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Very excited to see that the journal function is back!
Get ready to see more of my musings.  |
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I’d love to be proven wrong, but I’m starting to think that relyfe girls are just advertising personas rather than actual subjects. Does anyone have any experiences to confirm or rebut this hypothesis? |
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People posting selfies in mirrors should pay attention to the fact that the phones from five years ago don't look the same as today, even if they are still iPhones. Just saying. |
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Transitions are hard. Change is hard. Losing someone you care about is hard. |
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Have you noticed how there are certain bots / fakes who are immediately obvious because of their ridiculous choices of interests? |
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An interesting trend in submissive-land: wanting to relocate quickly. Is this a sign that the economy hasn't picked up for sexy subbies? |
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Two interesting things in the last week...
1. I have figured out that the word S C R I P T disappears when you type it here. So if you ever receive a message asking for a self-deion, you'll know that the person really wanted you to tell them what you look like.
2. It's weird enough when bogus profiles use the photos of famous people. But I just saw a profile using photos from a renowned fake from yahoo profile days (like 10 years ago). I wonder if that particular fraudster even knows the provenance of those photos. Doubtful. |
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It's important to find reasons to smile. I think in the end, that's why just about everyone is here. I know it's a big part of it for me. Talking to new people. Having long-lasting connections. Even writing snarky journal entries. If it doesn't ultimately tie back to something satisfying on the inside, it isn't worth it. And thankfully, I have a lot of smiles in my life. Want some? :-) |
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I had a strange experience this morning. I got a chat request but when I clicked on it, I couldn't see who was inviting me. I am assuming that means it was a profile that I hid previously. Either that, or the person doing the inviting was hidden. But I don't know. I just know that I couldn't even find out who was inviting me.
Has this ever happened to you? |
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Another new tip - know what you're looking for.
If you say you are looking for a Master, then listing that you are looking for submissive men is wrong.
If you say you are looking for ONLY a woman, then listing that you are looking for Dominant Men is wrong.
If you say you are looking for something specific, and then your "looking for" list includes EVERYONE, then you are probably either very bad at using this site or you are lying.
Class dismissed. |
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A new tip for fraudsters - have a clue when it comes to geography. First, make sure that the city matches the state. If it doesn't, we know you're lying. Second, make sure that the city is someplace you might actually be. If it isn't, we know you're lying. And third, if you're posting a phone number, having a mismatched area code is a red flag. It isn't automatically a lie - after all, with cell phones, people have different area codes all the time - but it raises questions.
Public service announcement concluded. |
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Someone special told me she likes seeing journal updates. And I like making people who I like smile. So ta-daa! I may just have to write here more often, even if I can't make fun of the silly things on CS without repeating myself too much.
Or I could do that too. |
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I have learned a lot about being a Master from my slaves. Each girl is different, and forces me to stretch a different part of my self. And that is a good thing. Being a Master isn't easy, nor should it be. Being a good Master is even harder. But the goal is, and always should be, to be the best Master to each girl who serves me. Never stop aiming for that. :-) |
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I finally have something new to put into the "you know you're talking to a foreign fake, if..."
If the person writes "I am (insert name here) by name," you are talking to a foreign fake.
More suggestions are always welcomed! |
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How quickly time passes between journal entries, you know?
But someone wrote me and said that I have a lot of journal entries, and it reminded me that I don't have enough of them, because I haven't been writing journal entries. So thank you!
On a totally separate subject, if anyone likes mind control stories, I can't recommend enough the writings of Bulgroz the Third. His epic -- the Adjusters -- is very good writing, and hits so many squicky mind control / D/s / humiliation notes. If you've read it and it spoke to you, let me know.
If you haven't read it, I'll point you to it. :-) |
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I hope you want to submit, need to surrender, and crave to be controlled. I hope you blush easily, get aroused uncontrollably, and long for me to know your deepest secrets.
Such simple desires, no? |
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It's been a while since I've journaled - it probably should have been sooner. But I have some new comments about spotting the famous "fake" profiles. I'd welcome other input too, but these are two of the more obvious clues...
- when someone says she is "seeking for" a Master, she probably doesn't mean it
- when someone has a list of fetishes that get ever more extreme, but there are NO FRICKING SPACES between the words and the commas -- such as liking kissing,hugging,biting,sucking,fucking,bloodletting,beating,earthquakes,hurricanes,AND SHARKNADO -- she probably has never done any of them
Other ideas? |
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I haven't posted much for a while. One reason is that I haven't had a need to search real hard. That has led to having fewer experiences that sparked a posting idea. But I did want to say that I feel happier and more contented than I have felt in a long time. The girls I am talking with and working with (and in a few cases controlling - yum!) are for the most part wonderful. And that makes me happy. Yay for happy! |
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Thought of the day: I just read a journal entry of a girl, who said she ignores hypnotists because she gets too many messages from people telling her to read a long script, after which those people tell her that she is hypnotized. I don't blame her for finding that to be absurd and annoying, because it is both.
Hypnosis isn't magic, and it certainly doesn't happen because someone read a silly paragraph. It actually requires relaxation, and effort. Such a shame that people annoy potential subjects with idiocy. |
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I'm going on a hiding-the-profile rampage. Any profile that I find that starts with the word "am" -- capitalized or otherwise -- is going to cease to exist. No one raised speaking English would start a sentence with "am". And if they did, then god help our country's educational system. |
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Thought of the Day: Is it just me, or are some of the strange profiles here actually getting stranger? |
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Topic of the Day: Fifty Shades of Grey
I have read all three books in the series. I will admit to having liked the characters enough to being willing to read all three books in the series, but I found all of them to be seriously flawed, and I didn't consider the stories to be anything other than a fantasy. They were quite typical romance novels -- well, one romance novel stretched into a trilogy, and with extra (and rather repetitive) sex and play added in for filler. If you'd like to discuss the merits of the books as novels, or my opinions on the author's writing style (which are not favorable), please feel free to ask.
But the purpose of this journal entry is the one that is most germane to this website -- the supposed D/s aspects. And on that subject, the books fail miserably. It isn't really about D/s at all, because in my view, D/s is about finding a symbiosis between two people with compatible needs. No matter how "in love" the two characters were, Anastasia recoiled at being controlled, and she did not show any need or inclination to serve. Yes, she was very loving. And yes, she was very talented at pleasing and at giving. Both those are not distinctly submissive traits. In fact, they are quite natural in any form of loving/caring relationship. Meanwhile, setting aside the fact that the author turned Christian's dominant needs into symptoms of being damaged, and that he was "fifty shades of fucked up," he was forced to pull back from and to give up a great amount of how he lived, felt, and exhibited his dominance. Being controlling was portrayed as being overbearing and as an invasion.
So in other words, if someone has found this website because she read the books, and wants to find her "Christian," I hope what she means is that she really does want someone to express his need to control and to protect and to guide, and that she wants to embrace those needs while being controlled, protected, and guided. It's okay to just want the "kinky fuckery," but if that's what one seeks, then one got the trappings of the books, but doesn't seek a Dominant in a relationship. |
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Tip of the Day: Subject matters.
Let's get a show of hands here... How many of you have read a profile entry that starts with the word "am" and thought to yourself -- this isn't being written by someone in the U.S.? It isn't all that hard to include that all important subject before the verb. I. Or for a capitalization-focused submissive sort - i. Either way. It really really matters.
Rant concluded. |
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Thought of the day: you do want to talk to me. you do want to message me. you do want me to message you too. Yes, you do. you really, really do. It's good for you to talk to me. It's good for you to show me why I should want your attention.
Now it's your turn to think these thoughts too. |
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Just a thought... If someone writes something in her profile, wouldn't it be best if she actually meant it? For instance, if she says she is looking for a certain criterion, shouldn't she ACTUALLY be looking for that criterion? Or if she says she wants to talk to people, shouldn't she ACTUALLY want to talk to people?
Like I said, just a thought... |
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Alright, I was afraid this would happen eventually... I have to bring up the topic of the hypno-faker. Someone who says they have this super-powerful all-consuming hypnotic trigger, but when you use it, there are so many things they can't remember, or can't say, and of course even when they're in trance, they still magically manage to be able to keep surfing CM.
For those of you playing at home, someone who is ACTUALLY in a hypnotic trance WON'T be surfing the web at the same time. Just so you know... :-) |
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I haven't written here for a while, so it's about time, right? So here's a totally new topic - Relyfe. I've talked with one of the proponents, and it sounds fascinating. I've enjoyed getting to delve into it some, and I want to learn more and explore more and of course use it more.
I welcome comments and messages, especially if you are a girl who has explored the programming also. |
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I've come to a new conclusion... I hope that the people who are honest and sincere continue to also be well-spoken and literate. And I hope that the people who are fakers, game-players, scams, cheats, frauds, and money-seekers continue to be English-challenged. Well, I'd rather that they just not be here at all, or that their profiles flashed brightly. But failing that... |
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And now even the laws of time and space have been bent by the fakers... there is a new "girl" who is seeking 34/7 service. Now THAT really is full-time. :-) |
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This one goes out to a certain girl... When your profile says that you want to be protected and taken care of, but you get upset that the person you're speaking with doesn't treat you like shit within the first five minutes of a conversation, then you aren't looking for a Dominant. you're looking for an abuser. There IS a difference. |
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Two thoughts today...
1. If you are interested in hypnosis AND you're a submissive female, message me. Don't be shy. :-)
2. If you like sports AND you're a submissive female, message me. Don't be shy. :-)
Why? Why not? :-)
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Today is a whimsical post...
There is an interest for mental bondage, and there is an interest for outdoor bondage. What would outdoor mental bondage be? :-)
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When you read a LOT of profiles, as I do, you see certain things that make you scratch your head or (to quote the inscrutable Arsenio Hall) make you go "hmmm"... Today's example is people who want "real"
What is "real"?
To me, real means serious. As in, I am serious about wanting to meet, talk with, and hopefully bond with, sincere and serious submissive girls, who want the sorts of things that I offer, and who want to give and be the sorts of things that I desire.
To others, real means in-person. They use the term to distinguish from online.
So that leads to the question... is online "real"? And the obvious answer to this humble observer is "it sure as hell can be."
To conclude, I shall quote another 1990's icon... As the illustrious Jean-Luc Picard would have said, if he were talking about "real" -- make it so.
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Wow, I'm two for two today. I got unsolicited e-mails from alleged superslaves in Africa, who loved my profile (even though neither of them had viewed it). So I wrote back to them and told them to write back to me ONLY if they didn't care that I'd never send a penny to anyone for them. And guess what... they never wrote back. :-)
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Important rule for the road... fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me.
Don't try to shame me - it isn't nice...
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I haven't commented on anything in a while. I'm not exactly sure why. And so I shall... Why would someone reply to one e-mail, and then delete unread the next one? Why would someone say she was interested in one e-mail, and then never respond to the next? Why would someone sound excited one day, and then vanish the next? I doubt I'll ever know the answer to these questions. If you have the answer, please enlighten me. :-)
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I suppose it was inevitable... now the africa fraud morons are creating profiles which tell people from africa not to contact them. Ummmm... yeah. That pretty much speaks for itself. |
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New thought for the day: people who are owned/claimed/bonded/under consideration. I think it's great when someone gets into a strong relationship with her Dominant or Master, and sometimes I even write and congratulate a girl. But that isn't the thought. The thought is this -- if someone no longer wants to receive messages from a certain type of person (such as Dominant males), then why would the girl still list "Dominant males" under the "seeking" category of her profile? It would make her disappear if she just unchecked the box. Or maybe... just maybe... nah! That's too silly, huh? |
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Here's my take on instant messaging... YES!!! I think it's always easier to chat than to have to keep looking for messages here in CM. And since yahoo and msn and aim are free and virtually disposable accounts, I can't quite understand why people are sometimes so adverse to chatting. But that's just me. So if I ask, or if you want to ask me, know that the reason why is so we can talk more. And if you're afraid of me being able to contact you in the future, then we probably shouldn't talk, because I actually like being in touch with people more than once. |
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Not sure why, but I had this thought...
What is your thought process for how you list/rank your interests in your CM profile? What made you rank something as "loves" or "likes" or "curious" or "lives for"? I know why I do it, but I'd like to know (or is it I'm curious about?) why you do it too. |
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The newest trend in fakes -- they seem to be having trouble matching up cities and states in the U.S. It's one thing when someone puts down "California, California" -- I get that. Someone doesn't want to say what city she is in. But when someone types "Chicago, Alabama," it's pretty much a dead giveaway.
And for the record, there seem to be A LOT of slaves congregating in Alabama these days. Which is nothing against Alabama -- it looked like a nice place when I drove through it a few years ago. But why does it have more fake slaves per capita? How did it get so popular? |
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A few things I've been reading lately have got me thinking more deeply about the concept of mind-controlled (or perhaps even mind-wiped) slave girls. Would you want to have something implanted inside you, which could actually turn off your thoughts? And would you want your Dom to have the remote control that could take you over? If you do, you really need to tell me. :-) |
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Here's the latest in my snide-remarks-on-stupid-CM-tricks reporting... NOT ONLY are there a lot of ready-to-relocate-for-cash slaves being kept in top-notch slave-training schools in England, but many of them are either deaf or mute. Hmmmmmm... |
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I've resisted doing this for a long time - I don't want to sound like a complainer or anything, but sometimes a trend just has to be spotted...
why are there SO MANY profiles popping up for (alleged) slave girls who just NEED to relocate ASAP for all sorts of interesting reasons? And do you really think that we're THAT stupid to believe you're going to move right in? From across the country? Or around the world?
I mean, REALLY?!? |
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