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The community has changed so drastically. There is a new entity of bitterness and divisiveness. I'm seeing more subs and slaves being abused, harmed and even worst. Dominants, Tops, etc. excluding people from the community. Scams and fear running on both sides of the fence. Safe, sane and consensual is something of the past. It is time I move on.

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4/13/2018 10:12:59 AM
The community has changed so drastically. There is a new entity of bitterness and divisiveness. I'm seeing more subs and slaves being abused, harmed and even worst. Dominants, Tops, etc. excluding people from the community. Scams and fear running on both sides of the fence. Safe, sane and consensual is something of the past. It is time I move on.

10/31/2017 11:29:39 AM
HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

11/19/2016 8:14:53 PM
I started in the kink community at the bare minimum age. When I turned 21 I moved forward to more advanced kink experiences. I worked in a pro dungeon for a while and learned everything from how to welcome a sub, clean the tools of the trade, sanitation of a scene before and after as well as checking for the submissives health and comfort in extreme scenes. It was fun and a horrible at times in a dungeon as a Domme.

I decided firmly that being a Lifestyle Mistress was for me thanks to a sub I met named Archie. Some stray at the Diabolique Ball ,many years ago. 

It's often true the adage "Youth is wasted on the young". Many subs I meet today have no clue what they are doing or saying. No humility, self understanding or attention span. They beg and beg then run to the next Mistress after being accepted by one. Flawless indignation when they ask for a kink to be filled without the offer of service.

Health is very important to me. The toned bodies of youth are a strong magnet but wisdom has taught me character is where everything truly begins and ends. I would love a tall, fit, hung boy to crawl over glass for me. Sadly very few offer a deal that fits a realistic D/s relationship. Of course this is just my opinion. There is not true dynamic. What works for one may not work for another.

The demographic I often glance over are the older submissives, pets, boys, slaves, bottoms etc. Not for the lack of desire for one but often they are overweight, in bad health, no desire/motivation to change, or they are set in their negative jaded ways.

Young or old it is most frustrating when trying to find a grounded dynamic vision for something to happen and build on. What would work for me is if the sub lived locally, on their own, established trust, was clingy and surrendered their sensual energy to me as their owner.

I'm very open, creative, exploitative and strict with a boy that fits my need to be worshiped. All I want is a dirty bastard who will clean his act up when in public. A bastard that will seek his leash and place it in my hands like a bouquet of thorns.

11/18/2016 9:10:52 PM
Since I have been doing this (Kink) for so long I wait for my sub or slave to give me a clue as to what would best work for them and I guide them. I start everything with safe, sane and consensual. Then I interview/get to know my sub or slave and I first look to see what service they are offering then I center their training around their service to me with their kink/triggers. I enjoy everything from pups, cubs, boys, bottoms, middles and polyandry. Everything else I play by ear so I don't get bored and my sub/slave gets the best version of me.

Force does not always work for every submissive. Even for those that fantasies about it. Kink, BDSM, D/s etc. can be very overwhelming even if you have been at it a long time. Some like it rough, some like it soft and some want something in the middle. Many people want something simply unattainable or illegal. 

What I find to be the biggest challenge is many people lack the ability to follow instructions. Such as when I put on my profile how to approach me.
Often people ask me if I am a pro or looking for fun. I usually reply, I'm a life style Mistress. Many seem to not understand what the difference between a Pro Domme, a person looking for fun and a Life Style Mistress is.

11/17/2016 8:42:16 AM
Seeking local activities partner. Film, walking, health, yoga, and local events just to name a few fun things to do. Most people would possibly describe me as hippie, witchy and goth. I enjoy living an unconventional life filled with choices and deep connections. At some point my hair will be teal or blue so if that bothers you... maybe best not reply. I'm an artist so I love being in a creative environment. My first language is Spanish my second is English but I lost my accent. If you happen to find it please return it.

I enjoy Landmark/Ritz Theaters. If you do too we might get along.

Please respond with your location, a little about yourself & your picture gets mine. Open to all ages and ethnicities.

What does she look like?:
Long black hair (Might be blue or teal by the time we meet)
Light brown skin.
Dark eyes dressed with glasses.
Thick body with the goal to get athletic.
Five foot Five in height.
Mostly dresses in something black or understated.

11/17/2016 2:21:16 AM
Choosing a new hair color. Deciding between blue and teal.

11/11/2016 9:54:36 PM
Life ain't so great, yeah,
They'll be dots in the mud
And life ain't Hollywood
For any one of us
If ever you're in doubt
Just get your wings out
It's alright darling,
get your wriggle on
Somewhere else

~ Shakka Philip Michaela Coel

11/3/2016 9:45:40 PM

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73% Sadist
69% Experimentalist
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11/3/2016 5:12:54 PM
Forgot to say I was back from Manhattan. I have been getting a lot of spam from "Femdom" scammers. They must be getting desperate!

10/17/2016 7:38:16 PM
Going to Manhattan for a few days.

9/14/2016 7:15:07 AM

Every time I try for a younger sub they panic and just run off. At the start they tell me everything I want to hear. Some even show up and try and get to know me or so it seems. I show up like any other person. I put all my cards on the table and meet them on a down to earth level. Many have asked me through out the years, "why not just treat them like shit right out the gate?" Mainly because I want to know how I am dealing with. I want to build trust. I want to get to know the person and watch them transform. You know. Like those before and after pictures.

I have been in the "online lifestyle" since I was of legal age. Now that I am older with yet again no save I feel I wasted my time, affections and effort. The simple goal of finding kinky companionship in a world of jaded and naive individuals has exhausted me. Now that I am older it has gotten even harder to find that right fit.



from a slave: "i am male but ready to become a property and be totally owned. i will be a real slave and serve my Owners in excellence. i have a slave soul and feel i have no right to be free. i believe in hard work, long hours, no free time, i will work for Your profits and well being. i will have no limits. Divorced, no kids, no special relations, computer programmer working from home, well off."

8/23/2016 11:32:43 PM
You are:
Down to earth, enjoy being a bottom, sub, slave, pet and/or boi.

You are Mentally:
Balanced
Healthy
submissive
Creative
Intelligent
Open Minded
Helpful
Spiritual
Integrity
 
 
You are Emotionally:
Intelligent
Integrity
Stable
Spiritual
Helpful
Kind
Loving
Loyal
Giving
 

You are Physically:
Clean
Helpful
Healthy
Slim
Athletic
Sinewy
Fit

8/20/2016 8:58:30 AM
If you don't know what the term "boi" means please do not contact me.

Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit Klown boi.
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit down to earth boi
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit zentai boi
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit pup boi.
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit boi.
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit cosplay boi.
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit Alpha slave boi.
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit Ectomorph boi.
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit Mesomorph boi.
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit bottom boi
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit sub boi
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit slave boi
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit pet boi
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit loyal boi
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit domestic service boi
Currently interested in geeky, fun, fit gay, bisexual, queer, sapiosexual, demisexual or pansexual boi


8/20/2016 8:20:14 AM
Alpha slave.

A lot of so called Alpha slaves have been contacting me. Unfortunately what they consider an Alpha slave and what I consider an alpha slave are not the same. Does being an Alpha slave mean you are an asshole? Hmmm...

Lets assume for a moment that your master is a super villain trying to climb the ranks of super villainy. The master requires henchmen. First, the low life scum (slave) must submit to the vision of domination of the Master/Mistress. This is usually superficial. Such as costume fetish (Rubber, Latex, Nude, Pup, Klown, Zentai, Maid, Butler, Sissy etc.) Then, what kind of discipline examples, erotic torture, cuckold, CBT, anal training, oral training etc.

Once the slave knows what is expected the slave graduates to senior slave.  Early bird special benefits are then bestowed on the now Alpha slave. Now the new and improved Alpha slave has gained new duties. Such as assisting with training, acquiring and organizing any new slaves. Depending on the dynamics between the Mistress/Master and Alpha slave the Alpha slave might assist in intimidation of other slaves but this is done with erotic and safe practice.

You can also think of an Alpha slave as a "bouncer" at the door ready to take care of business if things get out of hand. He or she would only allow safe, sane and consensual slaves to enter the Master's or Mistress's domain. They take an active role setting the tone and atmosphere in and out of play time.




6/9/2016 10:41:48 PM
Below is an email from an ex slave that has not spoken to me in 5 or so years. After he told other Dominants I was a rubbish Mistress and lied not only to me or about me but lied to others as well I had to let him go for good. He was too much drama for the simple pressure of being served, which he hardly ever did. After every session he would bolt out the door and I would not hear from him for months sometimes years.


"Mistress
 
I know I'm taking a chance in sending you a note and know it's been a very long time since we last talked but couldn't help thinking about you today.  I was reading some comic books which made me think of you and know that's kind of random but couldn't help it.  A wave of thoughts and emotions came into me about you with the love and care you always gave me.  While I was a despicable slave and did not do good enough in serving you, I truly loved you in my heart despite my actions.  I've never been able to let go of the imprint you put on me and have never had that from anyone else in my life.  The time that passes between my correspondence only comes from knowing you don't want me and hate me, otherwise it would be consistent and thoughtful everyday.  I hope you can find it in you to forgive me somehow.  I guess it was twice you were on my mind yesterday as Panama played a brilliant match against Bolivia and beat them in an important soccer match.  I don't know how to let go and leave you alone, this isn't about attention and sincerely wish I had the ability to do better.  If there was a way to show my love for you I'd do it and am so scared to end this message and hit send at the fear or rejection or maybe worse reprisal from you.  I can accept either one though and hope you're having a beautiful day.
 
-andy"

3/8/2016 4:24:22 AM
You keep thinking about a thing too much the thing becomes you.You become the thing. Gets to be a mighty steep hill.

~ Henry Hopkins
The Uniform - Mercy Street

 


3/7/2016 5:45:11 PM
QiGong class was wonderful!

3/7/2016 11:33:46 AM

Not what I'm looking for!




please talk to me please !!!!! I am 36. I am from Southeastern KY. I am Looking to be a live in slave. I have been looking for this for a long time. I know I have a odd case but I wish you would think about this. Yes I am Married , I got married when I was 18 and I hate my wife and life . I have kids ...16 and 15 my wife is a RN and she will take great care of them . I AM LOOKING TO DROP OFF THE EARTH ...BECOME A FULL TIME LIVE IN SLAVE AND NO ONE I KNOW EVER FIND ME AGAIN ...I have to have it this way ..I would give you my mind heart body and soul and make the best slave you ever had ..little to know limits ..please please think about it ...Thank You with much Respect ...Slave

3/7/2016 11:23:13 AM
QiGong class tonight!

3/5/2016 1:49:57 PM
Yes, I would like a big dick athletic slave. No, you don't have to fit the mold but you should be healthy mentally, physically and emotionally. I'm more than willing to work with a rough stone and bring out the gem quality in you as I cut away the worthless bits. Like any goal, you should be making plans to make the relationship between Master and slave work.

1. Think about why being a submissive is important to you. Do you need it? Do you want it? Or, are you only playing with it? Give yourself (and your Dominant) examples as to why you need it, want it, or are simply playing with it.

2. Get your body in the condition that would suit your physical skills as a submissive and/or slave. Go running, take a walk, get fit, seek medical help if need be. Work within the limits that best suit you. I have trained handicap submissives. There are no excuses. Only bullshit stories you tell yourself and your(Top, Dominant, Master, Owner).

3. Close your eyes and get your emotions in check. See in your minds eyes blissfully serving your Dominant, Owner, Top, or Master.


Your main job is to measure your own shadow. Meaning, measure your own worth and skills. Do not compare yourself to your Dominant or other bottoms, submissives or slaves. Ask for permission to have feedback about your efforts. Where you need to improve and where you need to place more attention to. Gain a greater awareness of your truckling.



(Truckling is my favorite word in relations to submissives)




3/2/2016 3:14:56 PM
Q:So does that mean You do not believe in breaking? Or wouldn't utilise Stockholm Syndrome to create a true subhuman slave?


Severin4slave: Breaking does not require scarring, removing teeth or other body parts. Usually (in my 25 years of experience) slaves that seek to be broken are not good slaves. They fight the submission and slave life. Making it more of a game than a sincere lifestyle of service. Breaking is not my kink. I prefer to nurture what is there, offered sincerely and cooperatively. Slaves that seek to be broken bring baggage and drama in my experience.


Q: You are correct. And yet, the sub who chooses to come and go, gives less but owns his submission, steps forward with it ; the slave is reluctant because it knows and it fears that it will give everything, it doesn't even own its submission. The sub gives what he wants; the slave wants all to be taken.

Severin4slave: That is semantics and force labeling. While I agree each is interchangeable to the persons personal identity. I personally don't apply sub or slave to anyone who seek the bottom role of a relationship with me. They are either givers, takers or players to me personally. After 25 years I have noticed it is less about what label the person uses and more about the energy they offer/give, keep or take away.

My form of D/s is always Safe, Sane and Consensual. Consent meaning you either want this or you do not. I have known many Doms/Dommes arrested for domestic abuse by vindictive "slaves and subs".


Q: Domestic abuse sounds nice, Miss. ;-)

Severin4slave: Not when you are being taken to jail.

Q: Jail sounds good too... If by jail You mean a cage on Your floor.


Severin4slave: Not when you are the Dominate falsely accused of abusing a connecting sub/slave/partner.

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Severin4slave: We are not at the point where I will need a face pic of you if you wish to continue. If not have a good life. If so, welcome back.

Severin



Q: But You will remember and reject me


Severin4slave: I'm about to reject you now if you do not comply.


Q: Ok...


Severin4slave: I still have the dog bowl. I still love you even though you are an ass. Always will love you.


Q: The bowl is still... waiting?


Severin4slave: Over used with small damage but my cats use it until I get a slave to occupy it.


Q: Yes Miss


Q: it misses Your absoluteness - it always remembers how it would not be allowed to speak other than for a set small time in the week, and how completely enslaving that rule is.


Severin4slave: Then why were you an ass and verbally combative with me?

Q: That is the side it wishes someone would break it of.

Severin4slave: When a slave has that as a habit it can not be taken by force by another. This is personal work you need work on. Self control, meditation, and (as far as I am concerned) last resort medication. Your combative behavior is very extreme. This is just one reason I would never take you back.

Q: Blocked?

Severin4slave: No

Q: Wanted?

Severin4slave: Use sentences.

Q: Sorry Miss. it simply wonders where it stands, or kneels as it were, with You

Severin4slave: You stand nowhere with me.

Q: Yes Miss. :-(

Q: Is there anything it can do to earn Your favour?

Severin4slave: Only if you have a TARDIS handy.

Q: Miss - can You EVER forgive it? What if it turned up on Your doorstep?

Severin4slave: You are being crazy again. No.

Q: What if it tattooed Your name and likeness on its body?

Severin4slave: Bye.


2/29/2016 11:06:25 PM
QiGong class was wonderful. I do a lot of energy work in my scenes.

2/27/2016 12:35:21 PM
I can't believe I have been in this lifestyle for over 25 years. Most of it truly feels like a waste of time attempting to achieve a vision only to be fought every step of the way by insincere submission and those chasing a fantasy. Regardless what my fetishes are (or my gender for that matter) having a D/s relationship with people who are not ready or do not share your vision as a Dominant gets frustrating. Self sabotage is all too common from all sides of the BDSM fence. 

Many people tell me, after they get over the illusions of the lifestyle, the reason they stay is for the honesty, structure and deep communication we as kinksters offer. Yet new and old still play aloof games, miscommunicate, and put up walls that require humans skills yet to be developed.

Twenty-five years and the look back makes me cringe at how disloyal all my slaves were or how they assumed Dominants do not have tender emotional needs. My goal has always been to simply offer what a slave needs. Direction, discipline, service and most of all care. You don't buy a pet and let it rot in its own filth. You train it to be the best example of what it is (a submissive) and share that with your community.

In the past 10 or so years I have noticed a vain streak in many submissive applicants. They command and demand the Dominant. They rest on their good looks and fashionable rubber attire and make the experience all about their needs. This shoe is also found on the foot of Dominants as well.

Recently a friend of mine had a bad scene with their Domme. She triggered a negative reaction from my submissive friend and when my friend used their safe-word she did not stop. He assumed she knew what she was doing and how it was to be done.

A few of my former slaves had owners that scarred their bodies and/or knocked out teeth. The list of abuse that can happen in a D/s relationship is rather long. Many submissive feel because they are seeking abuse anything that happens is okay. This is False.

Your health and safety as a submissive should always come first. No matter how bored or excited you are in your play time. You deserve to exit your play time the same way you entered it or negotiated it.

I digress. My point is that if you found the right Dominant you should cling to them like gum on a shoe. Always seek to please them, love them, respect them. The work does not end when the spanking stops. If you found the right submissive for yourself you should train them and treat them like the pedigree they are. 

I still hold on to hope my ideal submissive will find his home at my heel.






1/13/2016 4:43:03 PM

 

 

WARNING: Face pic and short resume of past experiences as a sub/slave/pet/etc. required if you wish to be considered. If you have no experience please state why you wish to be a sub/slave/pet/ etc. Any requests that do not follow these instructions will not receive a reply.



 

I have had this profile since 2006. Before this profile I had another for a few years. I deleted that one after I had found a submissive. Sadly, that submissive didn't work out for many reasons, though primarily because he did not know who he was or what he wanted. He was chasing a fantasy and still figuring out how to deal with his submissive feelings.

 

I discovered my own Dominant personality at a very young age. When I reached 21 the adult world of BDSM opened up to me. I explored like everyone else. I worked in a pro-Dungeon where I learned how to clean and care for fetish equipment and how BDSM and D/s in a professional environment differs from a lifestyle environment. I have to say that working in a dungeon was not for me. Some of the girls were nice, many were switches. Actually it is/was required that you be a switch unless you had your own clientele. While I learned a lot, it was about the money for the Head Mistress.

 

My own personal journey with BDSM and D/s was more about connecting with people. Submissive people to be exact. I love nurturing and grooming a submissive personality. My first kink was simply pretending to be Wonder Woman, an Amazon or Catwomen from the 1960s to 70s. Fantasy played a big part mainly because I was a young artist trying to find herself. I mixed both BDSM and art together. However my vision was not always well received by submissives who had their own vision of what BDSM and D/s is. Next followed Kinky Klown fetish. Humiliation with adult humor, color and dynamic energy. I would take a submissive, bind him, and put him in clown shoes and clown makeup. He would usually wear a jock-strap and collar too. I have a HUGE jock-strap fetish. When my Klown sub was not in clown shoes he would wear colorful chucks.

 

My next kink was Pup training. I strongly prefer my human pup to be a performer. I don't personally agree with giving humans animal food so I purchased a book on cooking for pets. This book showed what alternative and healthy meals you could create for household pets. Dry and wet food tend to have too much sodium. This can damage the kidneys and liver of most pets.


I believe in having a healthy submissive, pet, or slave. I believe all human beings should exercise regularly and be careful of what they eat. I'm not saying don't eat sweets or fried foods. Just be more mindful about eating healthy. Being alive means growing old and growing older is not for wimps. I like a submissive with a flat stomach or very nice abs, but a nice athletic ass makes me wild.

 

I regularly go to a yoga class and pilates class. I drink plenty of water and eat a lot more vegetable and fruit. I do love my savory foods and I will not shy away from a BBQ. I live near a park and I like to spend as much time outside as possible. I'm more of a night person than a day person but I do like the feel of sun on my skin.


Being trans I wanted to be as natural as possible. For a few years I wanted to gain weight so all my lady areas would collect a nice round shape. I was always rather feminine and I have reached my transitioning goals for the most part. I'm not much of a makeup person. When I do use makeup I prefer the natural look with bright red lipstick. I dress rather casual most days but I like to wear a lot of black (mostly because I used to be a Goth girl way back when). I like to dress like a senorita with a lot of cleavage showing.

 

My ideal sub would be imaginative and interesting. Someone that is both sophisticated and submissive. Confidence in a submissive person may sound like an oxymoron but it is very real and I like it.

 

Age is NOT as important to me as physical fitness and good hygiene. I have no interest in unhealthy slaves, pets or submissive.

 

Being in a Mistress slave, Owner pet or Dominant and submissive relationship doesn't mean you have to be separated from the rest of the world. Of course I get messages day and night with requests from people seeking total extraction from modern life. If I was a doctor I would consider it but in this life medical care is important and I can't and would never risk the health and safety of anyone under me.

 

I rewrote this profile because it's been a decade since I have been able to find a submissive that truly wants to submit. I wanted to have something more personal and down to earth. For more information about my kinks, life and random thoughts check out my journal.

 

 

 

 


1/11/2016 4:38:43 PM
Tell me what is wrong with this "slave's" message and get a gold star (on/in your ass) for getting it right.

"I do want you. Please. I told you I'd come to you to prove it. I'd blow anyone you wanted to show you I'm serious."

1/6/2016 11:28:29 AM
The words I dread every time I am sent a message. "Do I have a chance with you?" How am I suppose to know if someone has a chance with me if they have not taken the time to get to know me?

1/5/2016 3:38:38 PM
If someone doesn't reply consider this conversation.

 Dated:  
    1/5/16 5:56 PM     
 
 
     Good Afternoon, I hope it's okay for me to contact You both in an effort to make a connection. The first 2 pictures are me and the remainder reflect my past experiences and interests. I'm a ----  professional in my vanilla life and I have alot of experience in session with professional Dommes. I'm hoping that you'll review my profile and get back to me. Sincerely, Chris
 

  Dated:  
    1/5/16 6:15 PM     
 
 
     You know when somebody makes an effort to at least make a contact with you, you should at least have the decency to respond. Especially since I'm in my car driving right now trying to establish some level of communication. So anyway just forget my initial attempt to communicate with you, as I don't think you are worth my time. Thank you for being so congenial

1/5/2016 3:37:22 PM
If someone doesn't reply consider this conversation.

 Dated:  

1/5/16 5:56 PM  
 
 
  Good Afternoon, I hope it's okay for me to contact You both in an effort to make a connection. The first 2 pictures are me and the remainder reflect my past experiences and interests. I'm a healthcare professional in my vanilla life and I have alot of experience in session with professional Dommes. I'm hoping that you'll review my profile and get back to me. Sincerely, Chris
 

  Dated:  

1/5/16 6:15 PM  
 
 
  You know when somebody makes an effort to at least make a contact with you, you should at least have the decency to respond. Especially since I'm in my car driving right now trying to establish some level of communication. So anyway just forget my initial attempt to communicate with you, as I don't think you are worth my time. Thank you for being so congenial

1/4/2016 9:50:19 PM
What I seek in a submissive.  Obedience, loyalty, integrity, trust and imagination.

1/3/2016 3:46:05 PM
~WIP~


There are three side to BDSM and D/s all sides are real but provide different aspects.

Pro Doms or Professional Dominates offer training for money. Much like going to school to learn how to be an artist, knitting, glass blowing or cooking class. Pro Doms also provide a clean and well structured environment. More like what you would find in a BDSM porn.

Some submissive don't need this kind of "schooling" since they are sincere and already intuitive in serving a dominant. Some submissives are self taught. Doing plenty or reading and research. Asking questions to experienced subs and Doms is often the way to go.

Then you have the lifestyle Doms or Lifestyle Dominates who fit BDSM and D/s into their life. Usually on the weekends or finding a way too make it work during the weekday. You always have to be careful who you meet no matter if they are submissive or Dominant.

Always remember to be Safe, Sane and Consensual. Safe sex, Safe play, Sane sex, Sane Play, Consensual sex, Consensual play. Make sure you know your limits and fears.



8/18/2015 7:07:58 AM
WHAT IS SERVICE?

I have received many messages asking what is service if not sexual service. Anything that is done for the benefit of another is service. Even a Dominants direction to a submissive is a service for the submissive.

Service is rather domestic and simple. In the kink community service is stretched to a whole new level. Yet at times kinky service retains some aspects of domestic servitude.

Basic skills such as cooking and cleaning would be required. Having your Dominants clothing washed, shoes cleaned and/or organized, and presenting yourself eventually for your Dominants sexual release.

It is usually the created identity of the submissive and Dominant that add the extra flavor to the kinky service and direction. Play time often comes after the service. This is what W/e all often look for after we have found someone to provide service and direction. This is where the Dominants fetish and the submissive compatibility with the fetishes of the Dominant take place. Spanking, throat fucking, bondage, hot wax, face sitting, etc. come after the service.

Examples of kinky service:

NUDE: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

BONDAGE: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

RUBBER/LATEX: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

FURRY: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

LEATHER: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

LACE: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

SPORT GEAR: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

GEEKY/NERDY: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

BIMBO,bambino,/JOCK: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

BEAR/TWINK: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

BUTCH/FEM: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

COSPLAY: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

BLOW UP: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.

SISSY: Waiter, butler, maid, pup, human-pet, the list ends with your imagination.












8/17/2015 12:00:19 PM
Whining for a piece of ass


Many submissives here make it about their wants and needs. They only want sexual slavery and nothing else. Many are seeking a fantasy and only care about the reality when they run scared.

They don't want to talk to me as a person. They want to talk to me as a fetish and get what they want and offer nothing in return. Many are bitter and lose that special submissive quality. Hardly anyone bothers to read a profile. Many call themselves slaves or submissive. I find most are fetishes, kinksters, bottoms and brats. No service, companionship, or common interests.

This lifestyle is a lot like regular dating and courtship. The part that bothers people is the blunt honesty from the Professional Dominants vs. the Lifestyle Dominants. Lets not forget the Fantasy Seekers vs. the Sincere Submissive. One is all about what They want and the other all about what W/e want.

The best advice I was ever given is. When it stops being fun, STOP! Rethink and reorganize what you really want to do and need in life.

8/16/2015 2:04:23 PM
STAY IN YOUR OWN LANE (slave/sub/pet/etc.)


A submissive is entitle to know what kinks support their submission. When confusion and misunderstandings prevent submissives from serving efficiently, Dominants need to provide direction. Tell your submissive where they are headed.

Ask your submissive if they understand your vision. If they do not understand or agree they are not the submissive for you. Ultimately the submissive works for your benefit. If your submissive makes demands/requests that do not fit your vision or support your dominance send them packing. If your Dominant does not offer direction or a vision for your submission, leave or ask to negotiate.

Your submissive provides service and your dominance provide direction. This is where the line is draw between, being of service and having kinky selfish play partners. Know your boundaries.

A submissive should ask for nothing more than direction. They should ask for direction from a dominant that knows what they want, what is expected and what is needed.

Both should be worthy of each other. No one person has a monopoly in worthiness. Both should stay in their own lane. Both should know their boundaries. Worthiness comes from knowing your place in the power exchange. You are worthy when you offer service as a submissive. You are worthy when you offer direction as a Dominant. Stay in your own lane.




8/10/2015 2:38:33 PM
The Appetite of Distance


No sense of direction, no sense of actual history. No structure. Its just a bunch of angry misguided, frustrated people rather than a calculated movement for their submission and service.

Is BDSM about sex? Most of life is about sex if you think about it. But, while we are preoccupy with sex we are also trying to get other needs met. Such as a roof over our heads, transportation, healthcare, safety, companionship, stability, knowledge, food on the table and a connection with others around us. Just to name a few.

I would love more than anything to have my partner and I double penitentiary you. I would love to fuck your ass and have you worship my feet. I would love to spank you and humiliate you sensually but I also need a deeper connection. One that is an easy blend of both Kink and Civil life.

A slave that is long distance and looking for sex is LESS appealing than a slave seeking a connection with a Dominant, though also long distance. Distance isn't an issue if there is more waiting for me at the end of the road.









8/10/2015 2:17:04 PM
.....

Y: Please. I can come to you. You know I adore you. Please.

Severin: It's too far.

Y: Please. I'll travel to you. Please abuse me. Pretty please Mistress.

Severin: I am abusing you. It's called submission denial.

Y: It hurts :( Please abuse my mouth with your cock. Please. I want to be your cock slut so badly.

Y: Please Mistress

Y: Please Mistress

8/10/2015 10:59:23 AM
Some of my Hard Limits and Soft Limits overlap

Hard Limits:

1. No Condom
2.Sluts & Prudes
3.Toilet/Hot Lunch
4.Any Illegal Activity (I should not have to explain this)
5.Brats & Sams
6.Fatalists/Nihilist
7.No Depth of Character
8.Micro Dicks/Penis
9.Dominant or Switch expression
10.Topping from the bottom
11. Poor Health
12. SMOKING, DRINKING, DRUGS


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Soft Limits:

1.Edge play
2.Water Sports (negotiable)
3.Brats
4.Branding
5.No Experience
6.No Profile
7.Small Dicks/Penis (A lean body and muscular ass and charming submissive personality, I'll take you)
8. No safe word ( requires a lot of trust )
9. Able challenged/Disabled ( Requires a LOT of trust )
10. Straight/Heterosexual


8/10/2015 10:05:41 AM
GOOD EXAMPLE OF A MESSAGE

Hello!

I read your profile and loved what you had to say, you seem like a very caring and, based on your profile picture, beautiful dominant that any submissive would be very fortunate to serve. I'd really like to get to know you better, but I'll be honest, I'm not entirely sure where to go from here. What do you like to do for fun? Do you have any hobbies? I'm really hoping to hear from you soon!

Respectfully,

(I omitted his name for privacy sake.)



Hello (I omitted his name for privacy sake.),

Thank you for the complement. I posted your message in my journal and left out your name. I love your smile in your pictures. I hope you take the time to read through my journal and experience a bit of my thoughts. You have me curious, "I've started to question a lot of what I know and what I thought I knew, and my mind is definitely becoming more open and more willing to try things." Tell me more about what you mean by that. I want details.

For fun in the vanilla world I like to go to yoga and polities classes. I'm active in the queer community and I enjoy going to film theaters. I'm also an artist and writer. I mostly work in fiction. I read a lot of comics books and graphic novels. I enjoy a good sci-fi, horror and fantasy story. My partner works in publishing and when he is not traveling for work we like to dine out and enjoy the local events that Philadelphia has to offer. When home I am working in ZBrush, photoshop, play in Second Life as a male character usually and take care of two ill cats.

Chocolate wise, I enjoy queer BDSM. A lot of cocks and gender play. I'm always exploring my imagination so it all depends on the mood I am in. Primary kinks, pup training, collar and cuffs, anal play, cross-dressing/force bi/mind manipulation. I should make it clear that I seek a deep connection on all levels not just kink.

Curious,
Severin



............................................................

BAD EXAMPLE OF A MESSAGE


Slave: hi sir how are you?


Me: Hello,

I'm wonderful.

Severin

Slave: thanks to message me back Miss
i hope u like my profile

Me:slave,

Your profile could use more detail. My husband is in D.C. today on business.

Severin

Slave: i can meet him?
he have big cock?

8/10/2015 9:40:14 AM
In the mood to pour hot wax over someones ass. Black and Blue. White and Red.

8/10/2015 9:06:26 AM
Laguz



You forget yourself. You tell yourself anything. Day in and day out. You shove it up and down. You turn it upside down. Holding on to the ride of your life.

Soon as you can have it you won’t want it anymore. And now that you call it yours you don’t know what it’s for. You get another chance. But you gotta give it to yourself.

And when you are there. Your shoulders back and I'm next in line. I have been there, I done that, I seen how, you went down.

You forget yourself. You tell yourself anything. Day in and day out. You shove it up and down. You turn it upside down. Holding on to the ride of your life.

Soon as you can have it you won’t want it anymore. And now that you call it yours you don’t know what it’s for.

It's torture to think what we could have been. It's torture to think what I could have been. It's torture to think what you could have been.













8/9/2015 8:09:18 AM





LOYALTY, INTEGRITY, TRUST AND CONSISTENCY. A RARE COMMODITY.
















8/8/2015 12:33:24 PM
Getting to know you, getting to know all about you.


I don't want to give out my personal contact information without getting to know a person first. This includes but is not limited to, long meaningful conversations, establishing dynamics and seeing a clear face picture.

8/7/2015 2:04:25 PM
Seeking an attractive submissive male to Brainwash


This is a 30day program and require a submissives full attention and effort. This activity is not for everyone. It is time sensitive and you will be required to spend 30mins a day preforming the tasks I set for you.

Things you will need.

1. Egg timer

2. Paint, box of crayons, color marker or water colors: Red, blue, yellow, green, purple, orange

3. Paper and/or Canvas

4. Pen & notebook

8/7/2015 1:48:19 PM
Some Dominants Get Depressed Too

I mostly stay away from tech because all I do is sit around and gain weight. I get screen sucked reading every little thing that pulls my curiosity. I tried to get a submissive pup so I could take him out for walks and share some nice moments outside, but it's hard finding a sub these days. The vanilla world isn't so great either since I am so far away from the norm as a person. Being Kinky, TG, and all around alternative and a bit subversive.

I made the mistake of turning a sub into a lover many years ago. Lesson learned. I stay in my own lane. With the D/s world I keep things very boxed. A sub remains a sub and nothing else. The submissive spectrum is rather long and wide. I do believe in growth and evolution as a person, if a sub wants to explore being a pet or slave I'm open to that, but they will never be my "equal". That easily can turn into a vanilla situation and confuse not only the roles but the overall dynamics of the relationship. I prefer everything spelled out in the first month of a new D/s relationship.

Unfortunately I am very guarded because of so many negative experiences. If someone comes to me with little to no understanding about BDSM and D/s I avoid them. Example, speaking to a new sub that wants to live with me the first week of chatting with me. A sub wanting edge play or fuck without even knowing anything about me as a person or dominant.

I recently had a submissive I was interested in but he didn't have any experience and only recently did he want to find a Mistress. I asked for pictures but each one hid his face. I started to panic and just didn't feel safe with this submissive. After I rejected him he deleted all his profiles. Which just added to my suspensions and fears with this person.

I have been catfished online (lied to, mislead, had people steal my pictures and impersonate me) so many times I'm not sure if I will last in the BDSM community very long. So much of this has given me social anxiety disorder. Very hard to trust people these days. Hard enough being trans and a person of color. I thought the BDSM community would have been more welcoming in general. That has not been the case. I have been trying to find a boy for the past 20 years. I had subs even steal from my home. Now, I am far more strict and demanding. Sadly also very mistrustful.

Many submissives say they want to be trained and owned but they really don't seem to know how to have a relationship with a person. Taking your time and learning about someone before putting your well-being in their hands does not seem to be something many Doms or subs put value in.

I had a live in slave once who, when I was sick with a fever, took my house keys and left to go find sex with some random woman. I was in bed all day worried about him because he was new to the city. When I was better I told him to leave and I have not spoken to him since. Actually I did find him again he's married now. He didn't feel anything that he did was wrong.

I do try and look on the bright side and give everyone a chance to prove they belong to me. Many fail. The frustrating part is finding a submissive that lives too far to be owned or even trained. Even more frustrating is trying to find someone local who and prove they belong to me. If someone relocated and moved into the city with their own home. I would be more than willing to be their Owner.

A lot of my depression comes from not having someone to own and train. Not having someone submissive I can trust and spend quality time with. I'm not looking for a vanilla romance. I already have that. I'm seeking a D/s - kinky romance. If that makes sense.










8/6/2015 6:57:48 PM
TRANS SUBMISSIVES I AM ATTRACTED TO, I ❤ DICK.

I love the male body as it is. Preferably fit/athletic/slender.

Androgynous men

Cross-dressers

Transvestites

Preferably: thin, athletic, butch, none passable. Into fitness, polities and/or yoga.
Love seeing you dressed as a sailor girl, mini dress, short shorts and heels. Bohemian, goth, punk a plus.

Objectifying Men any way I can is what I live for. Big dicks, muscular ass and legs just make me so happy. Pretty and butch boys I can "force bi" just puts a smile on my face.


[ I'm NOT sexually attracted to breasts, female shapes or bodies.]

8/4/2015 12:14:59 PM
We and you

We are looking for:
INDEPENDENCE to make choices, grow, learn, teach, become stronger
CONNECTION with a sub, pet, slave and the rest of the world
SERVICE from a sub, pet, slave
TRUST by showing safe, sane and consensual behavior


You are looking for:
DIRECTION from Dom,Trainer,Owner, too grow, learn, become stronger
DISCIPLINE from Dom,Trainer,Owner, too grow, learn, become stronger
SERVICE to Dom,Trainer,Owner
TRUST by showing safe, sane and consensual behavior

8/4/2015 1:23:50 AM
Dominants avoiding other Dominants


I'm often perplexed how a community of people can often be so divided. Simply trying to connect with others that are of like mind seems like an up hill battle. I'm speaking of the independent kinksters seeking Doms and submissives. Organizations such as leather communities and leather families offer a lot of structure. Where, Dominants have peers and respect the boundaries of both Dominant and slave. There are other communities such as Regional TNG and Fringe groups.

I'm not saying any of us will connect with other strong personalities. I'm saying, stay open to it. It could open new doors.

When I first started D/s way back when. It was rather easy to connect and meet new people. Have relationships that were kink friendly and respected space and limits. Somewhere along the line Dominants just stopped being supportive of other Dominants. Not all together but I see the divide on various social networks.

I want to express, it's ok to have friends in the community. Not everyone is out to take your sub or Dom/me. There is a world full of people who understand your limits and relationship. They are living it or potentially living it also. If you are worried about something going wrong with another Dominant just be respectful and tell them you are seeking like minds and friendship. Many Dominants seem to have forgotten how to connect with other people.

Join a Munch or a BDSM convention. Or perhaps a BDSM event such as a Play Party. People in the community often respect your personal space and move aside if you are just looking to observe.

If you don't have a sub (or a Dominant) events are often good places too get to know down to earth and real people. You wont have to deal with much of the scams of the internet. When it comes to the internet simply connecting with a like mind and peer can make the wait for a sub or Dom/me a little more bearable. Your connection with another person doesn't even have to be about BDSM or any type of Kink.




8/3/2015 10:31:45 AM
Starting New Illustration Art Project

Requirements:
Have your own fetish gear. ( what expresses your personality )
Must be ok with some nudity.
Your gender and sex are not an issue. Trans and Intersexed friendly
Must be able to pose for long periods of hours.


The project is:
Amputee Friendly.
LGBT and Straight Friendly.
Body positive. All shapes welcomed.



8/3/2015 10:09:35 AM
My vanilla interests.


Illustration
Yoga
Polities
Meditation
Metaphysics
Affirmations
World Music
Travel
UK
Exercise
Reading
Learning
Teaching
Local Park Events
Health
Gardening
Mental Health
Science
Science-Fiction
Nicola Tesla
World History
Fantasy
Photography
Photoshop
ZBrush
3D Printing
Zoology
Animal Care
Post Punk Movement
Bohemian Goth
1920s to 1970s
Hammer Films
Christopher Lee
Vincent Price

Michael Gough
Peter Cushing
Film Noire
Pop culture
Film
Movies
Comics
Animation
Gaming (table top and video games)
Cosplay
Furries


8/3/2015 7:29:50 AM
A MESSAGE FROM SOME RANDOM MISTRESS


"are u female ?
can u be used on cam now? "

8/1/2015 6:20:10 PM
Messages like this frustrate me.


"I am 36. I am from Southeastern KY. I am Looking to be a live in slave. I have been looking for this for a long time. I know I have a odd case but I wish you would think about this. Yes I am Married , I got married when I was 18 and I hate my wife and life . I have kids ...16 and 15 my wife is a RN and she will take great care of them . I AM LOOKING TO DROP OFF THE EARTH ...BECOME A FULL TIME LIVE IN SLAVE AND NO ONE I KNOW EVER FIND ME AGAIN ...I have to have it this way ..I would give you my mind heart body and soul and make the best slave you ever had ..little to no limits ..please please think about it ...Thank You with much Respect ...Slave ____________"

8/1/2015 5:49:45 PM
BOOK CLUB

I recommend this book to all those new and old to BDSM and D/s.


Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities by Lee Harrington (Author), Mollena Williams (Author)

8/1/2015 12:25:39 PM
Favorite Form of Bondage



Gags, Cuff and Collars. I have a small sometime LARGE fascination with locks and keys. Many years ago I purchased heart shaped locks to go with the leather collars and cuff I also have. I also own a rubber cock gag and a leather doggy hood. The hood looks a lot like Anubis, the Egyptian god.

My past slaves and I would do superhero role-play. I was sometimes the hero and sometimes the villain. Usually it they would role-play assuming I was a regular girl then suddenly they feel for my cock which then activated my super powers. Those pesky erection make a girl strong I suppose. I would then tie up my submissive as he is too in shock seeing a girl with a cock. His body goes limp. After he is cuffed and usually naked wearing a jock-strap I verbally abuse him. Spit on him. Press my heels into his chest, dick, balls and ass cheeks. His hands helplessly bound behind his back. His ankles stuck together by leather ankle cuffs. He rolls to his knees and begins sucking me. My cock and tits. I make him beg but force his lips to kiss and eventually lick my toes and heels. Slowly.

My partner and I purchased glow in the dark bondage rope. I love anything that glows in the dark. For two years we have been seeking an attractive young man to tie up and "explore". This leads to my joy of mummifying a submissive male. However I am very picky about doing it. Some subs say they are into it and curious but then freak out. I take my time with it. Often starting with Zentai. I tend to favor superhero-ish zentai.

8/1/2015 12:00:51 PM
HOW TO TREAT YOUR DOMME (or DOM)

1. Please her, do everything you can to make her feel appreciated for the beautiful woman she is.

2. Listen to her, even if she doesn't explicitly tell you to do something she might be giving you valuable information on her needs and wishes.

3. Giver her the feeling that she is the most important person in your life, put some effort into this, a little hand written note that says how much you lover her can already make her day.

4. Present your body clean and well groomed, it is her property and it should be ready for her to play with whenever she pleases.

5. Whenever she is tired or had a rough day at work. make sure not to pressure her with insignificant questions. Just pamper her and let her be.

6. Be honest and open to her, tell her how you feel and communicate with her, she can't read your mind and you can't expect her to know your hidden desires and wishes.

7. Don't expect her to fulfill your sexual fantasies, just be thankful when she does.







-Source Uknown

8/1/2015 6:40:51 AM
Do Dominants Get Scammed and Faked Too?

The answer is yes, but mostly if they don't know what signs to look for.  Some submissives have been known to rob, scam money, lie to, mislead, and in some cases arrested. I wont go into too many detail because I don't want to give people (you know who you are) any ideas for revenge or a new career in scamming Dominants. You could end up in jail or worst.

Many submissives have met Dominants online and asked the Dominant to pay for travel expenses. The Dominant would either send money or pay for the train, plain or automobile. The Dominant would have some type of lengthy conversation with the submissive for weeks or months on end. The sub in the meantime talks to another Dominant setting up a rapport. The submissive will either take the money and pocket it or use the transportation to meet another person all together. Never showing up to meet the expecting Dominant. This scam seems to go both ways.

In my own life I had a submissive that was seeing not one but five different Mistresses while telling me I was the only one. He then would tell one Mistress how badly the others treated him and that they were ex Mistresses that wouldn't leave him alone. Well soon enough it was clear what was going on and I cut him loose. He sent me emails every day for months until it became once a week, then once a month, then none at all. He begged  for forgiveness but of course he no longer existed to me.

There are also many attractive people who become pro-submissives. They rent or own a dungeon or play space and charge Dominants who can't find submissives to dominate them. Though usually these subs end up becoming switches. Some slaves will rent themselves out for a weekend cooking, cleaning, whoring and submitting to the wishes of a Dominant. Usually male. This is often an unsafe practice. Once you are tied you can end up in a bad way. An ex sub of mine had gone into "Sub-renting" and the female Dominant was into knife play. He walked away with horrible scares. He had a hard time find much work after that.


Always remember play SAFE, SANE and CONSENSUALLY. Set limits, get to know the person and don't rush in. Relationships often end as quickly as they started.


8/1/2015 6:11:49 AM
ASS PICS, NUDE PICS, DICK PICS and BEING PICKED

It's rare that I ever see a nude picture of a submissive and I get all around enticed. If the submissive workout regularly and has an amazing fit body then I will stand up and take notice. All though... being an illustrator I draw nudes often. Having the internet I see nudes often. When a submissive sends me an ass pic or a dick pic it's often the 100th one I have seen that day from this site alone.

What gets my attention is a nice smile, healthy body and good hygiene. I don't expect perfection but a nice "normal" picture goes a long way with me. Follow that nice smile with a nude picture that I actually like. Mmmmm... heaven.

One reason I turn down submissives who send me headless nudes is because they usually don't care what I think of feel or really want a Dominant. They just want me to react to they awkward nudity. They tend to only want a one night stand or kinky chat before they go to bed or finish their day. They don't want to be owned or trained they just want a thrill.

There is nothing more awkward than someone sending me a dick pic and expecting me to have a positive reaction. Sure on the internet that a common practice but do you really expect to be taken seriously when the other person isn't sure if you have a "Butter Face, But Her Face or Butt Hurt Face"?

Actually I do know a few Doms that will use/fuck a male slave and then toss them out. This kind of act also encourages "Gold-Diggers" and scammer too. When you act desperate it brings out the fakes and ruins it for the more sincere people.


8/1/2015 5:30:49 AM
Polyness, stables of slaves and being special in a relationship.

As a polyfidelitous person I'm often told I can not love or give my attention to more than one person. This statement often reminds me of abusive relationships where one partner demands the other partner to stop speaking to any of their friends or family. On the other side of this I see people who were involved with others who did not know how to have a multi person relationship. Or a person that simply assumes multi person relationships do not offer the affection, attention or domination they would seek.

Frankly, many people these days have relationship A.D.D. (attention deficit disorder). Many people can't stay in a relationship for more than one day let alone ten or fifteen years. In a multi partner relationship you can always get some attention from one partner if not both or more. This of course is from my own personal experience.

Finding a submissive or Dominant becomes a game of who's attention you can hold and for how long. Before they see another interesting or pretty applicant that snatches their attention. When I worked as a councilor for LGBT youth, I was told to be consistent with the youths. When you show consistency you encourage trust. When you encourage trust you create bonds with people. When you bond with people you often invoke some type of love with them. What happens when people start feeling love for another person? They don't want to ever see that person go.

I sometimes use the example of having two or more cats or dogs. Each one has their own personality but the owner doesn't love one of them less or neglect one over the other. The said pet will seek out the owner and in not so many words express their need for attention or food. The owner then offers the attention to one or many. Each one matters and brings joy and energy into the life of the owner.

You only stop being special when you stop giving of yourself. Even then you can still be special if the other person has not given up on you. If you have been a great pet, offered wonderful service and have been a manageable companion how could you not shine with the rest of the pack with your own unique qualities?

Multi partner relationships are not for everyone but sometimes you have to be trained on how to be loved in any new relationship. Especially if you have never felt cared for or owned before.

In any relationship you should make it clear what you need. More so when you are someone's consensual submissive or Dominant. Some submissives want no right or say in a relationship. They are perfectly happy being ignored and used at the Dominant discretion. Other submissives need attention, spankings, caging, communication on a regular schedule. If you don't ask or negotiate you wont receive, if you are in a monogamous relationship or multi partner relationship.

I knew a Dominant with two submissives. To be clear one was submissive and the other was a slave. They had been together for 10 years. The relationship was like any other. Ups and downs. However, they each thought they would grow old together. One happy triad. Sadly just a few months ago one of them had died in an accident. What was once three became two. The surviving partners (Dominant and submissive) felt the lose deeply. Two was the loneliest number. Each felt the void left behind. The special energy, personality and love of the other... gone.

In a healthy multi partner relationship you are as special as you let yourself be. If you give of yourself (love and service) and remain unique, you will always be missed but most of all you will always feel wanted.


8/1/2015 4:51:49 AM
It's so weird that most of the submissives and slaves I find attractive are so flaky or strongly give off the flaky vibe. I suppose they can afford to be picky since they are so attractive.

The submissives that I find unattractive can also be flaky but usually few and far between are. Some of them wear me down and open up my mind because they are such good people in general. I start looking past their looks and more at their ability to serve.

I must be one of the cute ones if I think I can afford to be picky. Not so cute since I get turned down regularly just like the rest of the people here. To many people I am a toad or pretty frog. Though I always think of myself as a swan. There is always someone out there for everyone. It's the wait that makes us feel it will never happen.

8/1/2015 4:42:16 AM
CHECKMATE!

I just saw the best tattoo on a submissive! The silhouette of a pawn chess piece! LOVED IT! As an illustrator I try to come up with tattoo ideas for a sub. Any ideas I have are exclusive for my property and none other.

I never rush into branding or collaring my subs. Everything is usually always rosy in the beginning of the relationship. I want to brand a sub that has stuck with me through the thick and thin.

I think I would like the knight chess piece as a tattoo for a submissive and the pawn for a slave. Maybe leave it up to the submissive to choose what they feel best fits for them. Starting to pull open my sketch book and ink a few designs.


8/1/2015 3:56:38 AM
The Creepy Submissive/Slave/Pet


First being creepy is not singular to submissives. Creepy exists for anyone that simply gives of that questionable vibe. In some case it's the look of the person. The demands of the person. The general life style of the person.

What I find creepy personally is when a submissive with little to no profile or picture tells me. "hello would very much like to be yours." While its a nice sentence if you don't have a picture available or a thoughtful profile about yourself or even if you don't share more about who you are in your email to me. I'm going to find it creepy.

While I like effort in a submissive if I don't know you on a personal level I'm going to feel awkward around you. If you push yourself on me or cross my personal space I'm going to feel awkward around you. If I clearly in person do not make eye contact, you should assume I am not interested.

How not to be creepy. First ask yourself.
[1] Is what I am doing/saying making the other person feel safe?
[2] Is what I am doing/saying sane?
[3] Is the other person consenting/responding positively to my efforts?

If it is NO 2 out of 3, then you are possibly being creepy.
When in doubt ASK, but it's usually best to leave the person alone and move on with your life.

The least single people are those who take good care of themselves or date those at their own level. Common sense and good social skills help too. Birds of a feather flock together. The prettiest feathers attract the best mates. Many toads wait for swans to kiss them. Sometimes it happens, but often the toad needs to meet another toad or at least a pretty frog.

As a trans person I creep out a lot of people and a lot of people creep me out as well. When people figure out that I am trans the looks on their faces can be anything from amused to fearful disgust. Sometimes I'm not sure if I will be met with open arms or a closed fist.


8/1/2015 2:54:20 AM
Struggling with my feminist beliefs when dominating sissies and cross-dressers.

I get dozens of messages from submissives and switches asking me to turn them into sissy sluts or feminized whores. Ugh... From where I stand I hear them tell me feminization and femininity is more submissive than being male and submissive. To me turning a man into a woman doesn't make that person more submissive. However I do respect their choice in how they submit. It's simply does not fit my Dominance.

I should add if cross-dressing is part of the submissives personality and needs I have no problem dominating them. Just don't tell me femininity is weak while telling me you believe in female/feminine superiority.

I'm a Misandrist. I like to dominate men. Use men. Have my way with men. Bind men and nurture their submission. But I'm only a Misandrist to those who are submissive by nature seeking someone to own and or dominate them. Safe, sane and consensual.


8/1/2015 2:26:30 AM
I have noticed hundreds of profiles from both submissive and Dominants stating they hate the scene, are jaded, bitter, disenchanted or over all have trust issues. On the flip side I notice a lot of newer Dominants and submissive people jump in with guns blazing, corsets tight and erections ready to be slapped. Then, months later they too become part of the jaded and mistrustful clan. What exactly is going on?

A lot of disappointment I have noticed comes from demanding more than what is actually supplied out there. A submissive seeking a woman, man, trans or intersexed person that simply does not yet exist. Seeking to be subjugated in ways that could potentially criminal by the eyes of the law. Trying to find someone attractive physically mentally and emotionally is very important but you need to find people who are safe, sane and consenting adults.

Many dominants I meet with go through long periods of depression. They find a sub. They sub gets crazy or flaky. Trust is then thrown out the window and no one is wiser by the end. Only hurt feelings and ego trips as to who was more in the wrong.

When shit it's the fan in my life I always ask myself. How can I could I have done this better. Being dominant means being proactive and that goes for the submissive too. You don't just check out mentally and let the dominant do what they want. The same goes for the Dominant. Don't ego trip and just have your way with a submissive and assume whatever you do they will survive it.

Limits are very important. Not rushing into a relationship is very important. Learn How to court your Dominant. Learn how to court your submissive. Instant gratification is a huge flaw in our modern lives. It just leads to more hurt feelings and misunderstandings. Take your time. Learn about who you are dealing with.

Note: The usual disappointment with scammers, gold-diggers, fakes, etc.  so difficult to find a local people who are able to host, is sane, clean, etc.
Drama often follows: Partnered people who do not or are not able to share with their partner the truth about their dominant and/or submissive needs. Or a sub that is married to a woman/men who do not enjoy the lifestyle or know about their submissive nature.

Many of my past subs have lied to me about their relationship status. I have received emails and even phone calls from significant others demanding I stop seeing their partner or husband. I had to them, their spouse said they were single or otherwise not attached. Trust goes both ways for a Dominant and submissive. I even had a slave who was cheating on me with another Mistress. That turned into a short ugly fight. I had no time for games. I told her she could have him. Who the hell wants a person that can't be honest in their life? Apparently she did.




8/1/2015 1:40:29 AM
Q&A


Q: So what are you looking for? A sub male to serve both you and your partner? In what ways?

A: My profile and journal expresses what I am looking for. I have given up being specific since very few submissives are sincere about meeting or submitting. Submissives come in many shades. There is not a one size fits all, so I am open to learning about different people and seeing where my dominance can fit with their submission. We are ultimately seeking someone who can enjoy a couple in a TLR. Someone with integrity and intellect. My partner seeks an attractive slender male whom he can practice rope bondage with. I seek a submissive who actually wants to be part of a Long Term Relationship. Someone focused on me.

7/30/2015 7:15:59 PM

 TG and Male, couple for submissive bisexual or gay boi.

All Positions Are Negotiable

We: love helping and educating others in the community. Feel free to ask for advice and friendship. We like to be spoiled with attention, intimacy and affection as well as giving attention, intimacy and affection in return. We seek a boi that wants to be trained, owned and/or loved by a couple. We enjoy having a deep connection with slaves and subs.

 

I'm the Mommy Domme type and Polyandrous. I would love to find a "boi/son and/or submissive husband." I use a lot of energy work in my BDSM and D/s. Such as hypnosis, visualization, breathing, affirmations, meditation and more. I give chores, spankings, bondage and a lot of role-play, a queen seeking her knight. I have been a Mistress for about 20 years and my partner for about 10. We have been together for about 15 years. My partner is often busy so I will be your primary partner.

 

You: enjoy Sci-Fi, Steampunk, Fantasy, Gaming, Doctor Who, Yoga, Health, Fitness, Pilates, Travel, LGBTQ events, Tea, Coffee, Anime/Animation, Reading, Geeky as well as kinky fun. Your age is not an issue however you should have a healthy attitude and body. The list goes on but I do love uniqueness and individuality in people I meet.

 

WARNING: If I am not worth knowing then you are not worth training. I don't train or own strangers. You MUST get to know me as a person first and I you. I'm seeking long term relationships only.

 

* Safe, Sane, and Consensual.


 All Positions Are Negotiable


0. Seeking submissive,slave,pet, sissy, for trans-led relationship.

1.Seeking sub, slave, bottom, pet or boi.

2.Seeking boi to breast feed, cock suck, cock milking, anal play, versatile bottom.

3.Seeking puppy boi. Must enjoy, collars, walks, doggy hoods, anal plugs and tickling.

4.Seeking boi for Virtual World play and Real World bonding. (SL)

5.Seeking an obedient "son" that wants to be loved and trained with direction and discipline (spanking & more).

6.Seeking human pet, to be fed, loved, trained and used by a couple.

7.Seeking a boi that can clean and do laundry ( chastity is optional ).

 

* Safe, Sane, and Consensual.

 

 

                      

 


7/29/2015 8:57:16 AM
The fucked up part of this community is people thrust their fetishes first and who they are as people last. You barely get to know people. It's like the complete opposite of the vanilla world. They roughly tell you who they are if at all but don't share what they are into kink wise. Often having a skewed perception of what kink is. Ideally I would find a submissive with an eight inch or bigger cock. Athletic or thin build. A boy eager to please and submit.

Why do I want shallow aspects? A lot of subs have asked me to whore them out. I have no interest in my property potentially contracting a STD. I would much rather have my boy be a cam whore and get paid. He would wear a mask and have BDSM sessions on cam with my instruction. Perhaps he would get fucked on cam by someone we both felt safe with. I have many ideas not all of which would happen but should be shared.

Every time I think I have found a boy for 24/7 he ends up being moody and difficult or under preforms as a submissive. I just want to own a mans mind, heart and body and make it a work of salacious art.

I'm looking for a beautiful boy. A pet that is thin or athletic. A slave that knows his place and loves his place. A submissive that submits, trusts, devotes and enjoys my company.




7/28/2015 2:49:23 PM
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7/14/2015 7:45:25 AM

Traditional Types of Collars

http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Collar


7/13/2015 1:32:48 PM
The order of training is,

Protection
,

Consideration
,

Training,

Ownership

7/4/2015 9:10:00 AM

HAPPY 4 OF JULY!




My method of training is based on the slave stein philosophy, as well as personal methods I have learned and/or adapted to through out the years.




WARNING, RULES


ME:


Independence, to follow Their own path, or They cannot lead a slave.

•Connection, to other people and to the world around THEM.

•Service, to be served, accepts a slave’s service, or takes him “into service,” while the slave, needing to serve, renders service or “enters service.”



WARNING, RULES

 


YOU:


• DIRECTION, which encompasses leadership, purpose, goals, values — all that is entailed by allowing another person to control how you live and move and have your being. It is impossible to give up that kind of control to someone who has no plan for your life but simply issues orders at random. If a slave is to blindly follow a Master, the Master must know where He is going and how to get there. To be collared and leashed implies that you are being led somewhere.

 • DISCIPLINE, which encompasses not merely punishment, if needed, but rules, standards, judgments, not necessarily in years), Authority, and even avatar of Divinity. The slave who is not allowed to serve, who is not used to the best and fullest extent of his capabilities, is like a believer who is denied the opportunity to worship his god.

 • SERVICE, which encompasses not only working for the Master’s benefit, or as He directs, and being used sexually for the Master’s pleasure, but also all other ways in which the slave shows respect for the Master’s position and honors Him as Owner, Mentor, Guide, Elder (not necessarily in years), Authority, and even avatar of Divinity. The slave who is not allowed to serve, who is not used to the best and fullest extent of his capabilities, is like a believer who is denied the opportunity to worship his god.


 

©david stein

7/1/2015 11:57:46 PM
I DO NOT CONSIDER PEOPLE I HAVE JUST MET FOR SLAVERY, SUBMISSION, OWNERSHIP OR PLAY. I DO NOT CONSIDER ANYONE WHO CAN NOT HAVE A FULL CONVERSATION WITH ME. IF I DON'T KNOW YOU I WILL NOT CONSIDER YOU! You must introduce yourself with at least three sentences then you may ask a question!




"Consider me for slavery ?"

7/1/2015 9:38:30 PM
I'm looking for someone that sees me as a person not a fuck toy.TREAT ME AS A PERSON OR DOMINANT. YOU WILL NOT TREAT ME LIKE A FUCK TOY! I AM NOT AN OBJECT!


"like to serve you Master, a devotion of my hungry asshole"

7/1/2015 10:11:13 AM
THIS IS NEVER EVER OK. THIS IS NOT AN OPTION. ABANDONING A FAMILY IS NOT ATTRACTIVE.


"I am 36. I am from (CENSORED). I am Looking to be a live in slave. I have been looking for this for a long time. I know I have a odd case but I wish you would think about this. Yes I am Married , I got married when I was 18 and I hate my wife and life . I have kids ...16 and 15 my wife is a RN and she will take great care of them . I AM LOOKING TO DROP OFF THE EARTH ...BECOME A FULL TIME LIVE IN SLAVE AND NO ONE I KNOW EVER FIND ME AGAIN ...I have to have it this way ..I would give you my mind heart body and soul and make the best slave you ever had ..little to no limits ..please please think about it ...Thank You with much Respect ...Slave (CENSORED)"

11/6/2012 8:43:47 PM

I have no expectations. You have to own your submission. Have a vision of that expression with the limits your current life allow you. How much time you give is not up to me. However if I don't feel served, honored, trusted and respected, I could not allow you to continue your service. You have to work with me to make the most of your goals as a submissive. The more you want it the more time you will find to make things work. Simply put be brave and be proactive. Don't sabotage your dream of submission.

 I have to say inexperience is an illusion. You clearly have some kind of vision to how you should at least behave. You at least have an idea what you expect from yourself when you think of serving and greeting your Owner. So I will ask you. How would you greet someone you are deeply interested in serving? What would you do to seduce you potential Dominant to see you in the light you want to be seen and treated in? What duties do you see yourself doing without you Mistress or Master ordering you to do? How do you see yourself expressing your needs to your Trainer?

 The problem with sexual submission is sex last so long. A slave or sub is more than just a sex toy. They are servants whom must serve in all aspects unless they are just seeking sex. If it is only sex you want to offer well get in line. There are a lot of people offering sex. You have to make yourself unique and desirable on many levels

 A submissive is like a boyfriend or girlfriend. You play, you kiss, you spank but you do not own the boyfriend or girlfriend. They have a mind and will of their own. They don't need to be kept. A slave is like a husband or wife in the old fashion sense. They are property, kept, protected, trained to please not just in bed but in the home as well. The slave is part of the family while sub it more like a friend of the family. Everyone owns their submission differently. Some give all of themselves and some only part of themselves.

You need to be decisive. Don't give a Dominant the impression you don't mean business. Make it clear that you are sincere and willing to expose yourself once trust is established. Trust is usually what ends up hurting both sides and making both jaded. Know who you are in the moments and grow from there.


11/4/2012 5:38:24 PM

"Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless - like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend."

 

Bruce Lee


11/4/2012 1:00:08 AM

If you are going to reply to me you need to give me more than one sentence or one word. It makes you look uninterested or insincere otherwise.


3/13/2012 3:13:00 PM

Jean Giraud/Moebius 1938-2012

 

thank you for everything.


10/21/2011 11:40:00 PM

Getting so tired of all the "fake" subs and slaves. Why say you want to serve and yet, not do it? why say you want friends, yet not meet? Why say you always want to be owned and yet, freak out when you are?


10/10/2011 8:13:45 PM

Always horny? Well if you are male what else is new? Always horny from my experience, has only proven disloyalty and a whole other set of problems. Many submissives wear this as a badge of honor, but I fail to see the honor in it. Not a prude here, but if you are always horny I hope you use a condom, I hope you don't have any sexually transmitted diseases or viruses. Are you always ready to please your Dominant? Are you always horny and insist on safe sex practice? I hope so.

 

I have only met 2 cis-men that where "not always horny" both had hormone/endocrine issues.

 

Sometimes our passion make us act like idiots. I like dancing in the rain, but I know better not to catch a cold or ruin a new pair of shoes. I personally am not seeking an "Always Whoreny or Horny" sub, bottom or slave. It's all about balance of mind body and emotions.

 

 

What salutations do you have for slutty and horny men?


10/5/2011 10:48:04 PM

TG/Male, COUPLE FOR GAY+QUEER+Bi-MALE

 


::: Seeking someone safe, sane and wanting to be loved/owned & trained/controlled :::

< Queer preferred.

> Ask me before you send a chat request <

:: IF I DO NOT REPLY IT'S BECAUSE I FIND YOU OBNOXIOUS (unpleasant or harmful) :::

 

 

 

1.We are: TG and male couple. Writer, illustrator, work in publishing and computers. If you like movies, dining out, parks, museums, culture, pagans and LGBT film festivals you are ideal. We love Science Fiction, Comic-con, Gamers, nerds, BBC, Foreign Films, Animation, Current Events, How to books, Creative People and more. Always open to trying new things.

2. Just friends: Friendship is more than welcome with other Kinksters. Learn, teach and grow. Friendship is about community and support in whatever role you take. We're interested in hanging out, getting to know you, going to events, and sharing interests so we can learn and grow together. Don't be shy about letting us know what you enjoy. If you enjoy bicycling or bondage bingo that's a plus! Friendship can take any shape. If you are submissive and not a slave we welcome you. If you are Dominant seeking like minds we are open to you too.

3. Adding to the love - poly-fidelity: If things become kinky we prefer a submissive/bottom who is versatile. You will be loved and adored. We're NOT looking for a one night stand or hookup. You must need love and cuddles as much as kink. A long term relationship is our preference. We have been together for 11 years and would like for you to be there fore the rest of the journey. We love depth.

4. If you are a slave: The Mistress of the house does all the training and screening. It is not enough that you are a good submissive you must be healthy and well kept. Your should be thin and/or athletic. Getting to know you would include forming a friendship, rope play, anal play, breast feeding, cock worship, foot and shoe worship, behavior modification and sharing quality time outside of sensual torture.


As your Owner I am very selfish and needy - you should be clingy. You will be eating out of a dog bowl, kept in bondage in one form or another, used erotically, forced bi, anal and more. We are seeking a life long slave/property. We seek for you to grow in your submission and service. All your choices will be removed. More toys will be added to our play with you so expect more extreme play as time passes. We are seeking property not a relationship with a slave.


Sub/slave types we are seeking: All slaves will be forced in domestic and sexual play. I am open about being a slave owner but very discreet. I prefer traditional house servants.


a. butler: Suit and chastity device

b. cyclist/athletic submissive: forced exorcise and athletic gear bondage

c. GINGER boys: I have a hard spot for red heads

d. Human pet/puppy: you will be eating out of a dog bowl, collared and leashed

e. son: younger slave

f. bottom: anal play a lot of anal play

g. secretary/assistant: this may require travel

h. service-humiliation: Servant that will be humiliated often

i. property: Objectification used with strictly my limits

j. valet: personal male servant will not be shared

k. nude slave: kept naked and or in skimpy clothing in bondage

L. Toe heads: Blonde male slave that will be used for many things mostly foot worship

M. Hung and humiliated: A slave with 8 or more inches used and loved for C.B.T.

N. Chauffeur: a driver used for events, trips, slavery and erotic play

0. Kinky Klown: Erotic, artistic, burlesque, circus and submissive play

p. submissive handyman: short short in the summer and chastity all year must have a nice ass and tight body. Come with your own tools. Gardening skills are a plus.


We are open to your personal style/uniqueness  as you submit with few limits

 

5. Concrete Limits: Nothing illegal, Anything that jeopardizes your long term health and/or mobility will not be tolerated.

 

Taken Family: The people who have chosen you and you have mutually chosen as family. Beyond friendship these people care where you are and end up in life. The bond is emotional and in some cases spiritual. These people may be your Equal, Submissive or Dominant in your life.

 

 


10/1/2011 3:12:33 PM

< It's not about the sex. Of course the Owner is entitled to enjoy the slave anyway she, he or they, wishes. It's about the training. Displaying the training back to the dominant, affirming ownership, feeling subjugated.


 Something so basic about being trained so well as to read a glance, gesture, whim of the liege




7/10/2011 11:13:17 PM


::: Seeking someone safe, sane and wanting to be loved/owned :::

> Ask me before you send a chat request <

:: IF I DO NOT REPLY IT'S BECAUSE I FIND YOU OBNOXIOUS (unpleasant or harmful) :::

 

 

 

1.We are: TG and male couple. Writer, illustrator, work in publishing and computers. If you like movies, dining out, parks, museums, culture, pagans and LGBT film festivals you are ideal. We love Science Fiction, Comic-con, Gamers, nerds, BBC, Foreign Films, Animation, Current Events, How to books, Creative People and more. Always open to trying new things.

2. Just friends: Friendship is more than welcome with other Kinksters. Learn, teach and grow. Friendship is about community and support in whatever role you take. We're interested in hanging out, getting to know you, going to events, and sharing interests so we can learn and grow together. Don't be shy about letting us know what you enjoy. If you enjoy bicycling or bondage bingo that's a plus! Friendship can take any shape. If you are submissive and not a slave we welcome you. If you are Dominant seeking like minds we are open to you too.

3. Adding to the love - poly-fidelity: If things become kinky we prefer a submissive/bottom who is versatile. You will be loved and adored. We're NOT looking for a one night stand or hookup. You must need love and cuddles as much as kink. A long term relationship is our preference. We have been together for 11 years and would like for you to be there fore the rest of the journey. We love depth.

4. If you are a slave: The Mistress of the house does all the training and screening. It is not enough that you are a good submissive you must be healthy and well kept. Your should be thin and/or athletic. Getting to know you would include forming a friendship, rope play, anal play, breast feeding, cock worship, foot and shoe worship, behavior modification and sharing quality time outside of sensual torture.


As your Owner I am very selfish and needy - you should be clingy. You will be eating out of a dog bowl, kept in bondage in one form or another, used erotically, forced bi, anal and more. We are seeking a life long slave/property. We seek for you to grow in your submission and service. All your choices will be removed. More toys will be added to our play with you so expect more extreme play as time passes. We are seeking property not a relationship with a slave.


Sub/slave types we are seeking: All slaves will be forced in domestic and sexual play. I am open about being a slave owner but very discreet. I prefer traditional house servants.


a. butler: Suit and chastity device

b. cyclist/athletic submissive: forced exorcise and athletic gear bondage

c. GINGER boys: I have a hard spot for red heads

d. Human pet/puppy: you will be eating out of a dog bowl, collared and leashed

e. son: younger slave

f. bottom: anal play a lot of anal play

g. secretary/assistant: this may require travel

h. service-humiliation: Servant that will be humiliated often

i. property: Objectification used with strictly my limits

j. valet: personal male servant will not be shared

k. nude slave: kept naked and or in skimpy clothing in bondage

L. Toe heads: Blonde male slave that will be used for many things mostly foot worship

M. Hung and humiliated: A slave with 8 or more inches used and loved for C.B.T.

N. Chauffeur: a driver used for events, trips, slavery and erotic play

0. Kinky Klown: Erotic, artistic, burlesque, circus and submissive play

p. submissive handyman: short short in the summer and chastity all year must have a nice ass and tight body. Come with your own tools. Gardening skills are a plus.


We are open to your personal style/uniqueness  as you submit with few limits

 

5. Concrete Limits: Nothing illegal, Anything that jeopardizes your long term health and/or mobility will not be tolerated.

 

Taken Family: The people who have chosen you and you have mutually chosen to as family. Beyond friendship these people care where you are and end up in life. The bond is emotional and in some cases spiritual. These people may be your Equal, Submissive or Dominant in your life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



6/4/2011 10:38:11 AM

UNDER CONSTRUCTION

 

NEEDS

 

Self Actualization:

 

Self-esteem:

 

Belonging:

 

Safety:

 

Physiological:


5/25/2011 12:58:34 AM

Flawed pursuit of perfection.

Intersexed children while different are yet not so different. We get called herm or shims and many other derogatory words. We try to fit the gender role we are assigned - sometimes failing miserably.  Some of us are seen as male when infact are actually female identified. Others seen as female when in fact are male self identified. A good few of us are androgynous and choose to stay that way. Walking between the gender lines like a trapeze artist. Very similar to the eroticism of TG people. In fact. Intersexed youths can and many do grow up to be TG. Not every intersexed person grows up to look like a supermodel. Gender Identity Dysphoria is not only a restricted to MTF or FTM. Many intersexed people are raised as one sex only to feel they are another sex - despite their chromosomes. Dating is hard from for everyone. Telling you partner what is between your legs or something about your features not quite male ot not quite female does come up. No pun. Am I attractive? Honestly I don't care if I am but I would say no. Is it hard for me to find a date - VERY HARD. I really dislike being lumped up with cisgender people because I don't identify as cisgender

 

From a TG person:

I see from your profile that you are intersexed. I have always felt an alliance with intersexed people. But I don't view us as being the same... You grew up with a female looking body. You look gg and I can see that you present as one too. I'm sorry but this group is for trans women, I know you have issues between your legs just as we do. But we are dealing with being seen as women. Being that you are pretty much gg you have many more options than we do in finding a mate. You have an unfair advantage over most trans women. It would not be right for me to allow you to be a member. Sorry.

 

 

And the TG had to say more:

 

This group is for strictly transsexual women who were born only with a "penis" and not "looking like gg's from birth". I said only real TS's women when joining. I'm very sorry you had to live as a boy, but it's clear to see that you've had a gg's body the whole time other than what's between your legs. And transsexual women have almost no groups or dating sites that are exclusively just for just us. This is our group. You could find love or a date on vanilla dating sites.. Most of us can't. I'm sorry but i can't let you join.

 

And she said more:

 

You was born with both penis and vagina and you clearly have the natural endocrine to appear 100% gg without question. You are like us in many ways, but we are not the same. sorry.

 

And she adds more: TG's intersexed.. We were all pretty much born being raised or forced into the wrong gender roles... But with very different causes for GID.


5/24/2011 2:52:13 AM

My partner and I have been together for 11 years. When we started out together he was busy with school and then came work. He now travels to other countries and works long hours. I on the other hand work from home. I do all the screening, emailing/communicating, training and have complete control over the relationship with the sub and/or slave. My partner adores rope bondage and cycling. He only wishes he had more time in the day to play. When choosing a sub/slave I look for qualities my partner would enjoy in a submissive.

I had one slave move in with us and it seemed promising. This slave didn't respect my partner at all. Even though I took control of the situation my partner was no longer comfortable with the slave so I had to let the slave go. My partner out ranks any submissive. Training my submissive to feel more familiar with my partner has become very important to me. This usually isn't very hard since most are willing to do whatever is needed to make me happy.

On the other end I speak to my partner about my subs training - sending email updates as to what has gone on in the week. I also explain any restrictions my sub may be on. I try to create a sensual connection between my partner and my sub. Having my sub do my partners laundry before a trip.

I share my sub/slave with my partner but I have full responsibility.  When we first started opening ourselves to having a submissive - we thought he would have an "assistant" that would travel with him. He has not had the time to find his own sub. The submissives I have found either do not fit his needs or can not travel with him.

Sometimes my partner feels a bit uncomfortable with a new submissive in the home only because we have had some unpredictable ones test my mettle. The one rule my partner gave me was no drama - any drama and the sub has to go. We use the "Roberts' Guide for Butlers and Household Staff by Robert Roberts" as our basic frame for the submissives duties and house hold behavior. This book has helped us create a protocol for the submissive to follow. Anything else is just kink.


5/22/2011 8:45:28 PM

I'm a little surprised how many people don't want community. Offering others support/education in our lifestyle is a way to learn and grow as a Dom-me or sub. Offering understanding where others wouldn't understand is so important. It helps getting over the rough patches.


5/21/2011 6:50:16 PM

1. If you are a good slave you would keep yourself in good working condition. You do not do your Owner any good if can not serve long term.

 

2. You are providing a service do it politely and with a smile. You have the right to politely turn the customer away. Service with a smile.

 

3. We are not all born or made super models but, do your best to be attractive for your Dominant or Owner. Brush your teeth, wash regularly, dress in a simple manner unless otherwise instructed.

 

4. You are not owned until you give yourself completely. You are a submissive with the goal to be a slave - free too belong to your Owner.

 

5. Being collared is a BIG DEAL. It's like getting married you are giving yourself over to (honor and obey) your Owner.

 

6. I only collar submissives/slaves that show love and devotion.


4/19/2011 10:05:48 AM

[09:20 AM]  XXOXOXX: yikes
[09:20 AM]  Severin4slave: a person is only as complex as the words they use IMHO - you can be "complex" and still make it clear what you enjoy
[09:20 AM]  Severin4slave: why yikes?
[09:21 AM]  XXOXOXX: what you just said
[09:21 AM]  XXOXOXX: he tries to be complex
[09:21 AM]  XXOXOXX: will be bipolar acting
[09:21 AM]  Severin4slave : yeah that's just bipolar  to me
[09:21 AM]  XXOXOXX: mhmm
[09:22 AM]  XXOXOXX: a hot mess
[09:23 AM]  XXOXOXX: I really like his name and that's about it
[09:23 AM]  Severin4slave: I turned him down then gave him another shot then he said that mess - I was like uhm ok don't send me another message
[09:24 AM]  XXOXOXX: makes good sense to me
[09:24 AM]  XXOXOXX: your dominance would constantly be challenged and measured
[09:24 AM]  XXOXOXX: too
[09:24 AM]  XXOXOXX: that's exhausting
[09:25 AM]  XXOXOXX: and you can't live up to it
[09:25 AM]  Severin4slave: yeah that kinda is what I find as a Domme :/
[09:26 AM]  XXOXOXX: you'd end up taking a shit first thing in the am he walks in and just because you aren't in your head space atm you aren't Domme enough
[09:28 AM]  XXOXOXX: in my opinion you can't be like that unless we're doing a pro Domme thing
[09:28 AM]  Severin4slave: I agree
[09:28 AM]  XXOXOXX: so I can't get paid for constantly performing
[09:28 AM]  XXOXOXX: and meet them somewhere so I can get in my zone on the way there
[09:29 AM]  XXOXOXX: cute
[09:29 AM]  XXOXOXX: feirce can be cute imo lol
[09:30 AM]  XXOXOXX: lifestyle can't be 24/7 Dommes are people too
[09:31 AM]  Severin4slave : yeah but many subs don't see that
[09:31 AM]  XXOXOXX: that sounded confusing to me...ok good you understood
[09:32 AM]  XXOXOXX: I could understand a young sub not getting that
[09:33 AM]  XXOXOXX: young people tend to feel like they are the only one allowed to be human
[09:34 AM]  XXOXOXX: perhaps a puppy or horse could
[09:34 AM]  XXOXOXX: since who they are is tough to be constantly
[09:34 AM]  Severin4slave: yeah - I find that odd - I was never that way though
[09:34 AM]  XXOXOXX: I wouldn't be
[09:35 AM]  XXOXOXX: first time I saw my mom cry I knew better and I was a toddler
[09:36 AM]  XXOXOXX: but that is just an extension of the whole yes I'm a sub now you must beat me like this and pet me like that so you live up to my fantasies
[09:38 AM]  Severin4slave: mmhmm
[09:40 AM]  XXOXOXX: it works fine....if you're meeting up somewhere and getting paid for it
[09:40 AM]  XXOXOXX: but doesn't provide room for enough love and companionship
[09:42 AM]  Severin4slave: I'm putting what you said on my Journal changing your name though


11/22/2009 2:41:11 PM
My favorite book for subs and slave is still Robert's Guide for Butlers and Household Staff ~ by ~ Robert Roberts.

I always wanted my own personal Butler.

11/22/2009 12:50:36 PM
Ok this really turns me off! If you send me a message and it is addressed to another Mistress or Master; I will not even count you as someone who exists. 

11/22/2009 12:04:30 PM

What turns me off when getting to know a new sub? Well I don't like reading profiles that say "I am new to all this" those words just spank me the wrong way. Also it's over used. I would much rather know they are willing to learn than how new they are to the lifestyle/culture of BDSM and/or D/s relationship. What I would find sexy are the words "Wanting to learn". Very truckling words to me, though I have seen many humble Doms and Dommes use it as a form of surrender to their own dominance.

 What else turns me off to new subs? There are so many things I'm not sure where else to start. Well their lack of wanting to read a book or even blog on how to better please a Dom/me. I'm also turned off by how much unsafe play I'm told about. Many new subs play with people unsafely, then they expect me to want them. I have no idea where your last Dom/me has been or if they have been tested for STD's or not. There is such a thing as safe Edge Play.


11/22/2009 11:51:29 AM
What do I mean by the word soul. Lets see... Passion, emotions, thoughts, intuition, sadness, remorse, motivation, tears, joy, anger, love, fear, shyness, growth, a smiles, a frown, a heart beat; I think that covers it for me and my ideas of what a soul is. I'm sure there is more but I'm already being redundant.

Do I believe in a soul-mate? No I do not believe in a soul-mate but I do believe in soul-mates. If we let ourselves we can be surrounded by many people that we feel are agreeable to our own ideas and feelings. I personally think everyone on this planet is my soul-mate testing me in many ways to be a better and yes sometimes worst person.



11/22/2009 11:24:11 AM
Personally I think my entry on admiration was rubbish. My thoughts behind it came from a sub telling me it was rude of me to adding him to my admiration list and not sending him a message first. I'm glad someone thought it was worth posting though and here is what they had to say.
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Hi Severin4slave,

Just wanted to say I enjoy your journal entries. In particular, I like what you wrote about admiration.

In relation to the "Admirers" list here on CollarMe, I'm amazed at the thickheadedness of people who complain about "unauthorized admirers". Trying to dictate to other people about whether they admire you or not is pretty damn silly.

But that's not the only issue with the Admirers list. A member of CM doesn't choose to be an Admirer; what they do is place a profile on their Favorites list. CM, in their vast wisdom, puts you on someone's Admirers list if you bookmark their profile by marking them as a Favorite. Well, you might be, or you might not be. It's the simplest way to bookmark a profile when you see something interesting in a photo, journal entry, message board post, whatever, and you think you might want to visit the profile later. "Admirer"? Not really.

Yet, some people rail on about people on their Admirers list without their permission. Unclear on the concept, I'd say.

(sub)

11/22/2009 12:49:41 AM
Dom: Some people just dont know how to take no thank you and just go away... Shame most on here are so childish . The fact that you were decent enough to at least return a no thank you shows you have respect. I applaud you for that :)
..............................................

I'm really shocked a Dom would be so thoughtful. Most that I chat with are not.

11/22/2009 12:16:09 AM
Sub:You sound absolutely lovely :-) I would love to chat with you.

Me: No thank you

Sub: My own fault for being nice. I some times forget that if you want any respect you have to treat you biatches like the cunt whores you are. lol

cya cunt :-)

10/7/2009 4:00:48 PM
Admiration can be a tremendous force. Though it can be fickle it holds the attention of the mind and/or heart. When we admire someone different or seemingly compatible do we need to speak up? Do we tell them how rude they are for not sending us a note quickly to their attraction?


A feeling of pleasure, wonder, and approval is being offered. Sometimes in secret as in Secret admirer. Other times we feel we are trying to find the words to our attraction/attention. Never sending a note, call or plea can be disconcerting for the one being admired.

There is no official admiration etiquette. There is no rule that calls us to act quickly to our attention, attraction too reply. As those seeking domination, submission or even just a friend to hold onto our BDSM - D/s culture brakes all the rules; it would seem. The blushing hello and the stern goodbyes do not pale in comparison to a check in a tiny box called "admire". I grant anyone passage and will to admire me and never speak a word. I'm more than glad to move your soul or lack of one while you spend your days and nights on this said earth.

10/22/2007 2:36:23 PM
I was let down again by a "slave" I put a lot of energy into. Are there any real slaves that want to be owned?

10/22/2007 10:11:07 AM
I get a lot of older slaves messaging me. I take it as a complement, though I wish I found more of them physically charismatic. My attraction to younger slaves is slightly maternal. While age play with an older slave can be entertaining I find it personally a little silly. I can do it for humor sake. If the older slave wants me to take him seriously I just have no attraction to it.

I'm highly communicative and do find older slave can appreciate that. Older slave also seem to be far more compliant and trust worthy. Pretty much every personality trait I seek in a younger slave older slaves have. What I find attractive physically attractive about older slaves is ruggedness, athletic  build, good health  and  wisdom.

I would do far better with an older attractive pagan slave than other I think. though I still love younger slaves and submissives.


10/22/2007 7:45:55 AM
Eleven years ago around the time I first moved to Philly Pa. I had a hard time meeting people. I didn't have computer so online dating wasn't an option at the time. I watched the sun set and rise wondering where to go. I had gone to the local clubs, but didn't make any connections. I decided to joined a phone dating service. I thought I would just use it for when I was really lonely. It was free for women and men had to pay. I placed an ad saying I was a writer and artist. After many bad dates I made a connection. His name was Mike.


Mike was a tall, blond, hung prep. He work at a computer company and lived with his parents. I was fairly new to Philadelphia and he grew up here. As he and I chatted on the phone a few times he opened up about wanting a girl to lead a date or relationship. He didn't know what to call it. I replied with you are seeking a D/s relationship or a female lead relationship. He then talked about wanting to lick shoes. I didn't need a billboard to tell me he was submissive. I was kinda happy about it, but my goal wasn't to have him be my sub. Being Tg I don't get many sincere opportunities to meet men for anything long term. 

I was so addicted to Mike's submission. I was in a tumultuous Top/bottom relationship with him for 3 years. I would go weeks to months of not seeing him. I tried to end our relationships, but at the time there was no better and he fit me like a new shoe. He and I would fight though I always won in the end. I wanted to take him deep into the BDSM rabbit hole but he lived with his parents and I just didn't feel I was with an adult at times. When I would call his parents house I felt foolish.

After three years he came out and told me he loved me but I had moved on. As much as I wanted him because he was my ideal sub/bottom he didn't encourage my want or need for him. He was aloof and fair weather more than I care to emphasis.

I have never felt I had to dominate every person I see. I feel I'm much more egalitarian than that and not much of a pushover. Though when I'm in a relationship with a submissive man I can be very over baring. I don't prey on anyone that isn't worthy of my talons.

I hardly ever get any messages on Collarme. Most men just want a fling. I don't cross that line unless I'm really needing touch.  Even then I would much rather have a submissive for a date than a vanilla guy.

10/21/2007 3:23:06 PM
I enjoy slaves and subs that keep a realistic/balanced view about life and slavery/submission. This doesn't mean a slave or sub couldn't live out their wildest dreams. I would say thats a matter of compatibility and flexibility with a Dominant.

Submissives/slaves that have goals; keeps them motivated and engaged. Examples of goals I like to see a slave have are. 1. finding what makes them feel most submissive when their eyes are closed. 2. finding what it means to proactive as a slave. 3. how can they best show their true intentions. 4. what turns them off to serving. 5. how best to show and feel surrender to the Top, Dom, Mistress, Owner.


While I'm in a long term D/s relationship I like to make it humorous not just fun. When playing with my slave I'm not looking for an obligatory session. I'm seeking an enlightened and humorous motivation. The body changes as time goes so reinventing the relationship while keeping in our roles is ideal. One size doesn't work for everyone.

I have issues with change. I would much rather find new ways to use a slave than give him up. I'm reminded of an ex-slave of mine who got a fever. One morning I woke up and he was in his dog bed sweating and crying with fever.

I use to be a nurse aid in a convalescent home and I know how to take care of those in general need. I have also been into holistic medicine all my life. My goal was to be a nurse, but my passion for writing and art won over.

I quickly made a list of his symptoms and pulled out my trusty elderberry syrup and honey. I made a mixture of cold water and 3 pinches of salt to give to my slave. He was reluctant, but I moved him to my bed. He wanted to fight me on the subject, but he was physically to weak and to submissive to say no. I took his temperature it was 106 degrees. I covered him up in my sheets and gave him the cold water with three pinches of salt to hydrate him. I waited ten minutes to see how he felt. I then gave him three spoons of elderberry syrup. I waited thirty minutes and then gave him three spoons of honey. I didn't want to give him pills until I knew he could take down general foods. I made him chicken soup from scratch which took me three hours to make. I sat in my bed room while I watched him sleep. I gave him allergy medication first with some soup. I find most that most of the time allergy meds really help stabilize a cold or fever. Two hours later I gave him extra garlic and soup. I brushed his teeth as to get rid of any bacteria. Then I gave him Advill I think. I can't remember. Like I said I'm more into holistic treatments and this was 12 years ago. He got really sick at night and I had to walk him to the bathroom. He mumbled that he felt guilty I was taking care of him. He was really quite most of the night. I moved one of my Tv's into the bedroom; stayed up and watched old movies as he slept. When he woke up the next morning his temp was at 99. He recovered well. About a week had gone by and he said he wanted to go back home. Me taking care of him was to uncomfortable for him to bare. I told him if I didn't I would be a bad owner. Hence my motto "a healthy slave is a slave for life" . I could have pushed for him to stay, but I just didn't have it in me at the time to force him to stay.

As irony would have it. Two years ago I had a slave from Kansas that didn't care when I got a fever. He took off with my house keys and had a day of it (smoking) as I nursed myself back to health. Thats same day when he got back he was upset for what reason I can't remember. I blocked it out I think. He said he wanted to go back home and I made sure he did that same day.


I like my slaves to have a realistic goal or goals. Goals that can be easily attained and some not so easy. I like to know my slave is challenged but at the same time learning about who he really is. I can't say how often I meet "slaves" that want to be owned but really they are just subs or bottoms looking for something they can't explain.




10/21/2007 10:28:10 AM
Whats wrong with this chat?


Sub (10/21/07 12:40 PM )I think we talked a long time ago on here... i remember your pics. We also chatted on yahoo. I'm still seeking 24/7 servitute and will relocate for right Domme.

Severin (10/21/07 1:08 PM ) Do you have a face pic?

Sub  (10/21/07 1:10 PM)  i'll show on cam, don't want my pic out there, sorry

Severin (10/21/07 1:10 PM) fair enough

Sub (10/21/2007 1:16:48 PM): i'm pretty sure, your pic is very familiar but the names are not.

Severin (10/21/2007 1:17:02 PM): well lets see your face

Severin (10/21/2007 1:18:01 PM): it stopped (cam*)

Sub (10/21/2007 1:18:21 PM): do i look familiar?

Severin (10/21/2007 1:18:42 PM): I'm trying to think

Sub (10/21/2007 1:18:51 PM): it was years ago

Severin (10/21/2007 1:19:10 PM): how old are you?

Sub (10/21/2007 1:19:13 PM): 26

Severin (10/21/2007 1:19:28 PM): what kinks did you have then?

Sub (10/21/2007 1:19:52 PM): love assplay, strap ons, being tied, anything really... i want 24/7 eventually

Sub (10/21/2007 1:19:57 PM): do you have mic or cam?

Severin (10/21/2007 1:20:23 PM): I don't remember you at all and I find that odd since I never forget a face

Severin (10/21/2007 1:20:31 PM): you must have changed in some way

Sub (10/21/2007 1:20:50 PM): i dunno, nevermind then

Sub (10/21/2007 1:20:59 PM): guess you're not interested

Severin (10/21/2007 1:21:19 PM): take your drama some place else

10/20/2007 8:20:35 PM
I'm seeking a slave that is sarcastic. One that is incompatible with me. You seek to top from the bottom and tell me how imperfect I am. Nothing turns me on more than a stranger dumping their baggage in my mail box for me to read. Yes, please, harder, faster, complain some more.  Your not wasting your time, just energy and wit.

10/20/2007 7:47:50 PM
Why do slaves keep asking me what I'm looking for when my profile is right there!

I can say I'm flexible with my needs and how I train depending on the slave and/or sub, pet I attract. Your personality truly determines what will and wont happen for you and to you. I care greatly for my slaves health. A healthy slave is a slave for life is my motto. Don't be a prat, read my profile and get to know your potential Owner/friend; by letting me get to know you and your needs not wants. Everything else will find it's ocean with trust and honesty as the rivers.

Your weaknesses will ultimately be your strength in your goals as a slave or pet. Thats what I really want and that what you will be.

10/19/2007 8:47:21 PM
I also like ball stretching or simply low hangers. Sometimes it seems because I'm tg that I will never find a slave I can truly enjoy and not just settle for. I have an ideal slave pictured in my head and then I have one that I can generally be happy with. I read a lot of profiles that say no chastity and many that say NSA. It makes it very hard to actually practice ones skills and dig deep to the emotional depths of a Mistress/sub-slave relationship.

10/19/2007 2:08:41 AM
Handsome means he looks at himself in a mirror all day. Rugged means you look at him.

10/19/2007 12:36:59 AM
Not such a good reply to my post; can you tell why?: 

i truly want You to know i feel i can be that slave/sub You are seeking... i can take pain or anything You so wish... i have much online experience, some phone, and one real time session.  i think i am compatible with Your interests because i have had most if not all of those activities done to me or on me.  my interests include forced masturbation, orgasm control, spankings, canings, whippings, humiliation, some pain, ass play, so on... i have very few limits except for those that cause long term harm... i will not disappoint please

10/19/2007 12:19:27 AM
Such a nice reply to my post: 


Greetings to you!

i just dropped by to tell you how i admire your profile(s). You seem like the perfect mixture of strict Domme and kindness. You do have kind eyes you know and i mean that as a compliment.

I know i am out of your age range and i am not writing to try to convince you to take me on but it is hard to pass by your profiles when i see them because it does seem from your profile that we would be a really good match.

Oh and lactation totally sends me over the edge :)

i am always amazed though that you have not found your special one because your profiles are always so down to earth and you are so straight up with everyone about things you know? So i am puzzled that you do not have a slave of your dreams and living happily ever after...

If you enjoy talking it would be wonderful having you as a friend if you are not already overloaded with them :) Most people i think get so much mail that they find it difficult to be friends because there are just to many so i understand if that nix.

Anyway I am not shy in the lifestyle or meeting but i was a bit shy of writing to you because i do not fit your age bracket nor can i pack up and move promptly if you did want me so i did not want to do anything that you would feel is unwanted, so i hope you do not mind my just being friendly and saying hi to you and admiring you from afar  :)

gene


10/17/2007 8:26:07 PM
My birthday is Coming up:


Personality Traits of a Scorpio
Scorpio is the eighth sign of the zodiac and represented by the scorpion. Scorpios are truly the contradicting sign. They can be the best and worst of both worlds - independent and clingy, loving and cold, authoritative and weak. Above all else, they are intense about almost everything.

Scorpios are often mysterious people because their true feelings run so deep and they keep their emotions hidden. They also like to uncover things under the surface of others and are very intuitive. Their intense desire to uncover things combined with their determination and loyalty make them great spiritual leaders, scientist, and doctors. They are very adaptable, often changing careers and going down new paths.

They can be strong willed and determined, almost to the point of being stubborn. This makes them great competitors, even if they are able to hide this desire to win from you. This also makes Scorpios very dominant, controlling and passionate. When they do not have a positive outlet for self-expression, they often turn inwards and become destructive.

When wronged, they do not easily forgive. It is almost as if the Scorpio sign invented the word "revenge." However, they just as easily never forget an act of kindness and are always ready to repay it. Scorpios are very loyal friends, but can be possessive. Scorpios are also conservative when it comes to money but when they do spend it; they know the right investments to make.


Brilliant Minds

 

Scorpios have a native understanding of humans and often show psychic tendencies. They are often interested in the mind and its potential powers. Scorpio is the sign of many of life's mysteries: birth, sex, death, and regeneration. They are willing to explore things others are afraid to look into such as different religions and the occult.

 

Intense

Scorpios are often a force to be reckoned with. They are passionate, committed and in the same turn, if you are an enemy, they can be just as intensely ruthless. Scorpios are so intense, there are few challenges they are not willing to meet. They will use any information at hand to beat competitors and do not hesitate to move in for the kill.

 

Weaknesses

Because of their intensity, Scorpios can be jealous, possessive, and controlling. When mistreated, they will make it their objective to get revenge, even if it takes years. They like to keep their true emotions hidden from others, which causes people to perceive them as cold and uncaring.

 


 


Scorpios can be your best friend or worst enemy. They are loving and passionate, even if they seem cold on the surface. They are often driven by their intensity and are determined to do whatever they set their mind to
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10/17/2007 4:29:14 AM
Kind or cruel?

Does it matter how kind or cruel an Owner is as a person? Can an Owner be a romantic and a dreamer... making wishes for two?

Is anger dominance? Have you ever seen anyone dominate another with kindness?

The standard is a form of firmness not anger. The energy of an Owner can be kind or cruel. As long as the Owner is able to shake you from with in you may just have a good match. Some are controlled by the love they have for the Owner. Others are controlled by the fading minutes of the beauty they see.


Some say only  a woman can control them others a man or someone in between. Kindness or cruelty isn't the question, but rather what pushes your buttons. Not all slaves need their buttons pushed. Some do without anything other than an Owners voice of reason guiding them.



10/10/2007 10:22:30 AM
A gay unowned slave I know is madly in love with a straight Master. Strange enough I'm madly in love with the slave. the slave has no attraction to breast, androgyny, femininity or the like. I cut my loses and moved on.

On the other hand when the straight Master come to any social even the slave is always shadowing him. It's very sad to watch. The Master has three female slaves. He keeps on behind him and the other two on his left or right side. It's very erotic to watch because the Master expresses so much powerful sexuality.

He likes his slave girls with meat on their bones. If you give yourself to him expect to be plumped up. If he thinks you are to large he will trim you down. He likes his girls with a 30 to 45 inch waist. That being said he has no attraction so male slaves though he has thought about taking a trans slave.


I asked the gay slave if he would trans-form if it meant being owned by the master. The slave said yes with out a doubt anything to be owned by the Master. Well I'm not sure what to took place, but now after 6 month the male slave is owned by the Master. I asked the Master if he was going to trans-form his male slave and he said no. He is using the slave for money, cuckold and servitude.


I didn't see that coming! No disrespect, but I do think the Master will turn bi for the slave though.





10/9/2007 12:56:20 PM
Why do I love gay Leather men and dogboys.


look up "mister european leather 2007" on youtube.

10/9/2007 8:28:24 AM
I get lied to so often on this site it's almost feels like a new kink. I'll stay on Collarme but I'm not looking for slaves or subs anymore.

10/8/2007 10:37:52 PM
I love this reply to my post:



Hello Maam and Sir, this one is a 35 year old Australian male slave that is living in the US, and easily able to relocate within the US. Have been a slave for 15 years, having been owned by both Single Female Dominants and Married Couples. The boi has been trained to be a domestic servant, and has exceptional housekeeping skills, cooking, cleaning and indoor and outdoor maintenance expertise. Is able to cook most meat, seafood and salad dishes, and also done courses in Asian, Japanese, Italian and Mediterranean cuisines. Is also trained as a pain slave, and has a high pain tolerance. The boi is a masochist, hence desiring One that is Sadistic and will take total control over the slave -- seeking TPE and complete enslavement. Believes slaves are property. They exist solely for service to their Owners. A good slave knows the basic protocol, is always respectful and completely obedient, knows hierarchy and his place beneath his Owner. The boi is one that completely submits, adhering to his Superior’s every whim and desire without hesitation and with complete surrender – and does not hesitate in any way. As a slave, the boy is kept in complete chaste, and is at the total use of his Owner as She desires, if at all. Has been kept in long term chastity. Has been trained in most aspects of pampering and care, including massage, nail care (manicures and pedicures) and oral servitude. Is currently employed in the finance industry, and is able to continue working to provide to You financially. Photo attached below for Your inspection.  

The slave has a Yahoo IM profile of australianjustin, and a MSN profile of australianjustin@hotmail.com if You prefer to chat there Maam and Sir, and also has voice chat in Yahoo and MSN if You would like to hear the boi’s voice.



Update:
australianjustin (10/9/2007 10:14:23 AM): I wanted to be honest with you and let you know that I am not a slave or a sub in real life. This was just online role play for me, and not real to me. Nothing I told you was true, nor are the photos. I am sorry. In real life I am a vanilla guy that plans to get married and have children in a totally vanilla, loving and equal relationship – not one built on bdsm.


australianjustin (10/9/2007 10:14:26 AM): So, I don’t want to pursue a lifestyle like this at all. It’s just the kinky sex aspect that I like, as it spices up sometimes boring sex … it’s the kinky play aspects of sensual sexual acts and fetish that makes it fun, however I am not into bdsm and slavery at all. I was just in a playful and horny mood the last few days, and so went online to play and that’s why I sent you messages through collarme.



australianjustin (10/9/2007 10:14:30 AM): I am sorry that I mislead you, and wanted to be honest with you now and not continue misleading you. I wont do this again, I will not mislead you or others who are serious about the lifestyle – and so will delete the collarme and IM profiles after sending this message (so please don’t waste your time replying as the profile will be deleted).


australianjustin (10/9/2007 10:14:38 AM): Please forgive me, and understand that no harm was intended. All the best with what you’re searching for in life, stay safe and have fun. Bye.



































10/8/2007 10:27:37 PM
I'm rewriting a book I published a while ago and submitting it to a publisher I really admire. I'll be drawing new pages since the style of my art has changed. I still didn't get my new art table, but I'm sure with in a month. I had to let go of a slave I wanted do to our schedules. Things would be a lot smoother if I had a slave to shave. Okay that was a random bad joke.  Anyway Things would be a lot smoother if I had a slave to train to de-stress me and "help" around the apt. while I also look for a house and work. I work from home so a slave would be ideal for so many reason right now.

10/4/2007 7:45:18 PM
There are way to many straight slaves I have vanilla things in common with. Being a tg Mistress doesn't work in my favor. There are hardly any slaves that truely want a D/s relationships. I guess it's only fair. There are some types I reject because of BDSM goals, distance or just bad timing.


Oh well; looks like I'll just have to sit here and journal some more.

I think most of the problem is that not many people know what to make of Gender Variant Doms and slaves. I even have to admite some make me feel ashamed.

I found a new publisher that I want to work with. Selfpublishing while wonderful is very taxing. If I had a slave I could depend on it would be a lot more "fun".

10/4/2007 3:07:28 PM
A slave offered to buy my art table and anything else I would need. Well I don't take candy from strangers and I don't take tribute if I don't already own you.

Any time a slave offers me money or gifts it creeps me out. One reason is because so many slaves/subs have been very selfish, brash and the like. I flat out don't trust slaves at all. It takes a lot of begging and honesty from a slave for me to really find them worthy of being owned by me.

I have take slaves that wanted to be owned only for them to use me for my money and a free ride. I had to control my love of slaves so I wouldn't get f*ck*d over again. I should say the slave was more of a play partner leading to actual Ownership. The reason I love being in the life is the fact that it's made clear "play only with those you trust".  I assume a slave is really a switch until I feel other wise.

I wouldn't want to take a "gift" from a slave I didn't really like. I just think it would make me a better Owner/Mistress.
I don't just take any slave. I'm picky, demanding and I like things my way our way or "no way" at all.

10/4/2007 12:34:55 PM
from a German pet.

Pet: Oh ok thank You, i assume it come from Stück - piece/stick

S4s: I think it is! You are such a sexy pet.

Pet: Thank You very much and You are a true Goddess!!!

S4s: Now what makes me a true Goddess?

Pet: Well, it's Your character. To sum it up, Your thoughts and views on slavery and ownership, taking this subject serious and that makes You very responsible Owner. I really wish You to find the true slave You so deserve, someone who  cherishes and honours You every single day of his life in Your service!

_________________________

The slave really is sexy!




10/4/2007 11:49:40 AM
About my journal: Sometimes I'll have  deep things to say to help slaves and few Doms out. Other times I'll talk out of my ass just to end my writers block. Thats all you may go now.

10/4/2007 10:48:09 AM
I have a non sexual crush on a Mistress/Switch and a young male Dom. I just really love her style and he isn't bad to look at either. I love the fact they know who they are and what they want. No I'm not subbing. I just really love seeing a Mistress that has it "going on" in all the right ways. We seem to have the same taste in slave bois.

When it comes to changing my look or my slaves look I sketch it out. Get my ideas and work my way there. Sometimes I have to make the things I want. I have dark thick black horned glasses. I'm more into extreme fantasy or 1950's to early mid 60's/70's when it comes to the esthetics's in most of my BDSM. I like to mix not just what I do, but the visual style of what I do.

10/4/2007 10:12:24 AM
I'm more so into rubber, spandex, and vinyl than leather. I have a few leather bags and I have a leather dog hood/mask. I think I have leather boots. Anyway I saw this leather corset that I really love. It looks so freaking evil. I would much rather find a new corset that was rubber or vinyl, yet very strong.


I got a few submissives in the past to dress up like super-hero's just for my kink. I think I read to many comic books and graphic novels. dominating someone or something that seems bigger stronger that me turns me on to no end.

Back to the rubber vs. leather thing. I much rather use biodegradable tools in my BDSM. I once saw a wood corset! I don't think anyone could wear it though. Ideally for myself I would love to be mostly nude covered in jewels. Really I just like to sparkle. Sometime down the road I want to find a strong white corset and cover it with my art work.

I'm so in love with the artists Glenn Barr, Erin Norlin, Tara McPherson and would love them to do corset art work.

10/4/2007 8:49:30 AM
I'm about to by a new art table that I can not afford. It's about $1,000.00. I need it though. It's a light box art desk to help be do my pages faster. I'm going to sell my old table for about $150, but wont go less than $100. It's times like these I wish I had a rich slave or at the very least a hardworking slave that would suffer for my art. Better yet my own success will make it easier. I'm not poor, but things could be better.

My need for a slave is very much wanted on many levels. I sure my new art table will help me work faster. Comic book art of any kind is hard ass work. You are telling a story much like a film/movie. House hunting has put a toll on me. I was going to get my art table after I found a house, but I really can't wait that long. Don't become an artist unless you really love the work itself.



I'm going to miss my old art table. It was my very first one. Change is good though.

10/4/2007 8:30:52 AM
What are the Odds of finding twin male slaves seeking to be owned together. I can't even start to think of the numbers. Two very cute slaves are now owned by a Mistress ("Cherry") friend of mine. She jumped at the chance. She met them at a fetish party at someones house in NJ. She told me their first meeting was very vanilla. They chatted for about 10 mins and started meeting other people at the party. She told me everyone was shocked to see twins. When they were asked about themselves they said they only wanted to be taken together. One Master said why were you two not born girls.

 Mistress "Cherry" is a plus size Mistress who has been seeking a slave for about 5 years. She wanted to give up because she feels the lifestyle has to many wanabies. At the end of the night she gave the twins her number. She didn't think they would call her. The very next day at about 12 noon they spoke on the phone for hours.

Lucky for her it was Saturday. On Sunday they met up. By Tuesdays evening she collared them. One has a thiner collar than the other so she can tell them apart. I would love to have twins or at the very least two or three unrelated slaves that would want to look like twins. I would dress them the same and give them different sized locks.

Well envy is setting in so I'll stop here.

10/4/2007 1:48:36 AM
The boring side of me: I write write and write and draw, sketch, paint, complain and try to profect my craft as best as I can. I have published a book or two and looking back I love them, but I feel I can always do better.

I use to draw comic books and now working on my own books. I try not to be a one trick pony so I write and draw many things. I'm mostly into fetish fantasy writing but I'll write pretty much anything. I'm a sucker for a good romance as long as it's well hung. That was a joke... kinda.


I try to be true to myself so I don't find myself in places or relationships I don't want to be in. I don't bring up my husband to much because he's not really a "lifestyler" he just likes the fruites of my labor. I have a collar with two rings so my husband and I can both hold on to my/our slave at the same time.

Ideally my slave would befriend my husband but be my property. Though I would never object to my slave wanting both of us as "it's" Owners.

I sometimes imagen my slave (on collar and leash) playing chess or watching Tv with my husband as I read a book holding the leash tugging once in a while.

I like using Spanish and German comands when training my slave. By the way English is my second or third language. Meeting so many "fake" slaves and people I just don't match up with in ideas/temproment pushes me to not wanting to be in this "lifestyle" though after so many years it's an addiction.


I was asked if I have ever subed. Yes, you know life can be hard and youu meet people that put you in a place where no means yes to them. When I was training to be an Owner I subed for a gay male Dom. I was clearly not sub. Not all Owners/Mistress ever sub, but I felt I needed to get an idea what a slave would go through. This is why i have so much respect for them. I know deep in my heart that I am not a sub/slave. As close as I can get to that is being egalitarian. It's either a fair relationships or I'm on top. unless I know that I'm not the best leader for the situation.

These days I make my bed, try and get my work-out, work, journal in Collarme, wait for my husband to get home and wait to see if today is the day I find an ideal slave or slaves.


I do go out, but I much rather be out with my husband or "pet-human" or both. I chat with some Dom/me friends and cry about my ideals and needs no being met. Once in a while I'll take on a sub, but subs/newbies don't last very long. I find it pointless for me to talk to them, but sometimes I do. I like to read the complaints from slaves and sub. It cracks me up how many feel insulting a Dom/Master is going to bring them closer to their goals. You never know though anything can happen when you insult people. Like subs/slaves I know a few Doms that love a challange.


Sometimes I'll polish my leather dog/mask or play with my other masks and hoods. I look after my chrome chastity device wishing some damn slave would fit it like a story book princess.

I read a lot sometimes when I'm done a book I'll read it again to see if I missed anything. I'm very superstious. I think it's bad luck to have a slave walk in my high heels. I also think it's bad luck to take slaves that live with their parents. I use to think it was bad luck to have sex with a slave, but that really depends on the type of slave more than it does luck. If a slave wants to bring you joy in and out of the bed room I think its all good. If a slave see's sex as a bother it's best not to do it.

I also think it's bad luck to take a slave that labels "it's" self. Like slut or bitch. It's one thing if you are a type of slave like a cuckold, domestic, maid, garden slave, house boy, etc., but if you call yourself a whore you are already domming yourself there for not needing me. I think thats more practical than superstious.

I light candels and pray to the moon and dance naked to my own religon. Other than that I'm pretty boring.


Always remember; Pain is the cleanser! Pain is the cleanser! Good night/morning.

S4s



10/3/2007 10:14:12 PM
So a Master friend of mine (Sir Web) is a bisexual Master that get (h*rd) turned on by forced haircuts. I really tried to understand his fetish. He just loves removing hair on anyone. He even said lovingly that I would look hot balls in a leather fixer-uper. I have no clue what he meant and I didn't want to know at the time. I don't think I would look very good bald. When I was in my 20's my hair was pink, red, blue, orange and bald. Now I'm into wigs more though I don't really want to buy them.

Anyway yeah so Sir Web loves shaving anyone. I asked him so why didn't you become a barber. He said he didn't want to c*m on a paying strangers shoulder in public. He likes to watch hair dressing shows of any kind. Now he's really into black female hair care. He wants to go to a hair show. I think he just sees it as a challng for shaving, but he says they put so much work into it he just worships them. I asked "so you are you submissive to black women?" Only if they put lots of work into their hair.


I don't get it, but to each their own.

10/3/2007 8:21:51 PM
Cages come in many sizes. I liek my slave to have a nices tight fit with his cage. If I have a slave that is 5/5 having a large cage would be pointless unless I also have a slave that is 6/4. There is a chance though small one that I will choose to have more than one slave right now. Does that answer your question?

10/3/2007 7:58:26 PM
I never thought it was a good sign when a slave says how attractive he is. It always makes me feel that he will end up trying to "Top" me. Not that I would let him just don't what that kinda drama.


A slave is a lot of thing but worthless isn't one of them. I don't like owning worthless things. Though I have known many useless slaves. A slave vocabulary extends itself in action. You are a pig, a personal slut, dirt, filth, c*ck slut, ass sniffer, shoe/boot whore, perv, property, cheese muncher, but not worthless.


Sorry slave-tim you are not worthless, but you are something.

10/3/2007 7:04:24 PM
I have a tenacious need to own the things I love. Owning them (or it) is just a third of my problem. My creative nature demands controlling the things I love. Making it better, faster, stronger more efficient. I'd like to think I have a fairly good head on my shoulders. I love being right, but have no problem saying when I'm wrong. When I say I love slaves I mean I love that they exist. I love that fact they are the yin to my yang.

I confess I'm a dreamer, idealist, but full time proactivest. I create things and try to give birth to them one way or another. I guess it's a little bit of womb envy. I see my ideal slave as my child, my pet, my property and more. I love to own the things I love.

I'm unique different I make this "lifestyle" my own. Just like I make a male slave my own.

10/3/2007 3:49:42 PM
If you are a slave I know what I want to do with you, but do you know what to do with me???

If you are new to the lifestyle there is so much info out there. Books, internet and even profiles of others slaves/subs can teach you a thing or two. It would make youu less "green" about being a newbie. This "lifetsyle" is a culture. Cultures have rules, learn some and make this "lifestyle" your own.

10/3/2007 2:46:40 PM
I was asked what sounding is. First ley me just say I love giving cbt a lot. More so I love giving cbt to large (8+ inches) penises cbt. It's a fetish that I really can't live without in an Owner/slave relationship. My ideal would to have a slave with 9 or more inches. Putting my slave in chastity, giving cbt, despunking, blue balling, sounding, hot wax/ice, and so much more.


Sounding or urethral sounding is a medical tool using rods called sounds to widen the inner diameter of the urethra and to find obstructions in it. This give a very erotic and intense reaction. Though some do find it painful; you could cum from sounding. It's much fun.

The metal rods come in different sizes. You start small and work up to a the larger sizes.


I learned how to sound from a gay Master who use to be a sub. He use to be a male nurse. While learning from him he told me sound isn't for every slave.

I gave my sounding set away, but hope to gte a new one from this site below.

Here is more info on it.

"Penis Sounds

"Sounding" is not for everyone, but for those guys who like urethra play, we have the tools for you!

Sounds are medical instruments designed for insertion into the urethra, the tube connecting the bladder with the outside world. Basically, they are highly polished stainless steel rods with a handle and a rounded tip, and they come in sizes which are very close to each other (differing in
diameter by less than half a millimeter). In a medical setting, their purpose is to gradually and gently enlarge the urethra. In the BDSM medical fetish setting they can be a source of exceptional sexual stimulation and an instrument used in 'power exchange' or submission/domination experiences."


http://www.body-language.com/cat52_1.htm







10/2/2007 11:43:30 PM
I had (still do) the biggest crush on Blondie / Debbie Harry . I found some old pics of me doing my worst Debbie empersonation. These pics are about 9 years old.

I use to be so punk and goth it's not funny. People use to call me Eartha Kit. I really didn't like that at the time. Not sure why. Oddly enough I love Catwoman, but I wanted to choose my own identity.

Sleep now.


p.s.

If only I had a slave that was a contractor or better.

10/2/2007 9:43:55 PM
If you havn't seen it look up the video/song Automatic  by 

Ultra Nate.



The music may not be what you are into, but the video... well I like it anyway. Check it out. I first saw it on u Tube then I looked it up on myspace.

The Video is sexy, weird and fetish. After watching it I started to understand cyber BDSM/Fetish. I see it as kink and not as a true Mistress and slave relationship. If I were to do it I would have to be bored with a lot of time on my hands. Maybe be one of those pay-to-watch cam Mistress. I'm told though that the guys can get really creep and criminally nasty.

I like it in the flesh so much better anyway.

10/2/2007 9:02:32 PM
My friends Mistress Fox; one of the funniest Owners I know has a very awesome slave. I'm not into "straight" slaves I just have no hmmmm... attraction? I guess I just don't trust them because so many let me down.

Anyway she got this straight slave at the start of summer. He's a cuckold she "turned" gay. Now when I say turned I mean he doesn't like it. He started out a homophob. He now sucks wang like his life depended on it. He really is devoted to her and does anything to make her happy.

Well this past week she told he he needs to earn his keep. She told him to get a job. Well he was thinking something in construction or CVS. Noooooo  she said. You are going to be a gay go go dancer and stripper at gay bars and clubs. Mistress Fox knows many gay men thus getting him a "job" as a "dancer".

He earned $1000 in one night. Gay men tip high if you are cute enough. I'm told he will be wearing a chastity device his next time out. With the money Mistress Fox is getting a personal Gym put in. I love forced exercise humiliation and offered to help train him.


If I could find the right straight slave to "turn" gay I think I would do it. I just have to get over my repulsion.



By the way bouse hunting has burned me out some. If I don't reply it not that I think less of you, but I wouldn't rule it out.

10/1/2007 7:22:43 AM
sp*rklie_l*xi (10/1/2007 4:53:47 AM): looking for a cruel online Mistress to use me sexualy


I just don't understand online D/s



10/1/2007 12:30:04 AM
I'll be updating my pics between mid. Oct. early Nov. Thanks fo the pictures of the cage Mistress Faye. I love it and whats in it.

9/30/2007 6:15:47 PM
I was thinking about how to say this. Nothing clear came to me so I'll just come right out with it. A good crop of slaves have come to me and just wanted to talk. They didn't know each other yet the stories where all the same. Their Mistresses or Masters abused them to the point of fearing ever being owned again.

They told me how they told me how they want to please their Owners yet nothing ever seemed to be good enough. Some had said they can't seem to find an Owners that will give then training, discipline and a safe place to serve.

Many have said they were tricked and had to run away or stop meeting with their Dom/mes. How does one fix this issue when the slave doesn't even want to try again?

I told a few that most slaves I have known wanted to fear their Owners. Some had said they already feared their Owners. Others had pretty much said they wanted to fear their Owners not for their lives.
One female slave said to me her last Master hurt her so bad now that she seeks a new one she gets cold feet.

Well this answers one more reason why I don't seem to be able to find a slave. I told her I have the same problem. Many slaves have let me down one way or another. Dumping me for another Mistress or Master. Some were all talk no action and other just plain crazy.

What to do what to do. Should I say this again? Safe sane and consensual.

9/30/2007 6:01:05 PM
I was thinking about how to say this. Nothing clear came to me so I'll just come right out with it. A good crop of slaves have come to me and just wanted to talk. They didn't know each other yet the stories where all the same.

Thier Mistresses or Masters abused them to the point of fearing ever being owned again. They told me how they told me how they want to please their Owners yet nothing ever seemed to be good enough. Some had said they can't seem to find an Owners that will give then training, discipline and a safe place to serve. I told a few that most slaves I have known wanted to fear their Owners. Some had said they already feared their Owners. Others had pretty much said they wanted to fear their Owners not for their lives.

One female slave said to me her last Master hurt her so bad now that she seeks a new one she gets cold feet.

9/30/2007 5:07:06 PM
How do I dress? Okay here it goes. I keep it fresh and creative. I keep it casual so my sub/slave get the idea that even in vanilla environments he is to focus on me. I use to dress like Sally Bowels from the film/musical Cabaret, but with longer hair or a short wig.

I'm thinking of going back to that since I love a good Cabaret and wouldn't mind having that more often. My dungeon/room would look something like the Kit Kat night club. When I finally find a slave that really fits with me I'll push my aesthetic back to cabaret. Why until then? Because after so many years of looking for a slave I'm vacillating about getting out of the life.

9/30/2007 2:47:05 PM
What separates us in this "lifestyle" from common criminals is our integrity to be safe, sane and consensual with one another. No matter how tall or short, or how black, brown, tan, white, or pink an Owner, Mistress, Master, switch, submissive, pet or slave is, W/we respect each other in our "chosen/called" path in BDSM/fetish/D/s life.

What separates us from the common abuser is the consensual, harsh, yet often loving nature of our relationships. We take advantage of each other consensually, without the "charm" of being imprisoned like the "frustrated or insane" law-breakers.

There are those in this lifestyle that would wish to tamper with the rules and cause great harm. W/we must rise above those individuals to protect our slaves and ourselves from those who may call themselves Master or slave but clearly are criminal in mind and in action.

I can't emphasize enough how many people have been harmed by non-consensual play/relationships. A healthy slave is a slave for life and a healthy Master/Mistress is one that won't abuse their property, pet or others.

A six foot tall slave consensually surrenders to a five foot Owner, not to be abused, but to be given discipline and direction and to give service to the Owner. It can be fun to be cruel from time to time, but that doesn't mean you have to cross the line of becoming a criminal. There are rules to these kinds of things. With rules come consequences.

I have seen slaves also go insane and try to do harm to Owners. One slave always talked to me about killing and death. Choose your pet/s and Owner/s wisely. Safe, sane and consensual.


9/30/2007 1:41:11 PM
nylon_stocking_inspector333 (9/30/2007 4:00:12 PM) im older rich and hung can i be your slave

Severin4slave (9/30/2007 4:02:29 PM): no thank you

nylon_stocking_inspector333 (9/30/2007 4:03:05 PM): u r a worthless whore

nylon_stocking_inspector333 (9/30/2007 4:03:12 PM): :D

Severin4slave (9/30/2007 4:03:14 PM): sure right I see

nylon_stocking_inspector333 (9/30/2007 4:03:22 PM): and probably ugly

Severin4slave(9/30/2007 4:03:29 PM): yeah maybe

nylon_stocking_inspector333 (9/30/2007 4:12:34 PM): what r u wearing, cock whore?





Some men are so bright.

9/30/2007 11:31:19 AM
I really enjoy controlling what pleasures my slave/pet recieves. Since my work comes first I love putting my pet on a flexible yet strict routine. Many slaves ask me what I will do to them. I can't say what I'll do to you, unless I know what training and/or skills you have.

If you are not tamed, trained and truckling I'll have to start with you from the very begining. Stripping you of your old wild self. I'm not looking for a slave that may stab me in the back. If you are new to this you will need some very basic skills.


If you are not new you will still need to be tamed and trained to my needs.  Though I would expect you know D/s protocal











9/29/2007 10:00:23 PM
ok little ones I was asked "how do you train your human dogs?" well hmmm read this.

1. human dog becomes a live in pet. showing up at my door, you place your things to the side. you hug your Mistress/Owner and kiss the shoes/feet of any guest. a collar is placed around your neck. I show you the rooms of the house. you strip, use the bathroom, take a shower, dry off, get dressed in shorts and knee pads. I bind your hands and put you in a cage. you get a water bowl and food bowl for the night. you sleep.

2.morning comes and you start training by pissing and craping in a bucket. I unbind your hands. you strip, you take shower. do house work. when house work is done. you get leather dog-hood/mask on. it looks like the Eygptian god Anubis.


3.I walk you around my house. play fetch, rub your belly feed you, have you sit at my feet as I read. I then retrain your behavior to obey me.

4.I take pictures of you in full dog gear. I put you in cage you take a nape for a hour or two. more pictures as you sleep.


5.I wake you and feed you. then you piss and crap in a bucket. you sniff your crap when done. strip and you take shower. rest of the night you have no dog gear on, but you do sleep in a dog bed after some more play time. we start all over again, but with more treats, training and more play (off and on) if I'm in the mood.

6. some slave (not dog) training to round out your talents/skills for home and public.

7. more dog training to find what dog skill you do best and worst.

This is just an outline to give you an idea of whats to come. Something may change depending on time of day and season.

9/29/2007 6:58:09 AM
I was dreaming I was living in Egypt. I was dressed in blue, white and gold. I was telling fortunes to slave girls. I had a jackel as a pet but somehow I knew he had the soul of a loyal man, or he would turn into a man when I wasn't looking.


I threw a handful of crystals in a sun-filled pool and a rainbow took to the sky. I stepped onto the rainbow and in no time I was in Asgard. Some how I had a fight with Thor. I put my jackels' collar on him and he became my pet and he came back with me to Egypt.


He would make it rain and thunder for my pleasure. He would kneel as I told the fortunes on his broad back of those in the palace and other countries. Somehow he and I made love or maybe he was just worshiping me? Thats all I remember.

9/28/2007 10:25:41 AM
I just got a message saying I don't seem hardcore. Well actually I am. I'm satiated by both soft/colorful and sensual as well as hard/dark and sexual.

I can be very girlly but, with a cruel streak. This turns off a lot of my gay applicants. I learned my skills from Mistresses and gay male Masters and slaves.

I love being treated like a lady and at times I like to put on girlly white or colored sox but, I may dress up all in black looking to micromanage you. I guess it comes across kinda hot and cold but, thats only because I like to be creative with myself and a slave. Routine has it's place like when I want chores to be done but, when it comes to creating myself I like to have fun with it. I don't want to look back at myself and say "what if".

Any slave of mine should expect respect when we start. As time passes I like to challenge my slaves skills and worth. I happen to enjoy fisting and safe anal play of all kind. If I'm happy my slave is happy.

Mind you not all slaves are the same. Not all slaves get treated the same. Not all slaves have the same skill or attention level. Some slaves are selfish even if they are loyal. Some slaves will test you and push you. That being said I need my down time. Time were I can feel truly relaxed in my creativity.

While I love hardcore slaves I try not to take myself to seriously. I don't get many compatible "real" slave knocking on my door. I use to get very stressed out from uncompatibale slaves now I just keep myself busy with work that I love.












9/28/2007 9:55:21 AM
Oh goodness stuttering turns me on. A slave wanted to talk to me on the phone and he stuttered so much it turned me on to no end.

He can't relocate but he wanted a friends to get to know. I told him I don't do online or phone training but I would give him pointers and some ideas to try.

Selfishly though he is so damn cute and submissive. An I now have a fetish for guys that stutter. Don't know why it turns me on more now than before though. Maybe it's him but I now really want a slave that stutters.




9/28/2007 9:31:43 AM
Getting to know a slave isn't like mixing sugar and water. You have to find a slave that fits you on so many levels depending on your dominant needs.
 
 I want to build a life with a slave. I want him to know is place with certainty. I want us to work like clock work. I want to be able to have "My" independence, feel connected with the world around me; my slave and more so I want service.
 
 The unspoken pledge of a slave to make it's Master/Mistress happy in this life and in the next if they can help it... is appealing. The fact that a slave needs his "slave identity" to find purpose in his life warms my heart.  The slave chooses to create himself by surrendering it's self to a high physical power. By the same token the Mistress or Master surrenders them self to mold and shape the slave like clay. Like an impassioned artist ever pushing and pulling and stripping the material in their hands the Mistress or Master creates a jewel for all to see.
 
 
 Pounding, shifting, smoothing, wetting the appetite of the slave until the slave is a vestal that complements the dignity and frailties of the Mistress or Master.

Being a Mistress or Master doesn't happen over night. Yes some of us are natural at it. Others want to have the skill to empower their lives or relationships. For whatever reason we may have to be Owners of slaves; the sad truth is one day like the Pharaohs of Egypt we too will be laid to rest. We learn more about being a Mistress, Master or Owner every time we interact with a new or old slave.


We are tested just like "We" test "Our" slaves. That being said I can only wish for a slave that fits all my needs and dreams in this life and the next.




9/28/2007 8:56:32 AM
I was asked why I don't like straight slaves. I find that straight slaves put a lot of conditions on their slavery. More so I don't have much emotional things in common with straigth slaves. It's not like I never had a straight slaves. In fact I have had many straight slaves and it always ended the same. I like to go to pansexual and gay BDSM events. Most straight slaves I have had seemed out of their element. While they have a lot of fun and structure. I am left wanting a slave with a gay/bi-sexual/pan-sexual personality. I get turned on by guys that love other guys and guys that love Tg Mistress. I have to say My ideal slave would be attracted to both myself and my husband. Once a slave rejects my spouse I lose interest in him. I lost a slave because he not only rejected my husband but humiliated him.


Many slaves only want to serve one person anyway and I find it's mostly straight men. As a Tg person calling myself bisexual is very literal to my own queer sexual expression with men. Tg people are mostly looked down at so I try to choose slaves that really understand and love me as a Mistress not as a fetish.

9/28/2007 8:13:49 AM
Once I move into my new house for the next 365 days I will be working hard to getting more books on the market. Many slaves and subs seem to have a strong interest in my work. I'll do my best to give you the entertainment and knowlage that I feel is befitting to most if not all of you.

Someone actually wrote me telling me they found an out of print book I wrote. Ah *blush*! Yes I can take control of a guy and put him in a cage and even put a guy though midevil torture but, flaterey just makes me into such a little girl; depending who's delivering the line.

I have to buy a new art table. The one I want is about $1,000.00. Speaking of money many slaves write to me and even say on their profiles that most Mistress on collar me are only seeking money slaves. I checked out some Domme profiles and I didn't see any mention of money.

Well all I can say is that their are slaves out there that love to buy the affections of a Mistress. While I don't mind money slaves I'm not attracted to them. I don't mind a slave buying me things I need but financial domination seem to be awkward to me. I always feel as if I'm being controlled by what the slave buys me.

I was best friends with a financial Domme. She was very good at what she did. She had such power over men. She started out as a 5 foot 9 and 324 lbs. At first she made a slave but her a gym membership for a year. Then she made two slaves buy her a very large condo. By the years end she was thin, had a beautiful condo, with a custom dungeon, new clothing and 6 slaves! I was like wow! Mind you money is a very needed thing. I don't turn down anything that helps me be a better Mistress or artist or lover.


The thing is that there are rules to these things. You don't bleed the slave dry. You give them an amount that they are expected to give or you give them a well thought out list of things you need for the month. While I know or feel I know how to financially dominate I'm just not into it. If you want to buy me something as a sign of worship, love and respect fine but I would never demand money.

I have to say though sometimes I wish i did charge slaves. Why you ask? Because so many just waste my freaking time with B.S. and lies. This is why I don't trust slaves.


9/27/2007 6:28:17 PM
I'm working on some art prints. I got Models to pose and now I'm using the photos as reference. They are all fetish oriented and and what I call high fantasy BDSM.

 A gay Dom friend of mine wanted a poster done of a male Dom with naked women crawling to a gay Master. I didn't ask what that was all about but it turned out nice. Once I get a slave I'm sure I'll post a link or something to my work. Why is it all contingent on getting a slave? Because I said so.

9/27/2007 2:09:24 PM
words that I don't like a slave or sub to use: bitch, slut, cunt, whore, pussy, twat, and shemale. They turn me of on many levels.

Any slave of mine should have good manners, speak when spoken to and enjoy or not a good otk spanking with a wooden brush.  I want a good boy or else.

9/27/2007 11:06:50 AM
I want a cage that looks like a piece of furniture. Like a large dresser with a cage on either end. Or a bed with a built in cage at the foot of the bed.  Maybe a cage that is a night stand in one or maybe a cage that is also a potted plant. Just a thought.

9/27/2007 10:52:11 AM
I seek an enduring union. One that is creative, artistic, spiritual and unique. For years now I have had many ideas I have wanted to play out  with a slave.

I'm very close to the point of not wanting a slave anymore. My attraction to submissive men is intense and poetic. I keep getting mail from slaves that don't fit my needs or goals. Last night I came very close to owning a slave.

Yahoo isn't really known for "real" people. Though I kept getting red flags from the slave I had met I was very attracted to him and what he offered. what were the red flags you say? Oh let see. He talked about killing people, he played the victim way to much. He has a a new born child. Doesn't seem to know himself very well. When push came to shove he told me to go to hell. He didn't know how to problem solve or keep his temper.


I'm now drawing and writing a new book. I want to call it My Zombie slave. A slave dies but come back from the dead to serve his Mistress and Master. Things go bad when his body parts start falling off and all that left is a head.


Thats not the whole story just the frame work. I want it to be comedy/horror/BDSM story but I'm not in a very happy funny mood.


I freaking love slave. I miss some of my ex-slaves. Though I know it was best I had let them go.


Why did I let them go you say? Some of my slaves that I loved had attachments, family or school. I know they loved me but really wanted to be where they thought they were needed most.

One slave I had fit me so well. He had 9inches that I kept in chastity 80% of the time. I would give him anal because it got him hard and he would grow in his very small chastity device. Or rather try to grow.

He did all my paper work and cleaned my art table. I let him have a part time job and he would buy me shoes. He had  a shoe fetish. He would also buy my art pens without me having to ask.

He would do house work and always started early so he could be at my feet (under my art table) by lunch time.

He loved being in a cage and being forced to exercise was just tops for him. I would put him in his cage when I took a shower. I wanted time to myself. He had captive fantasies so I would tie him up as a Klown, a princess, a banker, a robber, a cow boy, a space man, of just a slave while I did dirty things to him.

We always ended though with me putting an anal plug in him while flogging him and calling him a pig or worthless useless mass of space.

It made him feel better.

When I would watch Tv with him I always kept him in his collar while I held the lead. He liked the idea of being a watch dog do I attached a pocket watch to his collar.

He was happy to watch what I watched. I asked him all the time if there was anything he wanted to see. He always said no. He felt watching what I wanted helped him know what I needed better. He was so damn proactive!


I had him close to a year. When a slave has to go it's almost like a pet that has just died. A little part of you is gone with it.

















9/27/2007 1:04:13 AM
I'm starting to want a low maintenance slave. One that doesn't require my attention just a cage and a food bowl. One that will do yard work and house work.

I still am a SIZE queen though. I just like the boy that serves me to be hung. I know I know. Slaves that cum in that size are few and far between. I still hold out certainty not faith that there is one at the very least that want to be owned by me.

Maybe when I'm 40 I just wont have size be such a fetish with cbt and chastity. I hope not.


A Master I know who is bisexual has found himself a 24 yr old male slave with 11 inches. I asked him if I could play with his new pet sometime. He said no but I'm not bothered by it. I would most likely say no too.

I just dream of giving a slave chastity and cbt of that size. I should change my name to Mistress Ahab. I use to date a guy with 12 but he wasn't submissive. If I ever do find a slave with so much to give I'll name him Moby and Dick for short.







9/27/2007 12:55:54 AM
I'm always rewriting my profile to keep it fresh and updated. Also because I havn't found a slave yet and get bored.

9/18/2007 6:24:16 PM
One name Francois Sagat... 

9/18/2007 5:42:59 PM
I was just asked... Why I don't I wear a sexy corsets and other fetish gear in my pics?

When I did have "Dominatrix gear" on in pics I got more replies from "sub and slaves" seeking sex or a cheap thrill.

 I get very few hits now but I'm take more seriously than before.

9/18/2007 5:19:48 PM
I was just asked who was my fav. slave or sub and why. Good questions. Well there were some I had a larger attraction for but had a hard time training. Some that I had no attraction for but were very good slaves.


I'm thinking of two very different subs right now that stand out the most. First there was mike. Tall, blond, blue-green eyes, Irish-American, well hung, foot and boot slut. Loved him because he was pretty. Disliked him because he never got to really know me in the three years I knew him. When I was gone though he missed me a lot. I have Celtiberian ancestry so we connected on that level some. It ended because He treated me like a play thing. I moved on.


Jun an Asian slave that was very well hung. Eleven inches on a 5 foot 7 build!!!
He made the best Klown slave!
I'm also part Chinese  and loved that. He wanted an Asian Mistress and I came close enough for him. He served me very well. When I was bored or moody he was very proactive with me. He would sit by me or go in his cage. Of all my ex slaves he was the most dog like. I miss him. He had family he was close to and I had to let him go do to his attachments.


9/18/2007 3:38:33 PM
I just talked about slave shame. It got me thinking about slave depression.

Once a submissive has become a slave (if they so choose to) there is something called slave depression.

Once a slave has trained and learned their place under and Owner they have much pride. If a slave has been let go the slave then becomes lost and confused to some degree. The slave then tries to pick up it's life and take control again. Serving themselves and not another becomes taxing. Not being able to make someone happy/life easier becomes like a missing body part. Some miss the cage, chastity, locks and spankings but, most of all the Owner.

The Owner themselves start to miss having a slave if there isn't one. Missed like a trusted dog gone bad. Most Owners I have talked to tell me it's not weakness that makes them miss a slave but, simply being human and not machine.

Equally I met a slave from Germany whom had never been owned yet suffered so much emotionally from not having an Owner. He wanted to hurt himself and even though I told him about Collarme he gave up.

I keep telling slaves it's not the color sex or gender of the slave but the quality of their control that should matter. Sadly a Master/Owner has more right to choose than a slave does but, this is always argued.


(Off topic let me say I had met a Straight Master with a straight male slave. I was like no he has to be at least bi! Well yeah he makes his slave suck on a dildo and uses an anal plug on him but no gay sex!
How about that. I asked the Master how can you not have sex with him? One he's cute! Two he's a slave! Three he's got a great ass! The Master said his slave is like a dog to him and he would never have sex with a dog. I say give him a few shots a of rum and you never know what may happen.)


A slave can go through depression from simply not getting their slave needs met.

What are those needs you say? In my humble opinion they are:

1. Service to another.

2. A sense of belonging. You must be your slaves world.

3. Being controlled by a safe and sane Owner.

4. Humility

5. Something more than just sex.

6. The ability to worship another.

7. But most of all not just being of service but, feeling useful.

That's right letting your slave know they have done good gives them so pride. Piss'n on their face and spit'n in there food and calling it gourmet just isn't enough. Give them a pat on the bottom make them know you care in some small way.







9/18/2007 2:49:22 PM
I was asked why I'm in the "lifestyle". Well I think I have answered this before so, I'll try and say something different.


Many people int he "Vanilla Lifestyle" say you have to earn their trust. In this "Lifestyle" it goes double if not triple.


If you do not have a safe, sane and consensual Dom or sub/slave the shit can hit the fan very hard. I have seen so many things go wrong (with others) I wonder why I'm still here.

Well If you understand  and follow safe, sane and consensual (to quote Gay slave David Stein) you should have no problem.

The funny thing is the Gay community has enhanced this lifestyle so much yet we still see homophobic Dom/mes and sub/slaves. I'm not going to list off every contribution from the Gay BDSM community but let me just say pretty much some if not all the basics were created or helped along by Gays.

Now I don't identify as "gay" I like to think of myself as "Queer". I'm a straight woman that love "gay sex". I love giving anal and the like. Though I have to say yet again this lifestyle isn't really about sex as much as it's about human nature, bonding and control.

There is something called slave shame. Slave that feel shame of wanting to be owned. Also there is submissive shame; shame of wanting to serve and/or submit to another's needs.

I have gone through Owner shame myself.
When I see others in this world suffer do to lack of food or bombs I think to myself why the hell would I want to own anyone when people suffer so much in this world?

Well when I look into the eyes of a slave that wants to be owned or a read an email of a slave begging for a place under me it all comes together.

The world outside isn't the same as personal relationships.

Outside in the vanilla world Doms and subs are affected just as much as anyone. The difference is W/we go seeking for our consensual slaves or Owners.


There is someone or someones for every one or ones. There is a gay Master for a gay slave, there is a Mistress for a cuckold, There is a Asian Master or an African slave, and a Switch for a switch.

What you own ends up owning you or There is no Master if there is no slave and there is no slave if there is no Master.

Sometimes I want to get out of this life because I really don't trust anyone anymore. Things have changed from when I first started at 16. Yeah some people lied but now there are 100's of fakes vs. the occasional B.S.er.


In my 20's I could find a sub or slave that really loved and lived the life. Now I find many people whom think this life is all about sex and kink.

I'm not saying this life can't be like that but it can be so much more if you find the right people.


When it comes to this lifestyle we are all part of the same freak-show no matter how different the approach. In the Vanilla world there is very little real honesty and respect.

I guess I'm still here because I have met or have seen many real slaves and real Owners; not just the BDSM but, real respect for each others chosen path.





9/18/2007 11:34:29 AM
Last night I had the opportunity to hang out with an awesome couple. A young woman wanted to know if I could teach her how to dominate her boyfriend. I said sure... mind you don't like getting involved with couples. Since I haven't has a sub or slave in a while I took a chance on them. I really miss having a slave.


They both thought I would be going into their bedroom to teach them. I said no we can just do this in public.

At first they said no way. I dropped it and then few days later they asked what would happen in public. I said for the night I would control her bf.


Since I like dog training slaves I took the dog training approach. Her bf said he wasn't attracted to me at all. She on the other hand thought I was cute. I personally didn't care either way. While BDSM and D/s can be very superficial; I said it's not about what I look like it's about how I make you feel when you submit.


I told the bf no matter how hot I could be if I don't know  how to take control of you it would all be pointless. If he isn't open to submission no matter how controlling I am wont matter either.

I told him to find something sexy about me o matter how small or big. He said I had nice glasses and pretty eyes and a sexy/sweet voice.


I told him to focus only on those things. He is restricted from anything else.


So all night I spent time with them at bars and at the end a diner.


When I spoke to him he was to look down or close his eyes. Every command I gave him was to be take like "a last meal" I told him. I denied him food and drink all night. This was to motivate him, to bring more want/desire into the experience.

  I gave him water from time to time (as reward) by placing a paper napkin in cold water and making him suck the napkin. It was very humiliating for him. At first he didn't like it but, I use his GF as motivation. I then had her copy my voice and actions at her best.

I told them it's best to find dark  bars, restaurants, clubs to do this.


He said that being out in public was hard at first. I had to tell him most people will think you are weird if they take notice but then they will find a new target to take their attention.

I told them both being in public and being discreet is one of my special talents. If you can "play" in public being at home will be a cake.

In the last few hours we summed up the night. The only real question was how do you do all this with sex. I told the GF that it's all about rewarding good behavior. Too keep his mind on his submission he needs a collar, a chain, a necklace to remind him  of his place.


Today the GF told me she had gone out and got him a very thick silver chain necklace. She also got a Dog bed for him to sleep in. They don't own any pets.

She then  told me how here bf after they got home thought it was fun because of the fear of being seen submitting in public. She told him I was so discreet that she didn't think anyone even knew.

So that was my night in a shell. I left a few things out but I think you get the idea. I'm going to include this story in my next book.



I had learned something really valuable. Everyone has their own language in a D/s relationship. What works for one person may not work for another. The Gf knows her bf better than I do. I don't know their D/s relationship language. Before I came along the GF didn't know how to speak to her bf.

No matter what I taught them they have to find their own  language. She has to learn how to speak/control him and he will have to learn to find what it means for him to submit. She will have to be the words and he will have to define what those words mean in his submission.

Next they will have to learn their own kinks and fetishes.







9/17/2007 9:15:20 PM
Online BDSM and slave training is not kinky, fun or useful to me. Stop asking.

9/17/2007 5:09:41 PM
hello my name is ___ im 23 from long island looking to be a slave willing to do anything it takes my limits are needles piercings tattoos and knifes you can take them away if you wish i cant work due to a bad knee but willing to be rented out like a whore if that would help.

9/16/2007 2:12:31 PM
He lives in the US:

Hello Miss,

I very much enjoy your profile, and your likes and dislikes of what you are looking for in a slave. It is a shame that we are so far.



9/16/2007 10:45:07 AM
Face Muzzle!

I really want to get one. I'm kinda shocked I don't have one already. I haven't had a slave last long enough really to take him as deep as I would like for him to go.


The Face Muzzle I saw was made of leather but, I rather have a vinyl one. Someday I'll find a slave someday.


I just met my very first "vegetarian doggy boy" he lives in the UK and doesn't want to relocate.


By the way thank you to everyone that has sent me kind words about my post.


Since I do lactate I have wanted to do long term age play with a slave. Calling him my "boi/son". Though I'm not into diaper play... anymore. I love the idea of breast feeding my slave. I met a 5 foot 3, 27 year old (sub/slave?) that was well-hung so he said. He wanted to be a "boi/son" sub/slave. I think he lost interest in me.


Before I had said I don't like to be around other Dom/mes. I had to rethink that.  I have many friends that are Masters/Mistress and Owners. They ask you your chosen station (Master/Owner, switch, sub or slave) and they treat you as such. These friends really respect people in the "lifestyle". Some of them I have known my whole BDSM life and some are new friends.

There are a select few Dom/mes that do feel and think they are better if not entitled to dominate everyone in their path. I do find that kinda awesome but, in this life you have to keep a level head.

As much as we want to be we are not above the law. My friends and I love having other Dom/mes to talk to. like trading recipes we trade training ideas.

I don't see them all the time we each like our privacy to some extent or another.

9/16/2007 9:04:19 AM
I get many messages asking why I don't have a stable of slaves or have not found at the very least one slave yet.

Many slave have given me conditions.
They have told me what I can and can not do.  Needless to say I have no use for a slave that gives me conditions. When I say they tell me What I can and can not do I mean they say: I can't have more than one slave, I can't give them anal, they wont suck cock, they don't do house cleaning, they will only serve me, the list goes on.

I'm not saying they give all give me the same list but, they do limit me from doing and seeking the things I like having a slave experience.

A lot of slaves tell me they want me to take them, but then they never follow through, or they want me to wait for them a few years.

Many slaves also don't fit what I seek in a slave. Either their age doesn't work well with me, their weight, their cock size, and many let distance be an issue. I'm pretty forgiving about cock size if a slave seems promising, though larger is better for me.

I get accused a lot of being a size queen and that it will limit me from finding a slave. Two years ago I had a slave for a month and he had 7 inches. I found him pretty and he showed some skill. It didn't work out because, well, he was a sub not a slave. As a submissive he couldn't be trusted.

Trust is a big issue with me. I must have it above all things. If I can't trust you I can not use you. If I can't trust you I can not "own" you. If I can't trust you I can not punish you. If I can not trust you I can not train you. If you can not trust me our relationship is over before we even started.

I will admit I can be relatively idealistic. Without some imagination and some goal I would be very bored with slaves and life.

I don't have a slave because slaves, real slaves, and even ideal slaves are hard to come by. Yeah I could take a slave that doesn't push any of my fetishes or needs but then I would be unhappy. He would serve me but I wouldn't really want him.

I'm not looking for a boyfriend, I seek a slave like I would be seeking a dog or lamp to fit my home. I see consensual slaves as property and I'm shopping for a slave that goes with my emotional and home decor.












9/16/2007 8:20:29 AM
I like to see everyone as a tool in emproving my Skills as a Mistress as well as a slave owner.

This guy that I call "Vanilla boy" really pisses me off but, I still talk to him if I'm in the mood. When I first met him he was pretending to be a submisive slave and I knew he wasn't.  He cussed me out calling me crazy and the like.

Subs and slaves comunicate diffrently from each other but, still remain with a tone of submission and respect. Vanilla boys comunicate more like they are reading from a book or play rather than being submissive. 

Well here are some questions he asked me. Mind you I really didn't care what he was asking. I was aloof.
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Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:38:49 PM): so hows the life of a mistress

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:39:02 PM): fine

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:39:14 PM): does it get lonley

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:40:09 PM): it has to

Severin (9/15/2007 1:40:28 PM): how so?

Vanilla boy(9/15/2007 1:40:46 PM): you can never have a guy treat you nice

Severin (9/15/2007 1:41:01 PM): I get treated better than most people

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:41:39 PM): but its the little things you dont have

Severin (9/15/2007 1:41:46 PM): like?

Vanilla boy(9/15/2007 1:41:55 PM): kisses

Severin (9/15/2007 1:42:02 PM): I get that all the time

Severin (9/15/2007 1:42:22 PM): some times when I don't even want to be kissed

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:42:37 PM): cuddeling

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:43:03 PM): like on the couch atching a movie

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:43:13 PM): watching

Severin (9/15/2007 1:43:16 PM): I get that all the time

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:43:22 PM): hows that

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:43:41 PM): i thought that lifewas a strict one to have

Severin (9/15/2007 1:43:51 PM): I sit they sit I cuddel they hug

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:44:00 PM): i see

Severin (9/15/2007 1:44:23 PM): no you train your slaves treat you the way you want to be treated

Severin (9/15/2007 1:44:34 PM): you train them to obey and worship

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:45:02 PM): but is that what you want in life is always telling someone what to do

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:45:20 PM): and how many slaves do you have

Severin (9/15/2007 1:45:30 PM): I don't always tell them what to do they know what to do

Severin (9/15/2007 1:45:34 PM): they are very proactive


Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:45:58 PM): you say they like you have several of them

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:46:40 PM): i mean do you have a husband or something

Severin (9/15/2007 1:46:46 PM): yes

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:46:59 PM): and he doesnt mind the slaves

Vanilla boy (9/15/2007 1:47:19 PM): or does he have some of his own

Severin(9/15/2007 1:47:23 PM): well we are polyandrest so we love having husbands

Vanillaboy (9/15/2007 1:47:38 PM): wow

Severin (9/15/2007 1:47:48 PM): some just happen to be slaves

9/15/2007 9:34:52 PM
I am not a financial Mistress though I have been asked to be one many many times.  I'm not going to talk about the Mistress or Masters. My heart actually goes out to the financial slaves. Many of them seek to make their Mistress or Master happy by being bound financial.

I personally don't understand this slave fetish too well.  When I did try it with a slave he told me whatever I wanted to just ask for it. Well, yeah, getting bill paid is wonderful but I just didn't get a high from money. When he got me gifts he was so happy; his submission was very intense. He felt used and dirty, he said. The fact that I'm transgender made it even more kinky for him.  I still couldn't wrap my mind around his kink. He had other strange requests. For instance, he wanted me to wear the things he would buy me when I was controlling him. He even loved it when I seemed aloof to any of his gifts. I should add that this slave was in no way poor.

He liked the idea of me tying him up and taking money out of his wallet. Ok that I guess I could understand. He loved to feel financially powerless.


I feel like I'm not making a very good case for financial slaves. What I can say very well though is that any seeking one shouldn't think that every slave they come in contact is one. It's a special kind of slave and mindset to give of yourself in such a way. The financial slave I knew said to me it's kinda like any other slave that wants to be caged, spanked, forced or used... he just gets turned on when it's "cumming" from his wallet.

Oh, and so I'm told a tribute slave and a financial slave are fundamentally different. I don't see how but that's what I'm told. I only expect things from slaves that piss me off, but otherwise I'm kinda superstitious about financial slaves and tribute slaves.

Oh damn I just remembered what one financial slave told me. He said his wife didn't like spending money. She was a penny pincher yet they had tons of money (so he said). He wanted her to let him buy her expensive gifts, she would always say no. He soon after found "Financial Dommes" and was hooked. He said he always gave them cash so his wife would never find a money trail. When I turned him down he cussed me out so bad I was speechless. I thought I was doing a good thing not going after his cash.



9/15/2007 8:49:38 PM
My Klown fetish was filled tonight.

If you haven't seen  Bindlestiff Family Cirkus

   I say you better look them up. Their show was adult and fantastic.

They are a lot tamer than what I personally like but they were so damn good.

Many times int he past I have said how I would love to have a Kinky Klown Slave. When it comes to being a "Kock-Ring Mistress" (Or as I like to call Myself when doing Klown BDSM "Mistress of the Kock-Ring") to a slave My darker more humorous side comes out.


There are very few Klown Kinksters and even less Klown slaves. Maybe just maybe if anyone is reading this, you can rub your cock ring really hard and make a wish for me just maybe just maybe it will cum true.


Severin for slave a.K.a. Mistress Kock Ring

 


9/14/2007 11:10:41 AM
Ultimately I want successful relationships. Vanilla or D/s really isn't the issue though I just don't fit in the "Vanilla world". I meet brash, crude, rude, immature the list goes on types both in the "Vanilla world" and the D/s world. I'm not saying I'm an angel but, there is a right place and right time for everything. I have met so many submissives that feel that being a slave and a sub are the same thing.

 Personally I have to say no; they are not the same. Every slave I have ever owned has been mechanical in some way but always put their heart in serving me and submitting to me until I let them go. The submissives I have known have been mostly sexually submissive or just sensitive or overly brash in some way.


A "Vanilla" guy I was trying to day many years ago said to me in a very patronizing tone. "I bet you like those sensitive types... a boy that will be sweet, write poems and cry all the time."  I said "yeah but you for got to add that I also like my boy kept in a cage with a butt plug; with out it whats the point."

 He never did call me back. Finding some one you click with in this world; is almost like trying to start or find a cult where everyone thinks and wants the same things.

The things I need from a slave is having my door answered, rooms cleaned, and bath drawn. My BDSM needs are fairly basic but, I want to be able to remain creative while still keeping my boi in a cage and in chastity. Yeah sure I love to train my pet to take pain even if it's only a little. Sure I want a boy to lick my toes and be my slut while he still breaths every breath for me. I'll say again that still while I have tons of kinks I want the basics in a slave. He should be a butler, a maid, a gardener and yet still be my pet, butt boi and play thing. I don't meet many subs that seek that in this "lifestyle".

9/13/2007 7:36:33 PM
Are those real or fake?

When looking at a womans breast these days many people question "are those real or fake". The larger the more we question the smaller well still depending on their shape we question.

BDSM and D/s and O/s relationships seem to fall under the same sharp eye. What is real BDSM or D/s and O/s?

Well one main factor would be that following through with what one says on a profile would be defined as real. Fake would be all talk no action.

Hmmmm?


Well there are many people that see BDSM as just a fun activity. A way of getting a rush. When I was a Dominatrix I worked in an artificial environment getting paid nothing to spank or be spanked. I was no switch but that was the name of the game in a dungeon. Well unless you made a very good name for yourself.


The Owner of the "Dungeon" had a slave. A robotic short man that had to be told what to do and how to do it. He paid for her lunches out of his own pocket. Seeing him follow her every word yet fumbling was so awesome to see. The men that came in though were very fake in comparison. They came in paid and had their fun and returned back to their "normal" lives. We had Dom men and sub/switch men. One sub came in and I fell in love. He was an airline pilot. Beautifully hung and the brightest blue eyes.


I try not to confuse the fakes with the subs or the new Dom/mes. Calling yourself a Master or Mistress doesn't make you one unless you have had or are in a successful D/s or O/s relationship.

I can say I played with my slaves only to let my own arrogance and anger let them go. I would let slaves go thinking I would be able to find one again. Kinda like tying my shoe. Well fact was at the time the community was crawling with young hot slaves and subs. Then something happened. No more slaves or subs were out there. I mean few were actually seeking relationships or to be owned. Then I looked back at myself and couldn't help but to call myself stupid. I had some real quality subs and slaves that where polyfidelity and loyal to me. I saw them not only as my pets but as my family.

I use to have temper with slaves and subs though in "vanilla" relationships I was very egalitarian and very spiritual. Not that I was heartless and cruel with my slaves... just very demanding and commanding.

Many people laugh at a transgender Mistress or Master. They think of a lumber jack in a corset vs. well me. I get called fake on a regular basis.

I'm very picky as to whom or what I train. I love younger men, thin/athletic, well hung and gay or pansexual is always key to me. Yeah that shouldn't be to hard to find. I'm very forgiving when it comes to size if I feel I'm able to train the sub/slave.



After a while in this way of life with whips and chains, you tend to wants something long term and serious. Something that takes you deeper down the rabbit hole. Something that makes you feel you are doing what is right for you in the long term. Not many people can handle the responsibility of taking care of another human being. Not many people can handle a dogs neediness. Not many can handle the intense character of an Owner telling you what to do while having no will of your own. It takes balls to be a Mistress and it takes even bigger balls to trust someone to control every part of you.


The fakeness comes in when one can't find someone on their own level. When everyone else is playing and we actually want to work at it.


Though like breast most of us settle as long as the look good enough. very few really care if it's the real thing.

And yes mine are real.















9/12/2007 10:02:57 PM
Being a  transgender Mistress and how I define it:

It doesn't matter to me if other understand my path on gender and sex. What does matter to me is connecting with others on a deeper level. Yes there is a lot of discrimination on gender bender and gender outlaws. My sexuality is strictly directed to submissive/slave men. Not to say I don't find other men attractive... just not as appealing.

I personally believe slaves have no sexuality they service for the joy of the service.  That being said it contradicts my belief in a slaves right to choose their Owners.


As a Tg Mistress I can say with sincerity I have created myself for the purpose to be served by a slave. I am manifest to control the essence of a worshiper, servant, slave and lowly submissive.

I am both Mistress and Master to my chosen boy. I am both pain and pleasure for my slave.

I know not just ridicule but the joys of both genders. The oppression and almost unattainable expectations of both sexes are no mystery to me.


I definitely add a twist to the perceptions of gender and sex dominance. Many have argued to me that women are more so to be worshiped and others have said men are far more superior. I have had male Doms try to dominate me with little to no success. In term I have seen male Doms be out right belligerent to any female; transgender or not.


I knew of a Mistress that only took on male slaves that were 6 foot or taller. She was herself 5 foot 3. She was as mean as they come. she trained her male slaves so well one would think she was 6 foot in comparison.

One night a male Dom fairly new to the area go in her face. This all took place at a munch. Three of her male slaves one of which was a 6 foot 5 African American bear of a man, blocked the Dom. She looked at the male Dom as if he were an ant. The Dom must have been at most 6 foot tall and avg. build.

When all this had gone down it was clear to me everyone was fair game in terms of rudeness and brashness.


The common disrespect turned me off to getting to know other Dom/mes, Masters/ Mistress, and Owners. Actually the Owners I have met seem to believe like I do. You chose your station and are respected for it. I don't like to call myself a  Mistress. I much rather be called an Owner or Ma'am/Madame even "my Lady" makes me feel better. I tolerate Mistress since it's such a common term of respect.


I have always wanted to live in a Victorian house with three slaves ranging in age but not submissive servitude and loyalty. these days I hope to find at least one. I would like to think of myself as an educated and firm slave Owner. Though I have learned that not every slave can be or should be trained the same way. I like to have my slave define his slavery.


After so much drama I have not wanted to be part of this "lifestyle" and yet. I miss the slaves the real one the subservient ones. Their pious faces seeking Owners like moths to a flame. I'm privet, strict and incisive but approachable. At least I would like to think I am. I guess until a slave gets a tatse of my words and will no one else will know.



























9/11/2007 10:02:45 AM
How I define my Owner/ Mistress-hood; thus far:

I am demanding, strict, I can even be moody. A slave is a living thing trying to find and live out "it's" purpose. There is no Mistress without a slave. There is no slave without a Mistress.

Arched above you, we can not live without each other. We define each other like the earth and sky. I will rain on you a mighty thunder shaping you with the rivers and oceans a like. When I am done we will both be placid, refreshed and wiser. Without domination you would fall apart like a dry twig. Submission nourishes your roots. O/our worlds are balanced, made simple and clean in a complex world.

I see slaves as hard workers. They set the tone for how they will be treated contingent by their obedience and devotion. Many slaves detest the idea of a Mistress loving them. No matter how much anger I demonstrate they are an extension of me; like a Divine Mother I watch them like a hawk. I protect them like brier.


9/11/2007 8:35:17 AM
A slave I have no use for sent me a beautiful reply. I try to keep an openmind but, I know myself to well and know this slave (though willing) does not meet my needs, wants, or fetishes:

Dear Mistress,

I want to start by thanking you for the time that you spend reading this email. I want to say that you mention the fact of chastity and cbt. I am more then pleased to be a chastized male and that is something that is a feeling of importance to me as well. I think that a slave that is in chastity has a better thought of what is going on as he is no longer thinking about sex as it is banned until the Mistress wants him to be released. As for my size I will say that I am not 8 inches but I am between 6 and 7. I do not have a problem with a dress code as that is your desire as I am the servant and you are the Mistress. In my profile it says that I am bisexual. The reason for this is that I have to put seomthing and if I mark straight or gay it makes it hard to talk with others. I did my research on teh pansexual and to me that fits me more than anything else. I do not think that gender has anythin gto do with my desire sexually.

In regards to teh 24/7 that is what I seek and I know tha twill mean that I need to make the move and that is completly fine with me. I do not have a problem with that at all. IN rgards to submission I am all of that and I feel that being mentally, physcially, and emotinally submissive is what makes me the slave that I am.

I would like to talk more if you wish and I hpoe that we can arrange something that can lead to more.



9/11/2007 8:04:31 AM
Many slaves have asked Owners to know what they want. Many slaves don't seem to know what they need vs. what they want. A list of fetishes and expectations color many messages and replies. Though what they need doesn't seem to come across.


What do you need to define your slavery? What do you need to be loyal? What do you need to keep you in place to be centered as a slave? What do you need in the form of communication? What do you need for the long term or short term?


What do you want for your slavery to have flavor, spice, fun, creativity and or fantasy.


 Many slave approach slavery like a part time job or a dress up game without any long vision.

The Mistress that trained once said many years ago. A slave doesn't know what they want other than to serve and to submit/obey. A Mistress has to look deeper and on the surface, to see the slaves truth, open communication with the slave should be the first step. Problem being slaves don't know what to do with or for themselves.



It kinda sad to me that many don't like the "mechanical" slave. The slaves that have no "emotion". Still waters run deep. If your slave is devoted and passionate about his slavery his and or her focus will be like a sunbeam or moonbeam.

If you want your slave to have emotion; set time aside for your slave to give you some emotion. Many Owners have complained to me about how horrible their slave is they have no expression. On the other hand many complain about slaves having to much emotion and act out without respect.






9/10/2007 4:55:46 PM
I had gone on yahoo looking for slave... BIG mistake! I wish my area had more slaves to choose from.

9/10/2007 8:45:31 AM
To make is clear I seek a slave that wishes to relocate after, we have built our trust and needs in the life are clear. I seek to own a slave whom needs an Owner , a home, where the slave can worship and be used. A slave that seek to serve and love his place and the challenges there in.

9/10/2007 8:42:38 AM
From a "sub": Good morning. This sub from ohio travels to the Philadelphia area often. Are you at all interested in a part time sub?



9/7/2007 11:20:01 AM
While I enjoy administering pain I enjoy sharing a vision with a slave. How my slave likes it how he needs it are always considered. If a slave does not like physical pain and does not seek pain; I am able resist... though I may give him light spanks. 

9/6/2007 11:09:10 PM
Well almost have had a slave. Slipped through my hands. Maybe this winter I'll finally get one. 

9/6/2007 9:41:31 AM
I have been on many BDSM, D/s, & O/s sites. By far Collarme is still the best site for slaves seeking Owners. It offers a consistent community though; divers in it's approach. There is something for everyone though not everyone for something. After many years the tide/type of slaves and submissives seems to change.

Speaking of change. Many "new" to the life of submission and slavery are on shaky ground. Like building a house there are rules to D/s and O/s relationships. though first you need to know what kind of relationship and to what degree do need to submit. This "lifestyle" can be harsh or just a plaything. Dom/mes and be cruel or just weekend warriors.











9/5/2007 8:54:16 PM

Expect: Chastity, encouragement (be proud of being a quality slave or sub), blindfolds, bondage, cbt, sounding, foot worship, trophy boi, domestic work, no rights, few limits, dog bowl, cage, human-dog training, anal and oral play.

More: Faux Fur, rubber, spandex, Cum control, some role play, Milking & edging, Nipple play, Rimming, Plugs & dildo´s, fetish modeling, House boi, Soft SM, Hard SM, Uniform, Sneakers, Boots, Feet, Chains & cuffs, Cage, Humiliation, Hypnotism, Wrestling & trampling.

9/4/2007 11:26:01 PM
I now understand why I'm having such a hard time with subs. Many just think BDSM and D/s and or O/s is an act. Very few are actually subs or slaves most being vanilla seeking play.

This is just one reason I don't like seeking slaves on the internet.

The upside being you can meet slaves you wouldn't normally find.

9/4/2007 11:03:38 PM
If you are serious lifestyle I would be interested in an intelligent chat... trust is extremely important.

9/4/2007 10:17:03 PM
I'm told that finding a Tg Mistress is uncommon. I feel finding a sincere slave seeking a Tg Mistress is just has hard. I started using collarme back in 07/16/04 and while I have found some... few have really wanted a Tg Mistress. 

9/4/2007 9:38:50 PM
I was feeling uninspired for a while were I thought I didn't know hat to say in my profile. I change my profile a lot trying to get across what I love and need in a slave.

The seduction of a slave is very harsh since I depend on my actions and words in the flesh.

Building trust and keeping that trust has always been part of my style. My approach is both spiritual and religious. Deep though at times superficial to titillate base desires.

To my slave I'm more so emotionally masochistic but, I never neglect my slaves flesh.




9/4/2007 11:02:16 AM
From a sub whom I found on a different site but knew from collarme~

Me: what made you write me

sub: Well honestly I was a lot less intimidated than I would have been writing you on collarme.  On there its all like there are all these roles and attitudes expected.  with myspace I felt more like I could just be friendly

9/3/2007 1:23:04 PM
When you are not in use you are to be in your cage.

I have added a few new tools for the training proccess. I have a new cage, a rubber mat, and a chest for all my pets training needs.

9/3/2007 9:49:40 AM
Philadelphia as turned out do be no good after so many years of seeking out a slave.

Besides the fact I have my own strict fetishes; I just don't meet many actual slave personalities.


Ideally my boi would depend on me emotionally. Like a star crossed lover inconsolable, pining for me though under me not quit reaching me and insatiable in serving me under and condition of living. My heels and toes weather his supplication and tears of joy. Like a good dog he follows and challenges my skills.

I want to be the Nwt to his Geb but bound to each other thick or thin, collar and lead, and Mistress to slave.














9/2/2007 4:45:10 PM
Let me just say how much I love using a hair large brush on the rump of my slave. I once had a slave say the alphabet while giving him his colors. He said thank in the end and kissed my feet. I slapped him for getting my feet wet and he just loved on me some more.



8/30/2007 10:29:03 AM
There are few people willing to actually meet on alt, even fewer fall into the realm of remotely "normal".

So the word "normal" may be cumbersome but, what I mean is.... *Sincere about having a healthy long term BDSM/D/s relationship.* Everyone has baggage but, many people also have issue that just don't let relationships flourish. There are somethings I just wont put up with. Many Doms find it funny to pretend to be submissives and fake out other Doms. This has happened to me more than a few times.

Then there are subs that say they are not stupid or doormats. I'm not saying I feel any slave/sub should be treated as an idiot or doormat  but, have you seen the "lifestyle"? Have you seen what submissives and slaves go through? It's not like working at a hotel as a bellboy. MMmmmmm Bellboys MmMMm!


The way I see submissives and slaves... I see them as treasured pets. My motto has always been "a healthy slave is a slave for life."

Granted many slaves I meet want to be abused, top from the bottom, are weekend warriors, are arrogant, and just don't know what they want out of being a sub or slave.



Many slaves want scat, 24/7 cages, only seek sex, hardly any actually want to be of service make a Dom/Owners life easier. Not many want to be guided into erotic, sensual, sincere, loyal and imaginative slavery.

By the way there is a difference between sexual, sensual and erotic. If you never experienced them look up the words and at the very least get familiar with the difference.

8/27/2007 12:43:22 AM
While I have no shame about my sexuality or "lifestyle"; I do enjoy my privacy.

 I'm only moody when I feel a slave isn't living up to the limits or bargain agreed upon. I don't like to have expectations that don't have promises attached. For example an ex slave of mine was a smoker and we agreed he wouldn't smoke. Well he bum cigarettes behind my back when we were out in public. He would ask someone for a cigarette hide it from me and find his way to a lighter or match.

I'm very controlling it might have to do with the fact I'm a Scorpio. Either way I set goals for my slaves to achieve and I like to see them followed through with trust, honesty and a loyal mind set.


Wanting to be a slave isn't enough. You must have an idea of how you want to be of service to another. The sex and the kink is just the extra and some-what fantasy.

When you have a clear idea of how you want to treat and respect the Master or Owner It makes domination and submission easier for all. I find there is nothing worst that a slave that has no idea of thier submissive needs.

Ok I take that back ... a Master/Owner not knowing what they want and need is just as bad.




8/20/2007 8:09:04 AM
This was in reply to a diaper boi's profile:

Reading your journal got me thinking and I thank you for that. I personally have no interest in a diaper boi. Reason being I don't see it as a humiliating act because I use to be a nurse aid.

Anyone laughing at a person wearing a diaper shows their own immaturity not the degradation of the wearer. Not to get heavy or dramatic, I just find chastity devices far far more degrading than a diaper. A chastity shows that you are either not trusted or simply controlled by another. Also the fact that a chastity device can painfully stop an erection is very stimulating.  

A diaper shows a medical condition, or simply like a trucker friend of mine had said "When I'm on the road and need to make my money (he held up a diaper) this is Gods gift to a trucker." In no way am I saying you shouldn't wear a diaper, but you may want to take yourself off my list since I like my "son's" potty trained and chastised.

8/14/2007 7:48:17 AM
I get tons of female slaves replying to me wanting me to own them. While I'm thankful for it I like being the only "fem" in my relationships. Also I'm a feminist; submissive women just piss me off to no end unless they are in lesbian relationships.

8/12/2007 11:53:17 AM
Since I don't fit in the vanilla world I just hang-out on CM like looking out of a window. All the b.s. has finally gotten to me. Many have asked me to take them and when I say sure; they flake out or come up with drama that has nothing to do with me. Maybe if someone stands out from the mess I'll take him.

8/9/2007 8:31:22 PM
First empressions mean a lot. I can't assume what is clearly shown to me. If you aproach me with your agrgance I'm turned off. Being submissive is relative to those you meet as is Domanance. I'm here to meet submissive and slaves; if you can't bring that across there is little to no chance of me being intrested in you no matter how attractive you may seem to me.

I still find conditional slaves and

8/9/2007 8:23:46 PM
First impressions mean a lot. I can't assume what is clearly shown to me. If you aproach me with your arrogance I'm turned off. Being submissive is relative to those you meet as is Dominance. I'm here to meet submissive and slaves; if you can't bring that across there is little to no chance of me being interested in you no matter how attractive you may seem to me.

I still find conditional slaves and brash submissives.

8/2/2007 5:33:16 PM
Imagine having a slave that shops, drives, chauffeur, submits, cleans. A slave/sub that is proactive to all your needs while on trips close or far from home.

I need to meet more reliable single sub/slaves.


8/2/2007 5:09:01 PM
I just had to send some love and spanks to the most amazing loyal, respectful, loving, proactive and callow chauffeur Tom Prince.

8/2/2007 4:40:24 PM
Had much fun a a glbt leather party. I can't say enough how ____ I am at the quality Doms/Master that have trained and acquired such amazing slaves and subs. Though I was the only gender variant I had much fun. Thank you for the invite Sir Ander and Philly Spank.

7/30/2007 1:38:26 PM
Way to many people are seeking fantasy vs. a new way of life. While I love sex this "lifestyle" is not a passing fancy or a way for me to get off. I employ submissives and slaves under me. I pay them with attention and the lack of it... with rules for them to worship along side my body.

It brings me joy to see a submissive/slave reach his depths of servitude.  I love helping him reach his goals and finding his inner "loyal dog".

While I love giving my boi anal and oral work I need a boi that wants to work hard at putting a smile on my face in and out of the bedroom but, mainly out of the bedroom.

7/30/2007 7:27:45 AM

 To every slave (cultivating humility) I demand and recommend you buy the book;SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude--Principles, Skills and Tools *by Guy Baldwin (Author)

7/12/2007 7:59:06 AM
I'm seeking a male that has never wanted to dominate or control anyone. I seek a male that has only dreamed of being owned by another person. I seek a male that isn't seeking kink only slavery. 

5/1/2007 6:54:56 AM
I never had an issue with hight but now I find myself turned on by really short attractive men between 3'11" and 5'4". If I was taller I would have more to choose from.

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Mind you I love controlling tall men. Kinda like the idea of taking down a tall man bring him to his knees. Making him go as low as his head will take him.

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On a sad note I'm a size queen. Why are there so many little men? My chastity device hungers for a wild animal to tame. Eight or more inches the thicker the better to "constrict".

4/19/2007 10:35:31 AM
More and more submissives are getting demanding. I have no intimate attraction to Dom men. I'm open to suggestion but, demands turn me off to no end. I'm not bitter more like jaded. Very few sub-slaves have enticed me or have followed through with their personalities.

Many subs think I'm hurt that I don't have a sub, far from it. My perspective is if there are real sub-slaves "out-there" (they will show up and attach themselves to me if) they are of quality stuff. Not finding truly submissive people is like someone saying there is no Santa but, I can get over that. What I find frustrating is people not knowing who they really are or people just playing fantasy.

There was a time when I knew many many many "real- consensual-slaves". What happened to them all? Where is the new generation of "real consensual slaves"?

Being shy isn't being submissive or slave. Being shy is showing fear. Fear will not connect you with your goals. Love who you are as a slave and push through to be owned.

3/8/2007 12:46:47 AM
I'm not a pro-Domme I don't care about your money or fantasies. If you can't give all of yourself then don't reply.

I am an intense, imaginative and intelligent Mistress. This is not ego but simply time and tested fact. Prepare for improvement. There is room for improvement in everyone; expect too improve yourself. Half-heartedness will NOT be tolerated. I don't appreciate aloof sub-slaves!I seek a slave that knows his place and wants, needs and loves being there. Your goal will be to serve me, obey me and seduce me with your submissive nature. Our relationship will be symbiotic filled with no shame of who we are. I admire intelligence; adore the imaginative. I seek both from you. I am polyfidelity (not promiscuous) and if you are what I consider a true slave; you will beg at the chance to be next to my loving hand and strict rules. Let me clarify I seek an unconditional slave. One that seeks to be owned for a lifetime. You are young but, wise to your desire to be owned.

What more to expect: CBT, sensory deprivation, house-boy, dog-boy, bondage, chastity, humiliation, anal play, forced bi, and foot/body-worship, to name a few. I'm open to your needs as a sub-slave, but you must want to grow, have limits pushed safely. I seek a sub-slave that knows what he wants and needs from a Mistress/Owner and can communicate this in a long-term relationship. I will protect you, feed you, cloth you, train you; to be proud of your slavery.You must be 18 or older, young looking and in good health. I'm seeking to Own, not to date. I can love you, but I will Own you.You must be seeking trust, honesty, and clear communication. You must be seeking to serve not just "play".I don't have a formula to training: I never train a slave the same way I have trained any previous. Your sexuality is owned and dictated by me. I like to ridicule 8.0 inch (20.32 cm) or More , for cbt and chastity. Since size can be intimidating. I like to intimidate others with my submissives' tool. If I'm not important to you then you are just a casual play partner not MY slave.

If you seek freedom and casual times then you are not a consensual slave. I seek a slave and you seek an Owner. If this sounds like your home your collar and food bowl are waiting.

2/22/2007 10:04:26 AM
why are there no salves on this site?

2/21/2007 1:25:09 PM
Many subs seem to want a BBW Mistress/Owner. Others want a super model or actress look a like.

I get yelled at frequently by subs and slaves regarding my fetish for larger penises for cbt, chastity and the like.

We all have our ideal. If I met the right slave his size wouldn't matter. I would have to say that toying with a larger rod is very fun for me. Countless times that I have had the opportunity to do so I have always been left satisfied in the end.

I don't like larger for sexual reasons. It's mainly just part of my O/s and BDSM fetish. If the word vanilla means bored then I have to say with a slave I would be bored unless his personality really made up for it. He would have to be out of this world submissive and subservient.

I had an American sub-slave really like me a few years back He asked me if I could gain 150lbs. I said I could but, not really looking to do that.

Another slave in Germany would only relocate if I became more muscular. He was originally from Belgium.

Another slave asked if he could buy me breast implants. I love my real breast.

I want to say I'm sorry to all the sub-slaves with less than 8 inches. I hope that you understand that in the long run size does not matter to me if your personality is amazing, if your submissiveness makes me glow.

2/21/2007 1:24:26 PM
I'm kinda turned off when a sub says he's turned on by my training style. My fetishes are not meant to make my sub horny they are meant to put him in a situation or condition in which he is forced to grow. When I say grow I mean as a slave.

I like to water my sub-slave with my imagination, love, cruelty, and fetishes that he may enjoy but primarily bring me pleasure. I like to show-off a good boy to those in the community.

My major turn on are persistence in wanting to submit to me. Begging is do damn sexy when it's the right slave. I just turn to butter. Tears of devotion do me in. A slave that both wants me and needs me and shows this day in and day out... WOW!

I had a vanilla friend who had a very submissive bf. He was her shadow and he was so emotional. Talk about emo-boy! She would tell "I wish he would back off, I need a real man!" Her ideal of a real man was a Dom male. She was so clearly submissive but not as submissive as her bf.

Man her bf turned me on. He would do anything and everything for her. She had no clue how lucky I would have felt if he was mine.

They had no clue I was in D/s and O/s. They did how ever know I was into BDSM.

Oddly I become warm butter when I meet submissive men in real life. I fall in love with their meek strong ways of self expression.

Add green hair and/or eyes, fit body, submissive, in a wet t-shirt and underwear! Forget about it... I'm flabergasted!!!!!!

2/20/2007 8:42:34 PM
Compatability?


So I was thinking... uh oh!

There are many subs and slaves whom just see the lifestyle as just kink and fantasy they can add to their vanilla lifestyle.

Just what does a sub-slave want. I offer diversity, control, empower their submission, reward their service, stay open to their growth, humiliate as needed, love the one's that need love, I'm innately sensual and kinky, I have no problem dominating, I'm skilled with many tools, I'm creative and I keep my self realistic to both the D/s,O/s and vanilla world.

What do slaves want and need that I'm just not seeing?

They seem to be a lot sweeter and more submissive when they are not in a relationship.

2/20/2007 4:50:37 PM
Ouch got burned again by a newbie sub!

If you want to know who you can ask.

2/18/2007 7:51:48 PM
The internet seems to be such a wonderful resource. I'm more than happy to see many new faces. Well I have to say that real life is so much better. I do see many similarities with online and offline D/ser's. Many approach d/s and O/s coldly as if being human isn't a respectable idea.

What I'm trying to say isn't coming out. I think I'm still buzzed about my weekend with subs.

I can say there is no one way to Dom or sub, Own or slave but ask that some people take the time and just understand this "lifestyle" is very real and sincere to many people. Most of us are not just here for kink. Some of us don't see what we do as kink, but rather a way of life.

2/18/2007 7:49:29 PM
I had an amazing time. Spending time with people that love you and you love in return is amazing for moral. I had spent time with subs and slaves that were on lone to me from other Dommes and the like.

One subs I feel madly in love with. He's working towards being a slave. His name is Joe. Joe was is this 5 foot 3 inch guy; with a southern accent. Short curly blonde hair and baby blues; so cute. He loves wearing " dungarees " and cowboy hats. Oddly he wasn't wearing much of anything, but say leather straps and a beautiful chastity device. I love it when short men are packing a lot in their chasity devices. This 24 year old took a shine to me while I was using him. He told me he would love to be owned by me but he just wasn't ready for that step. Sadly we both live many states aways so seeking each other wont happen any time soon.

His Mistress made it very clear she wasn't going to let him go. When I left he pulled me aside. He was crying wishing I could take him. It was so refreshing to have a sub/slave be direct about what they wanted. I loved his conviction to the lifestyle.

When I got home I thought a lot about owning. I almost stopped seeking subs. He gave me faith. There are subs seeking to be devoted in a harmonious D/s relationship, with both love and pain.

Thank you Joe.

2/14/2007 6:42:10 PM
Happy Valentines Day you slappers!

Te Ubesc!

2/13/2007 11:32:15 AM
I'm a flexible Mistress. I follow my bliss not my anger when taking control of a sub/slave. I have been in the life for over 15 years. I'm not a pro Mistress I don't care about your money or fantasies.

I seek a sub/slave that knows his place and loves being there... under me. I believe in a safe sane and consensual D/s relationship. Trust and honesty are key to our success.

2/12/2007 7:45:11 AM
I'm seeking a submissive with the soul of a dog. A loyal, honest, faithful submissive that wishes to be a slave. Slim and/or athletic would be ideal. Well-hung would be ideal for cbt and chastity. I'm always flexible with size; if the subs personality has potential and quality. I have always thought a sub that lives in the US would be ideal, but I'm open to subs from other parts of the world as long as they become Americans in the long run. I'm not looking for a submissive to be deported.

A sub should not be living with his parents; if he wishes me to train and own him. I seek a slave that knows his place and loves being there.

2/11/2007 11:36:22 AM
recently a submissive said.

"I woke wondering about your needs from a slave, and I wanted to put it to you once more that maybe you are being a little over-selective. I know last time I said this you became angry. I do not know if this time you will as well.

But you are looking for a young, fit, healthy, handsome, rich, submissive, bisexual boy with a giant cock who doesn't keep dreams and who lives in the USA and who would give himself and everything he owns to you with a husband for the rest of his life. And you were telling me and other subs that we are too picky. "

Wanting what I perceive as more for myself has nothing to do with giving less to others. I seek a slave that has dreamed of being owned and used in this D/s lifestyle. I seek a slave that would endure my passion and boredom with him. I want to inspire a slave to not only know how to give to me but also know how to receive from me.

I find much beauty and intelligence that comes with the naivety of youth. While growing older with a young slave, I do not veil the truth of time. Nor would I discard my slave for his evolutionary growth that I to am a bride to.

Fit is something that I enjoy. If you would much rather give your energy to a Mistress that cares not of fitness, it is yours to be had.

As for health I'm not seeking to take care of a perpetually sick slave. This is not to say if my slave ran a fever I would not nurture or heal him.

Handsome... beauty is in the eye of the beholder, nuff said.

Rich I never said rich lets just get that straight. What I had said and implied was I don't want to take on the the debts of a sub/slave and I don't want a slave to put me in the poor house.

Submissive... if you can't lower yourself to me then you are in the wrong lifestyle or on the wrong end of the stick.

Straight men by definition don't like dick. Gay men by Definition want to love men as men. Gay men are attracted to men that look like men. Butch or fem men is just a matter of preference.

Like I have said before I like to put 8 inches or more in chastity. I love giving light to hard cbt. I like to ridicule 8 or more inches. Since size can be intimidating. I like to intimidate others with my submissives tool.

If my slave focuses his thought on other things more so than he would on me how can he be of any use to me. If I'm not important to you then you are just a casual play partner not my slave.

I'm more than flexible with a slave. I more so than anything want the trust and emotionally connect. My list of likes is just that a list of things I'm attracted to in D/s and BDSM. For a relationship to work be honest with what you want and build the trust. Or am I wrong?

2/4/2007 7:20:50 PM
Where are the quality slaves!!!

1/14/2007 10:07:16 AM
I'm turned off when a boy wishes not to be submissive to me and plays mind games. I'm more so turned off when a sub says he wants to serve and all he gives me is a list of fantasies.

Honesty and trust are so over looked by many subs I find. I am some how attracting them but not wanting them. I'm inclined to think that many subs are simply dysfunctional and that may say a lot about Dom/mes also.

Power exchange can be tricky in a world where democracy is pushed like a drug on a corner. Could it be that subs seek to escape the responsibilities that democracy and the ethics their families place over them? Are subs just lazy people seeking another way out? Is being submissive a form of emotional anarchy?

As a Domme I love seeking the joy a sub/slave gets on his or her face when pleasing his or her owner.

Sadly this is not the goal most subs I run into have.

Many just want subversive sex and others just want to feel something more than their jaded views of the world or themselves.

I could be wrong though so-far many have only proven me right.

1/2/2007 12:43:09 AM
Why does every slave/sub I talk to want to be a walking STI?



1/1/2007 10:47:10 PM
Are there any boys out-there that want to be a guard-dog to this wonderful Mistress?

I love playing fetch and fetish with a good boy. a nice strong cage and a nice cold floor. On some nights the dog-boy may sleep at the foot of my bed with early morning anal and oral treats.

The dog must learn to serve and protect his Owner/s while only attacking those that bother his lovely Mistress and the home. Are there any dog-boys left in the bdsm and D/s world?

12/31/2006 8:58:11 PM
happy new year pets!

12/29/2006 12:07:28 PM
Now that I have my leather dog mask, finding a boy to fit it is a pain in the ass.

12/18/2006 6:59:11 PM
I finally got new pens for making posters for some BDSM groups in my area. Micron pens rock! When I draw I love using fine lines with a lot of black. I'll also be finishing up my graphic novel. Still need a boy by my side.

12/10/2006 7:05:18 PM



I understand many slaves have been traumatized by past Owners but Where are the subs that seek real total submission?

Who is seeking to be owned; looking only to serve, love and suffer under the Owners mind and body?

I can't believe the BS I have been finding. I'm starting to get upset with some Dom/mes for not taking better care of subs.



12/8/2006 6:18:35 PM
So this so called slave wanted me to take him. When it came for us to meet he stood me up. Weeks later he asks me to take him. I pretty much said hell no. I want a young slave but in no way do I want a fake. He says no Domme will take him because of his age, I think it has more to do with his actions.

12/4/2006 1:54:04 PM
being a nice guy and being a submissive and or slave are not the same thing.

12/4/2006 9:48:09 AM
My place as a Dom/me is most deffenatly as a sensual one. I love the art and act of seduction. Being a creative person though I like all aspects and freedom of being a Dom. 

I love giving chastity to the worthy boy that first my needs and wants. I love giving anal and using my boy like a rag. Forceing him to do house work in my heels or skirts.

I love humiliating my boy in any way that he does not expect. If a boy askes to be dressed as a "woman" it turnes me off. I feel it like topping from the bottom. While I can respect limits I don't like slaves that give me orders.

Now if in passing a boy tells me what makes him feel good as a ssubmissive person I'll think it over and use it as a treat.

 

12/3/2006 7:17:12 PM
I believe people have the right to find happiness in any way they choose as long as it doesn't harm anyone unconsensually.

Many people seem to see BDSM as strictly sexual play; going light on the bondage and degredation. S&M seems to be just too much for many I find seeking to be submissive.



11/29/2006 12:41:14 PM
I seek a confident slave and or houseboy that knows his place and love being there. You love to put a smile on an Owners face. Your submission brings you more joy than anything else in this world. Being controlled is better than any Holiday. You feel complete living in a home where you can serve. You live to bring others joy; it's not about you it's about serving others.

11/29/2006 1:08:57 AM
I don't like to covet anything... but. I met a Dom/Domme couple. They have a beautiful slave boy; he 24.

When he walked in the room he looked me straight in the eye. He began to get an erection. His Master and Mistress laughed and as asked him what got him excited. He was dripping on the floor. He said the guest in the home was very beautiful.

The Mistress of the house asked me how long it has been since I had my own boy. I replied a min. to long many nights many moons. I asked her if I could give their boy an order ; she gave her okay.

I told the boy to lick up the mess he made on the floor. He quickly met the floor and began to clean it. I then said do it slowly. His lips  looked so beautiful as be followed my words. Then I said finish up now.

The Master of the house then gave the order to serve drinks. His young tight body move to with tenderness. I could tell he wanted to get a good look at me but he didn't dare.


I spent the evening jealous of their find. I asked then how they found him and they told me collareme. I told them I had been on collarme for 4 years and had no luck finding a boy at all. They gave me the chance to play with him and it was sweet... that's all I'm saying.


11/28/2006 9:07:27 AM
I work as an artist as well as writer. I want an assistant/sub and or slave to keep things organized in my home and office. My assistant/sub and or slave will endure BDSM as a form of play and punishment.

My assistant/sub and or slave will accompany me to my book signings and gallery shows catering to my needs and wants.

11/18/2006 11:20:01 PM
I have been going back and forth with D/s. While D/s is in my nature; taking BS isn't. My preference with a slave or house boy is one with experience and one that is younger than I.

I'm getting many pets older than I would like though I'm trying to keep an open mind. On the other hand I also seek a pet that fits my home decor.

I have no right to be picky if I'm seeking someone to serve but I don't want to take in a pet and it not make my home a warm and chilling place to me.

Straight pets don't want a woman like me and gay pets well need I say much more?

Gay men want to be with men as men not gender variant. Bisexual men seek to be fickle when it comes to me. Many saying that they don't wish or care for being with someone who isn't one or the other sex/gender.

Pansexuals and queer men/slaves seem to be very open minded and I have loved them for many years but they are hard to find and even when I do find them chemistry plays a part.

Like a Sinderella story finding a fit is key but a fit will be found.

11/17/2006 11:36:05 PM
So many slaves tell me they want to be owned. Hardly any actually mean it.

11/17/2006 11:07:06 PM
I finally got it. I finally got the dog hood/mask I have been wanting for the past two years. I'm going to try it on once it comes in the mail.

The hood/mask is mainly going to be for my dog slave to use while he's in his cage or doing chores and the like.



11/15/2006 8:40:53 PM
If you have other other obligations such as school, family and the like. How could I possibly own you?

If you can't be a live in boi; I can't train you. If you can't surrender your will with trust and honesty; how can I keep you?

I know a lot of you just want to live out a fantasy and many of you are lonely, but I seek more than a chat buddy. More than someone to shoot the shit with.

I seek to control, mold, and grow a slave or houseboy; who needs what I have to offer.

A home for the gifted and challenged under my control. Your submission is a sweet nectar that brings me joy in all parts of my life. My dominance gives you the release you have been seeking all your life. Being ruled under me brings you peace and joy.

Yes I will punish you when you do not obey. Yes it will hurt, but you know this is good for you.
Yes training you will be a challenge for you more than for me, but you will bend like a reed in the wind. I'm not looking for you to be my best-friend, but I will be yours.






11/14/2006 3:23:43 PM
Seeking younger, submissive with no trust issues, no back talk or fear of his own submissive nature. 

Obidience is key to your freedom to be owned. You love being told what to do and how to do it; you need to be owned.

11/6/2006 8:31:26 PM
Some of my Domme and Dom friends and I have spent time reading slave and sub profiles.

Many people who claim to be slaves say nothing about slavery. We feel a slave doesn't have fantasies unless you count pleasing their owner. A person who has a list of fantasies he wants to live out isn't a slave. We feel that is a submissive; for the shear fact a slave has no choices.

I got into a debate about diffrent levels of BDSM slavery.  Can you imagine a bunch of Doms yelling what makes a sub and what makes a slave?

Well at the end of the day to me a slave is someone who gives himself to me with full trust that the control and choices I make for him are to better him. While a submissive has walls, limits and fantasies and only submitting to those ideas.

Mind you As a Dom/me I do have my own limits. I'm not one that wants to draw the attention of the law nor do I wish to break laws or have D/s relationships with people who are not mature enough in age to have an adult relationship. Do I need to go on?





11/6/2006 12:12:35 PM
I would like to thank Mike McDade for his amazing words and clear thinking. You have been much help to me in training a slave and keeping my spirit up.

11/6/2006 8:20:11 AM
Well all I wanted for my Birthday was a slave. Today I'm 32 and no one to serve me no one to control.

Wish me a Happy Birthday.

Wish list.

1, slave, jock pet, and/or dogboy.

2, houseboy.

3, sub.

4, new chastity device.

5, large dog bed (to fit a slave.

6, new corset.

7, candles.


11/3/2006 10:10:04 PM
Why are all my ideal pets taken!!!

11/3/2006 11:30:01 AM
best reply to my post I have ever gotten! Too bad it doesn't live in the USA.


Mistress, boy hopes that your week has been a good one and that a relaxing weekend awaits You.


this boy enjoyed Your profile very much. boy is 37 years, single 5 feet 9 inches tall, 178lbs, brown eyes, pierced cock and balls, single and without dependents.


please, may this boy ask if You operate Your properties according to any particular themes or principles? boy is especially interested in Your ideas around the reduction of a slave to the status of a beast, a dog for example or some other creature, while that beast retains human understanding and observes human responsibilities. is it desirable for a slave to be so reduced or is it better that he be elevated by the instruction and wisdom of its Mistress and Master to the status of true slavery?


boy believes that a slave has been born once into this world but has been distracted and deluded by the noise around it into thinking that it has rights and powers whereas its true purpose is to serve Men and Women of Will and Power. the process of rebirth cannot be an easy one for a slave, involving emotional, behavioural and intellectual interventions, but it is right that it should happen and happen only once that boy is imprinted by authority of its Owner.



11/3/2006 8:44:05 AM
I love writing and drawing Batman and Robin as vampire hunter. I have just finished my free online comic and will be posting it very soon.

My birthday is on the 6th so I'm seeking an attractive slave or houseboy as the perfect present.

11/2/2006 10:20:49 PM
It makes me sad there are many unhappy slaves out there. So many tell me they are in the wrong D/s relationship.

I have been on this site for years and never had any luck. I tend to have better luck on other sites (pay sites).

What I call luck is being able to conduct some kind of interview. I'll be 32 in a few days. Hard to belive I was in my 20's when I started using this site.

My addiction to submissive men makes me come back.

11/2/2006 8:42:12 AM
So I had a slave since summer and he let me go as his Mistress on Oct. 30 06.

It wasn't working because he was in school in another state. I knew it wasn't going to work because when a slave doesn't put you first; you will end up being last on his list.

In order for me to take control and train the slave, it can't have other obligations.

The trade off of the Master/slave relationship is; the Owner gets service from the slave they trains.

So if I train you the "trade" is I get service. If you can't serve me I can't train you.

That being said I will never take an online slave, no matter how attractive he maybe be to me.  Making you do "bad things" on a web cam isn't training; it's selfish BDSM.

 I'm way more attracted to houseboys. Houseboys and slaves are not the same thing. The rules for both are very different.

The key words would be Houseboy keeps "house" he may or may not be owned but he knows his place. Slave has "no rights" at all but may or may not keep house. I see slaves as captives (reactive) rather than useful workers to make my life better; houseboy (proactive) ready to serve me and others.

While I'm not concerned about the pleasure a house boy or slave receives, I'm proud of the true submissive personality.


While I love slaves and would love nothing more than to have one; house boys are far more reliable. Nothing worst than a slave that isn't reliable.

Houseboys are useful, reliable and really know their place.

11/1/2006 4:05:27 PM
Trixie's greatest advice? "Her houseboy should serve her, not some larger BDSM community or a panel of experts. When she clarifies her own desires, she can confidently communicate her wishes to her next houseboy."

11/1/2006 4:01:11 PM
I had no clue how much more I would love houseboys vs. slaves.

While slaves and house boys can seem much a like houseboys seem to be more earnest and less fantasy occupied than slaves.

Houseboys are far more proactive from the slaves I have met.

A male servant in a house.

10/30/2006 4:30:51 PM
slaves and subs are a fickle bunch.

10/27/2006 5:34:55 PM

WHEN IS A SLAVE READY?



The process of becoming slave requires several things, including:

1. Learning complete obedience
2. Accepting being who you are no matter what that is
3. Doing with your life whatever, whoever, whenever you are ordered,
forever
4. Giving up all claim to a self
5. Growing in the perfect fertile environment for a slave
6. Being a part of a family of slaves
7. Allowing yourself to experience that there is a higher power that
will run your life

The person who does the developing has to:

1. Keep the vaule of the slave high as stated above
2. Have as (his/her/their) sole objective first the development, then management
of your slavery
3. Be internally sworn to always act in the slave's best interest,
for life
4. Know how to give slavery
5. Have accepted (his/her/their) own destiny, and be following the 
Universe's orders,
intentionally

If any of the above elements is missing, then you are arranging a relationship,
not pursuing your destiny as a slave. Either process is legitimate,
but different. If you were given your own purpose, you should arrange
your own relationships. If your purpose was given to another, you should
never arrange your own relationship. You either were created to be slave,
or you were not.

To decide if you are ready, determine:

1. Whether or not you were given your own purpose or it was given to
another.
2. If you have developed personally to the point that you are independently
successful, and don't need a relationship to "make" you successful.
3. If you are willing to give your personal success away for what your
creator wants you to do, no matter what that is.
4. If slavery is now your first, and best, choice of what to do in
life, not a second or "also an" alternative.
5. That you have had enough experiences with what doesn't work that
you won't go through your slavery development constantly looking over
your shoulder at what might be better.
6. That you don't have a hidden agenda and are capable of finally wanting
ONLY what another wants for the rest of your life.
7. If you have the commitment, perseverance and dedication to do whatever
is required to first become, and then live your slavery.
8. If you will let yourself become proud of your slavery, first to
yourself, then others, and then to the world.
9. If you are willing to accept the responsibility of being a leader
in life, and of doing what it requires to be great, in obedience.
10 If you are willing to accept being a non-human creature incapable
of committing an immoral act, ever, for the rest of your life.

Becoming slave is not a battle of the wills, or of the egos. It is
accepting that the only will you have or want is your owner's will,
and there is only one will.

Before beginning, REVIEW:

1. Personally and privately where you currently are in light of the
above requirements
2. With friends, potential slave brothers, family and others whose
opinion you respect
3. With the man you think was created with your purpose

Only then is it time to arrange the first session. In most cases you
will know after the first session whether or not you are slave, or have
the ability to become what you were created to be. You also have to
be willing to accept the truth about that.

Thanks to slaveborn for this beautiful slave etiquett.

Mistress Sunrise

10/27/2006 2:43:37 AM


I have a chastity device I want to give away. I love it so much.

Since I can't seem to find a slave to fit it or a slave to own; It might be best I found it a new home.

It fits thich to very thick men. It's clean and ready to go if I choose to part with it.

Pewter with a chrome finish. I love the damn thing.



10/27/2006 12:29:21 AM
I'm a Metaphysics teacher, Writer, Illustrator, in terms of what I do outside of D/s and BDSM.

Since I haven't been able to find a slave pet of my own; I have found joy in teaching newbies about the life from my own perspective.

Some if not most newbies have thought of the life as an orgy for them to play in. Others have been down to earth in what they seek.

I have been playing Shidduch/Yenta to a few Dom/mes and subs.

10/25/2006 8:07:08 PM

I have been a Lifestyle Mistress for over 10 years. What I have seen from the e-mail and IM community is sad. While a handful of submissives and slaves hold true to the familiar, many subs are just out of hand and tawdry.

Sadly many Doms and Masters also put many of us to shame.

Many seek the extreme and many just seek spank and tickle. This is what we call diversity in the community.

In the wise word of slave David Stein, "safe, sane and consensual." Always a good place to start until we build trust in each other and our goals.


10/25/2006 6:50:01 PM
Diabolique. SAT November 25th; looking for a submissive date.

10/24/2006 4:35:01 PM
I enjoy giving; forced bi, humiliation, hair pulling, punishment, de spunking, orgasm denial, chastity, duct tape bondage, and much more.

Every slave has a diffrent personality; there for I train them to better grow personally. I have no one way of training.

10/24/2006 12:28:08 PM
Why is it that so many slave are seeking kink and don't know how to serve?

I asked a slave to give me the details of his past training and he never replied. He told me that his past owners didn't let him serve they only wanted kink and yet he never gave me details when asked what happend.

If you want to be owned be proactive not reactive.

10/23/2006 11:12:46 AM
yes live in or local and loyal/honest; abroad, you will need a green card and or become an American so there are no legal issues in the future.

10/20/2006 1:45:22 PM
A slave told me that I was lucky I'm a Mistress/Master. He felt that being a Mistress/Master means I can go about normal life while a slave would sufer because he would have to take the role of a Dom and not submissive. This is my reply though it is not my quote;

"When we are acting out of conditioning, all of our choices are rooted
in a ground of ignorance. Unless you know who you are, all of your
choices remain the choices of a slave. This is including the roles of
both master and slave, since all roles in this world are roles of
relative slavery. The apparent master is as enslaved as the apparent
slave. To be neither master nor slave is to be free."

Do you want to be free?

10/20/2006 3:32:32 AM
We have been using collarme since 07/16/04.

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 Age: 22
 New york, New York