in herself.

His love for his babygirl goes without question. He loves her as much for who she is, as for
 what she will become with His guidance. she is ...... His prized possession. a Daddy's eyes 
will light up when she comes into a room and take great pride in her success's. After all, 
He helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of His heart and has greatest power to hurt Him.

This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his lil' girl. 
He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to Him. He holds 
the greatest respect for the gift she has given Him and takes great pains to increase it’s value. 
It is extremely important to Him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with Him.

He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, His discipline is more important than 
in some other D/s relationships. In order for the lil girl to really trust, she must know He means 
what He says. If His lil girl is going to be the best she can possibly be He must stand firm. He uses
 his experience in life and His knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when 
the need arises.

If He does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If His submissive finds 
that she can manipulate Him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to 
empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed 
by someone you do not respect.

This takes great strength on His part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to His 
needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength 
to let her out into the world when all He wants to do is hold her safe in His arms. And it takes 
strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.

A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to His submissive...acceptance. 
She is safe in His arms because He knows her, everything about her, and He still loves her. 
When she goes to Him she knows that this Man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn’t 
matter. To Him she is and always will be beautiful.




Being a Daddy

Isn’t something that you stop doing as soon as you log off
Is making sure your little has everything she needs to be happy
Isn’t a game
Isn’t just fucking someone and having them call you daddy
Isn’t supposed to be so damn serious all the damn time
Is making the one you care for smile, laugh, chuckle, giggle and belly laughs
Isn’t a choice he makes
Is a important decision for her to make
Isn’t forgetting her important dates and canceling plans
Is to be her everything
Isn’t all fun and games all the time
Is holding her hand just so she knows you’re there for her
Isn’t a decision made by him just because he says so
Is an intense game of trust, belief, sanctuary, eroticism and experimentation and give and take
Isn’t about commanding and ruling over someone
Is when she feels protected without you doing anything
Isn’t a one night stand out a quick relationship
Is being there for someone and one someone only.
Being a daddy isn’t for a limited time only 
Being a daddy is to protect and serve she who needs protecting and serving…

So potential daddy dom out there… Take note. I’m no expert but when you hear a lot of 
littles complaining about the same things with daddy dom's, you start to sense a theme.

Daddies… There are littles out there looking for you but you have to fix up and come correct, 
otherwise the wool of your jumper that you wear to hide your true ways will begin to unravel 
before you’ve even realized it and she’ll eye you for the shit you are.
And an unhappy little is simply heartbreaking.




He Is A Dominant:

Daddy Doms are dominant men, there is no mistaking that. Some ignorant people may 
mistake him for a weaker or lesser Dominant because of his nurturing and caring nature. 
THIS IS NOT TRUE! He is just as much a Dominant as the man who shows his submissive
 or slave no mercy. How much of a Dominant you are is not measured in your ability to hurt, to
 ‘force’ your submissive or your mercilessness. It is also not measured in your selfishness, how much 
you whip your sub or how big you talk. How dominant you are is measured in your ability to effortlessly 
control your sub and command respect.

Being dominant by using brute physical force or mental and emotional abuse is not being 
dominant at all, it is being a BULLY and bullies can never measure up to the power of a True Dominant.

Daddy Doms Are (Often) Playful

He has to have a playful side in order to keep up with his little and her antics, 
similar to the way parents have to have the energy and playfulness to entertain and keep up
 with their kids. Your little may enjoy things like coloring, cartoons, various games, puzzles etc 
and a Daddy Dom needs to have the time, energy and enthusiasm to enjoy her little pleasures with 
her from time to time.


Can’t remember when last i made a fortress in the bedroom!
He Is Understanding

One thing that Daddy Dom’s must be is understanding. Littles are often very complex and 
he needs to understand her through and through, her moods, desires, how she copes with the
 world and when/why she doesn’t. He needs to understand why she fails when she does and how 
to help her, encourage her and mould her into his perfect little. Without a proper understanding of her, 
he can do more harm than good.

He May Be Sadistic

Just because Daddy Doms are caring, gentle and affectionate does not mean that he 
cannot be a sadist who enjoys inflicting pain on his little. Spankings are a favorite for 
Daddy Doms and their littles but, depending on the type of individuals they are, 
other aspects of BDSM may be an integral part of the relationship.

Bottom line is that Daddy Doms are amazing and make great Daddies and good 
Doms and just because they do it differently to the generally accepted norm doesn’t 
make them any less masculine or dominant.




The Daddy-Dominants Creed ~

* Above all else a Daddy cherishes his girl , and takes great delight in watching her grow.

* A Daddy/babygirl relationship can be demanding and Daddy most times takes full advantage of 
the power given to him, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious 
gift of having a “babygirl”.

* A Daddy is in control of themselves first and foremost, so that he may control and take control 
of his “babygirl”.

* As a stern and demanding yet caring compassionate nurturer , 
he may cause his babygirl/submissive to cry real tears , 
but will ALWAYS be there to wipe them away.

* As the consummate lover, he will then kiss the tears away, without stepping out of character.

* In times of trouble, a Daddy will never leave the role behind, and is always there to be 
a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between 
two caring individuals.

* A Daddy is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality.

* A Daddy would never ask His babygirl to put Him before their career, or family,
 just to satisfy his own pleasure , yet will encourage independence in growth.

* To win a “babygirl” mind, body, spirit, soul, and love, a Daddy knows they must first win their trust.

* A Daddy will show his babygirl humor, kindness, and warmth -how to play , 
when to play , and its not always a sexual nature.

* A Daddy must always show His “babygirl” that his guidance and tutoring is deserving 
of their attention, that this is a person they can learn from, and that they can trust his direction.

* A Daddy is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, He will fight 
for his “little’s” honor.

* A Daddy proves to his “babygirl” that He is someone they can lean on, and depend on.



He Is Nurturing, Kind, Caring…And Affectionate

An essential prerequisite of Daddy Doms is a natural nurturing instinct, the desire to care for your little, 
bring her on in whatever she desires and gently mold her into the best little you believe she can be.
 Daddy Doms want to help their littles develop and grow in whatever area they need help with, 
whether it be furthering her career, learning new skills or becoming a better submissive.

Daddy Doms are kind. i have come across some Dominants who simply want someone to use 
and abuse with no regard for their submissive and no mercy. Daddy Doms are kind and gentle but 
that’s not to say that they aren’t strict. Daddy Doms rule over their submissive littles with an iron fist 
in a velvet glove, so to speak. They are as strict as any other type of Dominant but the way they go about
 enforcing their rules is often kinder and gentler. However, that’s not to say that a Daddy Dom is a pushover,
 beware the little that tries to manipulate or disobeys her Dominant because punishment will follow.

He is cares deeply for his little, she is precious to him and he will do all he can for her. 
Daddy Doms care about their submissive’s well being, happiness and not only their own pleasure
 – unlike other Dominants who can be more focused on their own personal pleasure than what is in their 
sub’s best interest. (not to say that all Dominants who are not Daddy Doms disregard their  sub’s best 
interest in lieu of their personal pleasure).

It is often commonly assumed that other types of Doms are kind of distant and unaffectionate. 
Whether this is true or not, i don’t know but that is certainly not true of Daddy Doms, He is not 
afraid that showing affection for his little will somehow emasculate him and he understands that she
 needs to be loved and shown affection. Whether it’s hugs and cuddles in bed over cartoons on a weekend, 
ruffling her hair and telling her she did well or passionate embraces and hot kisses, littles need 
affection and lots of it and he understands this and gives it to her.



Of course all Daddies are different 

Personality Traits of a Daddy Dom

Dominant - This goes without saying, a Daddy obviously needs to be dominant in their personality. 
This isn’t something you can easily learn; it’s just who you are. It’s really tough to make a DD/lg 
relationship work unless the Daddy already has this natural dominance.

Patient - DD/lg relationships require more patience than regular relationships, you need to always be 
there for your little and be attentive to their needs. A little should always be comfortable sharing details 
of their stressful day with their Daddy and knowing that they’re not “bugging” him. 

Confidence - A Daddy should make his little feel safe, protected, and taken care of, confidence is 
really important because your little should know that she can submit herself to you and be under your
 guidance, and know that you have the confidence to lead.

Decisive - Your little looks to you to make decisions, and you should be able to make them and 
commit to them. Daddies decide what needs to be done and do them; they don’t change plans often 
and they try not to fail in doing what they set out to do.

Caring - A DD/lg relationship is ultimately about caring for a little. Daddies should check up on 
their little often and always be there provide care and love. Real Daddies never ignore their little 
or say mean things to them.

Fair - A Daddy is responsible for things like giving rules and punishments to his little. 
Whenever someone has some level of power over another person, humans instinctively 
expect that that person will be fair and just with their power. A little has similar expectations 
for their Daddy.

Playful - littles should be able to act little around their Daddy. A Daddy shouldn’t therefore 
always be “100% serious & dominant”; but instead, they should sometimes be willing to do silly 
things with their little (like build a pillow fort together… or something)

Strong - Not physically, but emotionally. Being a Daddy can be very rewarding, but it can also be 
emotionally intense to care for a little. A Daddy should be strong enough to deal with effectively 
managing his own life, and also making sure to not neglect his little and always being there to provide care.

Journal Entries:
7/15/2017 7:37:19 AM
This list is for non sexual activities a babygirl might expect from a Daddy. Communication is key, and these are just a FEW starting points. Add your own, delete the ones you don’t want. Make this YOUR list.
Mark each item with interest in doing:
0- hard limit, under no circumstances am I interested
1- its not really my thing, i don't like it, but i will give it a try soft limit
2- I have no particular interest in this activity but I will do it. I neither like nor dislike this activity.
3- I like this activity, on an irregular or occasional basis. Its not for everyday.
4-I enjoy this activity greatly. I would like it on a daily or regular basis.
5- Favorite! I would like this as often as possible!
Next to each number write YES or NO if you have previous experience with this and any comments or concerns you might have. If you need further explanation on anything place “?” beside it
Power Exchange (submissive, you being the submissive)
Power Exchange (Dominant, you being the Dominant)
Pet Play (pet, you being the pet)
Pet Play (Owner, you being the owner)
Pacifiers (using)
Bottles (using)
Sippy Cups (using)
Diapers (using)
Diapers (wearing)
Homework (educational, mathematics work pages etc.)
Homework (noneducational, mandatory play time, coloring time, etc.)
Dress up (wearing onesies, pigtails, bibs etc)
Bedtimes
Nap times
Reminders (specify what kind, teeth brushing, hydration, etc.)
Bedtime stories
Permission (specify what kind, before eating sweets, before mind altering substances, before removing diaper etc.)
Rewards
Chores
Chore Charts
Punishments (non sexual, early bedtime, sweets restrictions etc.)
Daily Journal (writing about your day)
Daily Journal (writing about the things you liked about CGl today, your concerns, things you didn’t like)
Pet names (Daddy, Mommy, Little Boy, Little Girl, Brother, Sissy, Little One, the list goes on)
Age Regression/Age Play/Little Space (specify which one(s))
Baby Food/Children's Food (Specify, Dino shaped chicken nuggets, etc.)
Cribs/Playpens/High Chairs (specify which one(s))
Families (having both a Mommy and Daddy, a Sister and a Daddy, etc.)
Collars (O-ring, D-ring showing BDSM collars)
Collars (jewelry, a necklace, ring, bracelet)
Collars (lockable, ring of steel, eternity collar)
CGl Holidays (presents such as coloring books, pacifiers, etc.)
CGl Dates (build a bear, playgrounds, etc.)
Hypnosis CGl (using hypnosis to make you a “baby”, etc.)
Humiliation (name calling, etc.)
Bath Time (being washed)
Bath Toys
Toys (children’s, teddy bears, trucks, etc.)
Physical Affection (head pats, hugs, etc.)
Public Display (wearing your pacifier to dinner, calling someone your Caregiver or Little in public, public tumbler posts, etc.)
Switching (switching Caregiver and Little roles)
Switching (switching Dominant and submissive roles)
24/7 (being CG/l as close to 24/7 as possible)
Check Points (certain times throughout the day when possible to check in with how you are doing with tasks, homework, hydration etc.)
Therapeutic CG/l (after a bad or stressful day, being Little or Big. etc.)
Non Sexual Pain Play (spankings, etc.)
Curfews


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