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Some blunt and friendly advice when you contact me if you don't want to get snark from me so we don't spoil each other's day. This also helps you and helps me filter if we will get along or not. And you WILL get snark from me if you demand of me anything I already upfront said no to, as I am tired of doms who has reading comprehension problems contacting me.

1) Please stroll down to the end and look at my hard limits and maybe have a glance at my journal to decide if there is any compatibility first, before you contact me. My list of pictures are a pretty good indication of the style of D/S I enjoy too. If that resonates with you, contact me.

2) I am not a service sub, so look away if you are looking for one, I'm just a sexual bottom who is motivated by sexual consensual non-consensual-ish based bdsm treatment. If this makes sense to you, then do contact me!

3) Do not ask for my face picture, you're a stranger and I will never trust you with it.

4) Do not ask me to webcam, I do not have a camera on my PC

5) Do not dictate where you want me to chat with you in, and then throw a kiddy tantrum at me when I refuse to use those mediums with you, whether skype or yahoo etc. Best is to exchange messages with me through collarspace messaging system. If we establish a closer friendship, we may move on to emails, but I don't have time to focus on real time instant chats as I am often multitasking.

6) If you send me criticizing negative messages, be prepared to get plenty of negativity and hostility in return, so I suggest, don't bother. Respectful, friendly and nice people will get the same good behaviour from me in return.

7) One liners will not be responded to, I am not a one liner person, so I already know mentally we won't click if you are a shy one liner as I think you are giving me a bad impression of your leadership capabilities as a dom, if you expect me to lead the conversation. So I know we won't suit.

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About ME

I am single, available and divorced from a vanilla marriage with no children. I'm looking to be with a laid-back, loving, naturally dominant straight male, who wants a family of his own with me, and as well as have a life long fun kinky sexual relationship together.

I am introverted and not very good at small talk. But I see myself as a loyal, nurturing and encouraging person. I am a better listener than I am of a conversation leader. I believe in men and women traditional roles, growing up, I felt so much pressure to do everything a man can do, and to be everything a man can be. But it's just what society pushes women to do these days. It's not what I want. I want to be second in command, to be a man's support system, his assistant, but not be the one leading him. I want my priorities to be the needs of my husband and my children. For me, I think I am only successful in life if I had a happy husband and emotionally, mentally and physically healthy children. Career achievements and goals means nothing to me. It's something I've been fed that I should be ambitious and aim for those things, but it never made me happy or fulfilled, and I feel empty without a man to care for.

I am also a woman who is completely comfortable with my sexuality and fully embrace the gift that is given to me, being a woman and what we can experience sexually, and I revel in it. I work best with a man who understands a woman's body and the heights he could bring her, and also a man who doesn't hold any derogatory double standards towards women enjoying sex for sex.

I love movies, live music, reading romance novels, inline skating, snorkeling, diving, traveling, wining and dining, and live for calculated thrills and adventures.

My Ideal Life Partner

The kind of dominant I am looking for will believe that the true strength in a man is not measured by dominating the weak, but by possessing, subduing, controlling and conquering that which is powerful. (Reference: AE William)

He would be tall, 5'11 and above, big like 200lbs and above, and older than me up to 53 yr old max. He would understand me, and I would be able to trust him to take care of my physical, mental and emotional well-being. He should believe that love and D/S can co-exist together and infact IS the ingredient that makes the relationship most fulfilling. He needs to be articulate and be good in communication.

He would make me crave for his physical attentions on me, be lusty and have a mighty sex drive that could match mine, love giving sexual attentions to his sub. I have an insatiable ability to multiple cum for long hours, and I need a man who thinks that's heaven to be with and not get bored with it.

We should be able to have deep and meaningful conversations together, joke and laugh together and be able to do normal vanilla things together too. Be my best friend.

He would be gentlemanly, stable, mature, patient, calm and good tempered, with a great sense of humour during play and likes cats. He should be sane and have a realistic understanding of how a D/S relationship can mesh with real life successfully. He should have good social and communication skills, and be cool, calm and chill when dealing with conflicts.

And no married men please. I'm seeking an exclusive committed long term relationship with the intention of marriage and starting a family together. Where we could be positive, loving, encouraging and supportive towards each other and sexually rock each other world, sharing complimentary kinky interests and cravings. I would worship you, love you, and revolve my schedule as much as possible around you and your convenience if necessary to make us work. I believe when there is deep love and trust, alot of things can be worked out.

BDSM should just be two people having fun together, enjoying each other, be playful with each other and not so dreary with all the fixations on protocols, that's my opinion.

You may want to read my journal to get the feel of me and decide from there if we have anything in common, before you contact me.

(PS: I notice half of the stuffs I write in here have been wiped out. None of the colours and font size works anymore. The atting is broken. Will need to find time to re-do my profile. My hard Limits list is missing)

4/17/2018 11:17:18 PM: My biggest fear in life is losing someone I love deeply to death. I didn't expect to experience this so young.He is not dead yet. But it's getting closer to become a reality. And also, it feels like, it could just happen out of no where. And I don't want to face the reality that this is happening.I am completely non-religious precisely because of the things in life that happen beyond your control. Natural Disasters, Accidents and Critical Illnesses. If I was religious, you can be sure I am blaming the Creator for these things, that somehow he did these things and took away lives, while claiming to care. And then I'd just feel pissed at him and think his an evil fuck.People are full of shit on Critical Illness if anybody claim it's 100% preventable through healthy living and diet.When it happens, it happens, you could do everything right.

4/11/2018 2:18:50 AM: I notice my profile has gone haywire! Something about using colours is messing up in this site! Eeeks!Gonna leave it in a mess for a few days to see if it fix itself.

4/9/2018 11:08:17 AM: First of all, I just want to mentioned that I have been into BDSM since a child. Indulge in it since my teenage years. All my life really. So I was already into it, and messing around with it way before 50 Shades exists. And you know what was my first BDSM movie ever? It's a pretty brutal one, called Salo. It's very hardcore and very hard to watch. It's like a bunch of evil dudes holding a bunch of teenagers as sex slaves. It's apparently a movie base on the book 120 days of Sodom by Marquis De Sade. The inventor of Sadism isn't it? So I guess anything written by him is gonna be pretty horrifying. I think the most horrifying part of it is, it's clearly non-consensual sexual abuse to horrifying extents and then they still all end up tortured to death. It's hard to watch. And then I watched Story of O next. And then Secretary. And now 50 Shades.When the movie came out. The first time I went to see it, was to take a Vanilla man to see it and attempt to give him some idea about BDSM. As I was trying to introduce it to him.But then because I didn't really know what's the content, I end up explaining to him how everything the main lead did was not okay in BDSM lol. Because you know, the main lead is like very emotional and had alot of childhood issues and basically uses BDSM to inflict his anger on the women he play with. And that is wrong. But the female character is great. She stood up for herself and didn't take his shit. And left him.Anyway, I just watched the 3rd movie today. Of course this is after they kissed and make up and basically had communication and all and redefine the parameters of how they are having BDSM in their life.And I have to say, 3rd movie dynamic is the dynamic I want. The key is that, they no longer take it seriously. Like the guy loosen up and got over his 'master complex'. And they are both having fun. It's playful and fun for both. And that's how I feel it should be like. There should be alot of fun and giggles. And Joy!I just can't stand it when some dominants want it so damn serious. It's just, it should be fun and natural and just full of joy.

3/28/2018 1:23:07 AM: What I miss most about Collarspace's Forum is that, it's a bunch of kink folks, who we all know each other are into kinks.But the conversations are anything but kink. Mostly politics and current affairs. But it's great!No wank fodder conversations.It's what I love about it.I miss that alot.

3/25/2018 9:56:15 PM: In my life time, I have met men who fell inlove with me and set the bar so high.The problem is, I couldn't make it last. Every relationships comes alot of efforts and investment into it. Emotional Investment and Time Investment.Then again, anybody who is available looking right now, also had a past relationship they couldn't keep. And I think hopefully, eventually, we can get it right.My last, he was taken away from me by fate and life. Anybody who have a love one fallen by critical illness. Must know it's like a force against your control, murdering your love one.Each relationship, I try to learn lessons from it. Wanting the next one to be wiser. Just better. I want to be a better person to him. Each time, the new person I meet tops the last.But what if nobody tops my last this time?That's what I feel so hopeless about. Something is different this time.Ever been in a relationship where you felt you didn't have to make any compromises? Because both of you are just so into the same things, there is nothing to compromise about because you both love all the same things? On top of that, he been through the same pain and baggage as I did, so he completely understands the most painful part of me that nobody ever did.Past relationships had compromises, so there is always room for finding someone who were compatible in areas where you were not.This time, it is difficult, so I find bonding with anybody new so difficult now. As I feel like we are so far apart in understanding each other most the time. And all the communication couldn't breach the gap.

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