I'm a happy, healthy person. I'm 40, 6'1, educated, and a successful professional. I've never been married or had kids.
What I'm looking for is a long term DD/lg relationship with a young woman who enjoys being over the knee as much as I want and need her there. The qualities for my ideal woman include kindness, trustworthiness, slender, and drama/drug/disease free.
Spanking is simply part of my sexuality, no more or less than other aspects (kissing, oral, etc). That said, there's a more complicated, ritualistic element to spanking that satisfies a lot of emotional/sexual needs: exchange of trust, mutual feelings of being understood, and a general sense of "rightness". I can't deny that there's also the basic appeal of a bare, upturned female bottom.